I know My own masturbation habits so I’m curious about yours. This is inspired by several people including those kinky folks at our adult networking site Enchantrix Empire. There are a lot of polls asking various things about masturbation. In particular, Ms Ally wanted to know: “How often do you masturbate?” The majority of respondents said they masturbate at least once a day. That got Me thinking …. about what I’d like to know about YOU!
How do YOU masturbate on the call?
How do you stroke during phone sex? Do you use a toy, a fleshlight or other rubber pussy? Lube or no lube? Maybe lotion instead. Maybe you use your own oozing precum …. thinking of shineyknob here 🙂
I know how you handle your cock if you’re doing a guided masturbation session — but then again, I am doing the masturbation instruction aren’t I? *wink*
Exhibitionists masturbate on cam for Mistress
If you are a sexy exhibitionist like John Melloncock then I can SEE your dick and exactly what you’re doing ….. what a hot treat for ME! I know that right before orgasm there’s a twisting on the cock head…..ohhhhhhhh ! *wink*
Or ….
Is orgasm denial part of masturbation?
~~ giggle ~~ Is denial YOUR form of masturbation? Do you like the ache in your balls? Do you like the control of a Mistress? What is it about the orgasm denial that makes it your masturbation choice ?
Masturbation, like life, is full of change
If you’re like most men, when and how you masturbate changes depending on a variety of things. dalk679 said this quite well in a comment on Ms Ally’s poll: “I used to masturbate at least once a day, if not multiple times a day. But lately It’s only been a few times a week. Partially because of a schedule change I had at work (meaning less time I can have privacy), and partially due to self-restraint, so that when I do allow myself to masturbate, it will be that much better. ”
So…..you tell Me. How do YOU use phone sex calls in your masturbation playtime? As I post My replies to your comments, I’ll add in masturbation audio links. Hmmmm, now that’s incentive to leave a comment, isn’t it? ~~giggle~~
Ms Olivia
Ha!
I am actually also in the middle of writing a blog entry that also touches on this subject. I also recently posted a reply on one of Ms. Constance’s blog entries about my “discovery” of masturbation, such as it was 🙂
To answer your questions…
On Ms. Ally’s poll I had answered in the once a day (giver or take) range, but actually that has come down recently, and I’m OK with that 🙂
I have never used a fleshlight or any other toy in masturbation. I’ve never had occassion to, and to be honest I don’t think I’d like it. Also seems like it requires a lot of forethought and I’ve always been very spontaneous in choosing when to masturbate.
I’ve also never used lube. For the same reason as above, requiring pre-planning, plus it would seem to be more difficult to clean up afterwards. Additionally, I have found from the few times I tried a lube, while it feels nice, and you could probably be a bit more… aggressive… without causing undue “damage” it also felt like more of a “flat” sensation. Can’t think of a better way to describe it. “Dry” masturbation seems to allow me to create a much wider variety of sensations.
Also no on precum as lube. That FAP noise just makes me self conscious, and there are probabably better uses for precum :-p
I’ve never been into denial, per se. I’ll occassionally flirt with a period of abstinence.
WOW !!!! NB you and I are apparently thinking a lot of the same thoughts in terms of blog postings! LOL I think that *should* scare YOU! LOL
Your comments about no lube are totally thought provoking….and there’s quite a variety of opinions here from the men I’ve asked during various and sundry phone sex calls. Of course, since I’m a woman I *carry* My own lube with Me. LOL But, I am thinking right now about your comment about having a wider variety of sensations and My comment on Ms Andi’s poll where I said the snowman could be used for sensation play ….. hmmmmmmm……I’m feeling VERY FRISKY ! And, I’d better stop writing while I make sense!
THANK YOU so much for your thoughtful and thought-provoking comments !
For me its the Fleshlight/lube and magic wand!!!!for awesome masterbation!!!!Those three toys are essential for awesome sessions!!!If you havnt bought those 3 you must!!!Also with MsOlivias awesome voice its all you need for hot/fun time!!!
Hi peter! I remember the time BEFORE you had the toys and you were more than a little bit nervous about getting them. Which Mistress finally tipped the scales enough for you to do it? I want to say it was Ms Violet but I might be wrong. The magic wand is AMAZING and not just for phone sex masturbation! It really is powerful tool for getting all the kinks out….or IN….as the case may be 🙂 LOL Thank you so much for writing !!! And, enjoy your new lipsticks *wink*
I love being on a call with a Mistress I find it to be a chance to cut loose and let everything out I hold in all the time. I get in my pretty lingerie and lip gloss and usually tell the Mistress a fantasy or something. So I guess the answer to your question would dry and in my bed masterbating lol. But I also find it a chance to explore other turn ons as I get more comfortable with Mistresses and the LDW service.
@ cassie …. you’re on Enchantrix Empire, right? I want you to go over to NB’s blog about the Empire. It seems like ALL of us are thinking about and feeling similar things. I also posted My thoughts on NB’s blog. I think you’ll relate to this because of what you said about the JOY of being able to cut loose and let everything out that you hold in all the time. Phone sex can be about literal release, ie orgasm. But you and NB and many others talk about the release of feeling…..hmmmmmmm, I don’t know…..like *trapped* in a world where you can’t be all of all of you. Like I said, you both say it better but do you know what I mean? LOL
HUGS cassie!
You know me to well Ms Olivia 🙂 I do like to lube up with baby oil at times. And I like to cam to.
@ shinyknob…….I must say I was SO IMPRESSED with your photos AND your cam performance because you really exemplify TRUTH IN ADVERTISING. Your phone sex calls are such a treat because I get to SEE that lovely, luscious and VERY SHINY KNOB !
YUM !
You can tell, it made an *impression* !!! 🙂
This sissy mostly uses panties while playing – though recently Mistress had sissy coat her clitty in lipstick, which made for a different sort of sensation (as well as a humiliating hot pink mess). Devious.
@ sissy c…..well, you know the saying: “Sissy IS as sissy DOES.” …. well, that’s technically NOT the saying but it should be!
LOL
LOVES to tease sissies into a yummy *mess* in panties….with or without the hot pink lipstick!
~~ laughs ~~
Well Goodmorning Ms Oliva
Well if this is not a fun and frisky blog posting that I have just walked into….lol.
For me, well I will masturbate 3 or 4 times aday atleast. I mean it will depend alot on how tiered I am when I get home from work in the morning, and how late I decide to stay awake. Now, the weekends I have off well that is a different story, as it is sometimes more 🙂
Now I like to mix it up some. Sometimes I use my fleshlight with lube. Sometimes it is just lube and other times no toy or lube. I think it was N B who said you can control sensations that way. It’s true. But all of the above ways I use can make different sensations….so it’s all good 🙂
Other than that, well all I really need is a fun and naughty thought to visualize in my mind. And I have the perfect example from our talk acouple of days ago. The picture you painted for me about putting on stockings and a garterbelt. The sound of your voice, the tone….well it painted a very lovely picture for me, and well you know…..LOL 🙂
I hope you have a Awesome day Ms Olivia
XOXO
@ Paul…..that was SO much fun to talk with you and REALLY get to know you by hearing your voice…….
oh and when your breath *caught* just a smidge when I mentioned Betty Page I thought to myself……ahhhhhh, I LIKE this man! And THEN when I heard the change in your breathing when we started talking about lingerie and stockings and high heels ….. ahhhh, listening to YOU is one of the things I most enjoy about phone sex. AND, that’s one of the reasons why I got into phone sex……MY voice changes when I get aroused…and so does YOURS! I love to hear that! THAT gets Me even hotter!
AND, I adore knowing that you masturbate to My voice, My photos, and our conversations!!!!
Lik most men, I like to masturbate a lot. Most of the time it’s by myself, looking at porn, etc. Fun but fairly standard (routine) stuff. It’s when I want a better than average masturbation session that I call the mistresses of LDW. The times I want to feel dirty or naughty, when I crave teasing and some light humiliation…that’s when I set up the web cam, grab my toys and lube, and call my mistress. It’s truely an escape to have some one watch as they guide me, tease me, edge me. The feeling (or should I call it high)that I get both during the session and afterwards is an order of magnitude better than what I usually feel when I just masturbate alone.
@ Plunger Boy…..what a GREAT comment….thank you so much for taking your time to write it ! I totally GET that ! I think of phone sex as the ‘treat’ like you described. Often solo masturbation can be the basic release which is good but then an amazing connection and with a Mistress who not only ‘gets your fantasy’ but has the experience to guide you, push you, expertly play with you …..well, it’s the difference between a plain chocolate bar and the amazing desert creations at someplace like the Ritz! We’re the Ritz baby !!! And, YES remember, relive and USE that experience to make solo masturbation that much better! You said it really WELL. THANK YOU !
I used to masturbate at least once a day if not twice a day also. Then I realized that the feelings of having someone else control my orgasms was very thrilling. I had to plaese them many times before I was able to release. I learned this the hard way by getting married but also from the Wonderful Mistress Olivia. She was entirely the professional. She guided me through masturbation and the art of starting and stopping, God what a wonderful thing. I also have on my own learned the treat of right as I get to orgasm to stop and smack my balls and then the urge goes away as my balls are now aching. On a call I like to use this because I hate to release too quick.
sissy cara……what lovely descriptions and thank you sweetie for your kind words! I DID have to laugh when you said you learned to control your orgasms (the hard way) in marriage! Now, that’s just funny I don’t care who you are! You have done and continue to do beautifully in learning and growing and it is such a PLEASURE to be on this journey with you ! Speaking of a trip…..have you finished your shopping for your upcoming trip? I want this time to be AMAZING for you !!! Did you get the lace foxers? How about that cute dress you showed Me?
Oh and a note about releasing *too quickly*….remember a lady controls herself! ~~ chuckle ~~
Yes Mistress I understand that beautiful Ladies conrtol themselves but with sound of such a beautfiful voice and all the eye candy of the beautiful clothes you wish me to buyan wear it is hard for at least this lady to control herself. Also the fact that I am usually wearing someis hard also and the control you have over my mind is uncontrollable for me.
*wink* @ cara……yes, pet We do know that! Personally I love to hear your voice as you tell Me all these things. Phone sex is really more than meets the eye (so to speak)….I can tell where you *are* in your journey by your tone of voice, breathing and all that. I love it when you are *uncontrollable* and you GASP. *wink*
what I haven’t seen mentioned is that i love to masturbate in my clothes. Maybe rubbing against the fabric of my pants simulates pressing against another person more. It can be dangerous, though- risk of chafing!
@ sam ….. OH YES, don’t chafe! I’ve got a site for you and others that find chafing to be an issue. Hanro is a Swiss company that uses Mercerized Cotton….it is unbelievably soft! (I know and adore amazing fabrics) You can get on line to shop via the hanroUSA link. I warn you, they are expensive but, in My experience well worth it! I too love to masturbate in My clothes *wink* There are all kinds of FUN ways to use anything and convert (or pervert) the most mundane items into sexual play toys!
Thanks for writing and let Me know what you think about the Hanro option 🙂
Yours in chafe-free living, LOL.
I masturbate a lot, which is between 10 to 25 times a day. Since I am into complete orgasm denial, I do not ejaculate. This results in a complete feeling of satisfaction, as I master certain Tantric arts.
OMG cum_filled_balls ….. let Me do the math here. Okay, at only 5 minutes of masturbating per stroking session that’s at least 1 – 2 1/2 hours of masturbation per day. Hmmmm ….. okay, so I’ve had some phonesex calls that run several hours. But, that’s an enormous amount of time if you masturbate only 10 minutes per session.
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