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Differences between submissive versus slavesubmissive to Experienced Mistress Olivia 1-800-721-1962

Listen to me read you this blog about the difference between submissive versus slave.

I like to answer your questions.  I’ll answer pretty much anything you ask — you’ll hear what I mean if you listen to my Mistress Interview from the Intelligent Femdom Miss Constance.  If I’m not going to answer you I’ll tell you.  One topic I absolutely adore: newbie questions about BDsm.

submissive versus slave

This question came from Tumblr:

“Hi Mistress Olivia, Do you think a life of slavery is possible or is that just a fantasy of a submissive that could never happen? Do you view a slave as different than a submissive?”

That’s a great question.  One of the best things about kink and fetish play is that we are already outside of the norm so you would think that the kink community would be cool with all sorts of diversity in thought, style, and action.  Alas no.  The kink community is just like any other community.  Anything that involves human beings will have differences of opinion and judgment.  I say that to make sure you know that my thoughts are my own — others may differ or disagree and that’s okay.

What is power exchange?

Erotic slavery and submission both take place as part of power exchange.  I’ve done lots of blogs about power exchange.  Loosely speaking, a submissive voluntarily gives up power to the Dominant but still has “say” and “agency.” The sub can be a play date at a fetish party or a collared sub and still have rights and responsibilities of being in that role.

What is total power exchange or TPE?

Total power exchange is where one person gives up ALL power to the Dominant.  That’s just like it sounds.  Mistress chooses and decides everything.  Sounds like slavery, don’t you think?

Do you have a BDsm question?

Ask in the comments and you might inspire a future blog post.

Your Experienced Mistress,

Ms. Olivia

36 comments to submissive versus slave

  • peterteasetoy

    How would you say bondage plays into Total Power Exchange, Ms. Olivia?

    btw – I am to mention that I am completing the 7th Anniversary Assignment that Miss Violet *squirm* gave me.

    • Olivia

      Thank you so much for the hanky panky panties !!!…. such a sexy and delightful gift. Now in the spirit of delight (mine) why don’t you put them on me? ~laughs~ Now I think that is a FINE anniversary celebration, don’t you? I suspect Ms Violet will smile and laugh too 🙂 Awwwwwwww, poor thing — what’s a tease toy to do? Hmmmmmm?

      • peterteasetoy

        *squirm* You’re welcome Ms. Olivia! Well, I know you like panties …..and I know you like hanky panky!

        Yes, I think Miss Violet *squirm* would like the idea of me sliding the skimpy panties up your long, toned legs, and pulling them snug against your sweet pussy! *adjusts erection*

        Oh, is the answer, squirm, Ms. Olivia?

        • Olivia

          I know Ms Violet would love that … now get busy … giggles …. awwwww, you’re squirming …. poor tease toy!

          • peterteasetoy

            *squirm* Well, you do make it hard for me, Ms. Olivia!

            And besides, I do have to make sure the panties fit you exactly right! *adjusts erection*

            • Olivia

              ~laughs~ Well if you’re hands are on MY panties, how in the world will you adjust that erection? Hmmmmmmm?

              • peterteasetoy

                Well, have I told you how much I like your thighs, Ms. Olivia?

                • Olivia

                  giggles —– and then moves one leg over the over — making that little shoosh sound of my nylons. Mmmmmm, do tell.

                  • peterteasetoy

                    *squirms as your nylons whisper to each other and at the view of your skirt’s hemline sliding up your thighs, exposing your stocking tops and garters* Erm, er, *adjusts erection* what were you saying, Ms. Olivia?

                    • Olivia

                      laughs as I straighten one leg out and slip the back of my stiletto off …..
                      mmmmmmmm the shoe dangle!
                      laughs

                    • peterteasetoy

                      I’ve never really got that ‘shoe dangle’ look Ms. Olivia, but I do like the sight of your long, stocking-clad leg stretched out! *adjusts erection*

                    • Olivia

                      Oh I love the shoe dangle … you know it doesn’t have to be “just” a signal for foot worship (which I know you’re not into) It can also be the excuse to move my legs around … and maybe flash you a bit of panty. laughs Awwwwwww, TEASE TOY!

                    • peterteasetoy

                      *squirm* For me Ms. Olivia, a woman wearing stilettos, enhances her power, her sexuality, letting one dangle, (will it fall or will it not?) it becomes a separate, inanimate object that distracts away from her!

                      And as you mentioned a possible panty flash, why would I pay attention to the shoe dangle and miss the panty/thigh (possibly more) flash?

                    • Olivia

                      Okay, you don’t like the shoe dangle. hahahahhahahaha
                      AND I still like it so just don’t watch when I do that 🙂 🙂

                      Mmmmmm, you know I’m still going to flirt and tease you … simply because that is what one does with a tease toy!

                    • peterteasetoy

                      *squirm* By all means, you can carry on doing the shoe dangle Ms. Olivia, I was just letting you know that it has no effect on me!

                      Anyway, I will be preoccupied checking out other views! *adjusts erection*

                    • Olivia

                      Ohhhhhh and what other views will you be checking out??? Hmmmmmmm????

                    • peterteasetoy

                      Well Ms. Olivia, there is the view at the top of your sheer, garter-fastened stockings, as you cross and uncross your long, toned legs! *adjusts erection*

                    • Olivia

                      Mmmmmmmmmmmm …. and you’re giving quite the view as well! ~laughs~ I love watching you adjust your erection!

                    • peterteasetoy

                      Oh, er, thank you. Male clothes were never designed to comfortably accommodate a large, bulging erection Ms. Olivia! *tries adjusting erection again*

                    • Olivia

                      ~giggles~
                      That is one of the many reasons why having a tease toy is so much fun!
                      Why it wouldn’t be any fun if it were comfy for you.
                      ~laughs~

                    • peterteasetoy

                      *squirm* So, what your saying is, you enjoy making it hard for me, Ms. Olivia?

                    • Olivia

                      ~giggles~ Why yes I do — that’s exactly what I would call it!
                      What happens when I do …. mmmmmmm ….. this? 🙂 🙂

                    • peterteasetoy

                      Oh, er, *squirm* well, when you grope it like that it gets very hard Ms. Olivia! *squirm*

                    • Olivia

                      What about if I lean down …. my face tantalizingly close to that bulge and then …..
                      pffffffffff
                      …. just ~blow~ softly …..
                      What does that do?

                    • peterteasetoy

                      Erm, *squirm* well I’m not sure if that makes the bulge harder Ms. Olivia, but it does makes me squirm! *adjusts erection*

                    • Olivia

                      CAN the bulge get any bigger? Hmmmmmm ?

  • princess

    Put me down as “slave”

  • *strolling through the blogs*
    *Experienced Mistress catches my eye*

    Oh what’s this now? Oh! MMmmm! Erotic slavery!?

    Mistress Olivia, I have a question along these lines. What, prey tell, might be some different activities a Woman of your caliber might do differently with a submissive vs slave?

    *winks*

    See you around the Empire!

    • Olivia

      That’s a great question Ms Erica … here’s the “short” answer … with a submissive things are discussed …with pre-scene negotiation — with the slave there’s an order with the expectation that slave will carry out that order no matter what it is. The physical behavior or the fetish play might LOOK the same but the intention behind it is very different.

  • Sissy teddy

    Thankyou Mistress

  • Tbone

    Mistress Olivia, So you think the difference between a submissive and a slave is that a slave must always obey while a submissive can negotiate pre scene. A slave is also owned and has no rights.

    • Olivia

      Short answer: yes. Now, there’s always relationship building and the time that takes to become a collared submissive and then even longer to be accepted as a slave. During that time Mistress gets to know her sub and uses that information for slave training and assignments. One note about the “slave must always obey” – yes, true, but a smart Mistress doesn’t break her toys.

  • sissyteddy

    Mistress love the shoe dangle too!best wishes !Hope you have a great holiday !Be safe!sincerly yours love sissy teddy

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