Ms Olivia 1-800-601-6975

When did you start crossdressing and/or experiencing a need to be en femme?

There are many different *kinds* of crossdressers.  Your experience of being a man in panties is as unique as you are!  In fact, you might not even be a *man* no matter what is between your legs.  The Experienced Mistress knows the difference between a crossdresser, a sissy and a TV/TG girl.

I listen and learn who you really are

You are unique.  Your sexual fantasies are individual and personal. When we do a session I create an erotic fantasy that targets your own experiences and expressions of your desires.

If you simply like to wear sexy panties as Mistress control over a submissive male then there’s nothing worse (for you) then being called a sissy!  When you’re a sissy slut who yearns to be told to suck cock for Mistress, chances are you don’t want a lot of conversation about current lingerie fashions!  See what I mean?

Your first experiences tell Me a lot

When I ask you about your crossdressing history, it’s not idle conversation.  It’s a map of your erotic landscape.  I use what you say to push buttons and sexual triggers that you might not even think to articulate to Me.  How it all *started* tells Me a lot about you and what you *need* now.

pantyboy tells about the beginning

pantyboy:  “I first started wearing panties in college. I had messed around with panties and such before that, but it wasn’t until I had a long term girlfriend in college that I found myself doing it a lot. I loved buying lingerie for her, and she loved wearing it for me, many times I found myself sneaking them and wearing them from time to time.”

I’d like to hear from you.  How do you express your feminine and/or submissive side?

Ms Olivia

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Olivia 1-800-601-6975

The previous post was about what it takes to be a male submissive.  Since that post went up I’ve heard from phone sex callers who identify as in femme mode or female.  You can probably tell from this blog that I have a fluid view of gender identification.  I know that many crossdressers identify as male but use the crossdressing as part of a session of erotic kinkiness.  There are others of you that identify as female or as a sissy slut who is female (not male).  There are so many variations.  YOU are unique!

Don’t settle for less

Dear Mistress Olivia,

Here is my first attempt to write about what it takes to be a FEMALE SUBMISSIVE

i was most interested to read what all the boys wrote about what it took to be a male submissive but there was a side of me that was not truly relating to their experiences, and it wasn’t until i was chatting in IM with You that i realised what was “missing”!! As You so correctly elucidated Mistress Olivia… i am not a male submissive at all!! i am a female submissive… and NOW, at Your delicious request Mistress, i am going to attempt to describe what i believe it takes for a biological male to be a female submissive.

YOU know what you want and need

i guess the first step was to start trusting those deep stirrings that i have had since boyhood (~giggles~ or, should that be girlhood?). By stirrings, i mean the simple things… the way that, despite being quite a sporty boy, i loved to be around my sisters and their girlfriends because i felt warm and fuzzy in their company.

i liked the way they lay around and chatted about emotions, i liked the way my voice seemed connected to my heart and that i didn’t have to jostle and spa to get a word in edgeways. i also liked the feeling of the winter sun on my skin, and the way the girls would caress each other and comment on their appearance and fashion choices.

The inner life

i also liked the way i felt deep inside… the softness of my heart, the pliability of my ego, and my willingness to undertake chores like making tea or walking to the shops.

i began to realise that my sense of style was more honed than the other boys, that i liked to look good and have my soccer outfits to be coordinated even if it was just to go have a kick in the park. i was deeply drawn to moisturiser and perfumes and long hot baths at the end of the day. infact it was during those bath sessions that i first started trying on my sisters’ friends panties and tennis dresses, gazing at my lithe body and my lovely legs, carefully applying lipstick to my dry chapped lips, gazing into my eyes and feeling kind of alarmed but incredibly sexy!!

The turnon of Feminine Power

Very soon, i began to realise that what turned me on most was the POWER that the other girls had over me, and how much i wanted to emulate and please them… The power the dominant girls had over me back then was based on my deep yearning for them, not only to touch them and taste them BUT to be like them… to laugh lightly and girlishly, to flaunt their beauty, to toss their hair and to enjoy the gaze of the guys as they walked by. However, i knew that i couldn’t be like them because it was taboo BUT i also knew there was something deeper at work. There was some kind of fracture or schism in my own psyche, almost a betrayal of my true nature… and that -in some way that i simply didn’t have the language for at the time- my soul/spirit was being corroded. This was in the early 1980s and androgeny was hip, so i got away with wearing eye shadow and gender-fucking fashion. But the thing is that i was still operating under the assumption of masculinity. Perhaps not main stream masculinity but masculinity nevertheless…. and i was in denial!!

So i guess that this is a long winded way of saying that i think it is important to be really honest about who you are and where your yearnings for kink come from. For me… being a submissive female goes beyond a wonderfully thrilling and taboo busting spectacle…

this is it SO FAR!!

LOVE chrissy XOXOXO

There have been a variety of comments recently about what makes a good Mistress.  I think we’re all agreed here that there’s a huge difference between a  Mistress and a bitchy female!  You can read about that on the Blog Mistresses Blog.  That said, there is also a wide variety in what callers themselves are looking for in a Mistress.

Recently, I’ve had several delightful callers who are not into extreme sex play.  Now, I am an Experienced Mistress so I do know all the kinky sex games and can get as naughty as you like.   One caller (I’ll call him EROS) wanted some anal play but said, “What IS IT with you Mistresses and your big black strapons!”  I totally lost it!  I cracked up laughing.

The extreme is not the norm

Eros and I then had a great conversation about what makes a great phone sex call for him.  I doubt he’s the only one that feels this way so that’s why I’m doing this post.  It easy to get caught up in highlighting the extremes.  The “most unusual” or the “you’ll never believe this” moments are actually few and far between.  (That’s WHY they’re unusual, duh!)  If you think about a newscast, it’s the disaster that gets the news coverage.  You’ll never see a headline saying, Thousands of planes land without problems.  But, of course, the plane crash is a front page story.  I think human beings are like that too.  We gravitate to communicating about the extremes.

Great phone sex isn’t automatically about extremes …. it’s about the erotic experience.

For Eros, it’s the deliciousness of a Woman sensually in control even to the point of putting him in My panties …. not full on sissy femme but wearing My panties as a nod to My erotic control.   Part of his enjoyment of our erotic conversation is that it is not one sided.  For him (and much to MY delight) it ended up being about both of us having fun back and forth … combined with a smidge of kink in terms of cock and ball pain play for him.      (( and, no …. there was NO big black strapon involved! *snicker* ))

Here’s to what YOU enjoy!

Olivia    1-800-601-6975

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