Ms Olivia 1-800-601-6975

When did you start crossdressing and/or experiencing a need to be en femme?

There are many different *kinds* of crossdressers.  Your experience of being a man in panties is as unique as you are!  In fact, you might not even be a *man* no matter what is between your legs.  The Experienced Mistress knows the difference between a crossdresser, a sissy and a TV/TG girl.

I listen and learn who you really are

You are unique.  Your sexual fantasies are individual and personal. When we do a session I create an erotic fantasy that targets your own experiences and expressions of your desires.

If you simply like to wear sexy panties as Mistress control over a submissive male then there’s nothing worse (for you) then being called a sissy!  When you’re a sissy slut who yearns to be told to suck cock for Mistress, chances are you don’t want a lot of conversation about current lingerie fashions!  See what I mean?

Your first experiences tell Me a lot

When I ask you about your crossdressing history, it’s not idle conversation.  It’s a map of your erotic landscape.  I use what you say to push buttons and sexual triggers that you might not even think to articulate to Me.  How it all *started* tells Me a lot about you and what you *need* now.

pantyboy tells about the beginning

pantyboy:  “I first started wearing panties in college. I had messed around with panties and such before that, but it wasn’t until I had a long term girlfriend in college that I found myself doing it a lot. I loved buying lingerie for her, and she loved wearing it for me, many times I found myself sneaking them and wearing them from time to time.”

I’d like to hear from you.  How do you express your feminine and/or submissive side?

Ms Olivia

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Do you have sexual fantasies about eating your own cum, tasting cum or cum spurting out of a cock?  You are not alone!  This is one of the most intense erotic desires of all the kinks. This Experienced Mistress is an expert at seducing, coercing and encouraging you to eat your own cum.

Your desires are unique.

You are unique.  That means the expression of your sexual desire is unique.  The arc of your arousal is distinct to you.  This Experienced Mistress finds out about you and then creates an arousal arc that touches all of your sexual buttons.

Not all cum eaters are the same

It is important that your Femdom Mistress knows YOU.  That allows Me to use My creativity to pace your phone sex session in the best way for you.  There is a very big difference between the sissy slut who gobbles cum for Mistress and someone who is into the rush of erotic humiliation when Mistress says, “Eat your own cum, NOW!”

What do you do when you have a sort of nameless urge and desire?  Then, it’s time to turn to the Experienced Mistress.  You urges become so much more satisfying when you have an experienced cum coach to guide you, encourage you and show you all that you know you want.

Again, it’s ALL about you as an individual:

Man:  Over the last couple of years I’ve developed this fascination with eating my own cum…. All the stuff on the internet is degrading and the talk nasty which turns me off. Its an embarrassing fetish but I think if the right person can talk me through it I may do it. Enjoy dirty sweet talk and someone encouraging me to do it.

Are you ready to be encouraged?  Are you ready to explore?  ~smiles~  Ahhhhh, I think you are ready.  Aren’t you?

Ms Olivia

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Olivia 1-800-601-6975

Do you sometimes feel like your hands are tied?  Like you’re trying to get things done and you are wearing handcuffs?

I know the feeling!  ~laughs~  So, that’s what the old YIM name was doing so I have a new YIM name, EnchantrixOlivia.  Please delete the old YIM name of empress.olivia.  If you’d like to instant message with the Experienced Mistress, then please use EnchantrixOlivia.

Now we can both get into the FUN part of being bound up!  Tell Me, do you enjoy being a knotty boy or are you more into simply being naughty? A little (or a lot) of cock teasing and cock control might be in your future.

And, to take the question just a little farther — because you know how I like to push boundaries — what is your *flavor* of naughty?  What do you like to do on your phone sex calls?  Are you a lovely sissy or crossdresser that yearns to be coerced into all sorts of wicked behavior?

Tell ALL to Mistress and we’ll…..ahem…..discuss!  ~wink~

Ms Olivia

Olivia 1-800-601-6975

I’m going to revisit the Dilemma of a crossdresser post and chrissy’s original comments about wanting the masculine and the feminine sides to be more integrated in intimate real life relationships.

This is on My mind for several reasons, not the least of which is that chrissy expressed something that I often hear.  Jamie Rose and Mylene leave blog comments on this topic and both are wonderfully expressive writers.  And, last night I had a long call with a woman who I met from our site for crossdressers.  She is not a crossdresser, she is TRANSgendered.

She was gracious enough to let Me talk with her about experiencing the military in her male persona and compare that being a pre op TG woman today.  (I have some of the most amazing interactions via this phone sex career!)

The continuum

I tend to see the world in shades of gray, rather than either/or – black/white.  So, it’s no surprise that I see the continuum in terms of people who are physically male but wear female attire.  The definition of a continuum is a sequence from one extreme to the other.  The opposite ends look very different, but along the continuum perceptible differences tend to disappear.

Men in panties

On one end there is the heterosexual man wearing panties.  I’ve written a lot about why men like to wear panties.  This can be simply for the softness of the fabric on a cock, the tightness of the pantie holding a pair of balls, all the way to a trigger for erotic humiliation or an outward expression of submission.  He might be a sissy but then again, he might not be!

The experience of wearing lingerie is external –  it enhances what is going on internally whether it is physical sensations or mental/emotional sexual arousal.  I would describe this as sexual kink often used effectively in conjunction with other elements for cock control sessions.

Gender identity

On the other end of the continuum is the person who is transgendered.  This is where the physical body at birth is different from the gender identity of the actual person.  Like all women, she can be attracted to men, other women, or both.  But, she IS a woman despite what the ‘born with’ body looks like.

Can you imagine being born into the ‘wrong body’ where your outside is the opposite of who you feel you are inside?  I can’t.  I don’t pretend to *get it* from personal experience but I embrace compassion, understanding and lovingkindness.  I ask LOTS of questions and am always ready to learn.

Where kink and gender identity can look alike

Magnus left a question in a comment on the original posts about kinks and the workplace.  Magnus asks, “Is what they do sexual? And if it isn’t, i.e. it is a part of them, then is their expressing that something that would not be sexual harassment? I know this is kind of rhetorical and not something we can just answer within the confines of Your blog.”

~laughs~ I can answer ANYTHING on My blog dear magnus!

Magnus elaborates:  “Just hanging around the chat room, I often see chatters talk about how they feel sexy or horny dressed up. OK, to each their own, but doesn’t that make that sexual? I would certainly think so. At the same time, we see transgendered issues in the news often, and (from my admittedly limited perspective), the people in the news are those that feel they are the opposite gender and it’s not a sexual thing for them at all. So then should a distinction be made and if so, how? I can’t bring up my fetishes in a work environment, so how could one prove what they do is not sexual? Just some thoughts I have here. I can certainly see HR people pulling their hair out here. ”

Real life workplace issues

Magnus, the HR people aren’t the only ones that find this complex!  I’m on Twitter (SexInfoBabe) and I follow MySexProfessor.  She did a recent blog post about a transgendered professor who was fired.  The issue of gender identity and discrimination is currently being addressed in state legislatures from coast to coast:   Connecticut to California.

Mylene posted a comment to your questions and it was so great that I’m reposting excerpts here (the italics are mine).

Mylene writes: “I’m obviously speaking for myself and everyone probably reacts differently to those situations. … As i said another time, to me, the “crossdressing” isn’t really part of the kink, but the submissive part is. I’m not really ashamed of anything i do, just worried about some close minded people finding out and causing problems.  (…)

Kink

“Whenever i’m going to do kinkier things, i like to dress in more sexy/less conventional clothes, and yes, those clothes are part of the turn on, but it’s mainly related of the fact that it’s a more “submissive” outfit.

Now getting back to the main topic, to me the kink is a kink and doesn’t have to be known by everyone, i’m fine with that.”

Gender self

“However, the way i handle the girly part these days is more complicated. It’s a bit like the mask conversation from the comments, but i don’t like the name “mask”.

The way i see it, there’s me, and there’s the me the other people see.

The public me is me projected thought what you could call “mask” (but i don’t like the name, it looks like you are hiding something, i see it more like clothes, making you look different but it’s still always you).

Every time, it’s still me, but with the “parameters” adjusted differently.

First of all, there is the family version. Being with a more traditional family, this one is truly a mask, watch what you say and what you do kind a life.

There is the public me, already more open, but still restrained enough not to have any trouble with other (stupid) people.”

Handling gender issues with close friends

“Whenever i become a close enough friend with some, the situation goes more toward the “girly boy” me. (of course, it sounds like it goes straight from one to the other but it’s progressive)

There, i’m totally myself, just as a boy, and so far, people seem to have no problem with that.

(…)

Then there’s the girl me, she is almost the same as the boy me but can dress the way she wants (well, pretty much the same, he may try to refrain from screaming whenever a nasty spider falls in front of him, but he just ends up screaming the same as her).

So far, not many people in my non internet life know about her, but two people are getting closer, hopefully, i’ll let you all know how the situation develops.”

What are your comments?

THANK YOU Mylene for taking your time to post the comment and share yourself with us all!  All of you know that I like this blog to be a conversation so post your thoughts, comments, reactions and questions!  Magnus, did that answer your question?  Did this bring up OTHER questions or issues for anyone?

Ms Olivia

I’m going to break from the IM chat with the man new to Femdom and phone sex and answer a question from Magnus and post an actual IM chat I had with My guy.

Here’s the question

Magnus wants to know:  Do You decide when You are “on”?   i.e.  With your real life D/s relationship, do you put the Domme aside or is it always there?   I ask because I know some people talk about being 24/7 whether live in or not.

Mistress versus bitch

We have all met certain women who are just plain disagreeable.  When a female is behaving badly (not in a good ‘bad’ way) she is usually called a bitch.  You can see from the previous (and upcoming IM chats) that I am NOT a bitch.  I want to make sure that you get the best phone sex call of your life and that means having conversations about exactly what turns you on and what doesn’t.  We can have the conversation at the beginning of the call or you can catch Me between calls on IM (if you don’t mind the delays in My response – I don’t IM during a session).   Even if you know exactly what you want for the scene, I’ll still ask a couple questions to make sure we’re on the same page.

Being bitchy is lousy customer service!

BEFORE your session I will be a generous professional.  I will work with you to identify your needs and desires.  You’ve seen that here (and you’ll see it in the upcoming posts).  I know for a fact that just because someone calls for a cuckold fantasy that doesn’t always mean they want to suck cock.  Just because someone calls via a profile on sissy school that doesn’t mean they want full feminization or coerced into bi sexual or gay scenes.  There are all sorts of ways to do cock control.  You get the point.

When I’m the Domme in My phone sex life

I am a strong woman who knows My needs, limits, mind, etc.  I manage Myself, My Moods and My career.  Therefore I am a professional here and understand the distinction between being a Dominant (or scene Bitch) during a scene versus being a bitch about your customer service questions and issues.  I’m the Femdom in a scene …. an expert professional everywhere else.

When I’m the Domme in My private life

Magnus asked about My real life relationship.  I’m exactly the same in My real life as I am here.  I’m appropriate to the situation.  I have a great guy in My life.  We’re a semi-normal couple (LOL) in most respects AND we have a varied sex life.  I’m usually the Domme for fetish scenes although since I’m a switch I might be topped by another player.  I’m his Mistress in scene play.  Otherwise we are equal.  I couldn’t do any version of 24/7 ‘tell him what to do’.  BLEH!  And, yes Magnus, we also cuddle (a lot!) and even have (gasp!) really sweet vanilla sex.  For us, the kink provides a healthy dose of fun, fetish and naughtiness that we both enjoy.

Since I’ve been doing IM conversations recently….I’ll show you how we actually talk with one another.  I sent him an IM to ask about the poll I posted on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire.  Like always, I asked his permission, changed his ID and took out the identifiers.  Enjoy!  And, I’m really curious about your reaction to this peek behind the scenes.  (He reads the blog and your comments, he just doesn’t post.  LOL  He did mention that he’s shy.)

Ms Olivia:
can I ask you a sex question?
are you in a sex mindset?

My guy
I can be put there… lol
ask away

Ms Olivia
~laughs~
you’re the BEST baby !
So, tell me about the source of your interest in Femdom?

My guy
like what made me curious?

Ms Olivia
Yes……what happened that made you interested in Femdom.
Where did you find it?

My guy
hmmmm…. good question

Ms Olivia
how did you find it?
did you always know you wanted a woman in charge?
did you stumble across it and go wooooooo?
was it after you GOT interested in other fetish things?

My guy
well, being shy in general I do like it when a woman takes charge

Ms Olivia
*nods*

My guy
but I really enjoy watching BDSM, even when the man is the top and the woman submissive
I just can’t do it (be the man on top) though
but I think at one point I wound up with a couple “regular” porn tapes that had some S & M undercurrent to it and really liked it and just kept investigating more because it fascinated me which led to online searches, and kinkier and kinkier stuff. I’m trying to think if there was any one thing specifically that made me want to be dominated.

Ms Olivia
*nods*

My guy
now that i think about it I started getting porn magazines from the time I could find
a store that didn’t ID me when I was (young) and always liked the harder, kinkier stuff like Hustler over Playboy

Ms Olivia
LOL

My guy
and there was one fetish magazine I discovered in my early 20s that I loved…. wish I could remember what it was called.  I just thought of something really weird if you want to hear it

Ms Olivia
Sure, yes !
I’m trying to think of names of fetish mags.
LOL

My guy
I just remembered that when I was a little kid there was a Tom Thumb movie, and towards the end someone was about to get whipped, and even then that fascinated me

Ms Olivia
LOL
that’s so great !

My guy
that might be the only scene in the movie I remember.   I bet if you find a synopsis of the movie it’ll mention the whipping scene

Ms Olivia
Can I use your comments in my blog?

My guy
absolutely

Ms Olivia
you’re the BESTEST !

My guy
*smile*

My guy
wish I could remember that weird magazine I liked though

My guy
(movie synopsis link)
knew it… LOL

Ms Olivia
is that the SCENE?

My guy
no…. just the synopsis of the movie.  Kind of hard to read because it’s all one big paragraph…. but towards the bottom says Jonathan and Anna are sentenced to a public whipping in town square I knew I remembered that.  I remember a couple lashes before they were saved, but not sure I was like (young) when I saw it.

Ms Olivia

Tom Thumb?  LOL You really should have a Giantess fetish!

My guy
LOL  I also always liked the episode of the Flintstones where Wilma and Betty wanted to join Fred and Barney’s Buffalo Lodge, so dressed as men to try, and wound up being hazed during the initiation, including being paddled LOL

Ms Olivia
ohhhhhhhh

My guy
LOL…. I just googled that…. it’s on a bunch of spanking websites

Ms Olivia
oh that’s funny !
and kinky!

My guy

http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=10901

Ms Olivia
I’m going to look at that after I finish this next blog post.

My guy
LOL
making me remember all my repressed childhood fantasies

Ms Olivia
good

My guy
I’m going to (go do stuff)
love you

Ms Olivia
I’m sorry for the delay — I got tied up with blog posts.

My guy
no problem

Ms Olivia
HUGS YOU BABY
Hey, wait!  Did you jack to our conversation?
I DO always love to hear about jacking…..from you….not just others!

My guy
actually not this time…. I just don’t find Betty Rubble as attractive as I did when I was (young)… and don’t remember what Tom Thumb’s mother looked like.  LOL  got distracted looking at (other non porn) stuff

Ms Olivia
LOL
you’re funny.
got a text session…..hugs sweetie!

My guy
and funny looking
have fun

So, that’s a peek inside My life.  Thanks magnus for the question.  As always…..post your comments and questions and let the conversation begin!

Ms Olivia

The recent conversation here about masturbation really got Me worked up.  I revisited the poll on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire, to get your special requests for hot erotic audios from this Experienced Mistress.

In the coming (so to speak) days, I’ll be posting sexy audios for all the categories listed in the Audio Ideas poll and/or from comments.   I love your comments and the conversations we have with the comments and replies.  THANK YOU!

Power exchange is a popular topic and this sort of Dominant/submissive play can have all sorts of variations.  One in five people voting said they wanted power exchange and that number goes up when adding all the kinds of kinky scenes we can do.  For example, the office is a wonderful setting for hot scenarios. And it’s the setting for this free erotic audio. This audio goes out with nods to bigal, castaway, and tommie … and the others who asked for power exchange audios but didn’t leave a comment. *wink*

Power exchange is the common theme in most phone sex scenes where the caller is the submissive to the FemDom. The image of a powerful woman feminizing a man is very hot. And, one of the most popular forms of the feminization fantasy is where the man is humiliated for not being a man, turned into a sissy and then further turned into a cuckold. I love to do erotic audios of the drama of the hubby, sissy, cucky LOL

Like what you hear? Want to hear more? Got a question, idea or comment. This blogger encourages participation and wants your comments.
Ms Olivia

The response to the:  Your Sex Secrets:  Tell the Experienced Mistress blog post has been lively and insightful!   Thank you !  According to the poll itself 23% would LOVE to tell their partner….but worry she would FREAK.  25% have talked with their partner about sex secrets and …. WOAH, she’s kinky too !

This topic generated a LOT of great comments on My blog itself and on the Poll about telling sex secrets on our adult social networking site Enchantrix Empire. On the Empire or during an amazing phone sex session, the conversations are extraordinary!

I’ve had phone sex callers ask Me, “How did I get this way.”  Ms Constance has a specific post on that — asking the question:  When did you first discover your kink?

Ms Constance also has insightful comments on the sex secrets survey. You can read her comment in it’s entirety on the Enchantrix Empire sex secrets poll.  But, let Me bring your attention to several specific issues that Ms Constance brings up.

Ms Constance:   “I have always come from a place of being confident and sure of myself and as a result finding out kinks of partners never bothered me in fact fascinated me so I set my sights on finding out about them.  Try it at least once see if you like it type thing.”

All of the Mistresses hear about wives or girlfriends who ‘freak out’ when a partner talked about a sexual kink.  I don’t think the ‘freak out’ response is going to change YOUR sexual reality one bit. For example, if your are turned on by coached cock sucking or being a sissy in panties, chances are that aroused you before your current partner.  You are aroused by what arouses you, end of story.

WHY does your partner freak out about your fantasy?

Ms Constance identifies a possible reason why vanilla women freak out.  According to Empress Constance:  “I honestly think that comes from a place of insecurity with themselves…..they immediately think you’re the freak because they are threatened about what it says about them….I am not good enough….Why do they need that if I am good enough and many try to “fix” what they consider broken …. ”

That brings Me to the question for you:  Do YOU think your erotic fantasies need to be “fixed/eliminated” or accepted?  This Experienced Mistress wants to KNOW!

As always, I’d love to hear from YOU!

Ms Olivia

There have been a variety of comments recently about what makes a good Mistress.  I think we’re all agreed here that there’s a huge difference between a  Mistress and a bitchy female!  You can read about that on the Blog Mistresses Blog.  That said, there is also a wide variety in what callers themselves are looking for in a Mistress.

Recently, I’ve had several delightful callers who are not into extreme sex play.  Now, I am an Experienced Mistress so I do know all the kinky sex games and can get as naughty as you like.   One caller (I’ll call him EROS) wanted some anal play but said, “What IS IT with you Mistresses and your big black strapons!”  I totally lost it!  I cracked up laughing.

The extreme is not the norm

Eros and I then had a great conversation about what makes a great phone sex call for him.  I doubt he’s the only one that feels this way so that’s why I’m doing this post.  It easy to get caught up in highlighting the extremes.  The “most unusual” or the “you’ll never believe this” moments are actually few and far between.  (That’s WHY they’re unusual, duh!)  If you think about a newscast, it’s the disaster that gets the news coverage.  You’ll never see a headline saying, Thousands of planes land without problems.  But, of course, the plane crash is a front page story.  I think human beings are like that too.  We gravitate to communicating about the extremes.

Great phone sex isn’t automatically about extremes …. it’s about the erotic experience.

For Eros, it’s the deliciousness of a Woman sensually in control even to the point of putting him in My panties …. not full on sissy femme but wearing My panties as a nod to My erotic control.   Part of his enjoyment of our erotic conversation is that it is not one sided.  For him (and much to MY delight) it ended up being about both of us having fun back and forth … combined with a smidge of kink in terms of cock and ball pain play for him.      (( and, no …. there was NO big black strapon involved! *snicker* ))

Here’s to what YOU enjoy!

Olivia    1-800-601-6975

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