Do couples ever call for erotic phone sex? Yes.
I’ve had calls recently from couples. Several calls have been from a sissy who is *inspiring* another sissy into full *femme-ness* ….. but, most of My couple calls are from individuals in a committed relationship.
As I’ve mentioned here before I think that communication is the key to a good relationship …. especially one that has a chance at ANY level of intimacy. I try to communicate with callers to avoid any glitches, either in the particular erotic fantasies or in our ongoing communication. It’s important to Me that I remain a *safe place* for you to talk about some of the things you don’t talk about anywhere else in your life.
So …. back to the couple call … This husband and wife couple called Me to ask Me to be their Trainer and help the new Mistress-in-Training assume Her rightful Position in the relationship. As an aside, I love these couple calls because that means there is a level of sexual intimacy and communication (not to mention honesty) that I don’t see in the vast majority of *traditional* relationships (especially ones involving sex and commitments like marriage). When a couple calls a phone sex line together, it also shows that there’s a freedom to express and explore sexual desires within the relationship. I, of course, LOVE to explore sensual boundaries and am always up for the excitement of sharing that with another….or several others!
So, this particular call involved talking with the Woman about what it means to be a Superior Woman and assert that in a sensual way to the erotic pleasure of both parties. There is such a difference between a Femdom being Mistressy and a female being bitchy, isn’t there? <grinz> Sometimes women don’t know the difference or they are new to the use of their Female Power. Often, she will need to understand some of the dynamics of Power Exchange … like with ANY Power … USE is one thing and ABUSE (and I’m not talking about pain for pleasure) is another. Wielding power effectively, especially in an erotic environment, involves intuition, education and subtlety.
This call showed the Woman a bit more of what her husband is yearning for in terms of serving his Woman …. She wanted MUCH more sensual foreplay than he was giving her. He wanted CBT. They were BOTH willing to learn and be *coached*
He had her panting with pleasure from sensual touch, especially on her nipples. Touch that lasted LONGER than 30 seconds! She gradually became more comfortable with the reality that her man LOVED IT when she spanked, pinched and otherwise *hurt* his cock and balls. I was SO PROUD of Her! And, by the end of the call … her had serviced her beautifully —- spelling slave boy right on her clit which drove her wild … and, She had learned that pleasure and pain are OFTEN two sides of the same coin. The Coin of the Realm. All of this to the mutual pleasure of all of us.
Would you ever consider calling with YOUR partner …. I’d love to hear your thoughts and comments, even if your answer is no.
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“There is such a difference between a Femdom being Mistressy and a female being bitchy, isn’t there? ”
Truer words have never been said, MsOlivia. The former is a wonderful thing and the latter….isn’t.
YES ! And, the true Femdom not only knows the difference but part of Her Power is to be able to restrain that side of Herself …. We are, after all, human …. but a SUPERIOR level of human.
BOW DOWN MAGNUS!
NOW!
*snicker*
good boy, here’s your biscuit !
*bows* munch munch. 🙂
But yes, MsOlivia. While I know there’s plenty of variation and sadly enough, those “Dommes” that don’t do a good job, a true Domme cares for Her sub. A bitch cares only for herself.
(I hope I said that right. I had meant that there are some who call themselves “Dommes” who really belong in the other category. They do not deserve to call themselves “Dommes” nor are they a superior level of human.)
you know, magnus…..I’ve written a lot about Power Exchange …. here’s a quick audio about that ….https://eroticaudios.com/content/Olivia/Olivia.MistressDomination.mp3 …..
I’m IM-ing right now with someone who is doing strict orgasm denial and a really long chastity session and we’re talking about the same thing. Maybe I should do a blog posting about this!
PS I love all your comments, thank you!
Oh that was a lovely audio, MsOlivia. Thank You. I think it sums up my own feelings on the matter as well. With Power Exchange, it’s always been the giving on oneself and the total trust that I’ve find so appealing.
And You’re very welcome for the comments.
YW magnus …. YES!…..that trust thing is one reason why I think BDsm relationships are actually more *intimate* than the so called “normal” ones where the people snip and growl at the other all the time under the guise of oh of course I love you.
EWWWWWW
Haven’t you ever been around couples like that?
*rolls eyes* ….. tedious, boring and far too common.
Oh yes, indeed I have been around such. Ewww, indeed.
That got me thinking too on the trust issue. I agree on the expanded intimacy that trust brings. I also thought that to be worthy of the trust placed in Her, the Domme needs to be more thoughtful than in a normal relationship. There’s no going through the motions there. She needs to make sure that the control She has is not abused, else She’s not a Domme, but the heretofore mentioned “bitch”.
we’re on the same page here magnus ….. blunt force trauma (physically, emotionally or psychologically) is just that — blunt force causing trauma. NO FUN.
Now, the well placed FLICK of the physical penis crop or psychological barb is startling and often while that OHHHHH is accompanied by some level of pain, it’s really a matter of the eroticism of the startle …… ever being reminded of the GIFT from the sub which is, of course, the TRUST to be used in that way for the pleasure of both …… hey have you gone to http://www.blogmistresses.com? It’s my new blog all about Mistresses who, well, BLOG LOL ….. I’m going to take this conversation over there because you’ve really sparked my interest 🙂
Olivia
We are indeed on the same page, MsOlivia. Now, I also understand that some people do prefer the rough treatment more and I can see desiring such on occasion, but I do prefer the more sensual erotic type of domination. The type where there’s no doubt who’s in charge, not because she’s yelling, but because she’s whispering. 🙂
And I commented over at that link, MsOlivia. I had seen it before and liked your post there.
lol…..magnus…..we’ve got a lively conversation going over here !!! I love it. Oh sure, you know I *know* rough stuff…..especially from some of our fun in the Community Kink Chat Room ….. but, it IS kind of like habanero peppers….just a little goes a long way. *snicker*
BTW, I saw some killer high heeled shoes and I, of course, thought of YOU …. *snicker* and what I could DO with those stiletto heels ! 🙂
Hmm, I bet I could think of some fun applications for habanero peppers too. 🙂
And, mmm, heels. It’s funny that I do not have a shoe fetish, i.e. I don’t lust after the shoes themselves. Only when they are adorning a woman’s sexy feet that they do their magic. I love it when they showcase the foot, but also then they become an extension of the foot. And yes, there are so many things that could be done with those heels then…. 🙂