Clothes and the Femdom
What is it about panties that makes such a tiny bit of fabric sooooooo ….. of all the words that come to mind, POWERFUL sums it up the best, doesn’t it? This is what it means to be a Femdom. Talking about and teasing with the various panty styles is one of the keys to phone sex!
What is it for you? What do YOU love about a great pair of panties?
The look? The feel? The way the little bits of lace and silky fabric make you YEARN? Is it, perhaps, the way panties can bring you to your knees, quite literally in the form of male submission as the Femdom Mistress drives you crazy with cock teasing sensuality?
I asked about the power of panties in a poll and got a lively response from the folks in our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire. The pantie poll results show …. wait for it …. panties are very popular! ~laughs~ Okay! No surprise there! I like the overall poll results ‘data’ but MY favorite part of any poll (or blog) is always YOUR COMMENTS. The comments were so great, I got inspired to write this post.
Power of the silky, sexy panty
Kel wrote an insightful comment after taking the time to look up the definition of fetish. Here’s kel’s comment:
“Fetish (n) 1. an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.”
That’s the archaeological or sociological definition of course, and not the way it is used as much these days.
Anyway, it is amazing what influence a simple piece of cloth can have. And how that same exact piece of cloth would have no effect on someone not from our culture (or close to it). ”
I think everything is symbolic. Panties are just a very good demonstration and proof of that 🙂
I totally agree kel! I’ve done posts on the use of panties as an Experienced Mistress. Just because you like to be put in panties doesn’t mean you’re a crossdresser or a sissy. But lingerie is a powerful identifier for those who want to switch to en efemme crossdressing. For example, a new member of the Enchantrix Empire page on Facebook is Tatjanalove who posted this about her love of a particular style of panty, the THONG!
Tatjanalove says: “Just the feel of a nice thong between my cheeks takes me away from the prison of maleness into the wonderful world of femininity!”
Who doesn’t love a sexy thong? Witness the photo *wink* that got your attention. Oh yes, I can *work* a thong! All this brings Me to the final point, a comment from candygurl and it made Me laugh out loud!
Candygurl: “Panties are like a swiss army knife, so many uses from one tool.”
Tell Me about some memorable experiences you’ve had with sexy panties! Post your comments here and then go take care of the wet spot! *nods* Gotcha! ~kiss~
One final note, I’m on vacation for a week (you can check My schedule page) and will answer your comments and your ~ahem~ needs when I get back. *wink*
Ms Olivia
first off, that picture!!!! Be right back. Ok now that is taken care of and I can use both hands to type…
I’ve never had a particular thing for panties, but in my online/on cam experiences I have been told to use them. To me I think the main reason it is sexy is because it is intimate apparel for a woman, and in my case all the panties I’ve used have belonged to someone that can turn me on in a second. So I think that added to the experience, I know in my head that when I get that close to panties, I’m that close to other things I like to interact with :).
One fun thing I’ve done is swapped underwear with my wife. The first time was getting out of bed one morning and getting dressed and just jokingly saying, let’s switch underwear for the day. It made for a very sexy day, and womens’ panties don’t hold things in place like boxer briefs do.
Damn there is that picture again….chat later.
I’m laughing so hard right now wellspanked! That is a delightful description of the power of panties! ~laughs~ Panties and phone sex ROCK!
I would laugh and elaborate, but that picture
*wink* thanks wellspanked! Stay tuned for more sexy photos. I’m really groovin’ on the power of panties! ~laughs~ I do phone sex but, of course, I do recognize the ….. ahem …. power of sexy visuals to …. ahem …. INSPIRE! ((take all the time you need))
simply put….panties are the giftwrap of the human form. like quality giftwrap they shine and beguile with their own beauty, but take on greater meaning when put to use.
on the Female form, they area a promise and portent, hinting at the (with apologies to Hieronymus Bosch) Garden of Earthly Delights contained therein. they’ll yield to the gentle slide of fingers or shred to urgency. they are the gateway to worship and bliss.
on the male form, they “civilize” that most carnal of appendages. in that way, they symbolize the domestication of the male instinct more completely, more simply, more personally, and more effectively than anything i can conjure. to be in panties FOR a woman, is to offer up yourself for Her.
WOW ! This is a fantastic comment coffeeboy! I recognize the truth of your articulation — I knew it intuitively before but now, after thousands of phone sex sessions I can say with *scientific* certainty that what you’ve said is TRUE!
A great blog post! It’s true there are many types of panty fetishes. Your descriptions of the power of panties coupled with that “oh so hot pic” accompnaying this post is evocative of so many desires. Myslef, I imagine having the pleasure of that rear view before and extended round of ass worship! Thanks again for posting this!
Thanks Mike! Oh, I’ve got some GREAT and very sexy panties photos coming up! Even with phone sex, the visuals that attract the eye are important! 🙂
Well for me panties have been used to humiliate and control me, spending time in chastity for Miss Bella I was made to through out all mt make underway and wear panties as a 4″ dick is not a mans dick so was not allowed to wear man underwear.
I found this very exciting and found that boy shorts were my fav, lacy ones, I think this was beacuse they still have support while the lace rubbed my balls that were waxed clean and exposed by my CB3000. Made it more frustrating.
I have found that panties have a powerfull symbolisam with the D/s relationship even for a sun that has not interest in cross dressing, but it was the thrill and humiliaton of buying and wearing thoese panties for a goddess like Miss Oliva or Miss Bella that pushed my submission to new heights
ps. Have a great holiday Miss Oliva and please please please let me have you pussy when you get back 😉
~laughs~ Thanks for writing marlow 🙂 I love your description of the power of panties in terms of male submission. I’ve seen the power of a sexy thong, and of course, what’s inside, when I’ve done phone sex calls with you….and I know that Ms Bella is a master Mistress at creating the happy frustration you enjoy! 🙂
The things that I have fetishes for are women’s feet, legs, ass, and panties. These “objects” go hand-in-hand with my orgasm denial training. It is through these “objects” that women keep control of my penis and testicles, within the framework of sexual potency AND female domination. In the case of the panties, I like the sensation of the soft fabric on the head of my penis and scrotal sack.
Thanks for posting a comment cum filled balls…..you’re right, a Mistress can (and does) use a variety of sexual techniques to *control* a male submissive. I make use of the various kinds of panties (style, fabric, etc.) in a phone sex call and, like you’ve said, it’s the combination of sexual potency AND Female Domination that makes it such an amazing experience. Thanks for writing ! 🙂
Hi MsOlivia! I too have been on vacation for a bit as well so I missed Your original poll. I hope Your vacation was as wonderful as You are.
Sooooo, panties. I must say that I love them as well. Why though? I agree that they are just some small amount of material, as any garment really, but I do see that they are loaded with symbolism. For starters, they can be seen as a gateway of sorts. They are meant to cover that most wonderful treasure known to man. Just a thin layer or silk, cotton, nylon, or some other material separates the woman’s most special place from the world.
You mentioned how panties can be symbolic of emasculation, and while that’s not my own thing, I can certainly see it. A man forced to wear panties, women’s underwear, is put into a special place of humiliation. (Which some of those men enjoy.)
What’s a post from me without at least one digression. So here are two to make up for lost time.
Do men who enjoy the humiliating aspect of wearing panties also enjoy the humiliation of holding a woman’s purse while she changes i a dressing room? I suppose the men can be wearing panties at the same time, but that’s optional. I’d be curious on that.
And second, I have to disagree with Tatjanalove about thongs taking away maleness. I love wearing thongs though I wear men’s thongs, sometimes made from metal as You well know. 😉 I find that feeling to be sexy, which I don’t think is the exclusive domain of women. Not to mention I like the way my ummm, assets are shown. 🙂
Ahem, back to panties. Another symbol I thought about is almost dimetrically opposite and that’s a symbol of surrender. The giving over of a woman’s panties, taking them off before other *things* take place. That may not fit in with the topic of domination and panties, but I thought for thoroughness, and it’s what I’ve thought of while watching porn, I should include it. 🙂
Now since the topic of Your post is the femdom power of panties, I didn’t want to not speak of that. And… I saved it for last, yeah, that’s it. 🙂 I just mentioned the taking panties off a woman as a surrender, but it need not be. No reason a Mistress could not have her panties removed with Her totally in charge. Perhaps an adoring slave on his knees using his teeth to pull them down slowly, agonizingly slowly, wondering if he’ll get to enjoy further any of the fruits of his labors. Maybe, maybe not. 😉
*waves* Hi magnus!
I think that since panties are SYMBOLIC hey can be symbols of of anything…..of desire, of emasculation, of the threshold of the pussy, of surrender. And, you’ve identified quite well something that I recognize that I do on phone sex calls or sessions. I’ll ask some leading questions (no surprise there!) and then begin to ‘map out’ where the caller is placing the panties on his own unique symbolic map. Each encounter is sexy to Me in the simultaneous ways of geeky research/reporting and sensuality. ~laughs~ You totally get that though don’t you? Anyone who would wear metal thongs, gets the seemingly opposites that combine to total erotic pleasure!
Hey!
Now, I’m going to digress……~laughs~ …. you mentioned that you watch porn. What do you like to watch? Do you like BellaDonna? I follow her on Twitter and I really like and respect her. Like most of us, she is way more then the sex antics (which ARE sexy!) …. but, that woman has real depth and creativity. Do you know her work?
I’ve digressed so much, it’s only fair for You to do so too, MsOlivia. Of course, it’s Your blog and I know better than to say no anyway. 😉
I’ve not heard of BellaDonna before though I did look her up on Wikipedia. I do very much like the depth there. I know not all porn “acresses” do have any there, but I like it when there are. It makes me think of Sharon Mitchell, whom I did enjoy her performance, but she also now works to help keep current actors/actresses safer from disease, et al.
As for what I like, I guess it shouldn’t be a surprise that I would enjoy watching BDSM videos and foot fetish videos. However, I also still really like the more classic days of porn, at least when I was in college. Ginger Lynn will forever be more favorite porn star and now I can enjoy her MILF years as well. 🙂
Thanks for looking up BellaDonna! Magnus, you should check out her membership site….she has LOTS of foot fetish clips on there! My guy was the one who turned Me on to her and then I got to *know* her by following her on twitter…..*laughs* …. now we’re BOTH fans….so much so that I actually got him a membership to her site for his birthday! ~laughs~ You should take a look, I think you’d find the images ….. ahem …. stimulating! ~laughs~
I’ve been delightfully busy on phone sex calls …. but, I haven’t forgotten you and your audio about sexy shoes for the foot and leg fetish blog post and audio. *wink* *wink* Oh and I totally agree with you Ginger Lynn is a CLASSIC …..amazing talent 🙂
It really is hard to walk into a department store and not walk by and look at the panties. They look like loving gifts from the gods. Almost purely sexual beings. Ok, Maybe i got carried away there! LOL
~laughs~ Well, sissyjack, it is very EASY to get carried away while looking at some sexy panties! I’ve done phone sex sessions that are “nothing” but looking at, talking about, shopping for and then ….. ohhhhhhhhh, wait for it …… ahhhhhhhhhh …… slipping into a silky pair of panties…..OH! Just sayin’ these little tiny bits of fabric and lace can move …. ahem….mountains.
Physically Panties feel amazing and arousing. Mentally Panties put me in my place as a submissive to a Woman.
Great description little luke……~laughs~ …. tell Me MORE about how you see your submissive place! Until we do a phone sex call, we’ll chat here about your role as a submissive male! I love to hear all about it 🙂
Mistress Olivia
I’ve only just found this blog post and am overjoyed at rerding it. Of course as you well know sheer sexy panties are my absolute turn on.
It started for me as ((younger)) and got more intense when I met that sexy cock teaser friend who simply loved to tease me with sexy views of her smooth silky panties!
Another “experience” I had was in a clothing shop where this stunning statuesque blonde worked. She was both beautiful and very sexy – like you. I was walking past her once and she was eyeing out the lingerie. As I past her watching her avidly she sexily picked up a sheer shiny thong holding it up by the straps against the light inspecting the fabric and style closely.
I’m absolutely certain she was aware of the effect that this had on all the males in the vicinity in terms of imagining her wearing these and what an incredible picture she would be wearing them.
Panties are extremely powerful as you say and most of my thoughts on why have been stated above.
The sheer feel of them stretched over a beautiful woman’s curves filmy to the touch and tight is a wonder to experience. Of course a thong is a wonderful garment and the strip up between lovely ass cheeks looks and feels sensational – not only to one’s hands but also to rub another part of one’s anatomy against!
Wearing silk thong panties is also a sensual and wonderful experience for me providing filmy feathery containment and sexy stimulation when moving or writhing a little. (ooops – yes writhing with excitement!?).
Lastly oral sex through panties can be excrutiatingly exciting for a woman – presumably because of the sheer little barrier preventing penetration, yet the stimulation can still happen resulting in giving a lot of pleasure whilst being ‘teased’ as the male. The barrier preventing male access presumably is erotically exciting for some woman whilst doing this.
Thanks for this – your picture above is incredibly erotic and teasing also!
Panteezd
REALLY? OMG pan-teezd I thought you’d already seen this blog post! ~laughs~ I think THIS was the blog post that I posted on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire that first caught your ….. ahem ….. attention! THANK YOU so much for your comment! I love hearing about where an erotic fantasy starts and how it grows (okay, that pun was intended!). Some people talk about this during their phone sex session and others post on My blog…..but, however you like to communicate, I WANT to hear so thank you for taking your time to write all that 🙂