Does your fantasy ever shock Mistress? I’ve had that question several times in recent months and I love you feel safe enough with Me to ask things like that! You know that this blog is all about talking about the sometimes difficult issues and all sorts of kinky sex fetish topics. So, let’s talk about this.
This is prompted by a comment by maidsteph1 on one of My polls on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire. You know I think a sissy maid is such a fun playmate so I laughed out loud when I read what she wrote. Sometimes it takes a sissy to ‘man up’ and confess! ~laughs~
She said, “I had wondered if they were weird but the members and Ms on EE have shown that others have the same fantasies and very little seems to shock the LDW Mistresses. “
One thing that I thought was ‘weird’ before I tried it was CBT, cock and ball torture. I’ve always been a cock tease so I totally ‘get’ the allure of cock control but the thought of pain on such a sensitive organ….well, it made Me cringe a bit. Of course, once I tried it and became an expert in the nuances of pain as pleasure I found I really enjoy some things that didn’t immediately catch My erotic eye.
So, let’s turn the question back to you! What did you think was “weird” until you tried it?
I’ll get the comments started with this one from pantysue on EE, “I have sometimes thought things were weird until i tried them… once i considered wearing panties and a bra for a guy weird. Just look at me now!”
So…….fess up and confess!
I have to admit I thought the use of food for masturbation was weird. The first time I tried it was on a day that I was trying to see how long I could make a single masturbation session last. At some point I was running out of the “regular” things that I had used so I was looking around for something different. I had read about using a banana as a masturbation sleeve once, thought it was weird when I read it, but I had a banana in the kitchen. I mashed it up in the peel, cut off the end and started using it as a stroking sleeve. After a bit of that I spent some time exploring the kitchen. I have since used many different food items for masturbation pleasure. Not really in the food fetish realm, more of a mild kink. I do think it fits into my sensory fetish though.
Ohhhhhhhh Forrest I love sensation play! After all, that IS what erotic pleasure is all about….the experiences of the senses, mind and emotions. Each person has a unique experience of that blend. I did have to laugh when you mentioned the banana as a masturbation sleve because, while there’s a bit of a giggle factor, it feels AMAZING! Thanks so much for leaving your comment!
“So…….fess up and confess!”
I admit initially I didn’t get the whole Giantess fetish for 2 reasons:
Size. I’ve always liked big women but I got hung up on using the words “cavernous“,“ginormous” or “Grand Canyon like” in the same sentence as the word “vagina.” Weird, I know.
I’ve since learned that bigger is definitely better and now I’m actually a bit of a size king. Give something I can land an Airbus A380 in and I’m a happy tiny. (Hey, they don’t call it a “landing strip” for nothing Ms.O)
The digestion process. The whole “eat me like I’m popcorn shrimp at Denny’s.” Being swallowed whole just didn’t seem sexy to me because it reminded me of the Reader’s Digest series back in the day: “I am Olivia’s Colon.”
Informative, but a bit of an erection killer. Plus I worried about the Mistress’s safety as she consumed me. The phrase “small-bowel obstruction” is just not worth $2.50 a minute. Even with Obamacare.
Anyway, LDW helped me work past these issues and now I’m a proud and happy tiny. Thank you LDW!
~snicker and giggle~
How can I possibly even begin to answer this?
I have such a cyber crush on you because you make me laugh like nobody’s business!
PS … because of you I’m collecting Plastic Man and now, when I eat cajun (the popcorn shrimp) I shall think of you fondly.
Hi MsOlivia! I’m not sure I can think of things I’ve considered weird until tried. There are a bunch of fetishes I’ve learned about being here and a number of those are not turn ons to me but I understand they are for others and I respect that. I think for me they pretty much all fall into things I’d be willing to try and things I have absolutely no interest in doing. So it’s not that I find them weird until trying. I have tried panties on before but they didn’t do a damn thing for me and I have tasted my own cum – nothing special there. But those things were fetishes to me but not “weird”. Make sense?
Absolutely magnus! Thanks for your comment 🙂 I will admit, I thought the Giantess fantasy was “weird” until I started learning about it and then doing it. Today, I can spot that fetish from a mile away and it’s very much in popular culture! I cracked up with Lady Gaga’s new perfume ads and all the tiny men crawling all over her body. I’m sure other see that as more weird Lady Gaga but I actually think those photos are so sexy! ~laughs~ Group sex with tiny men! Ahhhhhhh the torment and pleasure! *wiggles toes at magnus and then runs out of the room.”
Geez, great question. I have to admit I always wondered if I ever suprised a mistress. I know I am not the first one with sph interest but the particular style I seek I wondered if was shared much. I regal lady so soft, so gentle, so, so gentle in speech. She talks to me and educates me about the importance the absolute fundamental importance of size. She just loves giving me this long slow lecture – as if she is speaking “generally” not even, necessarily, about me. But she notices, I am quiet, I am shy, I have little response to her musings. She keeps on going, on and on and on and on about this topic – enjoying it more, the more timid I become. Finally, at some point she says – you know, I think I have a little feeling about you. I’d like to talk about it. I hope it does not embarrass you. The whole key here is she keeps on getting my “buy in” – like she is trying to make it “okay” to talk about, like she is my friend, my confidant, like she is on my side, a nurturer, but, in truth she is loving opening me up in the gentlest of manners to deeper and deeper shame. So so so cruel but delivering it in and unbelievably gentle manner that make me open up and welcome my own destruction. Finally, and this is the icing on the cake so to speak. She warmly and cruelly has me repeat back each and every humiliation she delivers, correcting me when I misspeak. “Come sweetie, one more time now”, as she slowly reduces me to tears. “Awwwww, let it out now” and then “Okay lets get back to it, hmmmmmmm, sweetie” and she has me repeat it, again and again and again.
Dear little guy, thank you so much for your comment!
Actually, you’re not alone…the desire for small penis humiliation is as varied as each individual. What you’re describing is a sort of erotic mindfuck or erotic humiliation . I think both are amazing examples of Power Exchange and require the *touch* of an Experienced Mistress. You’re describing the ability to have you welcome your own emotional collapse and that happens in the brain, so you need a smart (well read) Mistress with excellent communication skills. ~smiles~ I’m so glad you left that comment, thank you.
Dear Miss Olivia,
Thank you for your feedback (and expertise). I am increasingly interested in that term – “mind fuck” – I sorta get it though I guess what exactly it means is pretty subjective? What do you think? My experience, if limited, w LDW has been so wonderful – I have learned much. I am no longer as concerned with “shocking a mistress” but, am more concerned with describing my “needs” as, for me it is almost more the delivery than the kink itself – or the delivery is the kink, I guess?
For me the mistress presents as if she is “helping me”. She is my nurturant comforter, making me feel safer and safer and safer. I am incredibly timid, nervous, afraid, – she has a dual presentation – soft, comforting at the precise time she is absurdly cruel – warmly and gently delivering me to destruction.
Example: “This is so hard, I am so embarrassed. I’m not sure I can do it”, me. “It’s okay sweetie, isn’t it? Isn’t it okay – to be a bit embarrassed with me”, mistress? “I’d like to know that you are able to be really embarrassed with me. It’ll be our little secret, hmmmmmm”, mistress. “You can do this honey, hmmmmm, can’t you”, mistress. “Uhh, uhh, uh, I uh guess so”, I stammer meekly. “Good girl” comes her comforting response.
See – it is the gentleness, juxtaposed, with utter cruelty I adore. Long slow pauses between staments – to let it all sink….way in. She enjoys, twisting the knife, so so slowly. Bringing me, eventually to a timid, pathetic, meltdown of tears and sniffles. She waits, patiently for the tears to subside. “Let’s get started – now, just how small is it”? Oh god, she has only just begun.
Hi little guy! To directly answer your question, “is the delivery the kink”? … So, you’re asking if it’s possible that talking about WHAT you want is your kink. Sure and ABSOLUTELY! ~laughs~ I’ll admit I was more than a little surprised at that when I first started in phone sex as a professional career. I would chat on IM and email with guys about what they want and various nuances of what they want etc etc etc and never get a call. What in the WORLD? ~laughs~ Okay, so I found out that for them (and apparently you if I’m understanding you correctly) it’s the telling of the kink or fetish is IS the point of sexual arousal.
Now that I’ve gotten very clear about that and no longer get tricked into *freebies* I find I love hearing about all the nuances in a session.
I adore the erotic mindfuck. I’m not sure if I’ve already sent you this link but take a look at this blog about the mindfuck and see if that “resonates” with you.
And, keep writing blog comments. I’m more than happy to read, head and comment here … if you get off…that’s fine….you’re not graphic so enjoy yourself! That’s what the blog and all the other free stuff in LDW land is all about! 🙂
Hi Miss Olivia,
Thanks! I think I am probably explaining this poorly. No, what I meant was – the tone of voice, the pace – meaning “the delivery” seems key to me. No, I actually do not like the “telling of it” – that seems to distract. Sorry for my inept description. Look forward to speaking to you soon! Take Care
Ohhhhhh! See now, that’s the danger of written communication! I’m sorry I didn’t get that 🙂 But you know, it IS true, for some people the whole turn on is when they tell and talk about the fantasy. Now that you’ve explained with you mean I can totally see that. Tone and pacing is always critical in an aural fantasy. I know it is even more important with the mindfuck and erotic humiliation because voice work can be used so effectively to catch you “off guard.” Part of that is the cognitive dissonance of the sweet tone and the wicked content! Done right it will wipe out anyone! ~evil grinz~ Just sayin’.
Yes! Exactly! And, for me, the more extreme that dissonance – the softer the tone, the slower the voice juxtaposed with the meaner more humiliating and………….matter of fact, the words………the better! Yes, I DO hear you – even if I am a bit nervous, well, alot.
~cuckles~ Awwww, little guy…don’t worry…..every-thing-is-going-to-be-just-fine. There, there. Isn’t that better? You just leave everything up to Me.
Dear Ms Olivia,
I have to admit – when I first responded to this blog post I did it somewhat casually. But you have caused me to think. I practically meditated on this earlier today. I don’t know if this realtes fully to the question of is a mistress ever shocked? But, perhaps more to can she or does she know or understand this? Is this “usual” or “different”. I thought long and hard about what makes a fantasy truly, truly over the top special for me. A real life example came to mind. Perhaps the very most erotic experience of my life. I was in my early 20’s and by the grace of god had snagged a date with a lady who was quite, quite beautiful and, perhaps, a bit “over my head”. We went out to a cafe had dessert and coffee and went back to my apartment. I’ll spare ya all the details but at one point as we sat there talking on my sofa she looked at me intently and said, “This may sound odd, but, believe it or not, I actually have a sort of soft spot for under endowed guys”. Well, I coulda just about passed out. What?! We were totally dressed. Nothing was “sexual” or had not been, whatsoever. She simply looked at me (more like thru me) and delivered this statement. I felt totally frozen. I had nothing to say. It was like she had taken my tongue. I felt like anything I had to say about the matter was a total non-consequence. It was a fact. This may sound odd, it almost does even to me, but I felt like she “owned me”. I don’t think I thought this at the time but reflecting back on it I have/had a total urge to say “yes, mam” – but softly, demurely. I blushed the deepest crimson (or so it felt). My date noticed this and put her hand on my cheek, “Awwwwwwww”, she said. I don’t know when it developed but, when a lady says, “Awwwwww” in that sorta “aren’t you kinda pathetic” kinda way – it undoes me – just that single soft word. We did kinda stay somewhat friendly and go out a couple times after that – though, perhaps for obvious reason, i never became a real boyfriend. The memory of that single event burns in my mind.
So, what was it, I thought? I am not sure but, I think it was/is partly her total “possession” of reality of the “truth”. Like, “What”! She had not even seen me naked but she had “decided” about me just by talking to me (hmmmm perhaps, thus my interest in phone sex?). So, to your point, for me it is that total dissonance – the delivery cannot be too soft or too gentle or too slowly paced. At the same time the abject “ownership” or cruelty or control or dominance canot be too strong. She cannnot be “too mean”.
Lastly – and I think this is more of a thought from one of your other posts but relates here. Though I like the “utter maternal gentleness”. I do like a shot of ramped up mean in there. IE
“I thought I asked you something”? She injects – in a suddenly “out of character” mean tone, interrupting the gentle flow of soft control.
It is also the same for me – (as prior in this post) if a mistress kinda outa the blue says – “good girl”. It’s like “What”?! She just “decides” with no consultation from me. No choice. No nothing. All the decision is completely hers. I cannot object even if I wanted to. It is that “frozen state”, I think, that is most erotic to me.
I am trying here but not totally sure I am describing what I am trying. Any thoughts?
Thanks for writing all that and you describe it quite well! That’s the mindfuck! ~laughs~ In your case, where the soft voice/tone is the opposite of the words themselves…..but it’s also situational. Really, it’s the deliciousness of the buildup and the orchestration! You describe it just fine!