I got a great question in a blog comment: “Around what age do you feel most men begin to explore other sexual ideas/new things and why?” This is the type of Mistress question that I love because it makes me think and I like that. I know from my own fetish exploration that it really is a journey … just like all of life. As each of us grow, we change and learn. I’m not the person I was in my 20’s and that’s a good thing. As we add years, we also add experiences and that means a more nuanced appreciation of life.
Feminization as an example
I’m going to use feminization as an example: I’ve always been non-judgmental about gender and curious how each person describes his or her gender. Being open allows me to explore many sexual role-play and feminization scenes from a position of acceptance, grace and joy. I know some vanilla women get freaked out if a man wants to explore his feminine side. I think those women are missing out on some amazing relationships.
Naughty and kinky
I’ve also noticed that erotic fantasy life changes. Just like you got tired of eating kid-friendly meals, you get tired of the same fantasy decade after decade. Here’s how one caller describes the thrill of the naughty:
“It wasn’t until recently that eating my own cum, being a sissy boy or possibly even sucking a dildo for the thrill-sucking the real thing will never happen for me..I’m not gonna reveal my age but I’m established professionally, work hard and have what most would call a typical kinda life. Who would ever know I’m dying to eat my own cum and can’t? “
When is the right time to reveal a sexual fantasy?
I’m going to post my answer in the next blog post because the caller asks a specific question about cum eating and his girlfriend. For now though I will say that anyone explores a new fetish because of various reasons: boredom, an adventurous spirit, it looks naughty. There are many reasons why and the question about WHEN to explore is this: Whenever the urge hits! ~laughs~ You had to see that answer coming, didn’t you?
Your Experienced Mistress,