Ahhhhh, the sweet sound of a smack on a bottom! There are so many ways to use spanking for our erotic pleasure. I am especially excited by scenes involving over the knee spanking. OKT spanking can be part of a variety of BDSM scenes or it can be a standalone roleplay. I love when someone calls me and mentions that they have been naughty. That’s a hint for me to ask if they need a spanking from Mistress. What fun (for us both) when the answer is yes!
Is there such a thing as a spanking fetish?
Short answer is yes, some people have a fetish for being spanked. In the BDSM scene, these folks are often called spankos, meaning the erotic pleasure comes primarily from the spanking itself. This is where things can get very interesting because there is something called spanking as therapy. Actually, there is a body of research showing that the pain and pleasure links in BDSM are often therapeutic in many ways.
I do a BDSM kink podcast with my friend Mistress Erika. We talk about OTK spanking and bare bottom spanking as part of the conversation in a variety of podcast episodes. One of the most popular episodes is the one called BDSM pain play and how to not leave marks. Another popular episode is this one where we make the distinction between spanking as Femdom discipline versus punishment or even funishment.
Spanking implements
There are so many erotic roleplay ideas that use spanking that I’m only going to touch on a few here. I like to choose a spanking implement that compliments the roleplay. For example, sissy punishment might be with a hairbrush that was just used on her hair. A Governess paddle is perfect for the ‘you are naughty and need to be punished” type of roleplay. Something like a sandal or flipflop makes a fabulous smack and is ideal for a bare bottom spanking. Simply using a bare hand can be both sensual and strict. Do you have a favorite spanking roleplay? Do have have favorite spanking implements?
Here’s a quote from a spanking fan – check out this spanking toybox!
I have my fair share of toys too. Some I use with my wife, and others I keep for just for myself. The largest “category” is spanking implements…shocker. My favorites are the ones I’ve made, hairbrush sized, full paddles, etc. All wood, all nicely finished. I’ve wielded them against my wife’s bottom, she has done the same to mine, and several LDW mistresses have guided me in using them on my self. To compliment those there are some straps, belts, spoons, and hairbrushes.
Do you have a favorite implement for spanking?
When I’m at a play party or fetish event, I will often arrange my toys on a table. This gives me easy access to a variety of sounds and sensations. I don’t spank someone at the same intensity the whole time. That builds up tolerance and can lead to something called leather butt. That’s where the skin on the ass looks kind of like leather because of all the spanking. Leather butt is caused by intense spanking and caning that desensitizes layers of skin.
I’m not going to yuck on anyone’s yum. For some spankos, developing leather butt is part of the allure. That’s awesome for that person, but personally I like to do layering which basically means the intensity goes up and down. It gives your skin a bit of a respite during the scene and provides more variety for us both.
Now I want to hear from you. Do you like the sensations of a spanking? What do you like? Tell me everything!
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms Olivia
Mmmm I LOVE receiving spankings from you Ms Olivia. I love to feel the sting and hear you being amused and commenting on how pink you are making YOUR ass cheeks. Because all of me belongs to you, it’s fitting that you can do whatever you like to them. And I know you like seeing pink ass cheeks. It is also very cathartic for me. I feel “in the zone” after a while and even though it hurts and they get really sore, I enjoy suffering this way for you. My only issue is that it’s sometimes hard and tiring on my arms to smack YOUR ass cheeks and I know I am not doing it as hard and regular as You would like. But I try, and practice makes perfect! lol.
Oh, and I can’t forget the wonderful feeling later in the day and even the following day. Whenever I sit down I can feel your handiwork and it reminds me of who owns me and I always smile even if I wince a bit. Mmmmm. Thank you for this post Ms Olivia! I found myself squirming in my chair as I read it!
You bring up a great point about being concerned about doing it “right” for me.
I urge you to reframe this … instead of focusing on the perceived negative (hard enough or regular enough) please remember what I always say …
I enjoy the CONTROL.
If I wanted harder or more regular I would be asking for that.
You know me — the things that matter to me, MATTER and the things that don’t matter, just don’t.
I like what we’re doing so don’t beat yourself up over this … hey remember, being you up in MY JOB hahahahahahaaha
Ohhhh yes, please, and thank you!!!
Spanking along with a little (a lot) ball busting.
YUM!
That would be sooo fantastic!!!
Oh and Michael, with you …. hmmmmmm, maybe spanking with a ball stretcher parachute with ball weights! Have I already asked you, have you tried stretching or weights?
We have done stretching but we do not have (yet) a parachute stretcher and have not tried weights, but I am absolutely open to and interested in doing so!
I really think you’d enjoy ball weights … they do that DEEP INSIDE kind of throbbing that I know you enjoy.
I think you’re right, I think I would LOVE that!
I can’t wait to hear your reaction and I love your sense of adventure.
I have really been bad. I refused to obey a mistress who gave me a reasonable order (to worship her ass). I should get an OTK bare handed spanking.You should push my skirt above my waist and ram your dildo home.
And you know when I ram my dildo into you … my sultry yet firm voice will be saying, “you’re MY BITCH now.”
I will always be your bitch.
YOU WILL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YES
Bend over …. get ready for your spanking.
Dear Ms Olivia, The pictures with this blog are very nice. The lady in the bottom photo looks really smart and classy in her white blouse, black skirt, and black pantyhose (or stockings?). The lady in the top picture slooks really fetching in her fishnet stockings and domination outfit. Is that you in that top picture? If so, I guess I shouldn’t be looking at the black leather underpants!!
Are you asking if you need punishment? Why yes … with you the answer is always YES.
hahahahaha
Dear Ms Olivia, Do you think I need even more punishment? You have drop-kicked me back into the basement so many times that my bottom is already very sore!! A submissive can only take so much kick-butt.
hahahahaha!
Let’s talk about it … I know you need punishment.
Dear Ms Olivia, I can see you are determined to punish me, so I may just as well bend over your knee.
Hmmmmm, not sure I said I would give you an OTK over the knee spanking … but, now that you mention it, maybe I’ll consider it.
Ms Olivia, If you want to give me a bare-bottom spanking, you will need to ask Ms Hunter for the key to remove/unlock my locking knickers!!
Good point … so you might get a otk spanking — over the knee spankings will work quite well even when you’re wearing those locking knickers.
Spanking with me goes back nearly as far as discovering the Sissy in me, one Mistress open seeing my behind even said flat out she’d love to spank it all red!
It can come in different contexts, one more a discipline centred one around tasks not done or back talk or it can be mixed in with a bit of humilation.
Typically I do enjoy the sensation of being across a lap being either hand spanked (hands can be pretty powerful if you know how) or traditional hairbrush, maybe even being told to present you mine to use on me.
I feel more secure like that than over furniture to be honest.
It may start over my panties but soon end up with them pulled down to really work on me.
It’s just a amazing set of sensations that work for me
YESSSSSSS you just gave a perfect list!
In particular I love the phrase “Bring me the paddle.” There something so wicked to that.
And, you’re right about the hand – that can be a really nice sting and of course the bright red ass from spanking simply makes me swoon!
Yes, I like the sensations from spanking. If I had to choose a favorite, a wooden paddle. I don’t know why, the sound, the bite of the wood, the solid feel? All of it, I suppose. Honestly, any implement or hand works for me. I like the surrender. I like the, “I’m going to take this, because I chose to, because I’m told to.” The sensation is a straight pace to arousal too.
I right with you about the SOUND!
There’s a delightful THWACK with the wooden paddle that gets my motor all zooming as well.
I like the sound of a double sided slapper as well – it’s leather … looks like a belt folded over with the ends stitched together … it’s has a bit of an echo with slap/SLAP.
Have you ever tried one of those?