Have you tried orgasm control, orgasm denial by self control or chastity?
When you’ve been having orgasms for years and years and you’re looking for something new you might be ready to try something like orgasm games. There are so many things to do with your cock stroking masturbation besides the simple stroke and cum. Let’s look at some of the options:
Mistress controls your orgasm
This is where you must get permission to have an orgasm. This takes cock tease and denial to a new level of cock control. There are many ways to do this and the orgasm control programs are as unique as you are. You might get instructions on when and how to stroke. You might be on a schedule by time …. ordered by Mistress to perform worship strokes to you Goddess at certain times during your day. You might gets games of chance, like dice. Or games of a degree of skill — can you imagine if your ability to cum is tied to how you are doing in your fantasy football league? ~laughs~ OMG, I think I just thought of something really fun! I’m going to do that!.
Orgasm edging for Mistress
This can be done during your phone sex call or solo and then reported back to the Experienced Mistress. Orgasm edging is amazing. You get to the edge but do not have an orgasm again…..and again …. and again. You gradually build up your stamina. The cum builds up in your balls until your balls are so full they are aching for release. When you DO get release you experience the really BIG orgasm!
And then, there is chastity
Chastity is not for the faint of heart! Most men who are ready to try chastity will begin to explore by going a little longer between orgasms. One day, one week or one month or more as you begin to explore. Whether you wear a chastity device or are trying for self-chastity, you will find the expert guidance and support from this Experienced Mistress very ….. ahem …. helpful! There are various types of chastity devices and I’ll talk more about those in a future blog post.
Your question. Do you get a thrill when you think about being in chastity for your Mistress? Have you ever or are you now in chastity? Tell Me all about it!
I’ve never done nor ever been in chastity. Ms Violet has said she would love to lock me up. Ms Tia as well as Ms Josephine and Ms Meredith want to lock me up also. It is hot how women can do that to guys. I’ve gone month without masturbating while on vacation with parents but never locked. It would be hard for me as family always calls, stops by. Also I love wearing women’s clothes, panties, bras, dresses,heels, pants,tops. As it gets me hard, wet, and off. I know most girls font know what chastity is and chances if me having girlfriend or getting married is not good with my fetish for dressing LDW is my only source for women into dressing me.if locked would you have me in dresses, bra, heels, lipstick, panties, wig? If you and other mistresses put me in chastity this would totally change our relationship with you and the other mistresses if you lock me up in chastity.
Wow! A month without masturbating is a long time Peter! But, I do know you and without dressing en femme you might not feel sexy. Imagine if you were in chastity and dressed in lingerie! Ohhhhhhhhhh.
I’ve honestly been in chastity, gave myself ruined orgasms & have found my “P” spot & squirted. I have yet to edge an orgasm. I wonder what that would be like. I’ve maybe done it once as I can recall; what felt like the very start of orgasm, I stopped just as I was curious what would happen & a clear liquid came out in 1 spert & it looked like pre cum. I waited to begin stroking again & That time I did explode with a great orgasm. May I ask you, does a Man cum clear when he stops just before his orgasm? I didn’t feel like I had one yet & just wonder if I was edging correctly. Please; I ask your thoughts!! Thank You Very Much Ms Olivia.
Thanks for asking that Timm! That clear liquid is pre cum! And, when you’re edging that pre cum comes in copious amounts! It sounds like you were doing a wonderful job! Now, imagine edging for an hour or more! WOW ! Let Me tell you, when that orgasm hits you’ll think you’re head is exploding….because, well….you’re head IS exploding! ~smiles~
Ms Olivia first let me say I love your blogs…….this one of course caught my eye because it is a subject I just love…..you asked the question of the readers “Your question. Do you get a thrill when you think about being in chastity for your Mistress? Have you ever or are you now in chastity? Tell Me all about it!” Well i hope you do not mind me giving my perspective and answering that for me………..YES not only do I get a thrill from putting someone in chastity I feel a sense of pride and ownership…….it is not a mean harsh thing with me it is a matter of control and determination…..I currently have a few men in chastity one who has been denied an orgasm for over 2 years now……….so not only do I love chastity but I get a huge rush from it….and on the flip side I feel like when I do take that ultimate control and put a man in chastity our relationship changes and grows……how can I not respect a man who cherishes me so much that he gives up all rights to having an orgasm…something so many men do daily without even thinking about it. Thank you for the great post!!!
Thank you so much Ms Constance!! I thought that chastity blog post might catch your attention because you are the Queen of the Chastity Interviews! I’ve been following your blog posts were you interview men in chastity. And, I should add, you also talk with girly girls in chastity like Jolene (one of my all time favorites!).
I loved your point in this comment about how much you respect a man who allows himself to be locked in a chastity device for his Mistress! That’s a very good point. I’ve often said that submission takes great STRENGTH. The cock locking is the way to freedom. Chastity is yet another example of the paradox of this kinky thing we do! ~smiles~
Thank you for taking your time to leave a comment!
Chastity, with a device, is extremely thrilling. I recommend it to anyone who is even a little curious.
Thank you so much! I’m curious, what questions or concerns did YOU have before you allowed yourself to be put into chastity?
Dear Mistress Olivia,
I love this great post! Being into female sexual domination, I enjoy it when my mistresses (in person and LDW) decide when I have an orgasm – or if I even get to have one. Basically, I am into orgasm denial, and my last orgasm was on January 15, 2012. I do practice chastity, which lasts typically between 5 to 15 days. At the end of those times, I am instructed to masturbate; however, it involves edging with guided masturbation, and I am NOT permitted to ejaculate. I would find it difficult to go for longer than 15 days without masturbating. I do find masturbation in the presence of my in person mistresses (and the phone sex with LDW’s mistresses) to be very pleasurable, since it is for THEIR entertainment and pleasure also. I only desire to pleases my mistresses, and if I am denied any orgasms, that is still fabulous, since I put THEIR pleasure above mine! I am into orgasm denial – not masturbation denial! My penis and cum-filled testicles belong to them, and they are to be used for THEIR pleasure. Thank you!
Thank you cum filled balls for articulating that there are many kinds of chastity! In fact, putting a man in a chastity device is as individual as you are! I loved when you said you MUST masturbate every so often….other chastity lovers don’t want to be able to touch at all. Each person is different. Just like the motivation to go into chastity. Your reason, to please a Mistress makes Me ~smile~.
your right Ms Olivia. I’m totally naked and not right without female clothing, dresses, bras, panties, lipstick. Chastity would be hot. I’m scared about doing this but if you kept me in lingerie I’m open to it as long as you give me release. Ms Violet, Ms Tia, Ms Meredith have expressed interest in putting me in chastity also. This would totally change our relationship. I’m pretty active during day with gym, tennis, work. I can do chastity at night and sleep with it on. I don’t want my family or co workers to know. But thought of you and other mistresses locking me up dressed as girl is hot. If you and other mistresses made me cum then locked me up I’d do it.
Any or all of us would be more than happy to put your in chastity peter! We’ll slip you into a chastity device and then dress you up in bra and panties….and well…..from there, you’ll be putty in our hands, won’t you?
I totally would be putty on your hands. It really is my destiny to be locked and dressed as girl by you and other mistresses. I’m Getting hard thinking about it. I’m so tempted to go to makeup counter and have wen put me in makeup, as well as get bra fitting. Help I’m turning into chronic masterbating sissy.
Welcome to the chronic masturbating sissy club! Everyone here is very well dressed and totally CUTE! ~hands you lip gloss~
As soon as I get cash I’m going to makeup counter and finally man up and ask women if they ever put makeup on guys and see if they want to do that to me. I really wish I was girl they have more fun then guys do. I just need to open up to right women and tell her that I’d love to have women put me in makeup, bras, dresses. Wishful thinking but it’s eating me up. Just have to open up and do it.
Erm…..remember what we’ve all told you about this peter….girls that are not familiar with this crossdressing fetish will find that request of yours creepy. You can ~gently~ begin to discuss this with someone you are in a relationship with….but I would be very cautious about going up to random girls and asking for sexualized crossdressing. Does this make sense?
I have done chastity. It has always been self imposed. If I get to a point where masturbating starts to feel like it is becoming something that is just routine, just doing it because I do it, I will stop for a while. Usually what happens is I will stop for a few days and the feeling of having to stroke will go away. I will just not stroke until one day I realize it has been a while since I have. The last time I did this it lasted a little over four months, that is not the longest time just the last time. I have never used a device and I have never gone into it with a set length of time on my mind before I started.
Hey Forrest, I do similar things with coffee! Seriously! I think that is fabulous that you do that and know that about yourself!
Really, coffee. Not sure I could give up the coffee.
I’m with you on that one Forrest! I love really strong coffee — think a bold style like Sumatra — but when I was in Costa Rica the coffee from the Supermarket (just the regular house brand) was AMAZING! Still I do like to occasionally (emphasis on the NOT OFTEN) go on a coffee fast so I get re-experience the sheer JOY of coffee! Does that make any sense?
I can understand both of these statements. Many years ago I worked in a coffee shop and got all my coffee for free. On the weekends when I did not work I would not usually drink coffee. The first cup when I went back after the weekend always gave me that little jolt. The other isn’t about coffee but similar. The first time I had guacamole was in Mexico. It was fantastic. I have never found any guacamole like it since in the states.
YES Forrest! I had mangoes bought off street vendors in India that were AMAZING and I’ve never tasted mangoes that delicious since! ~laughs~ I can’t find really amazing avacado here on the east coast so guacamole is iffy at best. Plus, I’m a total foodie. I cook with fresh herbs and use in season fruit/veggies. The public market is my friend! *lick lips* You can probably tell I LIKE sensations! ~smiles~
Dear Ms Olivia,
I most definitely get a buzz from not releasing depending on Mistress’ will. It really is top drawer for me. I love being giving a set number of strokes per day at certain times as before I know it, my whole life becomes focused with getting to those moments and making each stroke count to the max. Not knowing when, where or how release will be giving just makes me so hard. When I have tried this before my cock feels like it is wired into the mains after a couple of days and that coaxing of Mistress saying it could be my lucky time before dashing my hopes is such a good/bad/frustrating feeling as you are well aware from some of the faces you must have seen!
As for chastity devices, I love the idea but it scares me also which I suppose is all part of the diction. To know that you have a key just lying casually around while I go day in day out begging for released, being ignored or being ordered to do things to earn a chance of release gets me flowing. I suppose the thing that is scary is it turns me on so much and would love to do it. Then just a whisper from yourself would send me into overdrive and knowing that it would not please you would stop me cheating:)
Thanks for writing that paul and you bring up a very good point! Yes, there’s the sexual buildup for men in chastity but you mention one of the most most intriguing uses of a chastity device. When your access to cock stroking is cut off, you experienced life differently. When you KNOW (beyond a doubt) that you are NOT in control of the most basic aspect of your male sexuality (your cock and your orgasm) then you are free to FOCUS on other things. Some people go into chastity for just that reason. One sissy cuckold husband is in chastity to be able to focus on serving his wife’s lovers. Another caller is in chastity until a big project is completed. ~laughs~ I’m here tell you, when you tell a man he gets to stroke his cock when he completes certain actions, ….. well then…..those actions get DONE! Seriously DONE!
As you say, nothing focuses the mind more than knowing pleasure will be allowed(possibly!) if a task is completed to satisfaction. I can see that a lot more would get done if I hadn’t the dangling distraction being stimulated by my thoughts…
I have to try it out some day. Another thing that seems to be popular in my head is the sex without being allowed to cum but the partner must be satisfied. Trying not to cum while even thinking about being controlled like that is so hard if you pardon the obvious pun.
Oh YES paul!…..there is the service chastity when you are not allowed to have an orgasm but your partner gets to have as many as She wants! I’m quite the fan of THIS type of chastity ~winks~.