Can a phone Mistress be a sex therapist?Where do YOU go to talk about your sexual needs, issues and desires? There’s lots of porn, kink, fetish and overtly sexual images all over the internet and in society in general. Think about it! We have lots of sites for everything from
Think about this: Where do YOU go to talk about your sexual needs, issues and desires? There’s lots of porn, kink, fetish and overtly sexual images all over the internet and in society in general. Think about it! We have lots of sites for everything from crossdressing to vanilla phone sex. Who do you talk with?
Sex is a hidden
If you’re like most people you talk with yourself about sex (fantasies, issues, desires, concerns, questions, etc.) You might do research on the internet for something like masturbation and edging but it’s still a conversation with yourself inside your own head. That’s fine (I like to think and research on the internet too) BUT there is more available when you bring that private conversation into a community. I think LIFE happens in community so I hope to have a forum for our community conversations about sex.
Mistress gets on twitter …. @MistressOlivia1
I’ve been using this blog as the conversation forum and want to expand that to the twitter-sphere. My twitter name is: @MistressOlivia1. I’m going to make sure that My twitterfeed is predominantly intelligent conversation about sexual topics, issues and insights. I’m going to make sure you’re not bombarded with ads and irrelevant *stuff* if you choose to follow My tweets.
IM Chat continues
That brings us to the continuation of the IM Chat I had with the caller wanting to bring his Femdom and fetish exploration into real life. We pick up the IM conversation with his comments about sex therapists.
Man: I’ve spent time with online sex coaches who have not been nearly as insightful, honest, informative, or educational as you to be frank.
Man: The “two” i’ve spoken with were almost amateur psychologists in their approach, despite trying to point out the honest sex communication. While I understand there is a clinical aspect to this, the reality is I’m clearly looking for real world based information, guidance, assistance, etc.
As I told you during our chat, after my divorce, when I was so beaten-up about my sexuality and drive, I went to an escort, not a therapist. I neeed the “boots on the ground” approach, not the theoretical approach. That’s not to say that an online sex coach didn’t provide me some tidbits, but it was more like the person was trying to sustain my visits instead of helping me
So one sex coach first had me fill out a psychological profile that I had to submit, then our first session was reviewing that info. And while there was some benefit and insight to be gained, it should have been a tool instead of the “focus” of the first two sessions. Meanwhile in these chats and one tremendous phone encounter with you, I was able to learn, explore, be aroused, and add information to continue to explore and bring into my reality. Make sense?
Ms Olivia: *nods* YES ! What you’re saying about the theoretical versus the practical. I say, I’m therapy with a happy ending. LOL
Man: well there’s that, lol
Ms Olivia: Of course, I also versed in theraputic techniques and do use them on calls and chats……but, My degree is in communications not therapy so I can’t hang out a therapy shingle so to speak. I’m clearly NOT a sex therapist but you do have the benefit of My research, knowledge, insight and information.
Man: but you are also giving me valuable real world tools & information to continue my personal pursuit the right way.
Ms Olivia: *nods* Safe, sane, and consensual…….AND, with practical insight. Even with a sex therapist they *see* fewer people then My pool of experience. Men tend to get VERY honest at $2.50 / minute. LOL So I can sort thru the hmmmmmmmssssss and cut to the chase.
Man: ROFL
Ms Olivia: Really! I can figure out what I THINK you’re wanting to ask or do and then ask you. Usually men, when it’s identified and spoken in a nonjudgmental way will actually answer.
Man: true
Ms Olivia: Men do the *dance* with women (civilians) because civilian women have y’all trained to do the *relationship dance* so there’s all this STUFF underneath………
Man: very true
Ms Olivia: and like mushrooms and other fungus it grows in the dark.
Man: tremendous metaphor
From the real life relationship of Mistress
Ms Olivia *nods* Thank you! Let me give you a real life example…..My guy and I were trying to decide what to do on a certain weekend. We had two options mutually exclusive because of timing for the events. I really didn’t have an opinion and said that. He kept doing the “well it’s up to you” types of comments. I eventually said, If you want ME to make the decision I will. I’ve already told you. These two events have more to do with you than me. So, I think it makes more sense for YOU to choose. He came back with…..but I want you to have fun. I said, I’ve told you I’ll have fun with either. Now, what I’m not having fun with is the back and forth where you’re trying to figure out what will please Me when I have already told you My answer. LOL He finally GOT IT and said, I’d like to do THIS……I said great, get it set up…..that sounds fantastic. NOW…….. I don’t think I’d have been able to actually HAVE that Meta conversation with him unless I’d talked with thousands of men on a phone sex line! LOL
Man: lol
Ms Olivia: I was able to *spot* the squirmy maybe you’ll figure out and do what I really want to do without me having to say it. Most civilian women won’t be that knowledgable or blunt. This, btw, is the ONLY conversation we’ve had like that in a year and a half. If it were an ongoing thing we wouldn’t be togehter. I tell you that to point out that the men/women relationship stuff gets bad icky sticky in a heart beat left to it’s *normal* course. You have had experience with that haven’t you?
Man: Very much so
Ms Olivia: You get more honest/more experienced with a professional because there aren’t the *will he like me in the morning* kind of stuff that you get with amateurs or people who want a relationship with you. Now, I have a really CLOSE and intimate relationship with My guy so I’m not *detached* at all…….I bring the best of My experienced and skills into our relationship and that includes how we communicate……but that’s rare.
Man: so true and ultimately going in you know you won’t be judged by those (traditional relationship) rules, and they might find you fun and result in another encounter of similar or different play it’s that Freedom of Pursuit.
Ms Olivia: ROFLOL !!!!!! It’s the FEMDOM of pursuit! LOL I like that!
Man: lol I feel like I have taken up far too much of your time but it’s been such a good conversation
Ms Olivia: I also get to use this on My blog……..so it’s good for us both. I like that – when it’s mutual! So, THANK YOU !
We’ll end this IM Chat here. We continue on with a private conversation about some specific things that are for his eyes only *wink*. And, now you get the questions. ~laughs~ Who do YOU talk with about your erotic needs and desires? Have you ever used your doctor, a traditional therapist, a sex therapist or someone else? I love your comments!
Ms Olivia
Rhut Rho…here i go again!
“Who do YOU talk with about your erotic needs and desires?”
i haven’t talked much about it lately, until i found a few of the LDW blogs, Ms. Olivia…Your’s (obviously), along with Ms.’ Alexandria, Constance, Harper, & Violet. each of You delve into things slightly differently, eliciting slightly different responses/reactions. as a whole, You seem to cover all the facets of that crystal that is my sexuality.
“Have you ever used your doctor, a traditional therapist, a sex therapist or someone else?”
During the late couple of years of my marriage, i did one-on-one counseling with a traditional therapist. a lot of the reason for me going was my regular visits to a certain DC “gentleman’s club.” by a twist of luck, i had a woman therapist, working out of a place that mostly served women patients. it was conveniently located between work home. the more we delved into my frequenting this particular club the more supportive she became. we finally reached the conclusion that the key thing i was getting there (& one of the things i wasn’t getting at home) was simple conversation. the place had become my “Cheers.” the conversations could have been with the bartender, other patrons, the various waitresses as they came up to have orders filled, or any one of the dozen or so dancers. many of them would prefer to sit with the “regulars” at the bar, where we’d take turns picking up their drinks, count the money they pulled from their garter at the end of set (while they hit the Ladies Room), or even give a neck massage, than sit with tables of big spenders who would tip well for their presence, while pawing them. by the time we concluded our counseling, i’d also been in couples counseling for a year. she helped me get the point where i could pack my suitcase in my own mind.
as i’ve mentioned, back then, i often (once i found the net) participated in discussions on kink-related forums, simply to learn. LDW (& especially this blog) seems to come the closest to the spirit of those forums. i tried FetLife briefly but found it a hotbed of self-absorption, judgementalism, and sniping. i would have thought “kinky” people would be more circumspect than that.
as for the couples counseling, the main thing i got from that was the technique of “mirroring” in a conversation…paraphrasing what my ex said to ensure i heard it properly before responding.
& now for one of my strange tangents…lol.
it struck me that the distinction of conversing with You and a “sex therapist” is akin to dealing with either a theoretical or applied chemist. i remember there’s a thing in chemistry called the Ideal Gas Law that dictates how an “ideal gas” behaves at STP (standard temperature and pressure) & is predictive about how that “ideal” gas will behave with changes to either temperature & pressure. if You consider us, Your correspondents, to be less than ideal gases in this analogy, a sex therapist (theoretical chemist) will extrapolate from the Ideal Gas Law to theorize on how we less-than-ideal gases will perform under various conditions. You (the applied chemist) are “experienced” in years of bench-scale testing & can accurately forecast how we’ll react to Your increases in temperature and pressure, based on that experience.
done with tangent…
LOL coffeeboy ….. You’re right! Some of the *stuff* I say is based on theory …. I am a geek in the sense that I do read a LOT! But, everything I read I pass through the lens of real life experiences. Sometimes they’re kink experiences and sometimes just general life experiences. 🙂 I do bring everything to the phone sex arena.
There actually are people who are therapists with real life kink experiences but you do need to check and make sure that any therapist is BDsm friendly …. or crossdressing friendly …. or actually has experience with gender issues, etc.
I agree about what you’ve said re: FetLife …. it’s really GREAT in many ways …. but, there are the problems that exist in various online communities. The flaming and strangeness. I really like the internet because it opens up so much. And, yet, some of what it opens up is just plain nutty or not worth it. (You mention the judgment and sniping.) FetLife can be fantastic but anyone needs to use their critical thinking skills! LOL But, actually that’s all of life isn’t it?
Your therapist sounds like a good one in that she helped you to find out what would work for you. I do think there’s solid value in therapy of the traditional kind (I’m a fan of outcome based therapeutic techniques like NLP and cognitive behavioral) But, some like you (and Me) also find therapy in unusual places. I think some of the key points are being around people who accept you where you actually ARE, rather than where you *should* be.
“I think some of the key points are being around people who accept you where you actually ARE, rather than where you *should* be.”
i think at this juncture in my life, Ms. Olivia, things are best be summed up by that great American philosopher of the ’30’s, who said “I yam what i yam & that’s all that i yam!” its true for me….at least until i start talking to a Phone Domme versed in NLP. then all bets are off1! 😉
@ coffeeboy ….. ~laughs~ POPEYE! Cute and certainly one of the most *accessible* of philosophers! *wink* I use ALL SORTS of My experiences in phone sex calls …. everything is on the table, so to speak.
i would expect You to use Your full range of life experiences, just like i would. to say either of us that we can only draw on our “kink” experiences, would be akin to taking pink and green off of Monet’s color palette! 😉
Exactly ! And the world would be flat and dull without the shifting of the tectonic plates. I think of My approach to Femdom is … My plate encounters yours and then we simply watch them grind away to produce all sorts of new landscapes to enjoy.
BTW, speaking of color and physical geography …. have you read Color: A Natural History of the Palette by Finlay? FANTASTIC !
Funny true story. A few years ago I got all stressed and depressed trying to figure my kinky self out. I called a help line in my city. A very caring person asked some questions and referred me to a sex therapist. This person turned out to be much like myself only kinkier! After a couple of sessions, we just decided to get together as friends on a social basis instead. We had lots of long conversations over lots of wine. It really did help to have a knowledgeable kinky friend to help me feel better about myself. BTW, that is just one of the reasons I’m such a fan of Ms. O.
awwww, THANK YOU Jamie Rose! Your story IS funny! I love little coincidences like that! Maybe the folks who say we always get what we’re *ready* for are right! I’m amazed by phone sex callers who show up when I’m thinking about something in particular. Like a blog post, erotic audio, or just a special project that isn’t even public yet. Something about the *energy* that does seem to gather momentum outside Myself. Like that Goethe quote about the Universe showing up once a decision is made.
THANK YOU Jamie Rose for posting …. you really ARE totally delightful JUST the way you are!
I’ve actually just kinda started looking at finding a sex therapist that deals with gender issues. I did send an email tonight and probably a little not sure what word I want to use here, but I’ll just wait and see what she says. I prefer to see a woman, because I think they are more understanding with this. Maybe that’s just me though. But I did see a regular therapist before and as soon as thoughts got into my mind is when I started having some problems, which is now why I’m a bit worried perhaps about getting more thoughts about who knows what, lol. If I do see her. Thanks, Ms Olivia.
Hi Tiffy……I just finished a book called Radical Ecstasy. One of the authors comments about being a therapist. You might also contact Her and ask her for suggestions. From My reading, she *gets* the gender issues AND BDsm in real life (not just theory). HUGS to you Tiffy!
“Who do YOU talk with about your erotic needs and desires? Have you ever used your doctor, a traditional therapist, a sex therapist or someone else?”
The truth is that i don’t really have anyone to talk to. At least, i didn’t before i met you, Ms. Olivia. Though, i’ve thought a lot about seeing a therapist in real life i haven’t been able to overcome the complication that it would entail.
“I’m therapy with a happy ending.”
I know that this was a bit of a joke, but i think that there’s something to this. The arousal that you create (and boy do you ever!) really helps me to be open and honest and direct.
warmly,
g
gMan !!! Thank you ! I do say that I’m therapy with a happy ending with a twinkle in My eyes….but I actually DO believe that it’s true for some of the reasons you said! I think there’s value in speaking out loud to another person of the elephant in the middle of the living room. “Something” begins to happen. I’m not sure I can explain it but I know it is true. It’s like Quantum Theory …. it’s un-thinkable really but ACCURATE in the application.
Hi MsOlivia,
I have never used a therapist or the like though I have nothing whatsoever against those would do so. It’s just that overall I kind of like the way I turned out and don’t have any real anxiety over my fetishes and/or submissiveness. I certainly do understand the need and desire to speak of it with others though who would understand, if not share, those desires. You had mentioned the internet as a good resource, and I couldn’t agree more that it is, but the internet is also more than just myself sitting here watching porn. (Really? Don’t lie now, magnus. :)) It’s also a way of bringing people together with those common interests, sometimes meeting in person, but if not, then certainly chatting. I have mentioned several friends I have and I am glad to have met them in real life, though just for friendship which suits me perfectly. So the internet can be used to share of oneself and discuss. I know it has helped me feel that I’m not alone.
While I have expressed my lack of love for Twitter before and I doubt that will change, I am also sure I’ll check Your twitter from time to time, given that I do love Your thoughts and words. I’ll just have to content myself with reading
In some ways though I do kind of see You in the therapist role for the info You impart. I realize though that it wouldn’t be a very good idea to call Yourself that so as to not misrespresent Yourself, but perhaps other terms would apply well. Coach, mentor, adviser, consultant,…….Infobabe. Those would all work and represent the kind of advice I’ve seen You give here to the chatters in Your posts. (And thank You and them for sharing such.) I have enjoyed reading Your insight on all this topics and wait with
LOL magnus !! It took some convincing to get Me on twitter…..but, now that I’ve fallen into the twitter-verse I’m finding I like it. If you pop in to check you’ll see ‘real stuff’ not ads and such. I figure that people know to call if they want to call. LOL
Can I just say something to you magnus? I LOVE LOVE LOVE your comments and interactions. You made Me totally SMILE when you said that you LIKE the way you turned out. Ahhhh…..that is fantastic. Me too. I like the way I am (quirky and kinks and all) …. isn’t that a fabulous way to be?
HUGS and a special kind of *swat* to you!
MsOlivia, You can say anything You want to me, any time. 😉 I do thank You for the flattery. I do like to pass on the joke that flattery will get you everywhere, but in seriousness, I am well pleased that You enjoy my comments since I enjoy Your posts so much. I admit to checking email during the day to see if You have put up anything new. And as for Your quirks and kinks, they’re what makes You special, and I would not change them either.
Mmmm, enjoys hugs and special swat most immensely. 🙂
~ laughs ~ We’ve got a mutual admiration society going on here. Hmmmmmm……..like I admire when your ass gets those nice red stripes!
That is a really cute picture Ms. Olivia. It really shows off your eyes and playful spirit.
I often think of my calls w/ my Mistress as therapy, and for me it is not just sex therapy, though that is certainly a big part of it. The big difference is that in traditional therapy you are not allowed to have feelings for your therapist; but I am certainly allowed to have those emotions with my Mistress.
I’m in a transitional phase in my life right now, and this is the safe and responsible kind of relationship to have. A relationship in my personal life would have been disastrous and hurtful to all parties involved. But this relationship has been a healthy and helped me work through a lot of issues. It helped me to see myself and my qualities in a different and more positive light – one that I’m sure will be extremely helpful once I’m ready to start looking for a partner in my personal life again. It also took the edge off the loneliness which helped me to act more responsibly and rationally in my personal life.
@ slavemind …… ahhhhh so very well put! I think that phone sex conversations and connections can be MANY things ! I recently got on twitter because a caller took time to convince Me to do it! LOL
You mention feelings for Ms Violet and how that’s “not allowed” in traditional therapy. I think there are boundaries in place for both … different limits that keep emotions at safe, sane and consensual levels. It’s VERY EASY (and to My mind appropriate) to feel strong feelings for someone who cares for you! I think that’s a good thing.
You are doing some amazing ‘personal work’ on your self! It’s so much easier to tell others what they *should* do, it’s a lot harder to turn the lens inward. When I look to see who I am in the matter of My own life, beliefs, commitments, etc …. well, THAT mirror (what I see and what I do about it) is the journey of transformation. Kudos to you for doing really high level spiritual work.
SPEAKING of spirituality !!! YOUR BOOK CAME !!! Thank you thank you thank you! I’m so excited! You’ll be seeing the conversation here as well because you know I incorporate anything I’m reading into what I talk about. Thank you so much m’dear. THANK YOU!
Dear Empress Olivia,
Thank You so much for You time on IM, it was really great to have a quick chat. As You instructed, i have posted the gist of our conversation below and i look forward to hearing Your responses at Your convenience.
i have done sessions on and off with various beautiful LDW Mistresses, and have accrued some real time experience over the years. As a part of my training, i have been required to wear panties at all times; required to buy panties, bras and make up and to tell the sales Girl that the items are for me; required to get my legs waxed, nails done and keep my pubic hair shaved and/or groomed into a girlie triangle above my clitty; i have been made to wear butt plugs; enticed to suck cocks; threatened with chastity and served as a sissy maid at a femdom tea party, plus played with some Dommes in the local scene
Recently, i have become aware that i am at a crossroads. i know deep down that i need to integrate my kinks into my life, or to somehow move away from them entirely (which i know is impossible). At present it is a secret i keep, even from partners… and have learnt that through non-disclosure of my kinks i am kind of fucking up the honesty of the relationship. The dynamic of the sex in the relationship is founded on a half-truth…which then sort of leaks out into other areas of the relationship.
i am trying to work out a way of being at peace with it, and living it at an appropriate level in general life. In other words, i want to live my kinks without losing credibility or becoming a walking freak show at the local mall where i buy my panties… If that makes any sense!!
The conflicts i feel are sophisticated and quite deep… its not just a matter of feeling shame, or suffering guilt, or freaking out about duplicity in relationships. It’s a struggle i wage within myself, a real push and pull between major forces which (to simplify) can be broken down to “light” and “dark”, “feminine” and “masculine”, “defiant” and “submissive” etc. i am trying to figure out an equilibrium that works for me. Sometimes when i get into this stuff i feel a dissolution of self set in that is deeply corrosive… and totally contra-creative … and i can’t go there without abandoning or betraying myself. But when i desist entirely … i feel deeply lonely!!! Even if i am in a vanilla thing and very well loved.
i have a very full and successful life with a lot of vanilla friends who i love… but i do not want to lay my kink out in front of them. In other words, i do not want my kinks to encroach on my vanilla life, but nor do i want the vanilla to eclipse my kinks… i say this having recently ended a relationship with a beautiful vanilla woman.
Its the struggle for integrity, self honesty and functionality in the real world!!
And NOW i AM laughing at myself and blushing a rather fetching pink!!
Yours very truly,
chrissy
Hi chrissy, thank you for posting this. I’ve actually turned it into a blog post and will answer in the coming days. One thing to note, while I do say My phone sex calls can be therapy with a happy ending …. I do a lot of calls that are simply talking about real issues about human sexuality.
Dear Empress Olivia,
Thank You so much for You time on IM, it was really great to have a quick chat. As You instructed, i have posted the gist of our conversation below and i look forward to hearing Your responses at Your convenience.
i have done sessions on and off with various beautiful LDW Mistresses, and have accrued some real time experience over the years. As a part of my training, i have been required to wear panties at all times; required to buy panties, bras and make up and to tell the sales Girl that the items are for me; required to get my legs waxed, nails done and keep my pubic hair shaved and/or groomed into a girlie triangle above my clitty; i have been made to wear butt plugs; enticed to suck cocks; threatened with chastity and served as a sissy maid at a femdom tea party, plus played with some Dommes in the local scene
Recently, i have become aware that i am at a crossroads. i know deep down that i need to integrate my kinks into my life, or to somehow move away from them entirely (which i know is impossible). At present it is a secret i keep, even from partners… and have learnt that through non-disclosure of my kinks i am kind of fucking up the honesty of the relationship. The dynamic of the sex in the relationship is founded on a half-truth…which then sort of leaks out into other areas of the relationship.
i am trying to work out a way of being at peace with it, and living it at an appropriate level in general life. In other words, i want to live my kinks without losing credibility or becoming a walking freak show at the local mall where i buy my panties… If that makes any sense!!
The conflicts i feel are sophisticated and quite deep… its not just a matter of feeling shame, or suffering guilt, or freaking out about duplicity in relationships. It’s a struggle i wage within myself, a real push and pull between major forces which (to simplify) can be broken down to “light” and “dark”, “feminine” and “masculine”, “defiant” and “submissive” etc. i am trying to figure out an equilibrium that works for me. Sometimes when i get into this stuff i feel a dissolution of self set in that is deeply corrosive… and totally contra-creative … and i can’t go there without abandoning or betraying myself. But when i desist entirely … i feel deeply lonely!!! Even if i am in a vanilla thing and very well loved.
i have a very full and successful life with a lot of vanilla friends who i love… but i do not want to lay my kink out in front of them. In other words, i do not want my kinks to encroach on my vanilla life, but nor do i want the vanilla to eclipse my kinks… i say this having recently ended a relationship with a beautiful vanilla woman.
Its the struggle for integrity, self honesty and functionality in the real world!!
And NOW i AM laughing at myself and blushing a rather fetching pink!!
Yours very truly,
chrissy
ps – i hope i havent submitted this twice!
I find the Rush analogy disturbing yet somehow arousing. Which then leads me back to disturbing.
I’ll work it out.
Still you could be on the cutting edge of orgasmic evolution. The Maha Olivia.
In all seriousness you should consider terrestrial radio to market your business especially if you write a book or want to expand into sex therapy. Since you were a journalist, you have to know you’re pretty much a radio host’s wet dream. Intelligent, articulate, great voice and you’d be talking about sex and relationships instead the economic impact of the bond issue for the Hooterville Sewer Renewal Project.
Men would obviously be all over the phone sex thing and women would be interested in what you’ve learned from doing it and how they can apply it to their relationships.
Get on a couple mornings shows in larger markets as a regular guest and watch it snowball from there. Being part of the content is where you want to be in marketing as opposed to being one of 20 commercials each hour that no one is listening to.
Best of all your marketing dollars are zero and you get to stay anonymous.
Let me know when the Rush To Orgasm World Tour is coming to Hooterville.
@ John …. you’re right! When *vanilla* women find out that I do phone sex the first question always is, can you help me spice up my relationship. I think there’s a *need* for a boots on the ground approach to sex therapy …. of course, My approach is thigh high black leather boots on the ground ! LOL, but that’s just Me.
You mentioned the morning show and commercials…..omg, would that be a radio ad with a happy ending? LOL
I did actually contact Kevin Smith about his new radio show to ask about ad rates. Never heard back which surprises Me because they have fleshlights as a sponsor for the smodcast. But, maybe phone sex is too …. hmmmmm ….. I don’t know. Or maybe they’re just busy. Who knows! LOL
SexInfoBabe?………Consults my cable guide for next airing of the “Sexyinfobabe Show” Must be on late night Fox, I wouldn’t wanna miss it for the world! 🙂
ROFLOL @ Mike! Thanks. It’d be very, very late night! LOL
You might try them back as they probably didn’t get your message. These days the broadcast industry is in no position to turn down ad dollars.
And frankly when your radio show is sponsored by large, artificial vaginas, you’ve pretty much crossed the Rubican for ever declining any type of advertising.
ROFLOL !!!! Great comment coffeeboy ……. and, you’re right, they DID write back! Ohhhhhhhhhh LOL
“have you read Color: A Natural History of the Palette by Finlay?”
i have not, Ms. Olivia, but rest assured on Your recommendation i will seek it out!
and thank You for touching on my own idiom. i find it lends itself so well to so many analogies. one could well speak of Dommes as akin to continental crust, mantled in beauty…while us subs take on aspects of oceanic crust. we being slow-moving, denser, and inevitably drawn to the other only to have our wills subducted by the heat & pressure of Your depths. 😉
@ coffeeboy…..OH! Now, that description is just plain fucking HOT ! *fans self*
well, You inspired it, Ms. Olivia. i may be stuck from here on in thinking of my cum as andesite! 😉
“LIFE HAPPENS IN COMMUNITY” – so well said, Olivia! Some of us really crave companionship that we’re not getting. If you can help us find that without turning to the phone as our source of life, it can be great – in the right circumstances.
I agree that your service is one of the more “safe, sane and consensual” outlets available. Many of us really need therapy, and I know there’s a tendency to desire more depth to therapy. Many people end up in intimate relationships with therapists because therapy is, well, intimate! So a “happy ending” to (telephonic)sex therapy seems logical, so long as no one is being hurt. Therefore, “therapy with a happy ending” is a helpful, fun and tantalizing concept.
Thank you for all you do!
Dave
Hi Dave! *nods* I agree with you …. all of us, as human beings, crave companionship. That said, there are different levels of that need for companionship. For example, I know a lot of people who define companionship as going to the grocery store TOGETHER. That does it for them. I have girlfriends who love to walk around the mall with friends or a partner. For ME, that’s not companionship. But, like with everything it’s best to identify your own needs and wants first before starting the conversation with your partner about what’s you’d like to see her do, say, be, etc.
I’m not sure what you meant about people ending up in intimate relationships with therapists. While I tease about being a therapist some of the time via phone sex, there’s NO WAY that I’m an actual licensed counselor, therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. Actually, crossing professional boundaries is illegal or, certainly, unethical. I have the same standards on calls….I stick to My boundaries. I do think it’s important to remember that a professional relationship, no matter how close, IS different from the intimacy of a non-professional relationship.
All that said…..I do think there is a much needed place to have a community and I cherish our community here!