Ms Olivia 1-800-601-6975

The IM chat continues:  Today, I coach the guy new to Femdom and new to phone sex about his interest in spanking.  Elements of pain play can be tricky on a call.

As an aside, I’m cautious about pain play on the phone call if I think (or know) that you’re doing it in real life.  If you’re naturally submissive and into that sub space where you will automatically do what I say then it is My responsibility as the Domme to look out for your physical safety.  The penis and balls are actually quite fragile when handled wrong.  Do NOT put your cock in the hands of someone who doesn’t understand fetish safety and pain play!

CBT and phone sex

CBT, cock and ball torture, is highly arousing for many men.  Like everything, it depends on the erotic fantasy and the fetish situation.  It can be part of ANY erotic roleplay although for some reason I haven’t seen much attraction of CBT for crossdressers.  Maybe it’s because of the feminization element.  I digress.  If you’re a sissy, I’d love to hear from you:  Do you like any element of CBT?

For some callers, a mild slap on the balls at just the right moment in the call can be amazing.  For others, they want an actual CBT phone sex session.  Anyone who wants an actual CBT session with Me goes through a grilling about his experience with CBT, his personal health history, what he wants, etc.  I’m cautious and when doing pain play I will always tend to err on the safer side and then push the edges as we get to know one another.

This potential caller wasn’t talking about CBT per se but he did bring up paddling and spanking so that’s where we pick up the IM chat today.

Spanking and the masturbation fantasy

empress.olivia: Have you tried spanking yourself?

New Guy: Yes

empress.olivia: Tell Me more.

New Guy: I like the feeling of the actual hit but the effort to get in a position to actually be able to spank good makes it not as good as it could be
New Guy: I will be right back Empress Olivia. Having a 10 minutes meeting now.
New Guy: It’s a short meeting everyone telling what status our projects have.

empress.olivia: LOL
empress.olivia: I’ll want to hear YOUR status

New Guy: Im back Empress Olivia

empress.olivia: What is YOUR status pet?
empress.olivia: ~laughs~

New Guy: That im a submissive talking about sessions with his Empress?

empress.olivia: Good !

New Guy: Well for the moment im waiting for answers in all my projects Empress Olivia

empress.olivia: *nods*

New Guy: And for the record it felt good when you called me pet

empress.olivia: ahhhhhh………good!
empress.olivia: You mentioned spanking.  That is hard to do on a phone session.  One thing that you can do solo is use a LONG wooden yardstick.  That way you’re not straining your arm.  Physical PAIN……releases endorphins which are the ‘feel good’ chemicals in the brain.

New Guy: I’ll try that Empress Olivia

empress.olivia: Pain can also be used a seductive control or for strict measures…..humiliation …. etc.  The long wooden yardstick is springy and will give a nice resounding whack with a sting.  You won’t get fully into sub space by your own hand, but it can be used during a session to great effect!

New Guy: Okay i understand Empress Olivia
New Guy: I guess its excelent during phone sessions

empress.olivia: YES!

Tomorrow, you will see how all this begins to wrap up.  I coach him on how to contact Dispatch and what happens when he calls.  Then, I tell him what I think he should say to Dispatch when he calls and asks for a Mistress (this is also what he says to the Mistress herself). THEN, you’ll find out what happened with the new guy!  *wink*

Does he call the Experienced Mistress?

You know I’m usually very busy on the phone when I’m logged in so don’t automatically assume he was able to call Me …. or, even that he DID call.  Any person who contacts us for the first time is on a ‘comfort curve’ when calling for phone sex.  You can tell I don’t push for a call.  (Yes, if you want a session, scene creation or My undivided attention, then you have the option of a session.  If you don’t mind delays, content restrictions, etc then I’m more than happy to chat on IM).

SO ….. here are some of your questions.  Have you used self spanking during a phone sex call?  What do you do?  How do YOU do it?  Also, are you into CBT?  Feel free to digress, you can see My comment to magnus in a reply, I LIKE it when you digress.  I want this to be an actual conversation, not some static thing controlled by Me   When it’s organic it takes on a sexy and interesting life of it’s own!

Ms Olivia

There have been a variety of comments recently about what makes a good Mistress.  I think we’re all agreed here that there’s a huge difference between a  Mistress and a bitchy female!  You can read about that on the Blog Mistresses Blog.  That said, there is also a wide variety in what callers themselves are looking for in a Mistress.

Recently, I’ve had several delightful callers who are not into extreme sex play.  Now, I am an Experienced Mistress so I do know all the kinky sex games and can get as naughty as you like.   One caller (I’ll call him EROS) wanted some anal play but said, “What IS IT with you Mistresses and your big black strapons!”  I totally lost it!  I cracked up laughing.

The extreme is not the norm

Eros and I then had a great conversation about what makes a great phone sex call for him.  I doubt he’s the only one that feels this way so that’s why I’m doing this post.  It easy to get caught up in highlighting the extremes.  The “most unusual” or the “you’ll never believe this” moments are actually few and far between.  (That’s WHY they’re unusual, duh!)  If you think about a newscast, it’s the disaster that gets the news coverage.  You’ll never see a headline saying, Thousands of planes land without problems.  But, of course, the plane crash is a front page story.  I think human beings are like that too.  We gravitate to communicating about the extremes.

Great phone sex isn’t automatically about extremes …. it’s about the erotic experience.

For Eros, it’s the deliciousness of a Woman sensually in control even to the point of putting him in My panties …. not full on sissy femme but wearing My panties as a nod to My erotic control.   Part of his enjoyment of our erotic conversation is that it is not one sided.  For him (and much to MY delight) it ended up being about both of us having fun back and forth … combined with a smidge of kink in terms of cock and ball pain play for him.      (( and, no …. there was NO big black strapon involved! *snicker* ))

Here’s to what YOU enjoy!

Olivia    1-800-601-6975

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