I just had an interesting conversation. A woman just popped up on YIM and sent a text. You can read our IM exchange further down in this blog post. Our exchange inspired this blog post about using phone sex for couples.
Couples phone sex
I’ve done blogs about the variety of people and reasons why people call the Experienced Mistress. It’s been a long time since I’ve done a post about how phone sex for couples heats up the sex! ~smiles~ Sometimes it’s a way to teach or train one or the other partner in a particular kink or fetish.
Dominatrix in popular culture
Sometimes the woman wants to play but doesn’t know exactly how to BE a Femdom — and the media portrayals of a Superior Woman are dumb and wrong. She is usually the wrong type of bitchy. Not fun! <grinz> It’s little wonder why the woman of a couple is confused about what to do and how to wield her Female Power. Often, she will need to understand some of the dynamics of Power Exchange … like with ANY Power … USE is one thing and ABUSE (and I’m not talking about pain for pleasure) is another. Wielding power effectively, especially in an erotic environment, involves intuition, education and subtlety.
Single women and phone sex
Since the exchange is on IM, she might be a GG (genetic girl) or she might be a crossdresser in femme mode. I don’t know and, frankly, I don’t care. When a crossdresser *presents* en femme and IS a woman, then I treat her that way ~smiles~. What do you think? Here’s the IM. I was on a call when she first popped into IM so that’s why I sent the first IM:
Woman: I am a female does that matter to you
enchantrixolivia: Hi there! Thank you for your patience. I appreciate it and I’m available now. Are you still there?
Woman: Do you chat with women?
enchantrixolivia: *nods* I sure do. I’m bi…..so I like girls! ~grinz~ *sings Katy Perry’s song “I Kissed A Gril and I Liked It”*
Woman: I tend to be submissive.
enchantrixolivia: ~smiles~ We’ll I’m a Mistress! I do love to be in charge … it’s my nature.
Woman: Do you lean towards sensual or rough play?
enchantrixolivia: mmmmmmmm It totally depends. I like to combine the two and even the odd bit of so-called vanilla and then a wicked mind game type of thing.
Woman: Meaning what?
enchantrixolivia: I use strict/rough as *spice* if that makes sense.
Woman: A little.
enchantrixolivia: Although I have done rough sessions that are designed to be totally rough/mean. The sensual part can be a reconnection and a cool down during rough play. It’s similar to interval training in any sport.
Difference between free IM and a call or texting session
Like so many IMs, she was actually getting into her session topic and (for HER) doing a session so of course she didn’t call or do a sexytexting. Frustrating and things like this drain my energy … but it’s part of the gig. At least I can post it HERE! ~laughs~ And, let YOU know that I love to play with couples and women!
Ms Olivia
Ms Oh, You have touched on a subject that has often caused me to ponder; Do women call phone sex services? Is there a market out there for a service that caters to women? i have been told by by a select group of very special friends i give pretty good phone and often wonder about the potential? my usual answer is the same as when i was younger and considered being a gigolo; How can i make a living selling what everyone else is giving away for free?
i am sad for You this person didn’t get to experience all the wonders You have provided me with in a session. It is truly her loss! (i must confess though, i would love to be a fly on the wall if she had.)
i must also mention, i believe Your comment regarding treating those who call en femme as a female from the start, yet i also know how much You enjoy soaring into Your Domme’ space coercing those of us so inclined to transform for You on webcam and witnessing the emergence of our feminine persona. i’m rushing the clock until SA morning so we can transcend once again into our respective spaces and ride the energy. (pun intended)
Thanks for the stimulating topic and allowing me to share here.
Hi kneel, I don’t know if there are phone sex services that cater to genetic women. There SURE is a market for male escorts (to genetic women and to gay or bi men). I don’t know a lot about that, but I know it’s there.
Ohhhhhh and for YOU I often prefer to SEE your feminization transformation….it’s really quite stunning and gets my …. ahem … engine running so to speak! ~smiles~
Hi Ms
This is just instinct but I think that may be a cross dresser in female mode. I know it does not matter to you because when we dress we are ladies in your view. It is just the way the questions are asked. As hard as we try to be ladylike there is always some maleness that comes across.
xxx
yvonne
~laughs~ Great comment, yvonne! I wasn’t going to say it b/c I am respectful of how the person presents. I’m a firm believer in self-definition. AND, no matter what gender or gender identity, there are always those that push the boundaries.
She showed up again in IM and said she paid for a sexytexting.com session but wouldn’t send an IM telling me the email she used to get the session.
Private, individualized and full attention (on email or IM) actually IS a session. I have discretion about how I handle these freebies. I can IM or email just one person or spend the time on things like blogs, free erotic audios, etc. I produce so much FREE FUN that things like this sometimes hit me very wrong. ~sighs~
I do believe it’s time for a pedicure! ~smiles~