For YOUR tease and denial instructions call Ms Olivia 1-800-601-6975

I know that many of you want and need an Experienced Mistress to control your cock stroking.  Perhaps you are like this caller, who needs:

Caller:  “… a lady who can control me and my orgasms. Someone to abuse me and give me instructions and then get me to the point my cumming and then stop and then abuse me some more.”

Ms Olivia decides cock tease and denial wish

I get so many requests for cock stroking instructions before the phone sex call that I’ve decided to do a series of blogs.  If you would like stroking instructions or assignments personalized to you, you can always call (or email) Me to set up your session.

Stay right here though for more general cock stroking and denial information and instructions.  Even solo cock tease and denial can be FUN!

When you want Mistress guidance and control I’m available early morning and through the day (eastern, US time).  You can check to see who is available for your stroking tease and denial sessions.

Orgasm denial without a chastity device

This man will not be in a male chastity device but he will have orders from Mistress on how to stroke his cock and then he won’t be allowed to cum until I give him permission to cum.  I want to hear him BEG on his phone calls, May I cum?  Please Mistress, I’m begging to cum!”

Did you click that begging link?  Those are your first tease and denial instructions.  We’ve talked on the phone so you know what other things Mistress expects you to do with that naughty cock of yours.  Remember, there will be NO unauthorized wanking!  You will perform for Mistress and follow My instructions.

I’d like your comments…what do YOU think of having a Mistress control your cock while giving you a sexy tease?  What do you think and feel when she abruptly says, nope we’re done now, no orgasm for you!  I want to hear from YOU (just click on the comments section and leave your thoughts).

Ms Olivia

My Schedule – Best ways to contact Me

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I’ll admit it, there’s a *giggle factor* to phone sex.  I had no idea just how powerful this could be as a source of erotic exploration when I took My first phone sex call!  If you are new to the possibilities of a cock control Mistress, then I understand!

I’ve asked a variety of people who now call Me about their fears and concerns before they actually made the first call.  Here’s what one man says.  He knew he was interested in erotic humiliation, but wasn’t exactly sure how this could work on the phone.  Here’s our IM chat; btw, this caller is someone who is now one of My favorite playmates!

IM chat about how he felt BEFORE his first phone sex call

Ms Olivia:  How did YOU feel before the first session?  Were you nervous?

Man:  very nervous and scared

Ms Olivia:  What concerns did you have?  Tell Me about being nervous and scared.

Man:  was nervous and excited at the same time. I never done something like this before.  My concern was whether I could do what you ask for but you were very nice.

Ms Olivia:  I love that !!  What made you actually decide to call?

Man:   read ur blog and ur page. They really turn me on. Then i chatted to you on yahoo and ask you questions and you gladly answered them.

Ms Olivia:  Were you nervous about phone sex?  Were you nervous about giving control of your orgasm to Me?  Were you nervous about being on CAM ?

Man:  I was very nervous my heart was pounding my palms were sweaty but i was excited at the same time. I was with an experienced mistress that took it easy on me the first time.

~giggles~  Now, I’ll tell YOU, I didn’t take it tooooooo easy on him that first time; I took him on that thrill ride of erotic humiliation (his particular kink).  By the way, we did an amazing session shortly after that IM exchange with a naughty, humiliating cum eating twist, and here’s what he wrote after he caught his breath:  “ thx olvia best 75 dollars ever spent!”

You know I leave you with questions to start the blog comments.  What did YOU want to know before doing your first phone call?

Ms Olivia

My schedule —–  How to get a session with Me.

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What do you think of when you hear the words cock control?  Does that phrase make you sit up and go, ohhhhhhh ?  ~laughs~  If it does, then read on!

This is an IM Chat with a man who is exploring his …. ahem …. growing interest in orgasm control by considering phone sex and working with a phone sex Mistress.

Our chat on IM

man:  i read some of your blog on cockcontrol.com and i figure you might be someone i might be comfortable enough to try to talk to. I am really new to this whole scene of orgasm denial. But it sounds so exciting. By the way I am (his first name) .

Ms Olivia:  hi (his first name) ! What would you like to know? Have you seen My blog? I do lots of these free IM Info Chats between calls……. especially with men who are new to Femdom, cock control and/or phone sex.

man:   i am very new to it but it sounds so thrilling

Ms Olivia:   Have you seen how I use these chats on My blog?

man:   somewhat yes

Ms Olivia:   great……I’m more than happy to talk you here and answer your questions.  May I have your permission to post this on My blog? (taking out your identifiers)

man:   That’s no problem you can post it.  I have been reading your blog a lot the last couple of days i finally got the courage to IM you.

Ms Olivia:  THANK YOU ! Tell Me a little about getting the courage to IM.

Courage to IM with Me

man:  I have like butterflies in my stomach right now lol

Ms Olivia:  Sometimes I forget that the first step of contacting Me or any Mistress can be daunting. Can you tell Me more about it?

He wants interaction with Mistress but is very new and shy

man:  Well a couple of months ago somehow i stumbled upon the tease and denial thing on wikipiedia and i read about it.  One way or another i found other websites.  None of them had any real interaction with a live person.

Ms Olivia: *nods* yes

man:  I have been thinking of this fetish and fantasizing about it for a while.

Ms Olivia:  Really! ? Tell Me more about that if you will…… I am a live person….I won’t bite…..I love to answer questions.  (Please note that I am in high demand for sessions.  Sometimes I will be able to do this type of IM chat without being in a session, but more often then not, I will have limited availability due to session volume.  Please check the Sessions page to find out all your options of how best to interact with Me.)

Ms Olivia:  One thing to let you know, when I get a call I’ll have to pause our chat.

man:   ok i understand you have a job to do.

He is curious about orgasm control & tease and denial is no FUN solo

man:  Wondering what it would be like to actually have a real women take control of my orgasm

Ms Olivia:  Having someone control your cock stroking and orgasm is different then doing it solo.  It’s a very different experience for you.  Can you tell Me more?

man:   Well I have been doing these webteases that I found on this one website. Where they tell you how to masturbate but then it tells you to stop.  It is really hard to make yourself stop when there really isn’t a person there to force you to stop stroking etc.. the whole idea of being forced to stop and leaving yourself high and dry is a real turn on.  So last week I was searching google and found this website. I saw some of the blogs of some of the young ladies on here. I read them and they are so exciting I thought about trying to IM to talk to some of the girls but every time I think about hitting the send button I would freeze up.

Ms Olivia:   ahhhhhhhhh that makes a great deal of sense! It’s a very NEW thing to you isn’t it?

man:  Yes but I want to try it. I would love to be under some hot smart and sexy girls thumb.

Free erotic teases are different from individual interaction

Ms Olivia:   You’re very correct that the experience of the free erotic audios and the tease and denial instructions on our orgasm denial assignment sites are fantastic. BUT, the experience of actually talking with someone takes it to a new and different level. We (LDW Group) have tons of free stuff and it’s all there to use however you’d like to use it. The paid sessions, though, are personalized.  That is where you get intimate and explicit interaction with you, rather than something for a general audience. The specificity is what makes it more intense.

man:  Yes, a whole new level.  By the way, you are just down right so hot! You’re a very gorgeous woman.

Ms Olivia:  Thank you!  And, I know how to use My beauty, brains, voice and creativity to create amazing erotic sessions for you!  *wink*

Now, I’m curious about those of you reading this blog.  How did YOU *stumble upon* tease and denial or orgasm denial as a hot erotic fetish?  And, are you nervous when you interact with a Mistress for the first time?  As always, please leave a blog comment for your comments, questions and anything else you’d like to tell Me.

Ms Olivia

Schedule updated regularly /// How to get a session with Me

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What is phone sex Femdom and what does it mean to have a Mistress in control?

You might have a curiosity about Femdom and cock control.  You might have stumbled across some Dominatrix porn that caught you attention.  You might even know that you do like a woman to be the one who is sexually in charge.  Any of these things might apply to you.  Or, you might be a seasoned submissive but new to submission during a phone sex session.

You might also be *across the pond* from Me and wonder how an American Mistress can possibly control your cock from so far away.  There are two answers to that question.  One is the simple answer of technology and all the ways for International Phone Sex Callers to connect with a Mistress.  This is just the details of the technology.  The real answer is in the techniques of the mind and body.

Power Exchange – Dominance and submission

The dance of Power Exchange is THE experience.  The *types* of submission and the various ways you submit are tools of your submission.  There are so many various ways to do this.  Take a look at some of the essays on male submission and see if you can find yourself there.  *nods*  Some or all of the writing causes that, now familiar and yet still new, ZING of desire, doesn’t it?  *nods* I thought so.

When you are new to this from of erotic play, don’t be shy.  I take you where are you and explore with you.  I am an Experienced Mistress and can understand where you are and then guide you.  In THIS dance, I lead you follow — and we both create together what tune we’ll be listening to for the dance!  Being the dance with Me when you listen to this erotic audio about Desire.

Ms Olivia

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What’s under that white coat that I’m wearing?  If you are a willing subject, you just might get to SEE!

Here’s the reality of your situation right now.  Your Doctor is My friend and we have been plotting about YOU!  We’ve decided to turn you into a study for our research on men.  Therefore, when you come in for your regularly scheduled physical exam, we turn the exam table on you and outline a very THOROUGH exam.

When you arrive at our office, you will hear something like this:  Free Erotic Audio.  We will get you all …. prepared and ….. ahem … ready.

Remember this is all for medical science.  We’ll need to be very thorough, detailed, and exacting.

Didn’t I tell you?  You’re going to be in a study that looks at cock teasing and cock control.  You will need to stay HERE for the duration of the study.  Don’t worry you’ll be quite comfortable in all ways but, perhaps, one.  ~laughs~

People will come in to study your physical responsiveness to various sorts of stimulation.  Ohhhhh, don’t worry.  Our staff has done this before.  We have a body of research to back up all our activities.  Do you have any questions?

Oh!  you’re wondering about that poster on the wall?  Why yes, that’s Me.  But, noooooo….I won’t be disrobing, you will be.  Yes it is time for naked male, clothed female during these various tests.  Now, don’t be shy, you’ll find you’ll be doing a number of things you never thought you would do, for example, have you ever thought about tasting your own cum?  Well, that might be part of your research protocol ….but, I’m getting ahead of Myself.  Get comfortable and I’ll see you in the morning.

Mistress (Doctor) Olivia

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Do you sometimes feel like your hands are tied?  Like you’re trying to get things done and you are wearing handcuffs?

I know the feeling!  ~laughs~  So, that’s what the old YIM name was doing so I have a new YIM name, EnchantrixOlivia.  Please delete the old YIM name of empress.olivia.  If you’d like to instant message with the Experienced Mistress, then please use EnchantrixOlivia.

Now we can both get into the FUN part of being bound up!  Tell Me, do you enjoy being a knotty boy or are you more into simply being naughty? A little (or a lot) of cock teasing and cock control might be in your future.

And, to take the question just a little farther — because you know how I like to push boundaries — what is your *flavor* of naughty?  What do you like to do on your phone sex calls?  Are you a lovely sissy or crossdresser that yearns to be coerced into all sorts of wicked behavior?

Tell ALL to Mistress and we’ll…..ahem…..discuss!  ~wink~

Ms Olivia

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Most people in our kinky community are initially brought together by phone sex or a specific sex fetish like Femdom cock control or crossdressing.  The sex stuff might get you here, but for many, the sense of community is what keeps you here.   Me too!

Now, let’s be real.  Even the Experienced Mistress has bills to pay and goals to achieve.  So, the session part of this IS My career.  I get the calls; I take care of business so I don’t worry about that on the blog or free IM chats.   But, what you get HERE on the blog isn’t about *business*.  These posts and our conversations bring My passions (personal, business and experience) together.   I like the blog comments and taking time to have a conversation with you here!  THIS is MY community too.

Our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire, was created for the community around the LDW phone sex business.  The Empire, as we call it, is free.  It was created because Ms Ally wanted to say thank you to all of the people who are in our community.  AND, give us an outlet/opportunity to interact as a community.

One of My favorite Mistresses is Ms Layla.  She is a spot on professional with calls as you can see in this post about getting to hot sex in phone sex.  Personally, she’s great to work with and a straight up individual, I like that.  She has a fantastic comment about about our unique world in the “What is community” thread on EE.

Ms Layla’s take on the Empire!

“I’ve often thought of EE as a sanctuary, a classroom and a circus all in one place. Sanctuary for people who’s pleasures lay a little left of center, classroom as we all learn from each other daily and a circus as we do our level best to keep each other entertained.”

Now that comment flat out makes Me laugh!  She really sums it up doesn’t she?  It’s the sense of someplace safe and warm yet also quirky and kinky.  This combines to be very welcoming and even a nurturing space inside of all the kink naughtiness.  Alice left the sweetest comment about that!

For several years now, I have been checking out the various LDW sites – usually with long periods in between, never calling because I never knew what things would really be like.

Last time I checked out the site, end of June, I saw there was an actual community, a place where I could find out what others who have the same type of fetishes are like. Not fetish groups such as this one really add to that community feeling. That so many of the Mistresses are involved and welcoming has really made a difference. Standard web forums just don’t do it. Not for me.

I love that sentiment!  So, if you’re looking for a kinky community, check out Enchantrix Empire.  We’ve just past the 3,000th member and we’re celebrating!  It’s totally free and lots of fun.  If you want a sex session that’s available and you’re an adult, you know what to do, but I wanted to take a moment to reassure you that The Empire is a actual community…..it’s not set up as simple a place to tell you to do sessions.

Okay, that was BLUNT!  ~laughs~  Let’s get some reactions going on THIS post while I answer your comments from the last post.

Olivia 1-800-601-6975

There are so many terms used in BDsm that it can like a foreign country.  In a way it is … we do go to fantasy land and have a wonderful, kinky vacation! We have created a really great Library of Kink essays if you’d like to take a look.

Let’s talk about some of the terms of BDsm.  I identify as a switch.  That means I’m comfortable in various roles in fetish and kink play.  The “position” I’m in (in real life or on a call) depends on what is agreed during our conversations about the fetish scene play.  I’m going to primarily talk about these definitions in terms of phone sex, since we’re not going to meet in person.

Communication is key to ANY good relationship

Phone sex is similar to real life fetish play in that we both have a conversation about needs, desires and limits.  A good Domme always asks her submissive what he or she is interesting in doing.  What makes phone sex different is this:   although I am the Dominant Mistress, part of My role here is to give you what you want and what you pay for in the call.  I don’t consider this topping from the bottom, although each Mistress is different in her style.  Ms Violet has an excellent essay on topping from the bottom and communication with your Mistress.  The bottom line is that you can’t be ‘at My mercy’ if I don’t know what makes you tick.

My various roles in Power Exchange scenes

Dominant: I love being the Femdom who gets into your head (and more) with a creative erotic scenario that whips you all around the roller coaster of submissive emotions!  The give and take of the Power Exchange is a rush for both of us.  Sometimes it’s totally in the realm of sexual roleplay and sometimes there’s a blending of real life cock control or wicked erotic humiliation assignments.  I can give you a wicked mindfuck or be the sensual Domme who torments you as you beg for release.  In all of these scenarios there is the element of power exchange between the Dominant (Me) and the one who submits (you).

Switch: I am a switch and that means I will also be the submissive on the call.  Note!  Not every Mistress will do this!  Be sure to check with her first.  I do have more limits in terms of what kinds of Domination I ‘will’ submit to, so that’s always an important conversation to have if you’re interested in that.

Top / bottom: This is where the power between the two of us is basically equal but one person is designated as the ‘leader’ (Top) and the other is the follower (bottom) in a specific scene.

What are YOU?  How do you describe yourself?

Ms Olivia

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Every time I ask you how much interaction you want before a phone sex session I’m always told, LOTS!  So, it’s time to address that question.  You can see from My blog that I’m generous with My time and attention.  I like to answer questions, be a guide and even flirt with you on IM before a session.

The very things like make Me welcoming on IM can (and do) also limit My ability to do the free chats between calls!   I want to explain this because yesterday several men on IM were trying to do the *warm up* to a session and then call — but they couldn’t get through to Me because of the guys that actually called while they were still warming up.  For them, it became a not so sexy form of tease and denial!

Warm up before a session

I know that people like to do phone sex foreplay!  LOL  That’s the IM warm up.  I get  questions from sissies or crossdressers who ask, “Mistress what should I wear?”  Regular callers will IM asking Me to create a new fetish fantasy or erotic scene for them on IM so they can think about it (stroke) before calling.  Others will want Me to get them *in the mood* before they call.  When you wait to book a session or call, you run the risk of not being able to get Me at all.  I’m not advocating calling before you’re ready, but I do want you to know what your choices and options are so you can make informed and realistic decisions about what you DO want.

IM availability and what happens on My end

When I’m logged in I keep My yahoo IM set to available.  You’re more than welcome to IM Me.  This means that when I’m logged in I might have as many as a dozen different IM windows open, chatting with 10 or more people about a variety of topics.  I interact with each person in rotation.  That means there will be delays in My comments to each individual.  And, when I get a call or a session I stop the free IM chat.  So, from your end you’ve got delays and then gaps of time between My responses.  I’m also not as *attentive* or *present* as I am in a session because I’m multi-tasking.  If you’d like to wait, that’s fine!  But if you get frustrated, you have options – you can get My total and undivided attention immediately with a sexy texting session or a call.

Creating a scene on free IM chat

Since I usually have multiple IM windows open and engaging in free chat on a variety of subjects I don’t create ‘new scenes’ for your fetish fantasies during the free IM chat.  I’m not in the undivided headspace of YOUR erotic fantasy and I’m not going to shortchange My art of creating fantasy.  If you want undivided attention and specific fantasy creation then that is available in sessions.

We have LOTS of free stuff to enjoy —- totally fun sissy assignments, wicked humiliation assignments, free erotic audios on all manner of cock control and MORE!  We also have a free adult social networking site where you can interact with Mistresses and like-minded kinky people.   Enjoy!

Comments?  Questions?  Reaction?

Ms Olivia

I’m going to break from the IM chat with the man new to Femdom and phone sex and answer a question from Magnus and post an actual IM chat I had with My guy.

Here’s the question

Magnus wants to know:  Do You decide when You are “on”?   i.e.  With your real life D/s relationship, do you put the Domme aside or is it always there?   I ask because I know some people talk about being 24/7 whether live in or not.

Mistress versus bitch

We have all met certain women who are just plain disagreeable.  When a female is behaving badly (not in a good ‘bad’ way) she is usually called a bitch.  You can see from the previous (and upcoming IM chats) that I am NOT a bitch.  I want to make sure that you get the best phone sex call of your life and that means having conversations about exactly what turns you on and what doesn’t.  We can have the conversation at the beginning of the call or you can catch Me between calls on IM (if you don’t mind the delays in My response – I don’t IM during a session).   Even if you know exactly what you want for the scene, I’ll still ask a couple questions to make sure we’re on the same page.

Being bitchy is lousy customer service!

BEFORE your session I will be a generous professional.  I will work with you to identify your needs and desires.  You’ve seen that here (and you’ll see it in the upcoming posts).  I know for a fact that just because someone calls for a cuckold fantasy that doesn’t always mean they want to suck cock.  Just because someone calls via a profile on sissy school that doesn’t mean they want full feminization or coerced into bi sexual or gay scenes.  There are all sorts of ways to do cock control.  You get the point.

When I’m the Domme in My phone sex life

I am a strong woman who knows My needs, limits, mind, etc.  I manage Myself, My Moods and My career.  Therefore I am a professional here and understand the distinction between being a Dominant (or scene Bitch) during a scene versus being a bitch about your customer service questions and issues.  I’m the Femdom in a scene …. an expert professional everywhere else.

When I’m the Domme in My private life

Magnus asked about My real life relationship.  I’m exactly the same in My real life as I am here.  I’m appropriate to the situation.  I have a great guy in My life.  We’re a semi-normal couple (LOL) in most respects AND we have a varied sex life.  I’m usually the Domme for fetish scenes although since I’m a switch I might be topped by another player.  I’m his Mistress in scene play.  Otherwise we are equal.  I couldn’t do any version of 24/7 ‘tell him what to do’.  BLEH!  And, yes Magnus, we also cuddle (a lot!) and even have (gasp!) really sweet vanilla sex.  For us, the kink provides a healthy dose of fun, fetish and naughtiness that we both enjoy.

Since I’ve been doing IM conversations recently….I’ll show you how we actually talk with one another.  I sent him an IM to ask about the poll I posted on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire.  Like always, I asked his permission, changed his ID and took out the identifiers.  Enjoy!  And, I’m really curious about your reaction to this peek behind the scenes.  (He reads the blog and your comments, he just doesn’t post.  LOL  He did mention that he’s shy.)

Ms Olivia:
can I ask you a sex question?
are you in a sex mindset?

My guy
I can be put there… lol
ask away

Ms Olivia
~laughs~
you’re the BEST baby !
So, tell me about the source of your interest in Femdom?

My guy
like what made me curious?

Ms Olivia
Yes……what happened that made you interested in Femdom.
Where did you find it?

My guy
hmmmm…. good question

Ms Olivia
how did you find it?
did you always know you wanted a woman in charge?
did you stumble across it and go wooooooo?
was it after you GOT interested in other fetish things?

My guy
well, being shy in general I do like it when a woman takes charge

Ms Olivia
*nods*

My guy
but I really enjoy watching BDSM, even when the man is the top and the woman submissive
I just can’t do it (be the man on top) though
but I think at one point I wound up with a couple “regular” porn tapes that had some S & M undercurrent to it and really liked it and just kept investigating more because it fascinated me which led to online searches, and kinkier and kinkier stuff. I’m trying to think if there was any one thing specifically that made me want to be dominated.

Ms Olivia
*nods*

My guy
now that i think about it I started getting porn magazines from the time I could find
a store that didn’t ID me when I was (young) and always liked the harder, kinkier stuff like Hustler over Playboy

Ms Olivia
LOL

My guy
and there was one fetish magazine I discovered in my early 20s that I loved…. wish I could remember what it was called.  I just thought of something really weird if you want to hear it

Ms Olivia
Sure, yes !
I’m trying to think of names of fetish mags.
LOL

My guy
I just remembered that when I was a little kid there was a Tom Thumb movie, and towards the end someone was about to get whipped, and even then that fascinated me

Ms Olivia
LOL
that’s so great !

My guy
that might be the only scene in the movie I remember.   I bet if you find a synopsis of the movie it’ll mention the whipping scene

Ms Olivia
Can I use your comments in my blog?

My guy
absolutely

Ms Olivia
you’re the BESTEST !

My guy
*smile*

My guy
wish I could remember that weird magazine I liked though

My guy
(movie synopsis link)
knew it… LOL

Ms Olivia
is that the SCENE?

My guy
no…. just the synopsis of the movie.  Kind of hard to read because it’s all one big paragraph…. but towards the bottom says Jonathan and Anna are sentenced to a public whipping in town square I knew I remembered that.  I remember a couple lashes before they were saved, but not sure I was like (young) when I saw it.

Ms Olivia

Tom Thumb?  LOL You really should have a Giantess fetish!

My guy
LOL  I also always liked the episode of the Flintstones where Wilma and Betty wanted to join Fred and Barney’s Buffalo Lodge, so dressed as men to try, and wound up being hazed during the initiation, including being paddled LOL

Ms Olivia
ohhhhhhhh

My guy
LOL…. I just googled that…. it’s on a bunch of spanking websites

Ms Olivia
oh that’s funny !
and kinky!

My guy

http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=10901

Ms Olivia
I’m going to look at that after I finish this next blog post.

My guy
LOL
making me remember all my repressed childhood fantasies

Ms Olivia
good

My guy
I’m going to (go do stuff)
love you

Ms Olivia
I’m sorry for the delay — I got tied up with blog posts.

My guy
no problem

Ms Olivia
HUGS YOU BABY
Hey, wait!  Did you jack to our conversation?
I DO always love to hear about jacking…..from you….not just others!

My guy
actually not this time…. I just don’t find Betty Rubble as attractive as I did when I was (young)… and don’t remember what Tom Thumb’s mother looked like.  LOL  got distracted looking at (other non porn) stuff

Ms Olivia
LOL
you’re funny.
got a text session…..hugs sweetie!

My guy
and funny looking
have fun

So, that’s a peek inside My life.  Thanks magnus for the question.  As always…..post your comments and questions and let the conversation begin!

Ms Olivia