silent guys and phone sex
Are you a silent kind of guy? Do you worry that you’re not a big talker on the phone and I won’t know how to handle your phone call? ~smiles~ Don’t be nervous! You don’t have to talk a lot, maybe you’re the type that likes to listen to my voice as I weave the erotic fantasy.
your phone fantasy is hotter than porn
Erotic storytelling is way hotter than porn because it’s personal and individualized to you. You don’t have to be a super talker to communicate what you want. I will need to know some things just to give me a general idea of what turns you on. Each person is unique. I’ll check to make sure that I fully understand you.
Dominate me
Sometimes I’ll get a terse answer, “I want you to Dominate me.” Okay! I like that! Now, let’s make sure I understand what YOU mean when you say that. ~laughs~ MY version of “Dominate” you might be a little more expansive than yours.
I’ll do anything Mistress
Really? ~laughs~ Same issue. Did you know that LDW Group has a site called, I Will Ignore you …. are you sure you mean “anything?” ~grinz~ Really? Okay, so back to being serious. My ‘anything’ is pretty large. I know you have “something” in mind so let’s take just a minute to get on the same page.
Tips for a great phone sex call
I want your call to be great! This is the key to happiness for both of us and these tips for a great phone sex call will involve a short conversation. I promise I won’t grill you (unless you LIKE that). Once we’re on the same page, your call will be amazing! And THAT, my friend, is delightful for both of us!
Here’s your question for the blog comments. How comfortable are you in speaking your erotic desires? How do you like to communicate what you want and/or need?
LMAO!
Yes Mistress … I know. Thank you! See you in the AM. 🙂
OMG, that was soooooooooooo much fun! Thank you so much for sending the scene ideas that allows me freedom to make it unique to you (but with my own sexy spins on things)….I can’t even begin to tell you how much I appreciate that. The pre-scene stuff IS foreplay for me and I love that you’re able to do that with me and then *let go* during the scene itself! ~smiles~
Thank You for sharing such useful tips to enhance the enjoyment and satisfaction of Your callers. i can only speak for myself, yet know it took me a very long time to fully understand how important it is to make a specific selection off their fantasy menu. i have truly come to enjoy sitting back and allowing You, the Master Chef, to share Your creation of a satisfying verbal meal which completely satiates my appetite. (i overheard two men talking yesterday about listening to the Food show network on radio, and immediately thought of You in this analogy.)
i truly hope anyone who has yet to sample Your cuisine will take the time to enjoy and savor every delectable morsel of the wonderful and varied fare You offer. i know many of them will become a connoisseur of Your fine dining establishment, as i have.
Loves the food/cooking references! ~laughs~ True dat!
While I CAN be the one who simply creates and serves *whatever* it IS more enjoyable for me to have it be participatory. I have more *space* at times to be the sole creator. Right now, I’m enjoying participatory planning. Thanks for your comment! 🙂
Thank You Mistress Olivia for Your insightful comment. Since i am still in my rookie year as a Chastity slave, perhaps You can help me, and maybe other of Your many fans with a couple of dilemmas i seem to be struggling with?
During a session, i seem to have difficulty knowing when my role changes from participating in planning (by making requests and suggestions of my fantasy of the moment); and when to transition into a good submissive in the scene portion, who still wants to participate, but is fearful of being accused of hijacking the scene or topping from the bottom by interjecting to much.
my other conundrum is due to my extreme compersion disorder of always striving to please significant others in my life. You know i have a wide spectrum of kinks. ranging from soft and sensual to very hard core. i like to think by offering to avail myself to Mistress’ pleasure, based on Her mood at the time of the call, i thought i could adapt well to providing for Her pleasure. Is it better to simply ask for an appointment and then both parties negotiate where their energy is leading at the time of the call, or is Your preference to have the type of scene discussed and decided based on input from both parties before hand?
Hmmmmm….that’s a good question k, n & e and the answer is a subtle one.
First let’s talk about compersion. You describe it as striving to please others. Here’s the definition of compersion: Compersion is an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy. That’s a little different than being someone who strives to please others.
I’m not sure how many times or ways to say this. I’ve done lots of blog posts and comments about how to negotiate.
I’ll try and see what I can bring to the comment that might be new.
What I like to do is talk about the scene before….have the submissive *own* what he/she wants. It’s not about simply *being quiet* during the scene — that can often be a sort of passive aggressive withdrawl like a F U I’m not talking….~laughs~ …. that’s never sexy!
But, it’s a DANCE. The two people decide which STYLE of dancing together … for example TANGO or WALTZ. Once IN the dance, the dancers stay *in* the dance they have agreed on or they can STOP the dance and switch to another dance. If the leader is guiding her partner in a tango and suddenly her partner begins to do the steps for a waltz then those feet will get all tangled up! Does THAT help to explain it?
Of course ALL of this depends on the relationship …. and I do know you prefer that I generate the scene and then send you lots of emails leading up to the day of the appointment. I’m having trouble generating that much energy right now — that’s a huge expense of energy on my part, staying in scene for days before the scene … that’s why I asked for your patience. Of course, reactions being what they are, we did get tangled in the back and forth. I can tell you exactly what I don’t like but I’m not going to do that here and besides you have a vast number of emails with specific suggestions, ideas of behavior, soothing of your fears, etc. I think I simply ran out of new ways to say the same thing! ~laughs~ But, maybe not….because I’ve come with up yet another example of how this power exchange works! ~smiles~ And I always love thinking about ballroom dancing because of the beauty, power and grace involved.
Thank You so much for Your time and this explanation. i do love to be Your dance partner and hope You will allow me the chance to implement Your guidance, within the parameters set forth, and strike up the band again soon.
~smiles~ Thank you! I’ll send you a private email about this.
Thank you for the most wonderful call Ms Olivia. I really enjoyed being your prissy sissy. I can’t wait to do this again
Thank YOU suzanne! You really are a yummy prissy sissy! ~laughs~ Did I say yummy? How about those tasty panties? ~grinz~ and sends you ~lipstick kisses~
Happy first day of spring Ubberdomme.
I thought you were kidding but https://iwillignoreyou.com/ is real. They even have an “ignore chat”. I logged in and got an “access denied” message so I guess I was being preemptively ignored. Once again LDW is on the cutting edge and it was actually kind of hot.
I need to look into this fetish. It would be great to be on hold for an hour with Microsoft support/local planning commission/cell phone provider/ and think of it as wicked hot phone sex instead of horrific custom service. Totally change my day.
You continue to rock Ms. O. Below is the custom audio script I would like you to record for my new fetish:
Hope you liked it. (I know it’s kind of long)
~giggles~
Ohhhhhh….SUCH a great comment!
You made me laugh and I’ve recorded my version of your fetish script!
https://eroticaudios.com/content/Olivia/OliviaIgnore.mp3
~snicker~
teee heeeeeeee
Well that sucked.
There was supposed to be this be this long blank space between “Below is the custom audio script I would like you to record for my new fetish: and “Hope you liked it.”
See what I was doing there Ms. O with the ignore script?
~Sigh~
They can’t all be winners Ms.O. They can’t all be winners.
Oh that last WAS and still IS a winner…..so much so that you inspired an audio! Didn’t think I IGNORED you didja? ~laughs~
Mistress Olivia,
I appreciate the blog post on “shy guys” – definitely me. I can go into a quick super shy I don’t know what to say nervous thing. It is this feeling that “she” knows something about me. I have always had this sense that girls “know” – not exclusively but it often relates to “size” issues. I don’t think a girl can tell like I imagine she can but the shyness I get is like she sees right through me.
~grinz~ I’ll tell you something about women, we DO often have that intuitive feminine sense. Now, I’m not a mind reader and there’s a difference between being quiet and withholding information so the other person must “do all the work.” I’m not sure how to describe it, but I know it when I am around it.
I personally like the “shy guy” as you can see from the blog post. When he lets me guide him in how to open up, talk, own his own truth then WOW! And, of course, I like to tease him about stuff I intuitively know about HIM! ~grinz~ I like to see him squirm and blush! Are you going to squirm for me?
Thank You Mistress, I must be the one you were writing about in this post. I am far from a big talker at the best of times and when you add such a personal subject as the fantasies constantly in my thoughts, well my tongue gets tied up in a double knot with a bow on top! Just the thought of You weaving an extension of one of my fantasies into a call is enough to put me over the edge almost before we could begin:) I am not much of a dancer but perhaps with the right partner? 🙂
~grinz~ Almost enough to put you over the edge? Awww, don’t do that Eric….you’ll miss all the FUN! I’m an excellent dance partner ~sweet smile as I hold out my hand~ come on, give it a twirl!