Do you wear panties under your man clothes?
Some men want to wear lingerie simply because women have the best undergarments! It doesn’t have anything to do with gender identification. It’s just great to be a man in sexy lingerie. I get a lot of phone sex calls from guys who love to wear lingerie. Some of you have asked things along the lines of this recent question: “Does wearing women’s lingerie make me gay?”
Are all crossdressers gay or bi sexual?
Oh HELL NO!
Listen, there are all sorts of erotic experiences out there beyond naked male/female vanilla missionary position sex! (Not that there’s anything wrong with that! LOL)
The man that asked this question wanted to know if he was weird because he liked the feel of wearing lingerie. He said he didn’t ‘think’ he was doing this as a fetish, didn’t consider himself a woman in a man’s body, wasn’t attracted to men or a man’s cock, etc. He simply liked the feel of the feminine fabrics on his body. I did a bit of erotic education before we launched into a super hot phone sex fantasy …. yes, he was in panties and a satin cami for the call.
When you ask a question like, is my fetish or am I weird … I have to ask you to take a step back and consider first, the underlying assumption behind that question. Usually the assumption is that there is some supposed “normal” for erotic arousal and by definition you think you’re outside of that normal. What do you think? I’m curious and then I’ll answer the question more fully.
Thank you for writing this, Olivia!
I struggled with this too, wondering if at some level it meant I was gay or bisexual.
The conclusion I finally came to was:
A) So what if I am? It’s not a point of shame to be sexually attracted to members of the same sex. But…
B) Wearing panties doesn’t suddenly make me crave cock. Oh it definitely heightens my sexual arousal and awareness and cravings, but those cravings are for pussy, not dick.
C) When I wear feminine clothes, it isn’t to attract the lustful eye of other men (though to be honest, I’d feel flattered if I did- not aroused, flattered) but rather to feel better about myself.
When the cheerleader wears the running back’s football jersey, she’s not trying to attract chicks. So when the running back wears her cheer outfit, he’s not trying to attract dicks.
Makes perfect sense, wear what you want and smile while doing it 🙂
OMG Alice! I love, love, love the cheerleader wearing the football jersey analogy! PERFECT example. I also think that eroticism and sexual desire isn’t static. I was in a committed relationship (solo) with a woman for over a year and caught a lot of flack for saying I was bi-sexual not a lesbian. Now, I’m in a committed (no solo) relationship with a man but inside of my kinky community it’s more than fine to be bi, sometimes gay, attracted to someone during fetish play, etc. I totally agree with you on the “So what if I am” part of the equation…..because, after all, EVERYONE has all sorts of desires and shaming one person generally means the shame-er is struggling with erotic feelings not faced. Viva la difference!
I love wearing lingerie. Panties/boy shorts/slips/corsets& of course bras. It’s hot hot hot turn on. I get waxed monthly and lingerie fits so much better against my soft smooth skin. It gets me hard , wet and off. I’ve been caught many times wearing mistresses lingerie and at first they didn’t like it but for punishment they kept me in it. With slim petite body they said I have perfect body and I look so cute and adorable wearing a bra with panty. Not many guys wear a bra and panty. But I’m not a guy I’m a submissive sissy who if I protest the mistresses with expose me if I do. How can I protest wearing a bra and panty? I can’t.
Thanks for your comment peter! ~smiles~