Olivia 1-800-601-6975
I enjoy getting to know you! I love your comments on My blog and I always respond to each comment. When I’m logged in I’m available for IM conversations. (NOTE: I don’t IM while I’m in a session).
I write a lot about the importance of communication in any relationship and phone sex is no exception. Here is an IM conversation I had with a man new to phone sex and new to the joys of tease and denial. I’m including it in it’s entirety (posted with his permission). Bold headers are My addition.
New YIM window pops up with a friend request
New Guy: Thanks Olivia xx
empress.olivia: Hi there!
New Guy: Hey how are you?
empress.olivia: I’m great and you?
New Guy: Hmmm….frustrated, lol
New Guy: Found the site yesterday and need to decide on the right Mistress for me.
empress.olivia: Welcome !
He’s new to tease and denial
New Guy: Never heard of self denial before then.
empress.olivia: OH ! Is that why you’re frustrated? ~giggle~
New Guy: In a good way though
New Guy: i enjoy erotic literature and found a story on tease and denial which eventually led me here
New Guy: So I have been ‘practising’ since yesterday.
empress.olivia: That’s great! WE are the experts. Or, I should say … sexperts! LOL
New Guy: I can see that
New Guy: So much content on the site
New Guy: and all the girls are so beautiful
empress.olivia: Have you seen My blog? You can hear My voice on the audios page.
New Guy: I am looking at it right now
empress.olivia: fantastic !
New Guy: Yes it is!
New Guy: May I be a naughty little boy and ask what age you are?
empress.olivia: sure! I’m 42. Did you listen to my voice?
New Guy: wow….I do like a slightly more mature lady
New Guy: I did…you sound lovely
empress.olivia: Thank you!
New Guy: You are most welcome
He’s a new caller and wants to know how long to talk
New Guy: How long would you recommend for a first time caller?
empress.olivia: I actually did a couple of blog posts about first time callers and also choosing the right Mistress.
New Guy: Oh…should be an interesting read
empress.olivia: But, I can talk with you here about it if you like.
New Guy: I would like that
empress.olivia: I know a lot of people have similar questions/issues. Can I take your IM name off and use this conversation on My blog?
New Guy: Of course
empress.olivia: Thank you! And, I’m VERY VERY VERY protective if your privacy so if there’s a question you don’t want me to post, just say the word and I’ll take that out.
New Guy: I’m not shy
empress.olivia: ~~ laughs ~~~
empress.olivia: GOOD !
empress.olivia: So, what questions do you have?
How long should a first session be?
New Guy: Well firstly I am very new to cock control and would like to know how long a ‘break in’ session should last.
empress.olivia: One thing to tell you quickly is that I’ve been away for several days……..and the phone is likely to light up. You’ve got me until it does……I don’t IM when I’m in a session. But, I’ll come back to IM after the session until the next session.
New Guy: No worries….I will need to leave in a short while too
empress.olivia: Great, thanks! Okay, first session……it totally depends on you. Have you done phone sex before?
New Guy: Sadly not
He’s also new to phone sex in general
empress.olivia: Oh! You’re in for a new treat. It’s AMAZING !
New Guy: it sounds like it is amazing
empress.olivia: Yes! Phone sex is masturbation with a kick! After all, you’re on the phone with the Experienced Mistress……. it can’t be anything BUT amazing ! LOL The first call can be anything from 10 minutes (the minimum) to hours…… we can talk about anything !
What to do before the first call
New Guy: Should I ‘practice’ alone before making a tease and denial call?
empress.olivia: hmmmmmm … that’s an option……..and, again, it’s totally up to you. For many men….the thrill of tease and denial is, in part, DOING the denial and the stroking FOR someone. And, in this case the someone is the Mistress.
New Guy: The Mistress having control of when is a thrilling thought
empress.olivia: PLUS, you have the Mistress with you…….guiding you…….telling you what to do and when. It’s like a personal trainer at the gym. LOL The trainer knows more and can GET more from you than you think you can do.
What about erotic roleplay?
New Guy: What about roleplaying? What sort of roles do you perform for a tease and denial session?
empress.olivia: Roleplay scenes again will totally depend on you. All aspects of Power Exchange are so sexually charged. Power Exchange is where one person is “more powerful” than the other. It can be a kind of bait and swtich…..like you’re my boss but then I turn the tables on you and become the boss of your orgasms and therefore YOU. You can apply the same concept to anyone in a situation where one inherently has more ‘authority’ over the other.
What is off limits?
New Guy: Is there anything that you will NOT perform?
empress.olivia: Really anything goes in roleplay. What I don’t do are the things that We at LDW, don’t do. Did you have something specific that you’re asking about?
New Guy: Not really…just curiosity
New Guy: all new to me
empress.olivia: I don’t get the sense that you’ll need to worry about those limits. Sometimes a tease and denial session can start off with guided masturbation. That’s where I tell you how to stroke. What to do…..how to do it.
New Guy: That is something I have enjoyed, however not a 1-2-1 basis, I have looked at videos
empress.olivia: That’s great! Sometimes a caller knows exactly what he wants. Sometimes, like you, he is new. Maybe new to LDW or new to phone sex in general. The exploration is half the fun, isn’t it? This is like you’ve just now wandered into the hottest new restaurant and I’m explaining the specials on the menu!
New Guy: I have to tell you the thought alone is very arousing
empress.olivia: *nods* oh YES ! By the way, I’m not getting explicit here because I don’t have age verification for you.
New Guy: I understand
empress.olivia: Thank you for understanding!
What goes on during the session?
empress.olivia: Everything can and does get very explicit during a session. One interesting thing is that someone might call for a ‘sex call’ but then end up asking about all sorts of questions about sex/sexuality/relationship issues. Sometimes we end up talking and connecting about all sorts of non-sexual things. No matter the topic, this is one of the rare places where you will be fully HEARD. You have My undivded attention in a session.
New Guy: So many avenues to explore!
empress.olivia: *nods*
Finding the right Mistress
New Guy: and I am enjoying trying to find the right Mistress and trying to decide exactly what I want
empress.olivia: PERFECT ! Now, My suggestion is don’t worry too too much about finding the PERFECT MISTRESS right away….. or on the first call…… or even STAYING with only one Mistress. We have an unconditional quality guarantee. There’s a 10 minute minimum for all calls, but if you know in the first couple of minutes that you’re not *clicking* with the Lady, don’t be shy, simply say, ‘thank you for your time, please send me back to the dispatcher.’ This will NOT offend us. We want you HAPPY! The Mistress will hang up and you’ll automatically go back to dispatch. You won’t be charged for that call and dispatch will work with you to get you a better fit. That’s where this is unlike DATING …. LOL … you don’t have to worry about getting away from someone you don’t like AND all this comes with the LDW quality guarantee. Does that make sense?
New Guy: I read the quality guarantee and it makes perfect sense.
empress.olivia: FANTASTIC ! Even if you find a Mistress that you adore….I, for one, always encourage a variety of experiences ! I even recommend Mistresses. For example I don’t work late nights and I have women that I recommend depending on what you want.
New Guy: Right now I just cannot wait for my first!
How to talk about tease and denial with your Mistress
empress.olivia: LOL, I understand! Wanted to give you a heads up about tease and denial. Be sure to tell the Mistress if you want to cum at the end of the session. If you tell her you want to be denied She WILL, no matter how much you beg! If you leave your orgasm up to the Mistress, you might get to cum but then again, you might not! ALWAYS make sure to talk with your Mistress about what you want. Are you at work now?
New Guy: I am at home but need to head to work soon
New Guy: So I will still be in ‘denial’ for a while
New Guy: I have read quite extensively on the site… I have been edging since last night!
empress.olivia: I bet you work HARD today! LOL
New Guy: I hope I don’t get aroused at work!
New Guy: My biggest fear is all the tension thats been building gives me a constant erection!
empress.olivia: *wink* Sometimes fear is FUN ! It’s tapping into the whole roller coaster of emotions thing.
New Guy: I kind of would like to hold it unitl I make my first call
New Guy: It does seem a much more exhilarating experience than just having a quick wank
empress.olivia: It IS a totally *different* experience because you’ve been doing the wank for years, right? LOL
New Guy: Yes
empress.olivia: So this adds something totally NEW and exciting
New Guy: So difficult though!
empress.olivia: Isn’t the newness and the difficulty half the FUN !?
New Guy: It really is!
empress.olivia: Let Me also mention that we have ‘Cocksperts” on the Live Help Desk. I answer IMs and many of the Ladies answer IMs between calls. BUT, but if you’re trying to IM with a Mistress and She doesnt answer then you can go to the live help desk @ www.helpmycock.com for immediate ….. ahem …. assistance!
New Guy: It’s such a well run site
empress.olivia: *Nods* Oh yes. We’re a well-oiled ‘machine’ LOL …. we love the lube! ~laughs~
empress.olivia: I’m getting a call…..so I’m going to let you go. Glad you stopped in! Have fun on My blog. There are LOTS of ideas, etc.
New Guy: So am I…need to go get some ice on it before work now!
Later
New Guy: Hello again You being kept busy?
empress.olivia: LOL always but I’m not on the phone right now.
New Guy: OK…Hate to interupt xx
empress.olivia: THANK YOU btw, for being understanding that I don’t IM while I’m on the phone or in a texting session. I appreciate your patience. I always check IMs when I’m out of the session. Don’t worry about interrupting; when I’m in a session I don’t respond. You can always send an IM and I’ll answer asap. I really like IM conversations. Did you have more questions?
New Guy: Sorry, I logged off as I am in work…..No more questions yet xx
empress.olivia: no problem !
New Guy: Goodnight you stunning lady….and a million thanks for taking some time to talk to me today xx
empress.olivia: Sure thing! My pleasure! I’m glad you wrote and have FUN exploring the erotic world of phone sex!
Wow, MsOlivia, I just wanted to compliment you on your clear explanations and ways to put someone at ease. I realize that marketing, for lack of a better word, is part of the job too, but I wanted to say that you excel at it. You may even want to try selling ice cubes to Eskimos. 🙂
LOL @ magnus…..thank you ! I’ve had several people ask if that guy called Me. I don’t know. I don’t know if he called any of the LDW Mistresses. I can guarantee he’s interested in phone sex and tease and denial. So, if he wants to experience the BEST of intelligent, kinky phone sex then he will call us 🙂
Hmmmmm…….do you think there’s a market for ice cubes to Eskimos? ~laughs~
ROFLOL !!!!!! …… you *know* I love to take you OUT OUT OUT of your comfort zone…..that is where we BOTH really soar. When I do a phone sex call with you and I get to watch you on cam….that is SOOOOO totally sexy! THANK YOU ! Seriously, thank you so much for your compliments……*blushes* I like to mix it up….the smart with the sexual, the nice with the naughty….you know…..the ALL of it. AND, you are also, smart and funny and kinky …. otherwise we wouldn’t FIT!
Ms Olivia, from that conversation it shows how you realy do care about the callers and what you do. Thanks for sharing, and you have become completely irresistable to me. Not that I’m really trying to resist. Hot as heck, a switch, kinky, imaginative, and supportive? What will be next?
~laughs~ What cums NEXT is today’s post wellspanked……the mindfuck! ~laughs~
Seriously, THANK YOU ! I actually really DO care. There is a female playwright (lived 1930 – 1965) who has a great quote about caring. I’m not going to use her name because this IS a phone sex blog. LOL I don’t have the actual quote with Me but it’s something along the lines of…..I care, I care probably too much because it takes too much energy NOT to care.” I think that is seriously accurate for how I approach My role with y’all. I actually DO care about you. I care …not in a mushy co-dependant way …. I care in an adult, sensual, erotic and SSC (safe, sane and consensual) kind of way.
What we do is INTIMATE and I don’t take that lightly. Intimacy is powerful. I’m HONORED to be on this journey with you…after all, it is My journey too 🙂
Ms. Olivia I thoroughly enjoyed taking a peek into your IM chat! Thank you for posting it and to the potential new caller for agreeing. Who ever he selects for his tease and denial phone “date” I am sure will it will be a treat for him. I like to tell my callers that there is such a wonderful variety of friendly and sexy ladies that they should explore. There’s nothing wrong with having your favorite mistress but heck why not have several “favorites” 🙂 Each one gives you a little something different and that’s what makes LDW awesome!
OMG Sirena and one thing that you didn’t mention but I sure will…….is YOU ARE SO HOT !!!!! I love to *play* with you and your eclectic electricity …. besides which I think you are a total kickin’ person as well. Hey, you’re coming to the Mistress Meeting aren’t you? Let’s PLAY in person!
I’m soooo glad you took your time to write a comment sweetie !
Awww you are too sweet! Mmmmm we have so much fun when we “play” together with the bois don’t we ;). Very hot steamy phone-sex to be sure. I am for sure coming to the Mistress Meeting and I can not wait! I may even come a day early just to hang with you and Ms. Ally before the real party gets started hehee. I’ll bring the lube!! 😉
Fantastic idea Sirena……..! Let’s PLAY 🙂