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My first phone sex call

olivia — Tue, 10 May 2011 14:24:35 +0000

Olivia 1-800-601-6975

This was the day of my first phone sex call. I was dressed for suck-sess and feeling more than a little nervous. I’ve done phone sex with partners for years but never before as a paid partner.

My questions before the first call

What would happen? Could I do what the guy wanted? Would I like it as much as I like phone sex in my private life? Should I tell him if I get turned on? Is is okay for me to masturbate with the guy on the phone? So many emotions and questions!

The first call

I carefully prepared everything. I was wearing lingerie, stockings and high heels. Really! I looked (and felt) totally sexy hot! I was ready!

Ready or not here they cum

The phone rang! My nerves propelled me out of my chair. I was wearing high heels and wobbled a bit from the sheer speed of ascent! I grabbed the phone and then promptly dropped it! ~laughing~ So, when I say I understand what it’s like for you to MAKE that first phone sex call I totally get it!

His reaction to me

There was an unknown MAN on the line! Well, I knew that would happen but, like we’ve talked about it’s one thing to imagine something and it’s another to experience it. I said hello there in what I thought would be a sexy voice and he laughed. WHAT ?

I started laughing too. That broke the ice so to speak. He said, I see you’re new on the site and I blurted out, “You’re my very first phone sex call!” He told me the ‘sexy’ voice was artificial and just let things flow naturally. I settled down. He said, don’t *try* to be something, just be yourself. The BEST bit of advice ever!

I got an experienced caller

I totally lucked out! I got a regular LDW caller who was so fantastic with me … he was smart and funny and very generous with a newbie to this arena. We didn’t get right into a sex call, it was more a conversation about erotic things. Looking back on that first call, I realize that I’m giving back much of what that first caller gave to me. When you call you don’t get the pretend sexy voice or the fakey laugh. You get me.

Today, I’m the Experienced Mistress

Today, more than three years later, I can jump into various fetish fantasies if that’s what you want. I have real life experiences with crossdressers via My photography work. My natural Femdom tendencies have flourished! I’ve become an expert at cock control and I love that! I find I was a cuckoldress even before I know about cuckolding as a sexual fetish. We can also have fun conversations about anything and those don’t even have to be about anything overtly sexual or erotic.

All of these conversations have given me a new appreciation of men (in ALL your facets). I find that you all have opened up avenues for sexual exploration in me that were not fully expressed before. The Experienced Mistress became who I am today, in part, because My first phone sex call was from an experienced caller!

So, that’s my first phone sex call. Let’s hear about YOURS! You know I want to know!

Ms Olivia

Phone sex: Is it cheating?

olivia — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 16:07:58 +0000

One caller has this question: Do I think I’m cheating by calling or texting the Mistresses?

I hear that question from many men who want to call for phone sex and even from the men who currently use erotic conversation as a generally kinky or specific sex fantasy outlet. I’m going to talk about My thoughts on that and, as always, ask for YOUR COMMENTS.

What do YOU think? Is phone sex cheating?

I’ve created a poll asking that specific question on our adult networking site Enchantrix Empire. This poll will also have space for comments and I’ll post the poll results here on My blog in a couple of days. I want you to leave comments here to get the conversation going.

Is phone sex a solution to a no win situation in your life?

As you leave your comments and questions, I’d like you to consider something. The majority of the men who call this Experienced Mistress are married or in a committed / steady relationship. Many men say that their wife or girlfriend doesn’t understand or even know about their sex secrets.

According to My recent poll, post and your comments on Handling your sex secrets men talk about how they have been shot down when they’ve tried to talk about their erotic or kinky desires. This is especially the case with men who are closet crossdressers and sissies.

If you can’t get what you want sexually, what do you do?

Do you give up that level of sexual arousal for the sake of the relationship on your partner’s terms? On that note: Should your wife or girlfriend get to dictate what YOU do sexually? Even if you want to give your partner what she wants you to do (ie stop thinking about your fetish) can you just ‘stop’?

When sex at home is non-existent or lacking

What do you do when, for whatever reason, you don’t get sex at home? Maybe your wife of many years has zero sex drive. Maybe she has sexual hangups of her own that preclude an open conversation about erotic needs of both of you.

Or, maybe you get sex but your partner doesn’t get into the sexual kinks that you do. What are your options? You could have a real life affair with all the risks involved with that OR you could have an outlet like phone sex which I know is much safer for you! One caller refers to phone sex as ‘sin management.’

When you can’t talk about your kinky needs

This is particularly true with something like cuckolding.

Call Olivia@ 1-800-601-6975

Men with the cuckold fantasy have pointed out here that cuckolding your husband means the woman will have to get her head around sleeping with another man. Maybe she really wants a different cock or a bigger dick or maybe she has her own fantasies about her man sucking cock for Mistress. Maybe your partner is equally shy about telling YOU about the kinky stuff she thinks about!

Now, do YOU think that phone sex is cheating?

I’ll answer all your comments here and I’m really looking forward to reading what you have to say.

Ms Olivia

All I ask of you …. Boundaries and the Mistress

admin — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 21:43:34 +0000

Erotic conversation, the intimate exchanges over something as mundane as what’s billed as a phone sex line, can lead to unusual relationships. I am open to exploring beyond the usual roles of caller and Mistress. All I ask of you is that you want to give Me. However that looks in each particular relationship. That can be a little or a lot.

Some callers have a particular fantasy that they want to experience in erotic roleplay and I excel at making your fantasy ‘real’ to you. Some callers have “secret” fantasies that they would never share or even want to experience in real life. I have callers that enjoy forced-bi and cuckold fantasies but those stories remain erotic fantasies filled with sexual charge but contained in the boundaries of a phone call to an Experienced Mistress.

Some callers are looking for a fantasy or relationship that evolves. As the evolution of our relationship happens, it can get to a point of, where do we go from here? When the relationship is based in the erotic fantasy, the answer is…anywhere we want to go. When that relationship includes conversations that involve real life topics for you or me, then it can get tricky. When individuals are dating there comes to a point where they need to ‘take the relationship to the next level’ … I’ve seen that happen here with certain callers so I want to take a moment to say something about that.

I don’t have many requirements or limits within the context of the phone call ….I am open to fantasy and sexual exploration. I have a curious mind and enjoy delving into the shadow side of your (and my own) kinky side. I have a great deal of respect for people who embrace their own sexuality however the actual expression might look to the vanilla world.

That said, the one thing that I do insist on is that you respect My boundaries. I don’t meet callers in real life. I don’t want to talk with your wife or girlfriend without HER consent. I also don’t involve others in what is a non-consensual call on their part. I have had people who try to push those limits. My boundaries don’t move and those who push me move on, or are gently (or not so gently) edged away. I’m not saying no, but meaning yes. No actually means no.

The ones who understand the limits of our relationship and don’t try to push my boundaries are generally delighted with the opportunity to open up into what can become a real and delicious intimacy, protected by the boundaries. You can tell Me things that perhaps you can’t tell others in your life. When I feel safe with you, I can be a safe harbor for you as well. I don’t feel safe with a caller who continues to push my boundaries. These boundaries are best for us both because we can explore as much intimacy as we like knowing that it won’t blow up either of our lives….or the lives of people involved with either of us.

For example, the curious sir who “reads too many blogs” (LOL), gives me a safe harbor to explore and experience myself along with your inquiry into who you know yourself to be. What an amazing cocoon-experience. THANK YOU so much for your consideration and respect. I treasure you.

All I ask of you — all of you — is everything you yearn to give honoring the appropriate boundaries of this environment. Delicious? Yes. Dangerous? No. This mutual acknowledgement and your respect for Me makes it best for all involved.

Olivia

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