This blog post has a couple of inspirations. The first is from Ms Alexandria (one of My all time favorite Mistress playmates!) … she has this amazing description of the 10 qualities of a good Mistress. That is always a good topic because here at LDW we take our phone sex very seriously and have a rare customer service guarantee.
The other inspiration is a poll I did on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire. The poll is from December, 2010 but it continues to get comments and responses! I love that! The poll asks how callers choose a phone sex Mistress. Here’s My blog post about some of the early results from the poll about how callers choose a Mistress. (note: My YIM name changed since that post was published. The correct YIM for Me is enchantrixolivia)
AliceWonder got the EE poll going again with a long comment about the various Mistresses she has talked with and why she called each one. Alice and others talk about having great sessions with a variety of Mistresses and then finding one Mistress that you just “click” with. I think that is such a good point. Variety is wonderful and certainly the spice of life….but, there’s also something to being with someone where there is a relationship. It takes time and some history to get to know someone and that’s certainly one option available in our unique relationships.
I’ve got a couple of questions for you. Do you like the variety of going to various Mistresses or do you have one special someone? Also, what do YOU think are some of the most important qualities of a great Mistress?
I’m really looking forward to your comments!
I like it all. You and Ms Violet are what started it all for me. But I do like to mix it up with other mistresses. As I’ve said many times having mistresses on here is better then going out to meet women who don’t have clue. I’ve become to-social as it has hindered my bodybuilding by going to bars, staying up late eating late at night it made me put on pounds and I’ve wasted money on that. I could’ve spent that calling you and hot mistresses, also working every day hasn’t made matters better also. Like I said I’m done going out trying to meet women make friends, its to hard and takes up to much time. For me its gym, tennis, work, calling mistresses on ldw.
~smiles~ I remember those early days with you and Ms Violet peter! Wow…..those scene and stories were so much fun!
Do you like the variety of going to various Mistresses or do you have one special someone?
Erm, that would be both, Ms. Olivia!
Also, what do YOU think are some of the most important qualities of a great Mistress?
Sorry, I looked at your picture and now my minds gone blank! *adjusts erection*
~laughs~ Lost your train of thought there peter? ~giggles~ That’s a very good tease toy!
Hmmmmmm, what do I think are the qualities?
Listening — as in Active Listening — really hearing what is said and not verbally said.
Present — gets into it (not just going thru the motions)
Has the capacity for Joy, Compassion, Empathy, Passion, etc…..has the ability to FEEL strongly.
Excellent boundaries and the ability to stick to them — this last is critical because otherwise she will flame out and burn out.
Naturally curious and creative
Takes your fantasy VERY SERIOUSLY but doesn’t take herself too seriously.
*squirm* Yes I did, Ms. Olivia!
I agree with your comments, HEARING what is told to a Mistress, not just verbally, but being able to read between the lines and picking up on the non-verbal clues and getting to know and understand the submissive is so important so you can CONNECT to each other!.
Of course, looking incredibly hot in a skimpy, lacy bra helps as well!
~smiles~ The lace on the sexy lingerie of an experienced Mistress is part of our Super Power. Think the Green Lantern’s RING. ~laughs~ That’s our version and, trust Me on this one, we DO get super powers!
The difference is, you still have your SUPER powers when you take the sexy lingerie off!
~laughs~ Oh indeed I DO peter! MY super powers are ….. ahem ….. SUPER!
Hi Ms Olivia,
From my own perspective I prefer that Mistress who will get inside my head, leap around inside and then mix it all up by pushing the buttons at that right time, sucking me in further to their world making it an addiction and begging for more. Then I would not want or dare go near another Mistress (unless told to of course:)) This obviously takes ‘natural selection’ to finally get the right blend but once it hits…….
Qualities in a Mistress include intelligence, witty, listens for actions and words to act on later, a natural born tease, in total control and a good laugh among others.
Fantastic list Paul! I agree with you…..those are all wonderful qualities.
From the Mistress side I can tell you that there is the quick intuitive leap inside someone’s head and then there is the relationship inside the head that evolves naturally over time that is slightly different. The first is like hot sex ZING with a stranger but the passion might not last….that’s best for men who go to a variety of Mistresses and thrill to the initial telling of their fantasy. Then there’s the get to know one another and the access and intimacy that comes with that. When doing a mindfuck trust and intimacy can be important. Again, it depends on what you’re looking for. Personally I like the wide diversity of all the different types of callers I get 🙂
“What makes a great Mistress?”
The fact that her electronic monitoring device doesn’t go off during the phone call.
Seriously Ms. O, nothing worse than thinking all that moaning and writhing and screaming is because you just verbally rocked her world with the “Phone Sex Orgasm of the Year” only to find out she was actually being tasered by the Feds.
You did warn me about the 69 cent a minute mistress. I guess some of us never learn.
~snicker~ Well YES! I do think that the beeping on that electronic monitoring device might be a tad distracting….personally I’d be looking around for Jack Bauer wondering where the next device is going to blow. Sadly, in that instance the part that blows isn’t the caller’s load. *sigh* Oh well…..more cookies for Mistress! Ya get what you pay for baby! ~laughs~
Uberdomme, why would someone call a mistress other than you? That doesn’t even make sense.
Here’s an analogy:
You go to a fine restaurant. You know the prime rib is amazing but you don’t order it. You order the chicken instead. Now no matter how good the chicken is, it’s still chicken, and you’re going to spend the whole evening thinking to yourself “F**k, I settled for chicken when I could’ve had the prime rib.”
And at LDW you don’t even pay extra for the prime rib. It’s a no-brainer.
~laughs~ Hey now, sometimes I tell people to call other Mistresses! I always make suggestions when I’m not going to be logged in and/or for when I’m on the phone. I’m not into that “only Me” type of thing. Sometimes you feel like chicken and sometimes you want that prime rib. Just like the candy ad says, “sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don’t.” Hey, that’s would be a good slogan for the suck patrol guys! ~giggles~
Mistress Olivia let me cum after 9 days of orgasm denial. It was one of the best, most intense orgasms of my life, the cum exploded up to my chin.
Wheeeee! THAT m’dear Jake is why orgasm denial training and edging is so important! You just build up and build up and when there is a weekend and you’re not allowed to cum….well!….~smiles~…..we do see the result, don’t we?
Dear Mistress Olivia
Prompted by your blog i read the ten qualities of a great Mistress – excellent list. i am a one Mistress type of sissy girl, in my case Mistress Violet. i want her to know that i consider myself to be her submissive, that it is her that i want to please, that it is her that i think of each and every day, that she is my my guide and mentor in my journey of progressive feminization. I appreciate her intelligence, her insights. That she is there for me, even when i am perhaps a bit too needy. i know that she cares for me as her submissive. She listens, she observes, she guides, she assigns. i have not mentioned yet that she is totally sexy and and she takes me to the edge again and again before bringing me to release. Of course, i eat my cum for her both to honor her as my Mistress and as an affirmation of my place as her submissive. i cherish her acceptance and appreciation of my devotions. That is an important component of our relationship.
i hope i am not going on too long about another Mistress. In truth i have responded to your blogs because i know that you have collaborated with Mistress Violet on some calls and projects and so to share my thoughts and to be totally open with a Mistress that Violet connects with feels like a proper devotion.
Always happy to have to sing the praises of the lovely and very talented Ms Violet! Thank you so much for posting that. You know I adore her as a friend and Mistress playmate! 🙂
Who goes to McDonalds just to tell everyone there how great Burger King is?
Let’s keep the focus on Ms.O. people.
Disclaimer: Fast food analogy is really lame and does not mean to imply Ms. O. has “served” billions of customers. I’m sure the actual number, which is none of my damn business, is quite reasonable considering her hotness, no money was ever exchanged and “happy” does not begin to describe the meal those fortunate few enjoyed with the Uberdomme.
LMAO! Awww, thank you outraged! 🙂 I’ll admit that while I do play VERY well with others and adore the other Mistresses mentioned I was beginning for feel a little …. ahem ….. well, suffice to say it’s not NICE to get a Mistress grumpy for any reason! Thanks for the public kudos ~smiles~ I do give new meaning to the old burger ad “where’s the beef”? ~laughs~
Good morning mistress. Your question variety or that special someone. I love the variety, I really like to be spontaneous and have a new mistress make me eat my cum. That said I really have a connection with Mistress Constance. So much so if I call another mistress I feel like i’ve cheated on her. She makes me feel like i’m the only person in the world when I talk to her, a very special feeling for me.
I love love love love love Ms Constance! ~grinz~ I totally know what you mean and I adore her too.