Femdom humiliation isn’t for everyone and that’s okay! Don’t worry if that’s not your thing but if you’re curious about or new to erotic humiliation you might be able to relate to a recent email I got. Humiliation can be used in a variety of BDSM or kink roleplays. The email was from someone who sort of stumbled into a humiliation scene and was shocked at how aroused he got. His email wanted to find out what the hell was going on and why he now craves this pain for the brain.
What is Femdom humiliation?
The S/m of BDSM refers to sadomasochism. In my case I am the one delivering the pain and the submissive is on the receiving end. I would be the sadist, the sub would be the masochist. Erotic humiliation is similar to physical pain. People that like spanking, or CBT, or nipple torment will understand the thrilling sensations from someone skilled in BDSM pain play. Erotic humiliation might or might not include physical pain but make no mistake, it can hurt as much as any intense spanking. Verbal humiliation is pain for the brain.
What is it about erotic humiliation?
I love humiliation sessions. For me, it’s because it’s taboo and the opposite of what we both are “supposed” to like or do. That cognitive dissonance is exciting and humiliation is a great example of the contradictory aspects of consensual kink. If you are turned on by humiliation, you’re not alone!
Phone humiliation is fun! I love to do humiliation calls because they are so creative. There are many types of humiliation and there is an skill level involved in doing it well. As an experienced Mistress, I know that humiliation is personal to YOU — your fantasies and sexual triggers. Using your sexual trigger too early means that you don’t have the proper *build up* and it will fall flat. There’s a lot of timing involved with amazing phone humiliation.
Sensual versus hardcore humiliation
One reason he sent the email is that he thought humiliation involved screaming and name calling. He was shocked when I used my sensual voice to deliver some stinging verbal blows. Remember what I said about the paradox of BDSM? Pain is pleasure here in our world.
I don’t scream or yell, that’s not interesting to me. For me, the artistry is all in the tenor, tone and timing. And it doesn’t have to be one or the other. A session can be sensual and strict at the same time. There is a difference between sensual and hardcore humiliation but I thoroughly enjoy combining the two! It’s sort of like sweet AND salty (YUM!).
Humiliation combined with your favorite roleplay
Your erotic roleplay scenes are perfect for a little or a lot of erotic humiliation. In fact, a cuckold humiliation is perfect! All sorts of sissy humiliation scenes are also some of my favorite roleplay ideas. You’ll hear some examples in various episodes of the BDSM kink podcast that I do with my friend, Mistress Erika. Check out all the episodes of The Weekly Hot Spot and you can start with some titles you might enjoy:
- Phone Humiliation: Sexual Humiliation 101
- Are you and Alpha Male who yearns to be a feminized sissy? This episode isn’t ‘only’ about sissy humiliation but this can be a part of lots of feminization scenes.
- Cuckolding myths exposed. Cuckolding doesn’t ‘have’ to be about humiliation, especially small penis humiliation, but the ‘he’s better than I am’ vibe can be sensually humiliating.
I’ve given you (and him) a lot to think about. Bottom line for all of us is this: sometimes pain feels good. There’s nothing to worry about or change. As long as you’re not hurting anyone else, let’s do it!
Did I help those of you who are unsure about it to be a little bit more curious? Do tell in the blog comments! Or, let’s talk on the phone or on DISCORD where you search for LDWOlivia.
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