I am a real life Mistress. That means I actually do (or have done) these kinky things. In the privacy of our individualized phone sex session, I share much more about the real life kink fetish scene, but I’m going to give you a peek into My personal fetish life on this blog. Let’s talk about spanking!
Mistress loves to paddle bare bottoms!
There are some bottoms that just need a spanking, don’t you think? ~grinz~ I do! I’m a Femdom Mistress, therefore I’ve got lots of spanking implements in My personal fetish toy bag.
Mistress does have favorite toys and scenes
Someone new to the Experienced Mistress will generally ask, ‘What is your favorite thing to do?” That is a complex answer. It’s not the scene per se that gets Me hot, it’s the quality of interaction between the two of us. Power exchange is what I adore when I’m in Mistress-mode. I’m all for ANY scene that creates that *zing*. The same can be said of the Mistress toys in My fetish bag. My favorite toy is the one that I’m using!
Different paddles for different spanking scenes
Sex toys and fetish gear are wonderful items in an of themselves, but remember it’s all in service of the scene play. By that I mean the best spanking item depends on several things: the scene itself, where the energy is in the scene arc, and the desired physical sensation.
Creating scene arcs with different types of spanking.
The scene arc is how I think of what happens during a fetish scene. It’s like a story arc — beginning (warm up), middle (conflict, heroic journey, tasks) and then the ending (winding down). AFTER the scene is the cool down/scene aftercare but that’s a different blog post!
I’ll give a brief example using spanking only. The traditional school boy paddle or Governess paddle is ideal for beginning play because the long narrow spank surface is perfect for getting right under the curve of the bottom. Short, soft and multiple taps on that soft curve will physically cause the prostate to start humming! It’s a nice warm up to OTK (over the knee), bondage play and more.
What do YOU like about spanking?
Now, it’s your turn. I’ve given you a brief peek inside My personal Mistress fetish bag. I have MORE paddling implements (I’ll talk about that next) but I want to hear from YOU now. What do you like (in real life OR in fantasy)? How does spanking or paddling add to your erotic pleasure? Do tell in the comments section or a phone call!
Ms Olivia
I’ve had the real spankings & I must say what turned me on the most was trying to sit down while at work. I can’t explain why; but I do know that I thought of the night before while my ass was almost litterelaly handed to me. I thought of how I just loved the pain of being spanked/ Flogged. My ass was bruised & I couldn’t help but think of the woman that did this to me. It hurt sooo Good!!! That’s my real life story Mistress Olivia.
Ohhhhhhhh, you bring up a very good point Timm! Some of the eroticism of spanking comes after the session. Looking at that red bottom, running your fingers over the warmth, etc. ~smiles~ And, you know that, don’t you?
Mistress Olivia
An erotic spanking being punished for looking up your teasing skirt at your delectasble panties is certainly one of my fantasies.
The sexy spanking art that a gorgeous sexy Mistress like you would probably perform on my exposed buttocks, would be to use a paddle sized to cover only one buttock at a time. Spanking one side repeatedly knowing that what you were inflicting would follow – just as firmly and mercilessly – on the other side. Then with both sides done, spanked for being sooo naughty, who’s to say that more was not to follow on the first side?
This would form a part of the erotic teasing afforded by my sexy Mistress!
Best wishes
Panteezd
Exactly SO and I know when to tease you with My panties, when to spank you for being naughty by trying to look up My skirt and when to just bend you over for My pleasure and spank your bare bottom! After all, I have the panties, I make the rules, don’t I? ~grinz at Pant-TEEZED~
Fro me the eroticism starts before the frist spank lands. Anticipation when I know, or have been told that one is comeing, or the embarrassment of asking for it. Both of these are a huge turn on. Next it moves usually to a warm up. When it is an erotic spanking the warm up sets the stage for building the sting, and the deeper pain. But when it is built up slowly the sharp recoiling reaction never comes. When it is not as erotic, but more sudden it certainly, at least to me, is more painful. It continues to build on the embarrasment or humiliation of it. There many ways a spanking can end, some pleasurefull, some painful, some frustrating. All are wonderful and erotic.
That’s a very good point wellspanked! The eroticism is ALL of it…..especially the buildup and the interchange between the Dominant and the submissive….the Spanker and spankee. Anyone can just paddle or whip but it’s takes talent to know how to physically *build* the story line! I like that the best too ~grinz~ as I wield My spanking implements!
It’s everything associated with a spanking, from that raised eyebrow to having my pants pulled down to the stinging SMACK of that hairbrush in the helpless position of being turned over your knee. It’s the threat of a spanking in advance, the marks and stinging and scratchiness afterwards, just knowing you can do it to me any time you feel like it or in response to my naughtiness. It’s varying the severity or the implement according to what turns you on. It’s being tied down for it or made to stay in place without restraints. It’s, it’s, it’s…ya think I’m into it?
*gasp* What a LOVELY comment tommieboy! Oh yes, you’re a solid aficionado of bare bottom spanking. I can tell you as a Mistress, the buildup and the after play is equally important to Me. Personally, I like to feel the warm bottom hours after the spacing — especially when I can feel the warmth through the clothes! There’s something so naughty about watching My submissive *squirm* while out in public and knowing that I caused the squirming! THANK YOU for your inspiring comment!
I know i said once before that i wasn’t into my bottom spanked that i enjoy having my balls tied up and lightly spanked with a wooden spoon. But this post brought me back to my late teens before i knew what fetishes were. I can remember getting different kinds of magazines like swimsuit and Victoria Secret and really anything that had models in them and i would go in my room and take, do you remember the paddle game with the red ball on a rubber band and you had to see how many times you could hit the ball, well i would take that paddle and detach the red ball and rate each woman in the magazine. 1 for not really turning me on to 5 for really turning me on (10 if really really turned me on) and then i would spank my ass as left cheek right cheek middle. If the number 5 was rated it went left right left right then middle. I had a stack one time from the floor to almost the top of my bed and by the time i was done not only could i not sit in a chair comfortably for a few days but i had such a Puddle of Cum underneath me that i healed I tried to repeat every chance i got. I think in my real days in the submissive scene i didn’t like the way i was spanked and got turned off by it. But i believe with your tutoring i can be the red bottom slave You would crave. Thank You Ms Olivia
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh! ~grinz~ What a GREAT story bumkin! I ~giggled~ when I read this 🙂 I can visualize that stack on the floor and your … ahem … very extensive rating system! ~smiles~
Now, spanking …. like all things in kink play and BD/sm … is always best when created just for the individual. Some people like spanking, then soothing….some like lots and lots of spanking … some like bare bottom spanking, some want clothing like panties on their bottom. It’s individual.
As an Experienced Mistress there’s a question I always ask when talking about spanking or pain play and that is: “Do you like stingy or thuddy?” Floggers and something like a governess paddle is a thuddy sensation. Whips, canes and a paint stirrer are all examples of stingy sensations. Generally, there is a preference for thuddy or stingy even if all of the various implements are used in a session. Does this make sense?
It’s less about the implements per se but the emotions/sensations that Mistress can ‘orchestrate’ in you by conducting ON you. ~grinz~
I’m not sure if it is stingy or thudy. I guess we will have to find out together..*playful smile*. Now that when cums to Your Balls I’m not really sure. I enjoy Light CBT meaning lightly spanking. Not trying to hurt them, just a playful sting. Now of course hot wax to me is playful or light. Also taking a small amount of Bengay Zero Degree and rubbing them into the balls is light too. But i may fantasize about having Your balls walked on and kicked, truth is i have only experienced a woman sitting in a chair and having me in a cock walk board and just using her leg muscles to play with Your Cock and Balls. And i must i luved every minute of it! Once again Mistress You have made my day. It is Such a joy to wake up and even through the blog talk to You. You are Some kind of Wonderful! Thank You Mistress Olivia!
Awww, THANK YOU for your comment bumkin and I love getting to know you in the blog comments! It’s like we’re having multiple conversations here all day long over a variety of topics! ~smiles~ I really like that so thank you for taking your time to leave comments!
You’re SO RIGHT about ball handling…..that’s a very sensitive area (DUH!) and so I …. tread lightly there ~giggles~ and investigate! Now, with you I’d say that you really enjoy the TIGHTENING sensations more than smacking sensations. We’ll check all this out when we talk but that’s My read. BTW, I love that cock walk board, it’s sexy, naughty and keeps you focused on My lovely long legs! ~grinz~
Since I am into female domination, I realize that my dominant mistresses (in-person and LDW), not only, take control of my cock and balls, but they also control my body. This means that I may, from time to time, have to endure the pain of a good whipping or an intense spanking. How does spanking add to erotic pleasure? First, I just love the sight of a beautiful dominant woman holding a whip, a paddle, a wooden spoon, a twig, or a ruler. Second, I like the sensations of some physical pain, as it enhances the physical pleasure in my cock and balls. Some sessions may involve a spanking with some tease and denial stroking. Third, during the spanking, I like that psychological sensation of being dominated – with my body being controlled. Fourth, it makes me disciplined. Fifth, it makes me more willing to service my mistresses with foot and leg worship, face sitting, and tease and denial, etc. Sixth, having my testicles lightly – or maybe, sometimes, not quite that lightly – spanked, results in interesting combinations of pain and pleasure that are extremely sexually stimulating. [There were several sessions, when I had some of my in-person mistresses spank my testicles, resulting in intense orgasms with huge loads of cum being squirted out of that cock. Those were quite some interesting and delightful ball busting experiences!] Last, I just enjoy pleasing my mistresses and being a source of entertainment for them!
What a great description of how you get your cum filled balls! Yes! It’s the visuals and then all the other stuff of pain play and sensation play! That’s a natural release of endorphins but I also really like the sounds of the paddle on a bare bottom…..or the FEEL of pulling someone over My lap and then delivering a hand spanking on that bare bottom…there are SO MANY luscious options!