For YOUR tease and denial instructions call Ms Olivia 1-800-601-6975

I know that many of you want and need an Experienced Mistress to control your cock stroking.  Perhaps you are like this caller, who needs:

Caller:  “… a lady who can control me and my orgasms. Someone to abuse me and give me instructions and then get me to the point my cumming and then stop and then abuse me some more.”

Ms Olivia decides cock tease and denial wish

I get so many requests for cock stroking instructions before the phone sex call that I’ve decided to do a series of blogs.  If you would like stroking instructions or assignments personalized to you, you can always call (or email) Me to set up your session.

Stay right here though for more general cock stroking and denial information and instructions.  Even solo cock tease and denial can be FUN!

When you want Mistress guidance and control I’m available early morning and through the day (eastern, US time).  You can check to see who is available for your stroking tease and denial sessions.

Orgasm denial without a chastity device

This man will not be in a male chastity device but he will have orders from Mistress on how to stroke his cock and then he won’t be allowed to cum until I give him permission to cum.  I want to hear him BEG on his phone calls, May I cum?  Please Mistress, I’m begging to cum!”

Did you click that begging link?  Those are your first tease and denial instructions.  We’ve talked on the phone so you know what other things Mistress expects you to do with that naughty cock of yours.  Remember, there will be NO unauthorized wanking!  You will perform for Mistress and follow My instructions.

I’d like your comments…what do YOU think of having a Mistress control your cock while giving you a sexy tease?  What do you think and feel when she abruptly says, nope we’re done now, no orgasm for you!  I want to hear from YOU (just click on the comments section and leave your thoughts).

Ms Olivia

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I’ll admit it.  I love to hear YOUR voice!

Your tone and timbre, the words you use, the *gasp* as you catch your breath.  The sound of your voice turns Me on!  Which is probably one of the many reasons why phone sex is so much fun!!

A number of you have discovered just how easy it is to call an American Mistress!   I’m glad I get calls from all over the world because I think YOUR accents are delicious. You can hear My *accent* in this erotic audio.

Whatever words you use, you know what *feels good* when you masturbate, don’t you?

Solo masturbation can get boring!

Let’s face it, what you’re doing now is fine but less then great.  Oh sure, you still get the release …. but, is there the real thrill of excitement in the build up TO your orgasm? Perhaps the whole thing is even beginning to feel a bit mechanical and unimaginative.

Guided masturbation is way more FUN!

When your stroking becomes monotonous, then you’re ready for guided masturbation.  I am the Experienced Mistress and I take men on a masturbation journey that allows us both to enjoy your cock stroking!

What is guided masturbation?

It’s more than just new stroking techniques, but that IS part of it.  You learn new skills and become proficient in a variety of cock stroking styles.

While I don’t HAVE a penis, I have played with so many I know what I’m talking about!   I have a wealth of knowledge that can turn you inside out with pleasure.  You hear My voice encouraging you, experiencing YOU as you stroke for Me …. all this and more, are some of the things that take your erotic enjoyment to the next level … and beyond!

Let’s not forget that there is also My lovely American accent and choice of words that will also take your masturbation to new …. ahem…..heights, as it were.  ~laughs~  You do know that an American Mistress can be a wicked cock tease, don’t you?  I use My imagination as you can hear in this erotic audio *wink*.

Ms Olivia

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It’s ‘only’ phone sex, so what’s the big deal; why can you call one woman for .69/minute and you’re asked to pay more here?

What’s the difference?  Ms Ally, the owner of LDW, knows what it takes for the ‘something special’ to happen in our erotic fantasy sessions.  She only works with the best, like this Experienced Mistress.  Something as ‘simple’ as this masturbation stroking erotic audio will be an sensuous adventure!.  Each Mistress has her own page of Mistress Reviews so you can see what others are saying about each of us.

What YOU need and want

We’ve given real thought to what you need beyond the session itself.  That means lots of free sites including the only adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire.  This career is My livelihood so I do manage My time well but you’ll get lots of interaction from Me on EE and here in the comments section of My blog.  I asked one new EE member about his reaction to finding our network of sites:

BG talks about his reaction to our community

Me:  Were you surprised at what you found?

BG:  Yes, I was definitely surprised. I was very much surprised at the loveliness of the ladies. I was surprised at the sophistication of the writing and conceptual development of the site. I was surprised at the variety of interests represented.

Mostly, I was surprised at how exciting things seemed to be. I was a bit suspicious that I was being taken in. I am generally a pretty analytical and cautious person. Even though I take significant risks from the perspective of someone not engaging in FemDom, I tend to check things out pretty thoroughly before I make any commitments.

In the end, I think a large part of the reason I committed was the depth of the LDW site. I found ladies who had obviously been involved for years. I found policy statements that and procedures designed quite obviously to protect both me, and the ladies. I had to respect that. That was really not even present in the face-to-face Domination with which I had become familiar. All of that surprised me.

I have not participated in any other phone domination sites. When one is feasting on sirloin steaks, why would he choose hamburger?”

~laughs~  I love that last line!  BG always leaves thoughtful comments (with a little quirky thing at the end).  You might say the same thing about Me.  Thoughtful, passionate, creative …. and, yes, a little quirky at the end.  *wink*

Ms Olivia

My Schedule —  Best ways to talk with Me.

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I’m curious about you!  That’s one of the many reasons why I love to talk with you.  I’m naturally curious.

Difference between curious and intrusive

I often write about privacy issues and phone sex and we have a detailed privacy policy.

I like getting to know as much about you as you’d like to share with Me.  One of the questions I like to ask you when you call Me for your phone sex session is:  “What position are you in?”

My masturbation position

I will often masturbate on My stomach with My elbows propped on a pillow.  As an Experienced Mistress, one of the ways I dominate you is by controlling what your masturbation position.  After all, that’s what a Femdom does, She is a woman who sexually dominates a man.  I’ll often ask you, “What are your favorite positions?”

Masturbating while laying on your bed.

It’s so comfortable when you can lay down and masturbate.  Most men lay down on their back.  This allows the cock to stick straight up.  It’s a great position for easy access to cock and balls and great for an erotic roleplay call when the call is more about the mental images then simply cock stroking techniques.

You might be one of the guys who likes to be on your stomach grinding your penis into the bed. For men who like to wear panties, laying on the stomach is amazing because your penis rubs against the pantie fabric in the most delightful way!

Of course, if you’re a sissy crossdresser, you might be prancing around, fully dressed in your sluttiest attire!

Many men like to masturbate while sitting in a chair.

If you’re in your office, chances are you’re sitting in a chair to stroke.  I’ve noticed that men also tend to sit down for guided masturbation sessions.  When you’re sitting you can be right at the computer to look at My sexy photos *wink*!

Whatever position, masturbating is more fun with company

If you already have favorite positions or want to try some new ones, it’s always more fun to masturbate with this Experienced Mistress!  I might just masturbate with you!  Now, that’s a win-win situation, isn’t it?

So, tell Me, what are some of YOUR favorite positions when you masturbate?

Ms Olivia

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What do you think of when you hear the words cock control?  Does that phrase make you sit up and go, ohhhhhhh ?  ~laughs~  If it does, then read on!

This is an IM Chat with a man who is exploring his …. ahem …. growing interest in orgasm control by considering phone sex and working with a phone sex Mistress.

Our chat on IM

man:  i read some of your blog on cockcontrol.com and i figure you might be someone i might be comfortable enough to try to talk to. I am really new to this whole scene of orgasm denial. But it sounds so exciting. By the way I am (his first name) .

Ms Olivia:  hi (his first name) ! What would you like to know? Have you seen My blog? I do lots of these free IM Info Chats between calls……. especially with men who are new to Femdom, cock control and/or phone sex.

man:   i am very new to it but it sounds so thrilling

Ms Olivia:   Have you seen how I use these chats on My blog?

man:   somewhat yes

Ms Olivia:   great……I’m more than happy to talk you here and answer your questions.  May I have your permission to post this on My blog? (taking out your identifiers)

man:   That’s no problem you can post it.  I have been reading your blog a lot the last couple of days i finally got the courage to IM you.

Ms Olivia:  THANK YOU ! Tell Me a little about getting the courage to IM.

Courage to IM with Me

man:  I have like butterflies in my stomach right now lol

Ms Olivia:  Sometimes I forget that the first step of contacting Me or any Mistress can be daunting. Can you tell Me more about it?

He wants interaction with Mistress but is very new and shy

man:  Well a couple of months ago somehow i stumbled upon the tease and denial thing on wikipiedia and i read about it.  One way or another i found other websites.  None of them had any real interaction with a live person.

Ms Olivia: *nods* yes

man:  I have been thinking of this fetish and fantasizing about it for a while.

Ms Olivia:  Really! ? Tell Me more about that if you will…… I am a live person….I won’t bite…..I love to answer questions.  (Please note that I am in high demand for sessions.  Sometimes I will be able to do this type of IM chat without being in a session, but more often then not, I will have limited availability due to session volume.  Please check the Sessions page to find out all your options of how best to interact with Me.)

Ms Olivia:  One thing to let you know, when I get a call I’ll have to pause our chat.

man:   ok i understand you have a job to do.

He is curious about orgasm control & tease and denial is no FUN solo

man:  Wondering what it would be like to actually have a real women take control of my orgasm

Ms Olivia:  Having someone control your cock stroking and orgasm is different then doing it solo.  It’s a very different experience for you.  Can you tell Me more?

man:   Well I have been doing these webteases that I found on this one website. Where they tell you how to masturbate but then it tells you to stop.  It is really hard to make yourself stop when there really isn’t a person there to force you to stop stroking etc.. the whole idea of being forced to stop and leaving yourself high and dry is a real turn on.  So last week I was searching google and found this website. I saw some of the blogs of some of the young ladies on here. I read them and they are so exciting I thought about trying to IM to talk to some of the girls but every time I think about hitting the send button I would freeze up.

Ms Olivia:   ahhhhhhhhh that makes a great deal of sense! It’s a very NEW thing to you isn’t it?

man:  Yes but I want to try it. I would love to be under some hot smart and sexy girls thumb.

Free erotic teases are different from individual interaction

Ms Olivia:   You’re very correct that the experience of the free erotic audios and the tease and denial instructions on our orgasm denial assignment sites are fantastic. BUT, the experience of actually talking with someone takes it to a new and different level. We (LDW Group) have tons of free stuff and it’s all there to use however you’d like to use it. The paid sessions, though, are personalized.  That is where you get intimate and explicit interaction with you, rather than something for a general audience. The specificity is what makes it more intense.

man:  Yes, a whole new level.  By the way, you are just down right so hot! You’re a very gorgeous woman.

Ms Olivia:  Thank you!  And, I know how to use My beauty, brains, voice and creativity to create amazing erotic sessions for you!  *wink*

Now, I’m curious about those of you reading this blog.  How did YOU *stumble upon* tease and denial or orgasm denial as a hot erotic fetish?  And, are you nervous when you interact with a Mistress for the first time?  As always, please leave a blog comment for your comments, questions and anything else you’d like to tell Me.

Ms Olivia

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Where do YOU go to talk about your sexual needs, issues and desires?  There’s lots of porn, kink, fetish and overtly sexual images all over the internet and in society in general.  Think about it!  We have lots of sites for everything from crossdressing to vanilla phone sex.  Who do you talk with?

Sex is a hidden

If you’re like most people you talk with yourself about sex (fantasies, issues, desires, concerns, questions, etc.)  You might do research on the internet for something like masturbation and edging but it’s still a conversation with yourself inside your own head.  That’s fine (I like to think and research on the internet too) BUT there is more available when you bring that private conversation into a community.  I think LIFE happens in community so I hope to have a forum for our community conversations about sex.

Mistress gets on twitter …. SexInfoBabe

I’ve been using this blog as the conversation forum and want to expand that to the twitter-sphere.  My twitter name is:  SexInfoBabe.  I’m going to make sure that My twitterfeed is predominantly intelligent conversation about sexual topics, issues and insights.  I’m going to make sure you’re not bombarded with ads and irrelevant *stuff* if you choose to follow My tweets.

Origin of My twitter name

As I say in My profile, I’m a former journalist so I bring that natural curiosity to My career in phone sex.  THIS is My new *beat* and I’m giving a *nod* to the Rush Limbaugh label of news women as Info Babes.  The quirky juxtaposition of Rush and phone sex makes Me ~laugh~ !!  I really was an Info Babe in My former career and now I’m a Sex Info Babe!

IM Chat continues

That brings us to the continuation of the IM Chat I had with the caller wanting to bring his Femdom and fetish exploration into real life.  We pick up the IM conversation with his comments about sex therapists.

Man:  I’ve spent time with online sex coaches who have not been nearly as insightful, honest, informative, or educational as you to be frank.

Man:  The “two” i’ve spoken with were almost amateur psychologists in their approach, despite trying to point out the honest sex communication. While I understand there is a clinical aspect to this, the reality is I’m clearly looking for real world based information, guidance, assistance, etc.

As I told you during our chat, after my divorce, when I was so beaten-up about my sexuality and drive, I went to an escort, not a therapist. I neeed the “boots on the ground” approach, not the theoretical approach. That’s not to say that an online sex coach didn’t provide me some tidbits, but it was more like the person was trying to sustain my visits instead of helping me

So one sex coach first had me fill out a psychological profile that I had to submit, then our first session was reviewing that info.  And while there was some benefit and insight to be gained, it should have been a tool instead of the “focus” of the first two sessions.  Meanwhile in these chats and one tremendous phone encounter with you, I was able to learn, explore, be aroused, and add information to continue to explore and bring into my reality.  Make sense?

Ms Olivia:  *nods*  YES !  What you’re saying about the theoretical versus the practical.  I say, I’m therapy with a happy ending.  LOL

Man:  well there’s that, lol

Ms Olivia:  Of course, I also versed in theraputic techniques and do use them on calls and chats……but, My degree is in communications not therapy so I can’t hang out a therapy shingle so to speak. I’m clearly NOT a sex therapist but you do have the benefit of My research, knowledge, insight and information.

Man:  but you are also giving me valuable real world tools & information to continue my personal pursuit the right way.

Ms Olivia:  *nods*  Safe, sane, and consensual…….AND, with practical insight.  Even with a sex therapist they *see* fewer people then My pool of experience.  Men tend to get VERY honest at $2.50 / minute.  LOL  So I can sort thru the hmmmmmmmssssss and cut to the chase.

Man:  ROFL

Ms Olivia:  Really!  I can figure out what I THINK you’re wanting to ask or do and then ask you.  Usually men, when it’s identified and spoken in a nonjudgmental way will actually answer.

Man:  true

Ms Olivia:  Men do the *dance* with women (civilians) because civilian women have y’all trained to do the *relationship dance* so there’s all this STUFF underneath………

Man:  very true

Ms Olivia:  and like mushrooms and other fungus it grows in the dark.

Man:  tremendous metaphor

From the real life relationship of Mistress

Ms Olivia *nods*  Thank you!  Let me give you a real life example…..My guy and I were trying to decide what to do on a certain weekend.  We had two options mutually exclusive because of timing for the events.  I really didn’t have an opinion and said that.  He kept doing the “well it’s up to you” types of comments.  I eventually said, If you want ME to make the decision I will.  I’ve already told you.  These two events have more to do with you than me.  So, I think it makes more sense for YOU to choose.  He came back with…..but I want you to have fun.  I said, I’ve told you I’ll have fun with either.  Now, what I’m not having fun with is the back and forth where you’re trying to figure out what will please Me when I have already told you My answer.  LOL  He finally GOT IT and said, I’d like to do THIS……I said great, get it set up…..that sounds fantastic.  NOW…….. I don’t think I’d have been able to actually HAVE that Meta conversation with him unless I’d talked with thousands of men on a phone sex line!  LOL

Man:  lol

Ms Olivia:  I was able to *spot* the squirmy maybe you’ll figure out and do what I really want to do without me having to say it.  Most civilian women won’t be that knowledgable or blunt.  This, btw, is the ONLY conversation we’ve had like that in a year and a half.  If it were an ongoing thing we wouldn’t be togehter.  I tell you that to point out that the men/women relationship stuff gets bad icky sticky in a heart beat left to it’s *normal* course.  You have had experience with that haven’t you?

Man:  Very much so

Ms Olivia:  You get more honest/more experienced with a professional because there aren’t the *will he like me in the morning* kind of stuff that you get with amateurs or people who want a relationship with you.  Now, I have a really CLOSE and intimate relationship with My guy so I’m not *detached* at all…….I bring the best of My experienced and skills into our relationship and that includes how we communicate……but that’s rare.

Man:  so true  and ultimately going in you know you won’t be judged by those (traditional relationship) rules, and they might find you fun and result in another encounter of similar or different play it’s that Freedom of Pursuit.

Ms Olivia:   ROFLOL !!!!!!  It’s the FEMDOM of pursuit!  LOL  I like that!

Man:  lol  I feel like I have taken up far too much of your time but it’s been such a good conversation

Ms Olivia:  I also get to use this on My blog……..so it’s good for us both.  I like that – when it’s mutual!  So, THANK YOU !

We’ll end this IM Chat here.  We continue on with a private conversation about some specific things that are for his eyes only *wink*.  And, now you get the questions.  ~laughs~  Who do YOU talk with about your erotic needs and desires?  Have you ever used your doctor, a traditional therapist, a sex therapist or someone else?  I love your comments!

Ms Olivia

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The IM chat continues:  Today, I coach the guy new to Femdom and new to phone sex about his interest in spanking.  Elements of pain play can be tricky on a call.

As an aside, I’m cautious about pain play on the phone call if I think (or know) that you’re doing it in real life.  If you’re naturally submissive and into that sub space where you will automatically do what I say then it is My responsibility as the Domme to look out for your physical safety.  The penis and balls are actually quite fragile when handled wrong.  Do NOT put your cock in the hands of someone who doesn’t understand fetish safety and pain play!

CBT and phone sex

CBT, cock and ball torture, is highly arousing for many men.  Like everything, it depends on the erotic fantasy and the fetish situation.  It can be part of ANY erotic roleplay although for some reason I haven’t seen much attraction of CBT for crossdressers.  Maybe it’s because of the feminization element.  I digress.  If you’re a sissy, I’d love to hear from you:  Do you like any element of CBT?

For some callers, a mild slap on the balls at just the right moment in the call can be amazing.  For others, they want an actual CBT phone sex session.  Anyone who wants an actual CBT session with Me goes through a grilling about his experience with CBT, his personal health history, what he wants, etc.  I’m cautious and when doing pain play I will always tend to err on the safer side and then push the edges as we get to know one another.

This potential caller wasn’t talking about CBT per se but he did bring up paddling and spanking so that’s where we pick up the IM chat today.

Spanking and the masturbation fantasy

empress.olivia: Have you tried spanking yourself?

New Guy: Yes

empress.olivia: Tell Me more.

New Guy: I like the feeling of the actual hit but the effort to get in a position to actually be able to spank good makes it not as good as it could be
New Guy: I will be right back Empress Olivia. Having a 10 minutes meeting now.
New Guy: It’s a short meeting everyone telling what status our projects have.

empress.olivia: LOL
empress.olivia: I’ll want to hear YOUR status

New Guy: Im back Empress Olivia

empress.olivia: What is YOUR status pet?
empress.olivia: ~laughs~

New Guy: That im a submissive talking about sessions with his Empress?

empress.olivia: Good !

New Guy: Well for the moment im waiting for answers in all my projects Empress Olivia

empress.olivia: *nods*

New Guy: And for the record it felt good when you called me pet

empress.olivia: ahhhhhh………good!
empress.olivia: You mentioned spanking.  That is hard to do on a phone session.  One thing that you can do solo is use a LONG wooden yardstick.  That way you’re not straining your arm.  Physical PAIN……releases endorphins which are the ‘feel good’ chemicals in the brain.

New Guy: I’ll try that Empress Olivia

empress.olivia: Pain can also be used a seductive control or for strict measures…..humiliation …. etc.  The long wooden yardstick is springy and will give a nice resounding whack with a sting.  You won’t get fully into sub space by your own hand, but it can be used during a session to great effect!

New Guy: Okay i understand Empress Olivia
New Guy: I guess its excelent during phone sessions

empress.olivia: YES!

Tomorrow, you will see how all this begins to wrap up.  I coach him on how to contact Dispatch and what happens when he calls.  Then, I tell him what I think he should say to Dispatch when he calls and asks for a Mistress (this is also what he says to the Mistress herself). THEN, you’ll find out what happened with the new guy!  *wink*

Does he call the Experienced Mistress?

You know I’m usually very busy on the phone when I’m logged in so don’t automatically assume he was able to call Me …. or, even that he DID call.  Any person who contacts us for the first time is on a ‘comfort curve’ when calling for phone sex.  You can tell I don’t push for a call.  (Yes, if you want a session, scene creation or My undivided attention, then you have the option of a session.  If you don’t mind delays, content restrictions, etc then I’m more than happy to chat on IM).

SO ….. here are some of your questions.  Have you used self spanking during a phone sex call?  What do you do?  How do YOU do it?  Also, are you into CBT?  Feel free to digress, you can see My comment to magnus in a reply, I LIKE it when you digress.  I want this to be an actual conversation, not some static thing controlled by Me   When it’s organic it takes on a sexy and interesting life of it’s own!

Ms Olivia

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This is part two of a series of excerpts of an IM chat I had with a man in his 20′s who came across Femdom and is curious.  He’s also new to phone sex!  In the previous post He describes how he found the erotic fetish of female Domination.  Today, I post our IM chat about how this discovery has changed his fantasy sex life and masturbation habits.

Femdom fantasies changed his masturbation habits

New Guy: I masturbate alot.  At least once a day even if i got a girlfriend. i didn’t  masturbate this much before i found out about female domination.
New Guy: I actually masturbated at my office for the first time today
New Guy: I think of women dressed up as Mistress most of the time i masturbate  – alot of diffrent scenarios.

What Femdom scenes are hot?

New Guy: Like i getting fucked and forced to suck a strapon, getting a good spanking.
New Guy: Facesitting
New Guy: I have played with a finger in my ass while masturbating
New Guy: Today i was masturbating to the thought i was your property Empress Olivia
New Guy: My girlfriend was mad at me one morning
New Guy: She told me she had woke up in the middle of the night becouse the bed was moving when i jerked off. I don’t even remember doing it. Like i had done it while i was asleep
New Guy: I couldn’t hold my self so im masturbating now again

empress.olivia: ~laughs~  (the erotic humiliation is so hot isn’t it?)
empress.olivia: no worries……..
empress.olivia: masturbation is GOOD !

empress.olivia: I can’t wait to post all this to My blog!
empress.olivia: THANK YOU !!!
New Guy: Happy to please you Empress

The next several installments of this are the actual beginning of our IM conversation where I coach him into how to describe some of his erotic desires and how phone sex can work for the realization of those fetish fantasies.

As always, I want to hear from YOU.  I’m particularly interested in your masturbation habits and how Femdom has changed your your masturbation fantasies.

Ms Olivia

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This is the first in a series of posts about a man who is new to Femdom and phone sex.  The following IM chat takes place the second day we met.  I’m putting this at the beginning of the series so you can also have a sense of who he is while you’re reading our IM chat.

This these IM chats are not sessions.  He happened to catch Me at times when I was available to chat (I don’t IM during a paid session).  When I’m available for calls, I’m also available for IM chats like this one.

When I get a call or session, I’ll tell you and then come back to IM after the session.  I don’t mind at all if you get hard (or have an orgasm) during the question and answer but I will move you to a session when I feel that you are sexting with Me (ie actually trying to do a session for free).  As always, if you want My undivided attention it is best to get a session.  For all free chats like this one, he has given his permission to Me to post this on My blog.  The bold headings are My addition to help with visual clarity.  I’ve made some slight editing changes.  Otherwise, this is the full text of this part of our conversation.

I find out more about HIM:

empress.olivia:Tell Me a bit about you.  Same thing as our IM chat yesterday, tell Me things I can put on My blog.  I’d like to know about your sex life now and your fantasy sex life.  Does that make sense?

New Guy: Im a 25 year old boy/man.
New Guy: I live in sweden together with my girlfriend
New Guy: What would you like to know about my sex life?

empress.olivia: brb on a call
empress.olivia: I’m back…….

How he got interested in Femdom

empress.olivia: Tell Me about how you got interested in female domination.

New Guy: About 4-5 months ago i was browsing the internet for facesitting. While browsing for things i found many connections to female domination and i started to read about it. And it was very interesting. I started to watch femdom videos (mostly strapon play) but alot of others as well. Yesterday i started to chat with you about it and i feel i have found a huge turn on.

empress.olivia: What were you originally looking for on the web?

New Guy: The panties i had tried earlier
New Guy: I was browsing porn and saw a facesit video and searched for it

empress.olivia: Was the attraction Femdom face sitting itself?  What was it that got your attention?  Aside from the obvious….LOL….I mean was it the face sitting…..or something else ….  her clothing, expression, what the guy was doing?

New Guy: I thought it looked fascinating lying under a girl like that

empress.olivia: ahhhhh….a young man with a view!

New Guy: Also she was wearing a hot corset and actually looked like she was in command
New Guy: Im horny

empress.olivia: Of course you are!  That’s a good thing
empress.olivia: AND, I just got a sexy texting session.  I’ll be back in 45 minutes.
empress.olivia: During that time, tell Me about your masturbation habits — EVERYTHING you can think of to tell Me.
New Guy: Yes my Empress

The next installment of this blog will have more details about the New Guy.  This Experienced Mistress finds out how he uses Femdom to spice up his masturbation sex life!

As always, I want to hear from you.  What was YOUR first interest in FemDom and how did you begin to explore the sexy world of erotic Female Domination?  Tell Me!

*wink*   Ms Olivia

Olivia 1-800-601-6975

I enjoy getting to know you!  I love your comments on My blog and I always respond to each comment.  When I’m logged in I’m available for IM conversations.  (NOTE:  I don’t IM while I’m in a session).

I write a lot about the importance of communication in any relationship and phone sex is no exception.  Here is an IM conversation I had with a man new to phone sex and new to the joys of tease and denial.  I’m including it in it’s entirety (posted with his permission).  Bold headers are My addition.

New YIM window pops up with a friend request

New Guy: Thanks Olivia xx

empress.olivia:  Hi there!

New Guy: Hey how are you?

empress.olivia: I’m great and you?

New Guy: Hmmm….frustrated, lol
New Guy: Found the site yesterday and need to decide on the right Mistress for me.

empress.olivia: Welcome !

He’s new to tease and denial

New Guy: Never heard of self denial before then.

empress.olivia: OH !  Is that why you’re frustrated?  ~giggle~

New Guy: In a good way though
New Guy: i enjoy erotic literature and found a story on tease and denial which eventually led me here
New Guy: So I have been ‘practising’ since yesterday.

empress.olivia: That’s great!  WE are the experts.  Or, I should say … sexperts!  LOL

New Guy: I can see that
New Guy: So much content on the site
New Guy: and all the girls are so beautiful

empress.olivia: Have you seen My blog?  You can hear My voice on the audios page.

New Guy: I am looking at it right now

empress.olivia: fantastic !

New Guy: Yes it is!
New Guy: May I be a naughty little boy and ask what age you are?

empress.olivia: sure!  I’m 42.  Did you listen to my voice?

New Guy: wow….I do like a slightly more mature lady
New Guy: I did…you sound lovely

empress.olivia: Thank you!

New Guy: You are most welcome

He’s a new caller and wants to know how long to talk

New Guy: How long would you recommend for a first time caller?

empress.olivia: I actually did a couple of blog posts about first time callers and also choosing the right Mistress.

New Guy: Oh…should be an interesting read

empress.olivia: But, I can talk with you here about it if you like.

New Guy: I would like that

empress.olivia: I know a lot of people have similar questions/issues.  Can I take your IM name off and use this conversation on My blog?

New Guy: Of course

empress.olivia: Thank you!  And, I’m VERY VERY VERY protective if your privacy so if there’s a question you don’t want me to post, just say the word and I’ll take that out.

New Guy: I’m not shy

empress.olivia: ~~ laughs ~~~
empress.olivia: GOOD !
empress.olivia: So, what questions do you have?

How long should a first session be?

New Guy: Well firstly I am very new to cock control and would like to know how long a ‘break in’ session should last.

empress.olivia: One thing to tell you quickly is that I’ve been away for several days……..and the phone is likely to light up.   You’ve got me until it does……I don’t IM when I’m in a session.  But, I’ll come back to IM after the session until the next session.

New Guy: No worries….I will need to leave in a short while too

empress.olivia:  Great, thanks!  Okay, first session……it totally depends on you.  Have you done phone sex before?

New Guy: Sadly not

He’s also new to phone sex in general

empress.olivia:  Oh!  You’re in for a new treat.  It’s AMAZING !

New Guy: it sounds like it is amazing

empress.olivia: Yes! Phone sex is masturbation with a kick!  After all, you’re on the phone with the Experienced Mistress……. it can’t be anything BUT amazing ! LOL  The first call can be anything from 10 minutes (the minimum)  to hours…… we can talk about anything !

What to do before the first call

New Guy: Should I ‘practice’ alone before making a tease and denial call?

empress.olivia: hmmmmmm … that’s an option……..and, again, it’s totally up to you.  For many men….the thrill of tease and denial is, in part, DOING the denial and the stroking FOR someone.  And, in this case the someone is the Mistress.

New Guy: The Mistress having control of when is a thrilling thought

empress.olivia: PLUS, you have the Mistress with you…….guiding you…….telling you what to do and when.  It’s like a personal trainer at the gym.  LOL  The trainer knows more and can GET more from you than you think you can do.

New Guy: I want to come to your gym!

empress.olivia: You TOTALLY do…..LOL…….My personal trainer is smokin’ hot !

What about erotic roleplay?

New Guy: What about roleplaying? What sort of roles do you perform for a tease and denial session?

empress.olivia: Roleplay scenes again will totally depend on you. All aspects of Power Exchange are so sexually charged.  Power Exchange is where one person is “more powerful” than the other.  It can be a kind of bait and swtich…..like you’re my boss but then I turn the tables on you and become the boss of your orgasms and therefore YOU.  You can apply the same concept to anyone in a situation where one inherently has more ‘authority’ over the other.

What is off limits?

New Guy:  Is there anything that you will NOT perform?

empress.olivia: Really anything goes in roleplay.  What I don’t do are the things that We at LDW, don’t do.   Did you have something specific that you’re asking about?

New Guy: Not really…just curiosity
New Guy: all new to me

empress.olivia: I don’t get the sense that you’ll need to worry about those limits.  Sometimes a tease and denial session can start off with guided masturbation.  That’s where I tell you how to stroke.  What to do…..how to do it.

New Guy: That is something I have enjoyed, however not a 1-2-1 basis, I have looked at videos

empress.olivia: That’s great!  Sometimes a caller knows exactly what he wants.  Sometimes, like you, he is new. Maybe new to LDW or new to phone sex in general.  The exploration is half the fun, isn’t it?  This is like you’ve just now wandered into the hottest new restaurant and I’m explaining the specials on the menu!

New Guy: I have to tell you the thought alone is very arousing

empress.olivia: *nods* oh YES !  By the way, I’m not getting explicit here because I don’t have age verification for you.

New Guy: I understand

empress.olivia:  Thank you for understanding!

What goes on during the session?

empress.olivia:  Everything can and does get very explicit during a session.  One interesting thing is that someone might call for a ‘sex call’ but then end up asking about all sorts of questions about sex/sexuality/relationship issues.  Sometimes we end up talking and connecting about all sorts of non-sexual things.  No matter the topic, this is one of the rare places where you will be fully HEARD.  You have My undivded attention in a session.

New Guy: So many avenues to explore!

empress.olivia: *nods*

Finding the right Mistress

New Guy: and I am enjoying trying to find the right Mistress and trying to decide exactly what I want

empress.olivia: PERFECT !  Now, My suggestion is don’t worry too too much about finding the PERFECT MISTRESS right away….. or on the first call…… or even STAYING with only one Mistress.  We have an unconditional quality guarantee.  There’s a 10 minute minimum for all calls, but if you know in the first couple of minutes that you’re not *clicking* with the Lady, don’t be shy, simply say, ‘thank you for your time, please send me back to the dispatcher.’  This will NOT offend us.  We want you HAPPY!  The Mistress will hang up and you’ll automatically go back to dispatch.  You won’t be charged for that call and dispatch will work with you to get you a better fit. That’s where this is unlike DATING …. LOL … you don’t have to worry about getting away from someone you don’t like AND all this comes with the LDW quality guarantee.  Does that make sense?

New Guy: I read the quality guarantee and it makes perfect sense.

empress.olivia: FANTASTIC !  Even if you find a Mistress that you adore….I, for one, always encourage a variety of experiences !  I even recommend Mistresses. For example I don’t work late nights and I have women that I recommend depending on what you want.

New Guy: Right now I just cannot wait for my first!

How to talk about tease and denial with your Mistress

empress.olivia: LOL, I understand!  Wanted to give you a heads up about tease and denial.  Be sure to tell the Mistress if you want to cum at the end of the session.  If you tell her you want to be denied She WILL, no matter how much you beg!  If you leave your orgasm up to the Mistress, you might get to cum but then again, you might not!   ALWAYS make sure to talk with your Mistress about what you want.  Are you at work now?

New Guy: I am at home but need to head to work soon
New Guy: So I will still be in ‘denial’ for a while
New Guy: I have read quite extensively on the site… I have been edging since last night!

empress.olivia: I bet you work HARD today!  LOL

New Guy: I hope I don’t get aroused at work!
New Guy: My biggest fear is all the tension thats been building gives me a constant erection!

empress.olivia: *wink*  Sometimes fear is FUN !  It’s tapping into the whole roller coaster of emotions thing.

New Guy: I kind of would like to hold it unitl I make my first call
New Guy: It does seem a much more exhilarating experience than just having a quick wank

empress.olivia: It IS a totally *different* experience because you’ve been doing the wank for years, right?  LOL

New Guy: Yes

empress.olivia: So this adds something totally NEW and exciting

New Guy: So difficult though!

empress.olivia: Isn’t the newness and the difficulty half the FUN !?

New Guy: It really is!

empress.olivia: Let Me also mention that we have ‘Cocksperts” on the Live Help Desk. I answer IMs and many of the Ladies answer IMs between calls.    BUT, but if you’re trying to IM with a Mistress and She doesnt answer then you can go to the live help desk @ www.helpmycock.com for immediate ….. ahem …. assistance!

New Guy: It’s such a well run site

empress.olivia: *Nods*  Oh yes.  We’re a well-oiled ‘machine’  LOL …. we love the lube!  ~laughs~

empress.olivia: I’m getting a call…..so I’m going to let you go. Glad you stopped in!  Have fun on My blog.  There are LOTS of ideas, etc.

New Guy: So am I…need to go get some ice on it before work now!

Later

New Guy: Hello again You being kept busy?

empress.olivia: LOL always but I’m not on the phone right now.

New Guy: OK…Hate to interupt xx

empress.olivia: THANK YOU btw, for being understanding that I don’t IM while I’m on the phone or in a texting session.  I appreciate your patience.  I always check IMs when I’m out of the session.  Don’t worry about interrupting; when I’m in a session I don’t respond.  You can always send an IM and I’ll answer asap.  I really like IM conversations.  Did you have more questions?

New Guy: Sorry, I logged off as I am in work…..No more questions yet xx

empress.olivia: no problem !

New Guy: Goodnight you stunning lady….and a million thanks for taking some time to talk to me today xx

empress.olivia: Sure thing!  My pleasure!  I’m glad you wrote and have FUN exploring the erotic world of phone sex!