Intimacy and the slave
Listen to me read you this blog post about BDsm kink intimacy and erotic slavery.
I had a VERY interesting conversation with a slave today. We started off talking about my recent blog post about the difference between a submissive and a slave. Â Both are clearly in the BDsm or kink arena. I am humbled by your gifts of intimacy. Â He is the one that spoke of the value of the intimacy of strangers.
BDsm and communication
You know I play in the face to face fetish scene.  I have experience there and on the phone and I can tell you that with Power Exchange there is no difference. Some of my most intense sessions are distance domination on our calls. In large part because you feel freer to tell the truth.  My slave puts it this way:
“We get to be who we are. I’m closer to you than most people I know and most women I’m dating. I have told you things I’ve never told anyone else.”
Erotic roleplay and fantasy are limitless
Roleplay is doing a scene or fantasy but we aren’t bound by physical constraints and the reality of time and space. Â For example, I think Shibari bondage is so beautiful and I can’t do all those intricate knots all that well — basic bondage yes but Shibari is at another level. Â In fantasy, I am the absolute BEST!
Better than in person with a Pro Domme
I think the intimacy and limitless fantasy gives distance domination an edge over a Pro Domme. Â My slave put it this way:
“I’ve been to Pro Dommes and didn’t like the dungeon setting — it feels like a doctors appointment — too clinical.”
We talk and then I … ahem … take over; or, as he puts it:
“You own the fantasy. Â You have the ability to take ownership of someone else’s fantasy and then use intuition to make it dynamic and surprising.”
Ahhhh, slave, you make me smile — you really do! You are the perfect submissive, slave and play partner for me.
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms. Olivia
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What an excellent post, Ms. Olivia. I love that you addressed this. So many seem to think if they can’t be in the same room it’s not as good. Or that it would be at least a bit better if they were. That’s not the case. Distance allows for the mind to engage and that’s really where the most profound pleasure lives
Thanks Miss Cassidy! I’ve heard that comment a couple times and when I hear something several times that means it’s probably about time to do a blog post about it. And YES !!!!!
The BRAIN/MIND is the sexiest erotic point in the human body!
This was a most interesting post, Ms. Olivia. Having been in the Pro Domme scene, I could really identify with this. I was never fond of the sterility of certain spaces I sessioned in. I was lucky enough to find one that was very intimate with amazing equipment. There is something to be said for fantasy though. Boundaries really are non-existent and I like that a lot.
Hey Ms Lena, I didn’t realize you were also a Pro Domme at times — I thought about that and never did it — I like the flexibility and options of Distance Domination. It’s also fun to play for free and for fun in the fetish community. 🙂 🙂
While I’m not into domme/sub play, I can attest that a phone call is just so powerful. In my mind (where all the sexy action is anyway, right?), Miss Olivia is right there, looking at me in my sissy outfit, seeing the beautiful sensual shapely sissy girl I am… in my mind. The intensity of being so real and honest with someone is enhanced when we talk about other stuff. (I highly recommend making time in your calls with Miss Olivia to just talk like two regular adults who happen to share a very special intimacy. I love getting to know Olivia as a person and let her know me a little). And we’ve talked enough that she knows what I crave, what boundary I’m trying to push. When she takes over the fantasy, improvising me into new territory? Well, I dare not touch my clit until right when she tells me to cum or I’d never last! So amazing.
So, yes, I’ve never been to a professional domme in person to really compare but a phone sissy intimacy call is soooooo good. 🙂
Oh Gem, this is the most delightful comment EVER !!! Thank you so much and you know I adore you as a sissy, a naughty playmate and as a person. You’re interesting and fun — that’s a winning combo in my book 🙂