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Looking for a phone sex Mistress
This is a series of blog posts on how to choose your perfect phone sex Mistress. You can use a variety of ways to check her out before your phone sex call. This series will have some general tips on where to find things in the LDW Group phone sex empire and how to communicate effectively with me, in particular.
Remember each Mistress is different so what you can expect from one woman you might not get from another woman.
Phone sex Live Help Desk
I don’t know if other phone sex companies have a Live Help recommendations desk, but LDW Group does. It’s not 24/7 coverage, but it’s damn close so you can IM with Ms Molly or Ms Cassidy and ask either one of them for a recommendation for a Mistress. You can also send in a phone sex pre call questionnaire to help you find a Mistress perfect for you.
Communicate with the Mistress directly
According to a poll I did on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire, less than 1 in 5 potential callers want to communicate via IM or email before a call. Each Mistress has different ways of managing her yahoo or skype IMs and her emails.
Ms Olivia and IM communication
I use Yahoo IM for sexy texting sessions. I use emails to stay in touch between calls. Here’s why I do this, I believe in something called the Science of Attention. This is not a new change but I’m going to highlight it here in this blog post.
Reason 1
I stopped giving away massive amounts of free IM time because of things like this: a guy does IM warm up with me, I get a call, he calls in but goes to another Mistress because she’s available and I’m on a call. I encourage going to other Mistresses because I know them, I like them and we all like variety. I will NEVER tell you you’re not ‘allowed’ to call others. But, I do think it’s rude to IM with someone that you’re not going to call and I don’t like that when that is done to me.
Reason 2
The other main reason (outside of the ability to focus) is that my call volume is such that I end up multi-tasking and disengaging from someone I care about and that hurts my heart. It also takes me out of my sexy place and I don’t like that. Even though I made these changes a year ago, I find myself needing to add clarity and make sure that you understand what you can expect from me and our relationship communication.
Instructions for getting a sexy texting session
I find myself writing these instructions multiple times a day so I’m going to include them here in this blog post.
If you want a sexy texting session with me, just get your session time on the sexy texting site. IM me the email you used when filling out the sexy texting form and I will set myself to busy so we don’t get interrupted. I’ll confirm your email with the Dispatcher and we’ll be good to go! You’ll get my undivided, personal and explicit attention and we will have a great time!
Please know that I stay logged in while you’re getting your time. If we get interrupted by a call or another IM session, I will let you know and then I’ll check back with you when I’m done. I used to logout each time someone said he ‘would’ get a session but I got burned too many times and have missed other calls. Now, I stay logged in until you know you’re ready.
What do YOU think of my changes in willingness to IM for free while I’m logged in for sessions?
Great post!! It is rude to im mistress then call another mistress. My problem is there are so many hot mistresses to choose from and I just have to make time to call. It’s not that I don’t have time it’s everyone in my family thinks I’m lonely and I’m not! It pisses me off when my family treats me like I’m 4. Plus it’s all business with family and little pleasure:( Calling mistress is something you don’t want to be open about. Not for me anyway:( believe me I want to call but just can’t find day/time to call. 🙁
thanks for your comment peter. Hey I like your blog comments, don’t worry about calling me, leaving blog comment is THE way to communicate with me outside of sessions.
I’ll leave comments as long as it involves you feminizing guys. Also very sexy picture in comment above blog!
Thanks peter! Love your comments on feminization here! 🙂
Great post Ms. Olivia, I think that most potential callers and even some of the current ones will benefit from this type of information. I think that we have some of the very best Mistresses of Phone Sex available right here at LDW, but no one Mistress is compatible with EVERY caller, it just doesn’t work that way. Finding the right fit is as important as realizing one’s true fantasies, and I’m sure this post will help our guys find a “perfect for them” Mistress!
Absolutely right Ms Christine! It’s like they say about any relationship … you can’t find any human being who is “perfect” but you can find someone perfect for you! ~grinz~
Hey Ms O. It is always good to set some boundaries. I have to say that the thought of you getting out of your sexy place is too much to consider. No!!!! You are one hot woman. I get it completely. You give 100% of yourself when you are in session. So do I. You would never think of giving less. Just one of the qualities I admire about you. Another is your legs. *smile*
~laughs~ Ahhhh, Ms Violet, remember our legs all tangled up together there in the pool and then …..
OH WAIT, I’m in my very sexy place now and really need to go …..
~smiles~
What a great educational blog! Ms.Olivia, you cut right to the heart of the matter and wrote what many of feel! I am happy to have a casual conversation on yahoo, but it is not the forum for sexy talk. As far as getting to know someone only to have him call another…not cool! We all share here but the time used in the IM could have been spent in session! Great post!
Actually I’ve had several guys who openly told me that they use IM time with whomever will IM with them but don’t take that into account at all during the decision of whom to call. NOW, it’s not like I limit outside of session time with me. I don’t. I simply tell them the WAY to get the outside of session time. Blog comments get him more attention. Emails will also get free outside of session time. I had this great guy pop into IM and he’s telling me about calling another Mistress and I asked him to send an email. OMG, he actually DID IT! ~laughs~ Holy shit, someone is respecting my requests and boundaries. It’s a happy day! So, he sent the email and we’re chatting about music (something I’m more than happy to chat about) … I’m not sure why someone keeps using IM when I ask for an email for non session communication but that boundary push sure does decrease my sexy place in IM OR email with that person. I understand why someone keeps pushing IM contact though …. IM is more immediate. So, what is a session? IMMEDIATE, personal, private and sometimes explicit actually IS the IM session. I’m feeling a lot less ‘boundary pushed’ by writing this post so it’s all good!
This is a great post, Ms. Olivia!
I love how clear you spell everything out! We Mistresses DO have limits and boundaries, and that is so important for prospective callers when they are hoping to choose the right Mistress.
You really have the best balance of sexy and kinky posts and these wonderful and educational posts. Smart and sexy is the very best!
🙂 Ms. Delia
Thanks Ms Delia … as you well know, I am very easy going and I’m clear in what I need or want. I’m cool with someone not knowing the boundary initially because each Mistress is different. I’m even okay with someone who pushes boundaries a bit … note: I keep stated boundaries. BUT, when I tell someone I want THIS behavior from you in out of session time and I have to say it again and again and again and again and AGAIN … well, it gets damn old and then the relationship begins to feel like the worst of real life marriages. BLEH. Nothing sexy about that!
~grinz~