I’m curious about you.
Who helps you express your unique sexual needs and desires? Since you’re reading My blog, chances are your erotic desires aren’t fully met by someone in your ‘real’ life. At least that’s My guess.
Many people use phone sex as an outlet for a specific erotic fantasy. Others use our unique relationships to explore fetish sex that is intriguing but something they don’t want to do in real life. Some, just like to play with a variety of sexy women! I know that many of you have satisfying sexual lives with your wife or partner but you want to add just a little spice to your private sex life.
Personally I don’t think any of those things are mutually exclusive. Like most things in life, sex is more nuanced than the typical either/or type of choice.
Since your comments, questions and conversations are often the creative spark for blogs, I got an email that got Me thinking about something. Here’s part of the comment:
“I’ve been crossdressing for as long as I can remember, and since I hit puberty it’s been a huge turn-on as well. It’s always been a niggling source of guilt (I hesitate to label it ‘shame’, because I see nothing to be ashamed about – a subtle distinction, I know). So that’s (conservatively) 35+ years of trying to come to terms with the kink in me – the need to express a feminine side in a particular way, and the fact that the act of expressing it has a very large sexual element.”
Hence, the question for you: What erotic or sex fetish need do you want to express and have you come to terms with having those kinky thoughts? I’m curious. Do tell…..after all, confession is good for the….ahem…soul. ~laughs~
that’s the #1 reason I don’t have nor ever will have girlfriend or ever get married. I love wearing women’s clothes its so hot and it gets me hard, wet & off. I’ve tried to ask out women and they won’t go with me. I work to much to have social life. Now I don’t care if I have girlfriend. I’m so glad I’m single and not married or have kids. I can do what I want when I want and that includes dressing after work at Home well as getting back into bodybuilding shape. It wouldn’t matter if I had girlfriend anyway I’d get busted anyway wearing her clothes, bra, panties, lipstick. And that what I want to happen to but I know it never will. Thank god for ldw mistresses.
awwww…..now, I don’t think crossdressing and having a girlfriend or wife are mutually exclusive. I know crossdressers and sissies who are in real life relationships with women …. and some who are in relationships with men. Here’s the thing…..you shouldn’t expect “vanilla” girls to know what to do or even want to do it….that’s what a Mistress is for 🙂 But, there ARE women who are attracted to crossdressers….I know that for a fact because I’m one of them! *wink*
What a great post! From many sissies and crossdressers who talk to me, I have had similar comments like those in your email quote posted here.
Erotic thoughts and fetishes do need to be expressed. I firmly believe that! When a person can come to terms with nagging guilt or other negative feelings, and accept themselves for who they truly are, and can begin to enjoy that…well that’s the best part of this for me! Great post that made me think! 🙂
Thank you so much for leaving a comment Ms Delia! While this post and our comments are primarily about crossdressers I think the same basic “journey” applies to other people into kink, fetish and BDsm power exchange. Since you are a Lifestyle Mistress and active in the BDsm scene, I know that people get the real deal when they beg for Mistress. Of course, the erotic phone calls are phone sex fantasy in the sense that we don’t meet in person, but with a skilled Mistress the emotions can be very real and very powerful!
Personally I’ve gone about it all backward. I’ve always been female inside but I deliberately hid it until only a couple years ago. I never did things while growing up; like wear women’s clothes and such. Of course I wanted to but I didn’t. These days I am amazed at how different my senses and feelings are from most men, at least that is how I perceive them.
I’m so glad you wrote Jenni! Well actually I think that you are a crossdresser when you dress in men’s clothing! Seriously! Think about it. You really are female no matter what the physical parts you were born with. Crossdressing is when you dress the opposite of your gender. Since your gender is female, when you wear clothes for men, you’re crossdressing. I think that gender identity has more to do with who you know yourself to be than the details of the “parts” in your crotch. What do you think of that?
your right. I have you and the other mistresses. I didn’t realize that. Its been to long since I called you and that has to change. I really do have girlfriend and that’s you. As you have always been in my corner. We need to get back to hot 2 mistress calls on regular basis again with MsViolet along with other mistresses. Its my fault for letting this go. No excuses. Work has been crazy as we had to move everything out in 2 weeks time by end of august and into labor day weekend. Lots lots lots of moving like 500 cases of wine, liquor along with huge shelves into smaller location. If you only did night calls that would be better fir me. Days are to hard and it doesn’t fit my schedule as there is too much going on. I’m looking forward to resuming ours calls again on regular basis with you Ms Violet and other mistresses in turning, dressing me as a girl.
Wow it does sound like you’re very busy Peter! I miss our calls too but guess what? You should check out Ms Violet’s new schedule. We’re now available for phone calls at the same time! So, the next time you’re home during the day we’d love to turn you into our lesbian crossdresser!
I know this topic has come up before and probably always will. Most of those with fetishes or different sexual proclivities my feel isolated from others. “What’s wrong with me because I like to smear Tabasco sauce on my balls and sing show tunes before sex?” Umm that’s not me… That’s ummm a friend who does that, yeah. 😉
The way I see it this is the best thing about the Internet. With this I know that I am not alone in what I like. I may not know why I like what I do but I know that some people like the same things and that we’re not all freaks because of it. I don’t think that with this knowledge in hand that I should shout my fetish desires from the rooftop but at least I don’t feel I should be ashamed of them either.
WELL PUT magnus! You are soooooo right! Now, I have to ask……what show tunes? I love show tunes! ~laughs!~ Oh and I love tabasco sauce….although I will say that oil of cinnamon is better (that’s just Me). You ALWAYS make Me smile!
I’m not sure if this is “unusual” or not,but I somehow get off on telling a woman (at “appropriate” times, on sex internet sites) that I’ve just ejaculated, or am just about to ejaculate. Not necessarily even during a “sex chat,” just simply honestly telling them that I’m about to ejaculate for them, or have just ejaculated, is a real turn-on. And often they tell me that they get off on it too! 🙂
You’re not alone Ghost Tracker…..there are a LOT of men who love to be exhibitionists or on display about being hard or cumming. Some of those guys have a CFNM fantasy along with it. Do you like clothed female naked man types of erotic roleplay?