Sexual fantasies are totally normal
In fact, as I return to all of you, I can’t wait to tell you that I have explored a couple of my own sexual fantasies. At least one activity will undoubtedly surprise you since I am a Femdom Mistress. I walk the walk and I do what I suggest for you, namely: try it out, broaden your erotic horizons. More often than not, I have a good time exploring my own erotic boundaries even if I don’t want to keep doing a particular kink.
Listen to my voice urging you to explore your sexual fantasies.
People study what turns people on
There was a huge survey several years ago that found there are 7 main erotic fantasy themes.
Broad categories of sexual fantasy
I would choose different broad categories than the study author but I’m probably biased towards kink and fetish. I also question the part about cheating (you see what I mean below) I think cuckold fantasies are WAY more common then this study found. That said, here we go with the themes:
Group sex or multi partners
Isn’t 2 women, 1 man sort of the starting point for any group sex scene? I think women tend to be more accepting of other women or maybe that’s a social construct. I love doing 2 men, 1 woman scenes and, of course, group sex is always wild!
Control, power or rough sex
Well, we can just stop the themes right here because this is my Mistress sweet spot.
I think the other themes are interwoven in this particular category. In my experience the best Femdoms are multi dimensional – in scene and just talking with you.
Adventure, variety or novelty
Sex should not be typical, usual or boring. I’ll say that again: sex should not be boring! I feel really strongly about this. Sex should never be boring!
Having other partners is hot
Oddly, less than 10% said cheating is hot but I wonder about that result. There’s huge social stigma around cheating. Many people might feel uncomfortable admitting that they love the erotic humiliation of doing something taboo like being a cuckold or a hot wife.
Most of you know I’m polyamorous. Check out this podcast I did with Ms Delia where we talk about alternative sexual relationships, erotic pleasure is not one size fits all.
Forbidden sex or taboo sex
Tell someone, “Don’t do this” and what’s the first thing they want to do? Yep. Anything taboo or forbidden is automatically naughty, kinky and interesting!
Gender bending or gender fluid
This could be you being gender fluid or it could be you with someone who is gender bending. I think this broad category includes people who are non-binary, trans or simply those who refuse to be put in neat little boxes. Good for you, I say!
Romance and passion
This can be everything from bodice buster romance novels to our intimate connections on the phone where we connect in ways that sometimes aren’t possible in face to face, real life.
Fantasy versus reality
Remember there’s no “rule” that says if you think it you must do it. Some fantasies are hot in fantasy but really hard to navigate in reality. Living a true cuckold lifestyle is often tricky in real life. Often a sissy likes to blow off steam (pun intended) but isn’t a transwoman and doesn’t want to transition to female.
The bottom line is this: There is no bottom line; you are unique and what turns you on is unique to you. It might “look” like some of those categories but I know that erotic pleasure is as individual as a fingerprint.
Are you ready to explore?
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms Olivia
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Long time no chat Ms Olivia!!! I missed you!!! Yes on fantasy of being a girl!! I’ve started bikini body diet so I can have petite girlish body and curves so I can fit into my dresses/quitting tennis as it got me to fat. Ms Erika/Ms Daphne/Ms Becky and Ms Madi have helped me in because the girl I was always meant to be as they said I look better as a girl. Also married girlfriend said same thing as she’s helping with my feminization with wearing dresses leggings yoga pants wigs makeup lipstick heels boots womens turtleneck sweaters and blouses. It’s to difficult to resist and say no as I’ve given in. With all of them/you there’s no need for girlfriends unless married girlfriend hooks me up with her single girlfriends. Being dressed up as a girl is what I want in relationship with women z
Ohhhhhh Carli, it sounds like they grabbed you and aren’t letting you go! You’re going to be our cream puff girl forever!
Dear Miss Olivia (or do you prefer Ms Olivia??), Is that a picture of you on this page wearing black arm covering, black underpants, and black fishnet stockings (plus holding a whip)? If so, you look very fetching!
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Love the way you call holding a whip fetching! I referred to some wicked BDSM play as “festive” in a podcast and still hear from people who are laughing about that!
Oh yes Ms. Olivia, the only limits to our fantasies is our imagination. What looks good to us in gray matter may not look good on paper!
So, indeed, we must decide for ourselves the boundaries of our activities.
Just love the section of “Taboo or Forbidden Sex”.
Of course when we’re told “no” something has to be good about it! Not in that motherly tone of the gem,
“If Jimmy jumped off the bridge would you?!”
A classic line in households in my youth!
Now if it were, “If Jimmy wore a dress would you?!”
Hell ya!!!
I think when I started doing this all those years ago I had to be the only guy who’d ever thought of this!
The naughty or taboo factor to me, is the aspect that has compelled me to pursue my peccadilloes over the years. Now, in all honesty there are things that must stay in the fantasy realm, obviously. Isn’t it said that the brain is the largest sex organ?
Well Ms. Olivia, I blush because in my case, you know that is true!☺️????
I hear that a lot!!
The internet has sure changed a lot of things about perceptions of people, kinks, who does what and why/how — fewer people feel “all alone” in what they like although it continue to get the “Do you think I’m weird because I like ___” types of questions.
Correction …I “thought” I was the only guy to think of this. Sorry, blog responding and barbecuing!!
hahahahahha !!!
I love this post Ms Olivia! So many fantasies, so much fun! One reason I adore you so much! “You know your stuff”
See you around the Empire! ????
I adore you too Ms Erika — !!! — you are such a fun partner in ohhhhhh so many ways. Will we be exploring MY sexual fantasies about YOU this year? Hmmmmmmmmmm? LOL
I can honestly say that fantasy and reality are two very different things. Olivia is more than aware of my story. Im married and in a real life cuckold relationship. Also im the black guy and a cuck, complete with a small penis.
If a guy gets into a cuckold situation, please be sure. There is NO turning back. Cuckold marriages are not all the same. In my case, my wife does NOT see me as the man in the bedroom in any way, and has her fun with other more capable men. Once youre in this life, it is for life.
You are so right! Not every cuckold situation fits into neat little topic boxes. Cuckolding is unique to the individuals involved – and there are so many things to DO with a cuckold! That’s why this is one of the scenes that I think is the most fun to do!