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This post was inspired by a man who initially wrote a question asking if I thought it was *normal* that he has a fantasy about his girlfriend taking him with a strapon.

What if … what if I can read your mind and I somehow *know* that it’s now time for you to explore more.  And …. then I turn around…..jutting out in front of those sexy black leather short shorts …. is …..a STRAPON!

Want to hear a hint of what I can do with a strapon?  ((Careful, that’s an erotic audio link.))

So, I think that might *handle* the strapon question.  I love strapon play!  Now, let’s take a look at the rest of his comment and the questions there.

The REST of his comment and new questions show other concerns:

“Okay, I’m a straight guy and have no feelings of sexual attraction to other men…I’m not gay or bi… I’m very successful in my career; I have normal relations with females and I’m always the dominant part to the point they told me they enjoy sex with me. I have a fantasy of having a woman use a strapon to take me from behind….. I’m mostly concerned about how my girlfriend would react? I have introduced this idea before to my ex and she was in shock and left me. Is this Normal? Do you think it’s strange for men to fantasize about this?”

Most men are VERY SHY about disclosing their real sexual issues and fantasies for just that reason … they’re afraid of the reaction of their partner.  I did several blog posts about sex secrets and how men want to talk to a real life partner about erotic desires.  Be sure to look in the comments section, that’s where real men talk about real sex concerns, needs and issues.

One of the most common desires I hear about is the fascination with cock.

Cock sucking is only slightly more popular then anal play (strapon or a male partner). Since I have a handy poll to back up My comments, I’m going to talk about the desire for a man (straight, bi or femme) to suck cock.  A VAST number of men who call for phone sex want to talk about that!  Ms Lauren did a poll on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire about sucking cock and it is the most popular poll!  The “Cock sucking: Yes, No, Maybe” poll shows many more men, cross dressers, and sissies WANT that sexual experience than have actually done it.

1 in 5 of the respondents say they WANT to suck cock but haven’t done it.  Even in the sexually tolerant and extra kinky community of the Empire, I was surprised at the number of anonymous comments.  People are shy about admitting they find the male organ fascinating!   30 % of those responding said they have sucked a cock and loved it!  That’s over half the Empire that will admit to a direct desire to suck suck.

Another 35% said they would suck cock if the situation was right.  For example, if it was part of a Femdom cock teasing session where Mistress orders the dick worship to take place.

I moved away from the original question about strapons because, in My experience, a strapon question often masks the unspoken desire for the actual male penis.  The man that wrote this originally couched all this in terms of, did I think he was *normal* for wanting what he wanted sexually.

After several blogs and much writing …is he *normal* and is he *gay*?

I’m not going to digress and explain why I consider gay, bi sexual or straight *normal* in context of erotic desires.  That’s another long blog. ~laughs~  Let Me just say directly, your erotic desires are NORMAL.  You are just fine exactly the way you are.  There is nothing to change or fix about you.  An erotic desire don’t *mean* anything …. it might mean that you’re straight, gay or bi.  Does that matter?  The labels are only a way to communicate who you are if you want to communicate via label.

There are realistic issues to consider when taking a cock sucking fantasy to real life but that is what *conscious* people do in their lives…..we weigh desires, actions and consequences.  I would be remiss if I didn’t say something about health but I’m not going to kill your hard-on in this post.  I’ll discuss health issues and cock sucking in another post.

NOW ….. if you have an erotic humiliation fantasy that makes you YEARN for Me to call you nasty names, I can give a wicked brand of erotic humiliation calling you all sorts of horrible things as part of the scene.  Then, after the scene I’ll make sure that you know I think you’re FINE, just the way you are.  If you lost the girl because you told her your sexual fantasy, then you’re probably better off without her in the long run. Sexual desires don’t go away and most of My phone sex callers are married men who don’t get what they yearn for at home.

Ms Olivia