Erotic humiliation is an art form. It requires an Experienced Mistress who knows how to get inside your head and really make you squirm. It’s a specific sexual kink that walks the fine line between pain and pleasure. My very special pet describes it as a ‘rollercoaster feeling.” Phone sex is a fantastic way to find out if erotic humiliation arouses you.
What a phone sex caller has to say about erotic humiliation
pet describes the rollercoaster: “The feelings are fear, anxiousness, once you’re going up the hill there are thoughts of “why am I doing this? Am I crazy?” But in the middle it’s fun and exciting. And, when it’s over, you’re glad you did it and want to do it again. But, then it’s scary again. Sometimes you look at the rollercoaster and chicken out a few times but if you’re really drawn to it eventually you’ll ride the ride.”
What happens during the RIDE of erotic humiliation?
Generally it’s participatory. The Mistress has you do something that you wouldn’t ‘normally’ do. (For Me, anything in public has to be legal, safe and sane.) For example, there’s an amazing feeling (for Me and you) about making a man wear panties or dress in women’s clothing that goes beyond just the sensual pleasure of simply crossdressing as an erotic experience. Dressing a man in panties is a very FUN way to inspire that rollercoaster feeling of erotic humiliation. When this is done on cam with Me watching it becomes erotic public humiliation that is highly charged.
A caller describes his first roleplay call with me
I was very stern on this call (yes I have a sensual voice and can be very commanding with it). He was on cam. We’ve talked before in the Community Kink Adult Chat Room but we really had a chance to ‘connect’ on IM before the call itself.
He says he experienced, “… the rush of excitement when i had to slip those panties on in front of you when i was hard. Hearing your laugh was just a feeling of ecstasy. But i still couldn’t believe it — earlier I was called the handsome man wearing my guy clothes now here i am in front of a gorgeous woman in a pair of ladies panties then a dress. The feeling is hard to describe — it’s a mix of ecstasy, horniness, but complete humiliation and loss of control at the hands of your mistress.”
Part of the experience of erotic humiliation is when you are *ordered* or *made* to do something you find embarrassing. One man recalls, “I remember the first time I had to tell the Victoria Secret salesgirl I was buying panties for myself but didn’t know what size I wore….. my stomach was in my throat, I was sweating and blushing, and my legs felt rubbery. When I was doing it I was very excited. Part of that was knowing that someone (Mistress!) was on the phone listening. When I was done I was very happy. ”
He got hard just TELLING Me about his first experience with public humiliation. Then I got a phone call and stopped IM-ing with him; he wrote to tell Me that he jerked off and shot a fantastic load of cum just from the memory. That is how powerful this is for those who are attracted to the sexual kink.
Is this exciting to YOU? I’d love to hear about your experiences.
Ms Olivia
Interesting, MsOlivia. Humiliation is something I’ve pondered because it seems to be a hot topic ’round these parts. I’ve come to the conclusion though that it’s not something I like. That may be because I don’t see it the same way as others do. (Hey, Vive Le Difference, n’est-ce pas?) To me, humiliation is a bad thing, not something that takes me on the referred-to thrill ride. I associate humiliation with punishment if given to correct a behavior, or as teasing/bullying when given by those who feel the need to pump themselves up by putting others down.
Now that doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy the submission and perhaps even some of the trappings that others would find humiliating so perhaps it is the idea of humiliation itself that I do not like for the above association. Giving myself completely to a Domme I would certainly find exciting. You mentioned the case of wearing panties. While that’s not something I have a fetish for at all, it is something I would do if commanded to by a Domme. I just don’t find it humiliating because it would be something I would be doing for Her in my submission. The same might go for being used as Her footstool while She chatted with others. I’ve wondered about an OTK spanking and while I think it may border on humiliation, it need not be so if my warm and red ass serves to make Her happy.
To me, being submissive is about pleasing. I’d want to be cherished for what I give but I would not want to be degraded for it.
I hope I didn’t highjack this too much, though You do know my proclivity to digress. 🙂
magnus….YES YES YES YES YES !!!!
Your point is EXACTLY what I’m talking about !
There is the *BLEH* kind of humiliation that’s sort of yelling and angry voice….(( that sounds like *dating* or a RL relationship )) …. THEN there is the fine tuned erotic humiliation of an experience mistress who knows exactly WHICH buttons to push with you …. and then pushes those buttons (it’s totally individual) …..Now, magnus….. *yanks you down across My thighs* …. and *strokes your bottom with My lovely fingertips* … you KNOW magnus that I’m going to make SURE that you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about *slap…..swat….smack* …. ohhhh….*shifts hips up and down and up and down* Mistress loves her pets!
Ms Olivia,
The rollercoaster analogy is a good one–kudos to “pet” for his eloquence.
Personally, I think erotic humiliation is very stimulating when it is an appetizer or condiment, rather than the entree. On the calls I have done, when we enter a kinky or vulnerable area whether in conversation or a roleplay and the Mistress (rhetorically) asks “this is turning you on, isn’t it”, I find that very erotic.
As far as the topic of being “made” to do something, it seems like there is alot of debate about that regarding freewill. I think that when it comes to kinky things, to go Freudian here, the id is probably often in a battle against the ego and the superego, and a Mistress’ guidance can sometimes put the id over the top in a specific moment regarding real behavior, though not if a latent curiousity reagarding that behavior was not already present.
Great to see you blogging again…
*giggle* Thank you Castaway….yes, It is good to be blogging !! I’ve taken a hiatus as you can see … but, now I’m back. THANK YOU for taking your time to write a comment. *nods* YES, pet is *known* for his eloquence…this is one of *several* reasons why I do adore him so. As many of you know…..I don’t think a sexual submissive is *less than* Mistress …. the dynamic of Erotic Power Exchange is such that we are equal but NOT….does that make sense? pet is a full man in many ways…and when I am in control *sexually* then he does, of course, what Mistress wants…..FUCK that is so HOT !!! …. but, frankly, if pet were a wuss with no backbone then it wouldn’t be all that much FUN for Mistress….((just sayin’)). And Castaway, VULNERABLE is on the edge of sexual play…..YUMMY !!! …. I personally think that it doesn’t get any better than that !…..I love edge play.
I am not for sure but I think te Victoria Secret thing was about me. I truly thought that MIstress Olivia had forgotten about me. BUt now I feel so privileged to be part of her post. My firest time talking to Mistress was very scary because of her beautiful voice and the thought that really I wish someday to just be in the presence of a beautiful woman like this. Yes the sales girl thing at VS was exhilerating for me but very much worth the experience and still get hard just wearing the Panties and thinking about her voice. Almost like the panties are the thing that is put into my mind and makes me think girly for her. I think she mesmerized me and made me think this way.
I love you Mistress Olivia
Precious Cara…..that quote wasn’t about you….but, it could be couldn’t it? After all you KNOW I love to put a man in panties and show him just what a lovely sissy he is for Mistress? You know I do !! And when I make you go into a lingerie store and shop for panties …. especially when you are on the phone with Me and I hear you asking the Lingerie sales girl for panties for you…..OHHhhhhhhhhh…..I love that ! Honey, I adore you and I’m so grateful that you are willing to let this experienced mistress push your boundaries and MORE ! Hugs Cara … My lovely girl !
I truly was excited when I called Mistress Olivia the first time when she answered she made me feel so relaxed but she was so in control of all emotions I had and the thoughts I was about to have. I wanted her to take control though but I did not figure it would be so quick. She even called and made the appointment for me at Victoria Secret with the Manager, told her my name and told her what she wanted me to get. I would have never done this if she would not hav emade me feel so comfortable with the idea and made it sound so exciting for me to experience. Since then I feel the necessary urge to go into every Victoria Secret I can and look at everything until a Sales Lady asks me if I need help. Now it feels natural for me to go in and ask for a bra fitting.
Thank You Mistress Olivia I wish I could marry you or at least serve you better.
Lovely Cara…..here’s the deal….YOU are special and unique….AND I am, perhaps, the first to VALUE you for your sexual attributes …. you, of all people KNOW that pushing your boundaries and making you go in to buy the panties….and telling them that the panties are for you, a man….well, what can I say? That makes Me totally wet and *quivering* … YOU know what you do to Me. When I put your in panties, I can feel each and ever movement and swelling of your sissy stick and I love to stimulate your sissy clitty and make you HOWL with sexual arousal in your panties!
what you say about hte rollercoaster is so true, there might not be any rhyme or reason as to why you are doing this but it is erotic, listening to your words carefully doing as told, and that laugh of your makes for a fantastic fantasy/reality.
Sexy sultry Mistress at her BEST….cock teasing….and specializing in cock control. You have experienced what I can do…..and now, dearest, let’s push your limits….THERE is where the amazing *stuff* of the sensual, sexy orgasm is…and is NOT. Don’t you want to find out just WHERE your sensual erotic limits are? I know I do !!! LOL….you know what I mean !!! And sweetie, you KNOW I know exactly what you need 🙂 Right NOW and more !!!
Olivia.
*chuckle*
precious pet …. now you KNOW that Mistress has all kinds of special *things* planned for you…..oh yes, dear readers …. I will be *away* playing with pet/slut and then back here for you in the New Year. Now, don’t you want to hear ALL about My kinky vacation? …. maybe if you’re really really really *good* (or bad! LOL) I might actually let you speak to pet/slut …. he is such a dear snuggly wonderful man as pet and then….ohhhhh, as slut…..such a very nasty sexual slut for Mistress……what can I say, I ADORE you pet/slut…..you have my/My heart ! And the music flows through more than just my/My veins !!!
Yes, I love getting on cam and being sensually humiliated. I think like most, the more we get excited the more we are willing to do.. The inhibitions go down…and yes, I don’t care what I have to do as long as you let me release at the end. And yes, we know we will feel embarressed afterwards…but in that moment…it just seems so damn exciting…..sometimes once you say what we have to do…and you play with us and say “I don’t know”….we will start to beg to do it…please please mistress….please let me do XXXXXXXX (some very embarressing thing). I call this the shame factor or shame hangover. While I am doing it I feel no shame…I just feel excitiment and pleasure….but after release……when the heart starts to slow down…when we are finally able to catch our breadth……and when we finally have a normal thinking logically brian…that when it hits. And what I have found is that the worse the shame hnagover is…the better the call was.
plunger boy……AMAZING comments and insights…..in fact, you’ve inspired Me to do a followup post on the topic of the link between male sexual arousal and the decrease in inhibitions.
You are soooooooo right ! And, that’s where I’ve found the *art* and the artistry of erotic humiliation really comes into play.
I’m going to do that post right now so please do look for it right here on My blog.
THANK YOU for taking your time to leave a comment 🙂
Well hello Olivia,
Here’w what happened to me……I was forced to worship my wife in public on my knees, when suddenly my ex came by with some friends…..oooohhhhhhh it was really “bad” at the beggining, but after a while it felt fantastic…..everybody laughing at me and I was made to admit many humilitaing things……..Hope this would be something everybody would like….
Dear George…..based on our erotic sessions…..I DO know how aroused you are with just the right style of erotic humiliation.
In fact, I ‘m really excited about our next session …. are you already having erotic fantasies about My lovely feet in those cowboy boots…..and then being told to worship My boots….My sexy legs …… ummmm, and more.
Of course, I will *still* do all kinds of other kinky things to you …. being allowed to worship your Mistress is just part of the kinky sex conversation. *wink* I’ll tell you ALL about it, later 🙂
Wow, Erotic humiliation on cam is the best. It can go many ways. But the key thing is it is 1 of the best ways for it to be about what mistress wants. In my case, it is so much about her reaction. i am usually “stuck” So that i am at Mistresses whim. then to hear her laugh at me being pathetic is amazing. It drives home that it is about her. She often sets up the scenerio & me up to fail. Then she laughs when i fail. So it is active as she does it to me & then a helpless feeling as there was nothing i could do to avoid it. Of course there is also the very upsetting part of your mind asking yourself why you are reacting this way. Embarrassed & turned on at the same time. & wanting more. This is a GREAT topic. & i think cause it kinda involves everything. & anything can be embarrassing. i know that doesn’t explain it completely but it does sorta. Do it! It is great & Ms Olivia (& so many of the ladies) is GREAT at it.
toy
Why thank you toy….and it’s difficult to type when you’re *stuck* like that….isn’t it? :: giggle ::
I love watching you squirm and TRY to do what you know you want to do, but CAN’T. And, then to keep doing My sensual and, alternately, stern cock teasing. I sooooo enjoy watching you squirm some more. Ahhhhhh The total erotic pleasure of a great phone sex call gets even better when you use your cam and I can SEE you. I was going to say you’re trying your HARDEST to get the orgasm release you crave…..but, then, toy….tsk, tsk……HARD isn’t accurate is it ? ROFLOL !!!! Ahhhhh….the submissive pleasure of orgasm denial through chastity.
*snicker*
Hello mistress feeling so good to share my expereance with u all. Actually, humiliation is must 4 all sissy bcus when they get sissyfied in public is really great fun for sissy. I especially love it hen I go to mall for shopping of lingries, ladies make up, clothes, bra, petticoats etc.. N love to wear pantyhose inside my jeans. All my jeans are low so every one can see it.
When i do some work so its like fun for me but after all mistrees role is very important in all sissy’s life bcus sissy life is really very dark without mistress .
When mistress punish for mistakes its really great fun for all sissys specially for me. I just love when mistress dnt allow sissy to cum. Its great fun for me to begg on my knees to mistress for allowing me for my cum . But when i dressed up i feel so weak n soft like real girl n i jus love to do all house hold work in kitchen wearing girlish clothes and fully dressed up.
But i wana add one thing hear i think obedient sissy alwys dnt touch their cock without permission of mistress n even i dont dare to do that .. Thanks mistress …for every sissy specially for me i think humilation is really great think when i get humilated by mistress or any girls they laugh. i enjoy that feeling ..thank u mistress …
Hello sissy pet……
you bring up erotic humiliation and you’ve left a great comment about sissy humiliation and sissy assignments that are turnons for you. All of this is good information for this Experienced Mistress because the more I can get into your head/brain the better your session will be. Good pet.
thx for the hot web cam call mixed with sexy small penis humiliation. with the worlds smallest penis many calls can be to much humiliation and name calling, etc…. but you were so right on with laughing and makeing fun of me but also you read my Q&A i sent and talked about what gets me off. i can’t wait to webcam you again. the best call in years love, thank you big time. littlerod
@ littlerod — you really DO have the cutest darn little wennie I’ve ever seen ! And believe Me, doing small penis humiliation, I see a LOT of little dicks! LOL Performing for a beautiful Mistress who laughs at you …. SPH in general …. or your unique take on the sensual humiliation aspects of your call and cam session brings out the BEST in you, doesn’t it? LOL
And YES I do read the Phone Sex Pre-Call Questionnaire that you send to Ms Ally (the Head Mistress) to get her recommendations for the best ‘fit’ for you. On the same page you can find how to access what we call our Cock Concierge (roflol). We’re very serious about your dick! *chuckle*
I’m thrilled you enjoyed our call and cam and I’m really looking forward to SEEING you again.
Now (using stern tone) get out that bullet vibrator …… and …… *chuckle*
Mistress Olivia,
I think a little humilliation is great during a call. I have a serious crossdressing fetish that I hope to discuss with you soon. I’m really looking forward to you giving me some sissy assignments that involve humilliation. The thrill, shame, embarrasment all make my cock hard which in turn makes the orgasm more intense
Hi Den……what’s your femme name?
Also, I did a blog post on Erotic Humiliation on Cam that you might enjoy!
LOL
We’ve also got a free site for sissy assignments. The free sites never have the personal touch (so to speak) of a Mistress tailoring the humiliation right to you and your unique sexual/psychological/erotic psyche …. but, it is still fun.
I’m looking forward to getting to *know* you !
Thanks Mistress Olivia! My femme name would be Megan. She has very expensive taste in lingerie 🙁 and at times I think she might be kinkier than my male half? Naw, that’ll never happen, but maybe you can decide for yourself when I call you Mistress 🙂 ?
Hi megan ! ROFLOL !!!……so, your femme side has very expensive taste in lingerie? As you can tell from some of My post…..I adore the European Lingerie Designers. I love the fit, style and expensive fabrics. Tell Me…..do you have a favorite lingerie designer?
I hear the most interesting and amazing things on My phone sex calls!
Obviously this blog isn’t the place for details of all your sex secrets…..but I must say, I can’t wait to hear them!
LOL Just how kinky IS megan AND your male half?
*wink*
Hi,
Okay cum eating I can understand as erotic humiliation. I love to eat eat cum, whether it’s another man’s or my own.
I guess that’s humiliation. Humiliation or not, I certainly don’t mind it!
I’m still confused. Is it really humiliation if I don’t feel embarrassed?
xxx,
Jenni
Hi Jenni, thanks for your comment! Nope, the cum eating is just the ‘method’ I used to describe one way of erotic humiliation. Others will find putting on panties humiliating in a sexy way. With anything kinky, there is the psychology of the play and then the physical actions of the play. Erotic humiliation is the emotional part of the play or the psychology. You’re not into that at all so, in this case, the actions (cum eating) would not apply to you. In fact, nothing I describe in this blog would be your thing at all! ~smiles~ Remember, in matters of taste (bad pun intended) reactions are individual, unique and okay!
If you’d like to check out My cum eating blog with Ms Violet, we’d love to *see* you there as well 🙂 Plus, you get different photos! ~grinz~ Ahhh, such rewards, don’t you think?