BDsm and Femdom stereotypes
Listen to me tell you about being a real Femdom in my private life.
If you think BDsm and Femdom are all about a fierce woman in leather and latex, think again.
Oh, that attire CAN be part of a Mistress wardrobe, but the power of the Experienced Mistress Olivia comes from way more than clothing.
Power Exchange and BDsm
A Mistress gets her power all sorts of ways. Mostly it is an internal sense of natural Dominance. I am very clear about something: you might want a mean Femdom, but Mistress does not mean bitch. Total power exchange, TPE, is a mutual thing — even though I demand your obedience.
The most extreme BDsm and fetish play should include a sense of appreciation for your submission. That might take the form of tender aftercare, communication between sessions, negotiation before your session or something else.
A naturally Dominant woman
There is a SENSE you will get from a naturally Dominant woman that you will never get from vanilla women. You can put a vanilla woman in hot latex, and you still won’t have a Femdom.
Thoughts? Comments? A gif of a hot woman in even hotter latex?
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms Olivia
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Hello Mistress Olivia,
Yes, you are naturally a Dominant woman! I am naturally a submissive sissy and I the want nothing more than to submit at your feet. Nothing more than and be your little panty boy. I hope to talk to you soon.
Sissy chrissy
~giggles~ you are the best lil panty boy and such a fabulous sissy submissive!
You’re SOOOOOOOO right! It’s not Her clothes it’s Her brain….Her attitude! ….Sure, sexy clothes and BDSM implements are wonderful, But a real Domme can thrill a true true sub by simply using him as a footstool! Putting him (or her) on his hand knees before Her, while She is just watching TV on the couch, wearing t-shirt and jeans. Casual Dominance can be as rewarding and exciting to me as an elaborate scene….I think it’s a matter of both the Domme and the sub embracing their true self , trusting each other and living their dreams 24/7! Great post!
YES princess … you know, the casual dominance is sometimes the most fun for a change because of the contradiction in visuals … AND YET, there really is no contradiction, right?
Of course, there is no contradiction when both are just being who they truly are
nods …. true dat princess 🙂
I once read that American actors go from the inside out, starting with feelings. English actors go from the outside in, starting with the costume. I guess femdom mistresses are American actors.
Hey that’s pretty cool …. I’d never heard that. You know I think ANYONE serious about kink, kink culture and history, fetish exploration is attracted to the “performance art” aspect of it all … I sure know I am! Is that acting? Sure! Acting as designed emotions, reactions, etc … it’s the good sort of manipulation.
I totally agree Miss Olivia,- i have seen Alpha Women in the plainest of plain clothes, and non-alpha Women in leather and latex,- and only the Alpha Women send out the femdom vibe! For me the clothes are more like spices,- they certainly add to the meal,- but do nothing on their own.
YES !!!! Every Halloween all sorts of non-Alpha women “dress up” in naughty and/or kinky outfits … and, honestly, it really ends up looking like a costume.
Of course Mistress I gladly surrendered to you quite some time ago. I only wish I could surrender in person.
~swoons~ Ohhhhhhhh my very personal playmate …. YES!
I love a Mistress in just her regular clothes, but the thigh high latex boots would make me drool
~nods~ I agree !!!!