Are you one of those people who’s turned on by humiliation? Don’t worry–you’re not alone! Lots of people get aroused by being teased, laughed at, and or embarrassed. It’s a very common thing, especially among submissives.
Sensual Or Hardcore Humiliation
Like most things in the BDSM or kink world, it’s not one size fits all. There are all kinds of ways to do erotic humiliation. I’ll break it down into two broad categories. There is sensual humiliation and hardcore humiliation. Sensual humiliation, while still being humiliating, usually tends to be on the softer and sweeter side. And then, on the other hand, there is hardcore humiliation. This type of humiliation tends to be more mean and cruel.
Always remember, just because you get aroused when you are teased, tormented or otherwise degraded it doesn’t mean that you will enjoy every type of humiliation. Some people prefer a kind of sweet tease, while others like it to be stricter. What turns you on is what turns you on, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that!
That being said, there is an art to humiliation. What works for someone else might not do it for you. In fact, you might be turned off instead of turned on, unless the Mistress in question is dishing out the sort of humiliation that you actually enjoy! A fantastic example of this is small penis humiliation. SPH is very popular and well known, that doesn’t mean that YOU like it.
Learning The Ways You’re Turned On By Humiliation
Some of you already know how you are turned on by humiliation. But others may still be in the process of learning about it. Of course, even if you already know that you enjoy humiliation, that’s not to say that you won’t learn about new humiliating things along the way that excite you! You might not even realize these things do turn you on until you try them for yourself.
One thing I love to do is sprinkle some humiliating comments around during our session. That can add a little (or a lot) extra zing. Usually, this is something that you and I will figure out together as I get to know you and try out things on you during our kink session. There is no “right way” to enjoy humiliation with a sexy Humiliatrix.
The type of humiliation that may turn you on often depends on your personality. I find that those who are brash and forthright are often fans of more sensual types of humiliation. They want someone to very gently and kindly point out their flaws and shortcomings. On the other hand, I find that people who are more introverted or even shy and retiring can really get down with some hardcore humiliation. They like it right in their faces! This isn’t true for everyone, but I have noticed a pattern that what a person looks for in a Humiliatrix is often the exact opposite of their own personality. What do you think?
What Is Humiliating Is Often Very Personal
It can be fun to generalize about such things, but the truth is, what is humiliating to someone is often very personal. Some people might enjoy being called names, while others prefer being told to do humiliating assignments. And, naturally, what actions one finds humiliating can also vary wildly from person to person.
When I talk to someone who tells me they’re turned on by humiliation, I like to ask questions:
What in particular do you find humiliating?
What is the most humiliating thing that’s every happened to you (that ended up turning you on)?
Do you have any real-life experiences with humiliation, or have they been confined mostly to fantasy?
The answers to these kinds of questions will tell me a lot about you and your approach to humiliation. And knowing what kinds of things turn you on really helps me get into your head and give a wicked mindfuck.
So what do you like most about humiliation? Tell or confess everything!
I strongly feel the urge to comment this post and say that I´m definitely turned on by being humiliated! 🙂 In both ways – both the more harsh kind and the softer and more sensual kind… And I do believe you have a very good idea that some people might be looking for the exact opposite! I do believe I´m one of them myself…
I´ve always been a very shy, humble, quiet and timid man myself… Not the best confidence, very bad at standing up for myself and don´t like arguments at all. The kind of person who just wants to disappear in a crowd and never stand out or be noticed in any way. But I´ve always been drawn to women who are super bossy, demanding, high maintenance, vain, self absorbed and who are considered toxic and manipulative… The real drama queen type who wouldn´t do anything to get dirty or break a nail, who has tons of make up, botox, lip fillers, fake eyelashes, hair extensions, super long stiletto nails, big silicone enhanced breasts, tight clothes, high heels, only wear thongs etc… The works. And it´s a complete thrill if I get to do something for a woman like that or even more serve her and have her ask me for favors and to do all kinds of things for her… Even more knowing she´ll probably be furious if she doesn´t get her way! I´ve always found that a complete thrill… And I´m almost ashamed myself to say that that´s the kind of woman who really turns me on…
I´m also very intrigued and attracted to the type of woman who seem to use men for her benefit… The kind who would use me. The type of woman who lets me pay for her drinks at the bar without any intention at all of giving me a chance… Lets me do things for her etc.
But I also have fantasies of being humiliated in the much softer and more sensual type of way, in a cozy and romantic setting. Often had the fantasy of a sexy mature lady laying on top of me at night in only a thong and bra, maybe in a wooden cabin somewhere deep in the woods on a cold, snowy and freezing winter night with a nice sparkling fire beside us, smothering my face with tender kisses and playing with my hair while I´m having my arms around her to make her feel completely safe, loved, cherished and protected… Or my hands on her butt, gently caressing her buttocks while showering her with compliments on how incredibly sexy, beautiful, fantastic, amazing and desirable she is… Boosting her confidence to the max. While she whispers in my ear that she´s way too good for a guy like me with a giggle! That I´m a loser, that I don´t deserve her etc… All with a teasing giggle, making me gasp and twitch with excitement! Knowing herself that the best thing to do to keep me around is to be a bit bitchy to me and treat me a bit badly… Have me treat her like a complete princess and put her on a pedestal high above myself. 😉
You aren’t alone slave J — there are lots of men like you!
Many women don’t understand the potential power we hold over males — in fact that’s the opening of the documentary tOuch Kink about Femdoms. It’s all about power – who has it, who can use it, etc.
I personally like moving back and forth between the sensual humiliation and the sting of the more sharp humiliation.
I like the variety.
About real-life experiences, apart from what I´ve already mentioned, I´ve had a few women walk right past me when I held the door open for them, stood aside and politely said “After you, Ma´am!”… Like I didn´t even exist. I loved that too! 🙂 I even hope they will do that, every time I open the door for a sexy lady… To me as a sub, it´s much more of a thrill than if they thank me with a smile.
I once had a woman say to me that I´m such a nice guy and that I shouldn´t let women walk all over me. I thanked her, but just thought to myself that it´s exactly that type of women that I like…! 😀
Sexy women like you could walk all over me as much as you like too, Olivia. 😉
Reading that …. makes me think of the song Use Me by Bill Withers.
Have you heard the song?
It’s really the theme song of what you’re talking about.
Check out the song, listen to the lyrics, and then let me know your reaction!
Wow! Never heard that – I love the lyrics!
And yes… that´s exactly the type of woman i´m drawn to! :O
Nods —- thought so!
Good slave!!
Yes!!! Especially when you dress/turn and keep me as your sissy girl with lipstick kisses on my cheeks!!!!
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And when you lose the bet and have to STAY with those lipstick kisses all over your face!
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Hi Mistress Olivia! Hmmm…so much to ponder with all the varying nuances of humiliation you describe. Personally, my preference is for that gentle teasing you describe. But honestly I am quite shy (and as we’ve learned, “delicate) therefore any severe humiliation would likely vaporize me within moments!
Which puts me outside that dynamic of the quiet reserved types enjoying the more harsh treatment. A perfect example of how you mention that one size does not fit all. Speaking of size, (since I can only speak of it!🤭) I wonder…Am I humiliated, embarrassed or do I embrace my (here we go again) “not a lot” in life? Actually this is the ideal place for all three. The Mistresses are so attuned to all our needs.
Oh, Mistress Olivia? Getting pantsed on the cottage dock mid-May? The lake is cold. That was real life humiliating. 🫣
laughs and laughs …. little peg, the lake was cold but not THAT COLD … I mean you didn’t start with much now did you?
hahahahahaha
All teasing aside, you know I (and all the Mistresses here) know that each person, each relationship and even each SCENE/session should be unique because humans aren’t “static” creatures.
We sure don’t want to vaporize you although that sentence made me crack up!
Oh my – Humiliation and embarrassment are huge turn ons for me!! I love it when I’m placed in humiliating positions and predicaments by you. Especially when you giggle and laugh at my squirming and uncomfortableness (word?). lol. And sometimes a little blushing may occur. That sense of discomfort (better word) reminds me that I belong to you and need to do anything you say, especially if I am having second thoughts. I love pushing myself over the edge for you! That feeling of free falling but knowing that you’ve got me!! I love that! Thank you for this wonderful post Ms Olivia!
Oh slut pie you for sure blush! laughs
And my personal favorite is when you are so spun up that you sort of lose the ability to speak … well, you make noises (LOL) but those noises are more like grunts and groans and gasps … you lost the ability to form sentences when you are in subspace.
That is THRILLING to meeeeeeee !!!!
You really know and understand the type of women I like! 🙂 Amazing… I don´t think there are many others who would understand that it´s a thrill for me to simply open the door for a sexy Lady and have her walk right past me and not even acknowledge me… That it makes me gasp with excitement and fascination every time. Or that it turns me on having women use me for anything and everything that they want… That I´d really love to have a woman ask me for all kinds of favors and help with things and have me fix all kinds of things for her all the time so that I´m completely exhausted at the end of the day after serving her, but turned on at the same time… And you really are that exact blonde complete bombshell that I´ve always had fantasies of being a personal slave for… 🙂
Like you say yourself in the Photos section: “I know it´s hard to resist a beautiful woman.”, and “How can you possibly resist or deny me anything?” That´s a perfect point and good question… And my answer is just: I don´t think I could! 😀
I think it´s a thrill that you know yourself about your power over males that you´re talking about! And in all honesty… You could completely walk on me, treat me anyway that you like and have me do just about anything for you! 😉
I so crave sph! I beg for it! I actually shrink from humiliation. I just measured one inch long one inch girth!
Limp and little – sounds like a good tag line for a sissy!
What in particular do you find humiliating?
My world revolves around small penis humiliation and especially when it’s a lady who just loves to turn the thumb screws and make me nervous. And even better when she decides to show me who’s boss by humiliating me in front of someone else.
What is the most humiliating thing that’s every happened to you (that ended up turning you on)?
There is so much to tell! The first one that comes to mind is being at a resort and my wife calling out to me from across the pool and then waving her pinky finger at me and laughing at me in front of everyone. I was in a tiny speedo with the cotton liner cut out so everyone could see the outline of my shriveled stubby.
Do you have any real-life experiences with humiliation, or have they been confined mostly to fantasy?
I lived a number of humiliating experiences with my wife, as well as constant small penis humiliation from every girl with whom I was intimate throughout my life. I am now absolutely conditioned to NEED humiliation and unable to achieve an erection without it.
Wait, WHAT ?????
You CAN achieve an erection … awwwww, buttercup, you’re soooooo tiny I thought that was maybe the inner fabric gusset of the speedo!
hahahahahaha
You’re quite right, the less bashful ones can go deeper and like it more direct once you’ve broken the ice.
Situations that come to mind is finding a changing room incident I had thought nothing of involving a door coming open while getting changed turns out to the subject of conversation as females just laugh at your tiny penis a year later and in your company mentioning that occassion!
The time on training course someone goes to open the toilet door that wouldn’t lock when my tights and panties are due south. Talk about having a red face and I wasn’t “out” as a sissy to that group.
I’m not a fan of non-consent or kink in a vanilla situation where the other person is shocked because they didn’t realize there was this going on.
That said — I know that some people do that (not with me mind you) and I think in today’s social / political environment, that is really risky … like BAD risks.
Something like this can be super fun at a play party or an even where people are okay with seeing things.