Want to *see* Me on vacation? *wink* Now, that I have your …. ahem …. attention, I wanted to let you know I’ll be away from Friday, September 16th until Thursday September 22th.
I even have a SCHEDULE PAGE on the blog so you can keep up to date with all My comings and goings. Ohhhhhhh, now that sounds darn right naughty, darn RIGHT! Until I *see* you again, please leave your comments and I will answer each and every one when I return.
While I’m gone …. don’t do anything I wouldn’t do. Erm….wait….~ laughs~ you know what I mean. I hope YOU have a great week too!
An earlier blog post asked the question what is “normal” in terms of sexual arousal and erotic fantasies.
Since we’re in a kinky community that is considered outside the vanilla *norm* I asked folks on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire how comfortable they are with their sex fantasies.
The poll results change so click here to see the latest. But, as of right now, 59% say they’ve always been comfortable with their sex fantasies. 41% of respondents say they have wondered if their sexual desires are *normal*.
Like with most of blog posts and all of My polls, I use the original content to spark a conversation. The real FUN of the exploration is in the comments section. I love that you are so willing to share your sex secrets and intimate thoughts/feelings with Me. THANK YOU. I cherish that!
I’m going to start us off with Eddie’s comment:
Eddie says, “Well what is Normal? “Normal” is what is considered acceptable by the majority of society. What is considered acceptable today is very different from what was considered normal say 60 years ago. And today’s normal will be very different from what it is 60 years from now.”
Eddie (and many others) bring up a good point about the concept of normal being tied to time, culture, class …. it’s ALL about context. When I read Eddie’s comment I immediately thought about the original Kinsey reports on human sexuality. The book on men came out in 1948 and the book on women followed in 1953. Talk about a bombshell! What those reports and others have shown is that the private fantasies and behaviors usually don’t *match* what is presented in public. So, we’re back to the question of, what is *normal* …. ?
My *society* is the Mistresses, Dispatchers and executives here at LDW. Also included in My society is the community of My blog and Enchantrix Empire. My direct and main community is, of course, the people who call for erotic conversations, fetish fantasies and any sort of phone sex. Given that this is My context, I have a very expansive definition of what is *normal.”
Kel wrote about this in his comment on the poll. His society includes the real life kink/fetish community.
“Anyway, I’ve noticed a tendency in myself to look at male dom/female sub relationships as “normal” and tend to view the things that I am into (Femdom) as somehow “edgier” and “kinkier”.
It’s a strange place to be, to view certain people who are heavily in the leather scene as “normal” but that goes to show how fluid the concept is. When you’re surrounded by kinky people, a new “normal” comes into play.
I agree kel ! Submip has a nice, elegant definition: “For me anything that is consensual between all parties is ‘normal’.” Safe, sane and consensual (and RACK – risk aware consensual kink) are the watch words of the fetish community.
Is there anything else to add? Eddie finishes his comment with something that I cherish about the EE community and I think would make a wonderful standard in conversations about what is *normal* in terms of sexual fantasy.
Eddie says: “… our society, if you will, is the Enchantrix Empire. Here the preponderance of what is normal seems to be, in my opinion, Tolerance. We choose not to judge someone for their fantasies or lifestyles but accept them simply as another unique human being and most anything is acceptable as long as it doesn’t hurt yourself or someone else.”
Yours in tolerance and kink,
PS, I’ll be away doing fun, naughty things until Sept 22nd but I’ll talk with you then 🙂
Ms. Olivia…have a fantastic time on your vacation! We will miss you and look forward to when you get back 🙂
*waves* Hi Matty and THANK YOU ! 🙂
You’re missed! I hope you’re having an awesome vacation, but hurry back! <3
I think this is a really interesting topic for discussion. I think there are many factors that constitute what's "normal" and what we should consider "weird". I think environment and the company we keep are a big part of this. For example, my friends wouldn't even bat an eyelash about a man wearing panties or preferring dominant women–hell, some of them DO wear panties and find my strap-ons pretty fascinating. 🙂 One of my closest friends since childhood is a cross dresser and gay man, and it's not unusual for him to wear makeup or feminine attire to work or class, or kiss his boyfriend in public. He doesn't get stared at or have people harass him – he's a kind, beautiful person, and it shows!
I've had many men, t-girls, sissies, and cross dressers tell me how desperately they wish they could be themselves and just wear a pair of heels out in public or introduce their friends and family to their lifestyle, or share their "eccentric" fantasies with their partner. It never fails to shock me and make me feel so sad when others are judged by what arouses them, because everyone deserves sexual freedom. I just can't imagine people being publicly mocked and made fun of, but that's reality – a reality I'm so grateful to not experience.
My advice to anyone who is being made to feel weird is to surround yourself with people who share your kinks and adore you just the way you are — like us here at LDW! 🙂
Sorry for the rant…back to Live Help now. 🙂
awwww……thank you so much Princess Molly ….. you are SO MUCH FUN on Live Help! Did you know that your <3 looks like a cock and balls! LMAO !
THANK YOU for your so called *rant* about acceptance! You've seen me on FULL RANT about the same thing! There's the professional Me who is the Mistress and there's also the personal me (Domme, occasional bottom and switch) …. and BOTH aspects of Me get NUTS about stupid judgments. While, like you, I haven't experienced the public judgment about being a crossdresser ….. but I sure have felt the *shock* when I've disclosed that I do phone sex. And, like our transgendered and kinky friends here, this career and My personal fascination with kink is PART of who I am as a whole person. It’s not ALL of who I am…..but, it’s also not *nothing* …. so I do get it!
You’re right to say, come here…..come to the Enchantrix Empire …. and, if you want to make a call or do a session and you want to find out who Ms Molly recommends as your potential Mistress, then ask Her on Live Help!