Questions from this Femdom
Where we left the IM chat with the man new to Femdom and phone sex is that he now knows that trying on panties that belong to his girlfriend and getting a rock hard cock doesn’t mean he is a sissy or into crossdressing feminization.
Careful questioning and guidance by the Experienced Mistress help him to see that the thrill is from Mistress domination, his submission and the humiliation of being caught in panties.
Often panties are a signal that he might want to suck cock, so that is also an avenue to explore. That’s where we pick up the IM chat in this blog post. Again, he has given his permission to post this, I’ve taken out the identifiers and the bold headings are mine for your visual clarity.
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empress.olivia: Did you also find our site suck patrol arousing?
New Guy: A little
empress.olivia: A little as in you’re shy. Or a little as in “hmmmm maybe this is hot but I’m not totally into it.
New Guy: About suckpatrol i think im shy, sound nice but i dont know if i dare.
empress.olivia: *nods*
empress.olivia: Phone sex with an Experienced Mistress is PERFECT for shy guys!
empress.olivia: I get it !
Does he like SPH – small penis humiliation
empress.olivia: Do you know what I mean when I say humiliation as in erotic humiliation?
New Guy: Im not sure i know whats included in erotic humiliation. Like small cock tease?
empress.olivia: ANYTHING can be used for erotic humiliation.
empress.olivia: That’s why it’s important that the Mistress talks with you to create the fantasy (and the sensations) you’re looking for.
empress.olivia: Do you get hard thinking about being teased and taunted for having a *small penis* ?
empress.olivia: You can get hard with this whether or not you actually HAVE a small penis.
New Guy: I do get a hardon but its not getting fully hard just thinking about it at least.
empress.olivia: *nods*
empress.olivia: So, that might be a starting point of the erotic fantasy but not a trigger or even a big part.
Does he like being caught?
empress.olivia: When you think about being *caught* going thru My panty drawer, is THAT arousing…….
empress.olivia: caught, taunted, seduced into doing things you wouldn’t otherwise do.
empress.olivia: How does that make you feel?
New Guy: Yes my heart goes faster and i get hard
empress.olivia: FANTASTIC !
Does he want to be coached into sucking cock?
empress.olivia: I’m going to change the subject just a bit to ask about something else.
empress.olivia: I WILL come back to this……because I remember EVERYTHING. LOL
New Guy: Yes Empress Olivia
empress.olivia: You mentioned a girlfriend……
empress.olivia: How do you describe yourself sexually…….
empress.olivia: straight, bi, bi curious, gay?
New Guy: Straight
empress.olivia: *nods*
empress.olivia: when you masturbate, do you ever think about a penis…….
empress.olivia: being seduced or coached to suck a cock?
New Guy: I have thought about being coerced to suck a cock
New Guy: But 99% of the time its a strap on
empress.olivia: ahhhhhhhhhhh
empress.olivia: Excellent information.
empress.olivia: So, your sexual triggers are primarily with women. Dominance and humiliation.
New Guy: Yes that sounds not to far from me
Does he want to taste cum?
empress.olivia: Have you ever tasted your own pre cum or cum?
New Guy: Yes i have tasted my cum Empress Olivia
empress.olivia: On your own or did you do that *for* someone?
New Guy: On my own thinking someone told me to eat it.
empress.olivia: *nods*
empress.olivia: And, WHO was that someone?
empress.olivia: In your fantasy was it a man or woman?
empress.olivia: Looks, style, action, etc.
New Guy: Woman, black wearings, beautiful highheels, very beautiful (like you) and with a paddle in her hands.
empress.olivia: *nods*
empress.olivia: excellent.
I bet you know where we’ll pick up the IM chat tomorrow. Since he mentioned that the beautiful Mistress has a paddle in her hands in the fantasy, I’ll be asking him about spanking, pain play and more. I’m posting his IM chat over time but this actually took place between calls. It was a rare day when I was able to have a long and involved IM chat that was not an actual session. Since I don’t IM during sessions, free chats like this one are a rarity. I’ll do this with you, when possible. If you want a guarantee of My undivided attention and time, please talk with Me about how to get a session.
You know by now, I’m going to be asking for your feedback and comments. Are these IM chats helpful and interesting? What do YOU get out of them? As always, I’m very curious about YOU!
I had been seeing a Pro-Domme / Mistress for sometime and one day when I phoned to confirm our appointment that morning she said to me that she knew I was ready for me to show her my oral skills and wanted me to be ready. Now my mind was racing as I was driving down that evening, did she mean oral on her or did “show” mean suck a cock?
In truth I was 90% sure I was going to be sucking a cock.
Now I reckon I am as hetro as they come, sport mad, drink beer, love stocking clad legs and high heels on a woman and pussy..yummy..so why would I suck another man’s cock?
Well commitment to my submission, my Mistress and a need to have her push my boundries, yes I was correct in my thoughts as towards the end of the session I was on my knees when another sub was bought into the room, sat on a chair and I was faced with a hard cock covered in a condom. From there with the encougment of my Mistress, including some tips on techique I sucked until he came.
What a rush. sub space heaven…but am I bi or gay?
No way, the thought of me being with a man is a massive turn off and one of my hardest limits is male dom, I could very happy get into a fight if a male dom tried it on and be happy about it, would even say I am card carrying lesbian, but I have sucked cock since for a couple of Mistresses and consider it an honour to do so that the trust me, will share other people with me and want to connect with me as my Mistress so push me.
Serving a Mistress in the way she wants does not make you anything you are not, if you enjoy submission go with it and trust your Mistress, it is about having fun.
Yes marlowecv3 !! The ACTIONS during a Dominance /submission scene between a Femdom Dominatrix and her male submissive are all used in *service* of the scene and don’t necessarily ‘mean’ anything outside of the scene. You are so right, it’s about the Power Exchange between the two people.
BTW, I love hearing about your (and other) experiences with Pro Dommes in real life. Since I’ve never been a real life Pro Domme (ie paid for in person fetish play) I’m always curious. Of course, I use My Pro Domme phone sex experience in My personal real life erotic and fetish sex. I do see, professionally and personally, I get a literal jolt of energy when I push the erotic buttons of a male submissive. You’re right….it totally IS about having fun!
MsOlivia, I’ve no doubt Your chatter is in good hands (so to speak) with Your guidance to him as he explores his way. Thank You again (and him) for sharing. And I do get quite a bit out them in that they make me think, and that’s a priceless gift.
Many of the fantasies here are not my own but still interesting and worthy of discussion. I do see a lot of chatters about who like SPH. More power to them. I am not one of them. However, I found it very interesting about Your comment that they can like that without necessarily actually being under-endowed. Certainly (and this is a big duh here) having a penis is one very obvious difference between a man and woman and the concept of not measuring up can be a powerful one. Perhaps more so if one views all women as their superior.
As for the rest, again not my thing so much, but….. the coercion or the encouragement given by a loving Domme to do things that would please Her, that turn Her on regardless of whether they do so for me, is also very powerful. If one is owned by such, it seems natural to want Her to be happy. Again a powerful thought, though I do wonder if it’s only wonderful in theory vs. practicality, but then I do feel at liberty to keep things in the realm of fantasy anyway.
(And now looking forward to the spanking post to cum…errr come.)
@ magnus …. you mentioned fantasies in terms of theory vs reality. YES !! There are certain sexual fantasies that, to My mind, are better left to phone sex. Issues of health and safety that involve another person without their consent immediately come to mind. In the future, I’ll post an IM chat I had with someone who is a caller but wanted to take cock sucking into real life. He has a girlfriend so we talked about how to handle his needs and desires since anything HE is exposed to he exposes HER to as well. You’ll see how that goes and what the outcome is.
That’s why the conversations about limits, concerns, etc are so important to have on an ongoing basis. I do that with phone sex relationships and I, for SURE, do it in real life! 🙂 Sex fantasy time is GREAT and when it’s only fantasy I say anything goes! (within LDW and My limits — few but firm). It’s like the comment about men who like small penis humiliation but actually AREN’T small! That’s a fantasy that wouldn’t *work* in real life that is better, and more believable over the phone. LOL hugs and SWAT to you 🙂
Wow Ms Olivia, you’re like a therapist and a kinky detective, and hopefully soon we’ll see how you spin everything you learn into a mind blowing (or something blowing) experience.
To answer your question. What do I get out of these IM’s. I get to learn what you look for to create a great expereince so I have an idea of what types of questions I should be prepared to answer. I also get to explore my own answers to some of the questions you are asking him. For example, panties? The realy never did anything for me, other than when I’ve been told to wear them it was slightly humiliating the first time. SPH again, never really got anything stirring for me. Being caught stroking has been a fantasy for a long time. Cocksucking, not so much, but some strapon fantasies. And cum eating is a turn on for me, when told to.
Can’t wait to read more, and thanks for peek you give us.
@ wellspanked …. I’m an investigative journalist and my *beat* is kink, fetish and sex! LOL
I’m Sherlock and I’m dressing watson in panties.
THANK YOU for telling Me what you find valuable about these IM posts. These aren’t sessions but many of the issues and questions are similar to the ones I do get in sessions as well. What I’ve learned in My three years here is that our society is brimming to bursting with all kinds of sexual images, options about *good* sex and even, on phone sex, a wealth of creative sexual fantasies. BUT …. what’s *missing* in the public dialogue is talk about sex with real people about real sex (not the watered down version of sex talk on talk shows that are entertainment not intensely intimate conversations).
We have turned sex into this processed thing. Or at least I find the public dialogue to be as linguistically unrealistic as the phrase: budget gourmet microwavable dinners. I am a chef, I know gourmet when I taste it and it generally doesn’t come from a microwave. Real sex is messy. Real emotions are raw. Real relationships are cluttered with tricky issues. When there’s no real communication about actual sexual needs or fantasies, the relationship becomes processed and gets microwaved for Friday nights. BLEH !! Real people have real conversations about stuff that matters. Sex matters to Me. My sex. Your sex. OUR conversations about sex. I think, in some way we are adding to or at least creating an outlet for expression inside of the current public dialogue.