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phone sex Mistress Olivia 1-800-601-6975Are you truly kinky?

Listen to me read you this Experienced Mistress blog post.

You might be like me.  For years I thought I was adventurous and sexually curious.  When I got into the fetish scene, the BDsm players automatically assumed I would be submissive (since I am female).  I’ll admit, I didn’t know Dominant from submissive so I went along with it as a learning experience.  Obviously, I am the Femdom but I also adore sensual, vanilla sex.  I believe any erotic journey is, first and foremost, an exploration of Self — how can you communicate (or even know) what you like, unless you find out what you like.  And, bear in mind, what you like can shift.  In fact, your fetish, kinks, and erotic turnons will probably change over time.

Nothing good comes from denying your kinky pleasures

I hear from crossdressers and even a sissy or 2 that they have purged.  That’s not the eating disorder.  That’s when a crossdresser purges (gets rid of) all the female lingerie, clothing, special femme items that make her/him feel girly.  Don’t do it!  Here’s how a crossdresser can avoid the purge. While that post is about feminine lingerie, I think it can apply to anyone who is kinky.

Sexually adventurous is good

Researchers haven’t studied BDsm and kinksters all that much …. but it is becoming an area of research.  Kinky people tend to have better relationships and are happier than the general population.  Is that because they are adventurous?  Adventurous people tend to live large and that’s exciting.  Is it because they have to be honest about what they want sexually?  I’m not sure but I do know that phone sex is a safe, private way to get your kink on or explore things that you can’t (or won’t) do face to face.

Your Experienced Mistress,

Ms Olivia

 

 

6 comments to kinky, submissive or just adventurous

  • John Q

    Mistress,

    Okay, here’s what is likely to be a boring response. I know that because all the blood is still in my big head … no flow south!

    I agree with you that an adventurous nature seems to be pert of a well lived life. Not just sexually, but in general.

    What I find strange is the way, for me anyway, that it becomes so compartmentalized. I have a role with you. When I’m in that role, I’m really deep into it. I crave it. But take that role into my in-person life? No, not gong to happen.

    I’m adventurous in-person too but I can’t imagine going into that role in-person. It’s a different adventure somehow. Why? The obvious answer would be fear, but I don’t think that is a complete explanation. Frankly, I don’t think it’s fear at all but I acknowledge it might be.

    A more likely explanation is that I find myself in charge of my in-person world. I like that of course. I chose it. I won’t give that up because it’s who I am. But, something inside longs for balance. It’s exciting … arrousing … to feel a total loss and transference of power.

    Everyone is nice to me in-person. Either because they’re simply nice by nature or because they have to be. Consciously, I like that of course. But I know and you know too, that some part of me is bored to death by that. Annoyed and a bit contemptuous of that. Some part of me wants to be free of it. Wants to serve and be used. Wants to be the subject of someone else’s agenda. Wants to be the pawn in someone else’s erotic journey.

    Hmmmmm? Well, since a bit of blood is now flowing south I can only assume that I’m getting closer to an answer to my own question.

    LOL

    Your loyal John Q

    • Olivia

      I LOVE your answer!!! You are always thoughtful and nuanced … I think part of living a FULL life is to explore the nuances that make us full human beings … just because there’s “one thing” that “does it” sexually sometimes doesn’t mean that’s the entire realm of your total sexuality — at least that’s the case with most people. I think of sexuality like food. I love eating a hot dog at the ball park but everyday (?) nothing but hot dogs? — NOPE! Same thing.

  • Christina Gizelle

    Do you think I’m kinky mistress?

    Sissy Nylon Ballerina

  • Sissy Christina Gizelle

    Okay mistress, not sure if you remember any of our adventures together and if you thought they were kinky. Like when you had me wear a mask and dance and other ones of course. Big Hugs

    Sissy Nylon Ballerina

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