This blog is inspired by a poll comment by bobo on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire. I did a poll asking if anyone had ever tried to get rid of a fetish. He responded with: Is something a fetish just because it turns you on? WOW. Okay, now that’s an interesting question. I don’t pretend to have all the answers but I damn sure have a boatload of experience with so called fetish phone sex and real life bdsm and kink fetish communities. I’ll admit, it never even occurred to me to question the word fetish!
What is a fetish?
I’d like to hear YOUR thoughts and read your comments about the term FETISH. Here’s a dictionary definition of fetish: an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression.” That definition kind of bugs me because it implies there is some right standard for “complete sexual expression” and that “fantasy” is somehow not part of that “complete sexual expression.”
I like the word fetish
Maybe I have a visceral reaction to that definition because I LIKE the word, fetish. It’s sort of like the words, slut and pervert. In many parts of society those are supposed to be insults but in the kink community they have been “owned” as badges of honor. I like those words! Maybe fetish is the same way. Like I said, I don’t have the answers, I just find that conversation interesting so feel free to chime in with your blog comments!
Ms Olivia
I don’t really agree with that definition. I don’t find any of my ‘fetish’ proclivities necessary to have sexual completeness. I enjoy them, yes, but I’m VASTLY more than the sum of my parts and/or fetishes. I enjoy vanilla sex easily as much as fetish sex. I think it is more just an appreciation for things that are off-center from the norm. But hey…that’s just me.
Wonderful comment daark_ness! I agree! I’m way more than the sum of my sexy kinks, fetishes and such. Why there’s baseball and music in there too! ~laughs and runs off to find fetish appropriate music for a baseball themed femdom party~ ~grinz~
Dear Mistress Olivia,
I definitely disagree with that definition. (((( This is such a great and thoughful comment that I’m going to turn this into a blog post!))) Thank you for presenting another great post with those ideas!
Ohhhhhhh cum filled balls …. you have left such a great comment that I HAVE to turn this into a blog post! Look for this shortly and THANK YOU for posting your comment. ~smiles~