Every time I ask you how much interaction you want before a phone sex session I’m always told, LOTS! So, it’s time to address that question. You can see from My blog that I’m generous with My time and attention. I like to answer questions, be a guide and even flirt with you on IM before a session.
The very things like make Me welcoming on IM can (and do) also limit My ability to do the free chats between calls! I want to explain this because yesterday several men on IM were trying to do the *warm up* to a session and then call — but they couldn’t get through to Me because of the guys that actually called while they were still warming up. For them, it became a not so sexy form of tease and denial!
Warm up before a session
I know that people like to do phone sex foreplay! LOL That’s the IM warm up. I get questions from sissies or crossdressers who ask, “Mistress what should I wear?” Regular callers will IM asking Me to create a new fetish fantasy or erotic scene for them on IM so they can think about it (stroke) before calling. Others will want Me to get them *in the mood* before they call. When you wait to book a session or call, you run the risk of not being able to get Me at all. I’m not advocating calling before you’re ready, but I do want you to know what your choices and options are so you can make informed and realistic decisions about what you DO want.
IM availability and what happens on My end
When I’m logged in I keep My yahoo IM set to available. You’re more than welcome to IM Me. This means that when I’m logged in I might have as many as a dozen different IM windows open, chatting with 10 or more people about a variety of topics. I interact with each person in rotation. That means there will be delays in My comments to each individual. And, when I get a call or a session I stop the free IM chat. So, from your end you’ve got delays and then gaps of time between My responses. I’m also not as *attentive* or *present* as I am in a session because I’m multi-tasking. If you’d like to wait, that’s fine! But if you get frustrated, you have options – you can get My total and undivided attention immediately with a sexy texting session or a call.
Creating a scene on free IM chat
Since I usually have multiple IM windows open and engaging in free chat on a variety of subjects I don’t create ‘new scenes’ for your fetish fantasies during the free IM chat. I’m not in the undivided headspace of YOUR erotic fantasy and I’m not going to shortchange My art of creating fantasy. If you want undivided attention and specific fantasy creation then that is available in sessions.
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Comments? Questions? Reaction?
Good Morning to you Ms Olivia
I found this rather interesting, as I know that having talked with you and traded e-mails, not to mention the not so often IM, that you are a very busy Lady.
That is why, and speaking for myself only, I try to keep my IM’s short. As you know, I do not mind waiting for a reply, and believe it or not I sometimes close the IM window on my end, because truthfully, sometime I do not expect a reply at all.
Now if I have sent you an IM that said “Goodmorning to the beautiful Ms Olivia” and I know I have….I’m not really looking for a reply, I am just looking to make you smile, by having you know that I not only took the time to say Good morning to you, but that I was thinking of you as well ( I must have been looking at your pictures 🙂 )
Sometimes I will say HI or Good Morning, followed by a question for you. Nothing I ask is never an emergency, so I do not mind waiting and you know that.
Ofcourse that is speaking just for myself, and I try not to take up alot of your free time, besides I know right where to find you if I need your undivided attention for say a hockey game or something 🙂 LOL
Because of my work, I never know when I might get an hour or so available for a call. Several times recently, I have tried to call just to talk. Unfortunately, you have been on “unlimited calls” or on one call with another waiting. I completely understand why you are so popular and in demand by callers. The operators are wonderful and usually suggest other Mistresses but I really wanted to have a great conversation with MS. O. Any suggestion?
Hello precious Jamie! Oh honey, I know what you’re talking about! I *do* get very busy on the phones and some of My phone sex calls aren’t even about sex so they’re LONG! My normal time is during the day until about 8 or 9 pm est (with breaks for workout and errands). I post My long weekend on the schedule page of My blog.
All that said, I do know you a bit and I really think you would *click* with Ms Violet (whom I adore personally and professionally), Ms Emma Jane and Ms Claire. I’m *sure* I’m leaving someone out! LOL (And I apologize!) But, start there. Each Lady has different ways of handling IMs …. for example, I stay *visible and available* on IM during the entire time I’m logged in and you can see when I’m on the phone by checking the status message. I’m not sure how each Mistress handles her IM availability when she’s logged in but try IM first and then send an email.
And I really hope OUR schedules coincide ….until we do, we’ll be kinky, thoughtful, loving PEN PALS! ~laughs~
Good evening Mistress Olivia,
Thank as You as always for the topic, as You know i really do adore our sexy texting sessions ( which due to the realities of married life ) have been a little infrequent of late. It makes my day when i get a reply to an IM from You. It is always nice to say hello and let You know i have been thinking of You.
When things ease up here a little then sexy texting sessions can become more regular again – how i long for that sweet day.
Mistress Olivia always takes time to reply and is everything one could want from a Mistress,
Awwwww precious starbaby………BEND OVER BITCH —- *swat* ! LOL ….. okay, I just wanted to make sure you’re paying ….. ahem …. ATTENTION! Oh MY! I see you’re standing right up aren’t you? ~laughs~
Well you know that you were My first sexy texting session three years ago. We both have grown and learned and become close! OF COURSE I write back when I can….and I do know your family situation right now so I love to give you lil *jolts* of creative phone sex Mistress fantasy out of the blue.
You are ALSO understanding when you IM and I can’t IM chat because I’m on a call or working on something. I appreciate THAT!
HUGS and *swat* …. adores My naughty lil bitch! 🙂
I find the IM system so useful, having been calling Mistresses at LDW for quite a long time know have found unless I can IM with the Mistress first I never enjoy the call as much, maybe it is getting me in the mood but I think more importantly it is about having a connection to that Mistress, it makes be feel part of her life if only in a small way and want to please her more when we d a call.
Sometimes I have missed out on calls but then that is a form of denial as well, maybe becuase I have a number of areas of play it need to give that pointer what I am up for today and as above sometimes it is just nice to say Hi to a Goddess like Ms Oliva, makes me feel submissive to her as I should be.
Missing out on a call is not all bad if you are even more frustrated for Mistress I find my limits can be pushed further.
I would say that the fact you can contact a Mistress before a call is one of the biggest assests for LDW againsts it competition as well.
Hi marlowecv3 !!! Thank you so much for leaving a comment on My blog.
Takes note…..hmmmmmm…….*nods* …. yes you DO like to be frustrated…..LOL! I might just *play* with you a tad on IM when I can! *snicker*
Seriously, I love our phone sex calls when our schedules *fit*. And, all the naughty conversations aside, I also love that you IM Me about music (you’ve got GREAT taste!), photography, hiking/travel and just general *stuff*. You are also really great when I can’t chat because I’m on a call or writing….which I always appreciate too!
Hugs and you STILL don’t get any pussy! *wink* I say that because I like you! ~laughs and turns to walk out of the room!~
MsOlivia, I do hope that You’re not receiving complaints that You’re not available 24/7 to talk on IM to get them in the mood. I agree with everything You wrote here. I know how busy You are and I’ll take this opportunity to thank You once again for Your responses to comments here. Each one is well written and thoughtful. I admit to looking forward to them but under no circumstances would I expect You to drop everything to write them. That would be silly. So I don’t like it if people without a clue would expect You to be at their beck and call (which of course You and I know You would not be anyway).
Anyway, I hope You have a wonderful day. *Hugs*
~laughs~ You’re so great magnus!
People actually are really great on IM….I don’t get many people who complain about anything with Me. ((Energentically, I don’t attract them!)) What prompted that post was that I was feeling badly about a series of really great guys (some regular callers) who wanted to do *warm up* and then kept missing the window of opportunity. There’s *good* tease and denial (frustration) and then there’s …. well, NOT so good. They SOOOO wanted the warm up before the phone sex call but by wanting the warm up on IM they missed the opportunity to call.
OMG, in that sense I really AM a *beck and call girl* …… LOL …. !
Ahhhh, now I’m laughing and can’t type! *snicker*
We’re really conditioned to get as much free stuff/lowest price as possible because it’s all about the consumer. That’s not always the best approach in the service sector because there are 2 people involved in the transaction. In the long run you’re better off letting the provider know you value their services and respect their time. That usually results in superior service.
Thanks for the amazing intro to phone sex.
I know I stammered a lot. But that was completely intentional. I was actually channeling Colin Firth in the King’s Speech before he got help. I thought it would add to the theatre of the mind of the call. I didn’t know if you picked up on the nuances of my performance but I thought I was quite brilliant.
Honestly I don’t remember anything after you asked if I had a cute tush. My next memory was waking up in a bar in Singapore several days later with a cross dressing lumberjack and his monkey named Maurice. Both great guys.
Glad it was not free. Completely worth it. Thanks.
ahhhhhhhh, John! THANK YOU for posting that comment!
You’re right, when someone wants Me to do *scenes* in the warm up then that does kind of make the call (for Me) anticlimactic…..in part, because I’m fielding so many IMs on different topics I’m not *present* to what I’m saying….it feels *rote* rather than creative to me. That’s actually why I stopped offering that…I couldn’t do it justice. I’m a fan of *free* stuff and enjoy doing it! But, I had to look and consider whether I wanted to give the illusion of actual one on one time on the free IM chat when My mind was multi tasking. I’m able to do that with information and questions …. but not fetish fantasy or scene setting. Finally, I decided the truth will out! LOL
NOW……to your phone call…..THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU !
~laughs~ Now, that you mention it, you DID do a dandy King’s Speech impersonation! LOL And, trust Me, I heard EVERY nuance and loved it! *wink* I know the crossdressing lumberjack and Maurice is a *special* friend! ~laughs~
You are SO FUCKING HOT and that call was AMAZING !!! I’m soooo glad I was your *first* phone sex call …. your reactions set every cell in my body to *zing* and *vibrate* !!!