Comments on: What makes a phone sex call GREAT ?

By: olivia

olivia — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 15:50:49 +0000

@ jacuck …… you bring up what I think is THE KEY to a really great phone sex call ….. LISTENING. There’s a very natural urge for Me to TALK more than listen because I want you to get your ‘money’s worth’ but that’s an illusion. You are absolutely right that there is nothing worse than a phone sex call that is a ‘speech’ …… after all, what you’re paying for is My experience, creativity and insight tailored directly to YOU and where you are at that particular moment. THAT means listening, REALLY LISTENING not only to your words but also to your breathing and even your silences. Really, for Me, an erotic session is like a play and creative production with you as the audience AND the participant. LOL Is it too much to call phone sex performance art?

By: jacuck

jacuck — Mon, 17 Jan 2011 20:35:17 +0000

Well, I have thoughts on what makes a call great. One is getting an opportunity to chat briefly in IM before the call or even a few days before to get a feel for a mistress. Second, I like to participate in the calls. I do not want to feel like I am interrupting scripted speach each time I would like to say something. There needs to be give and take. Sometimes I even like the mistress to make me say things. Make me admit my feelings out loud. For example if it a “coerced” bi call, make me tell you that I really do want it. On cam calls if I am in a denial period it may be different. I may not be doing anything other than moaning and begging for release. However, when that happens there is no need for much real conversation and a simple giggle or instruction does the trick. If the mistress is paying attention she knows how to handle it.

By: DarkWyldchilde

DarkWyldchilde — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 03:00:59 +0000

Another thing that can take a phone sex call from the ordinary to the sublime is honesty with oneself and your operator.

We all have those dark fantasies we never mention not to our lovers, and most certinaly not to our friends. Fantasies that only exsist in the darker recesses of our imagination.

Yet with phone sex there’s no threat, the operator isn’t going to shriek in horror, at most she may suggest another operator might be better for your fantasy.

No one will ever know but you and her, and that dark, secret little desire can finally have some life of it’s own.

By: MsOlivia

MsOlivia — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:08:56 +0000

LOL Jake…..cowboy attire and short hair and cowboy hats! ROFLOL !……yes, the slam dancing would be quite the thing to see !

Olivia

By: Jake

Jake — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 22:26:57 +0000

Know what you mean DWc. While most the Domme outfits and accessories are hot, I would love being in control of a women who was wearing jeans & a t-shirt with no makeup too. There are so many possibilities with stuff in any household.

Love your comment too Empress Olivia. Would be funny though to go to a metal concert and see all the band members in cowboy attire.

As for what makes a phone sex call great? Yes the voice plays a large part for me also. Another big part is when I get surprised. Love when a Mistress really gets in my head. Also if I’m looking for humiliation that they really are into trying to make the boy cry.

By: olivia

olivia — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 21:21:38 +0000

Dear DWc ….. I love the way you write and how you express yourself. You are, as usual, on target with your comments…..the *stuff* of the fetish obscures the true nature of the experience. It’s like getting all dressed up to hear live music and then remaining focused on the clothing instead of the music! Assuredly, one option of how to experience life, but I personally find that limiting and ultimately boring. I know you enjoy ALL your explorations m’dear ….so, here’s to continuing to enjoy the Journey of Live, Love/love and Experience
Olivia

By: DarkWyldchilde

DarkWyldchilde — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 23:41:11 +0000

In trying to explain Domination to those who have never experienced it all their attention often goes to the instruments like hand cuffs or riding crops, and sadly even those who use those hand cuffs or riding crops sometimes get stuck at that level.

While that can be fine for some it’s just that… fine, at best a pleasant sort of mediocre.

To truly experience Domination, to excel at those sensations is where I feel the concepts of Domination and submission come into play, and they come into play with power exchange.

The problem is that you can not explain power exchange. Those who have done it already know, and those who haven’t lack the frame of experience.

Your only real option is to try it (from both sides if you can *deliberate snicker*), but the other side of the coin is not to rush it. I learned Dominance very quickly, but took a long while to feel a level of connection and trust that allowed me to let go and submit.

The funny thing was that after hemming and hawwing for so long I felt that immediate *click* and I knew it was a matter of when instead of if.