(( This is Ms Olivia writing with a note before I post the Guest post by Ms Emma Jane of fetish phone sex calls. A couple of things for you to know. Ms Emma Jane is a good friend of mine and she will rock your world. We are teaming up on Crossdressers phone sex. Look for more as we 2 Mistress team up to tease you silly!))
Communication with Mistress
Olivia, this blog about dominance, submission and communication is a prime example of why I think you are such an amazing Mistress AND woman. One of the reasons for my opinion simply follows the course of a conversation we had not so long ago. You are a straight-shooter, you communicate yourself clearly, and you leave no question where you stand. You are blatantly honest but in such a way that the last thing you could come off as being is bitchy or arrogant. I suppose this regard I have for you is THE reason reading those e-mail excerpts made me twitch and feel all itchy.
I think it is all too easy for some people to forget a few crucial things when it comes to ANY interpersonal interaction, relationship, and/or dynamic:
(1) Communication is KEY. Regardless of his/her talents and abilities, no one is born a mind reader. Period. (If you know someone who is, please have them contact me. I’ll throw up a big top tent, pretend to be Jessica Lange, and have one of my subs give his best barker routine.) Like it or not, there is ONLY ONE way to ensure that another human being knows what you think, want, need, etc., and that is to open your mouth and clearly express yourself. It really IS that easy. You and you alone are responsible for what others do and do not know about how you think and feel – and you can hardly blame another for not understanding your subtle hints, vague clues, and nondescript insinuations. If you want to be heard clearly, speak up clearly!
WELL SAID Ms Emma Jane! I’m going to post the 2nd part of your comment next because I love mixing the how to communicate with a Mistress in amongst the erotic tease type of blogs.
Interesting! This is the second blog post I’ve read from a Mistress in the past couple of days regarding how potential playmates and tease toys can best get what they need from a session, or even discern what they want in the first place.
I guess this tells Me that We are getting a recent influx of fresh meat, which excites Me but also tells Me that many boys have needs they don’t quite know how to express. Also, I think some boys take the intimacy they may build with a Mistress and confuse that with leave to take liberties and make demands.
Don’t get Me wrong–everyone gets to have expectations. It’s an exchange, after all. But sometimes that turns into topping from the bottom, or feeling disappointed because he didn’t get something he wanted, when it wasn’t clear what he wanted in the first place.
I’ll be reading the next installment. Thanks, Ladies!
I just found the other post about communication Ms Rachel … and there’s another post about Mistress not being a girlfriend. Not sure why we seem to coordinate. I haven’t had a ton of new to us callers who don’t know how to communicate … actually I tend to post these types of things every now and then so I can send them as gentle reminders if someone needs reminding. Usually the new to me guys are the BEST — gifts and virtual bouquets, respectful of time and emails (if he actually DOES calls – I’m not talking about the guy who is angling for freebies on email) … some of the guys who have been calling for a while get a little … hmmmm, entitled about my time like I’m obligated to do certain things for them. I sure don’t like being treated like a girlfriend or a wife LOL that’s why I do phone sex for money!
Yeah, I feel incredibly spoiled Myself with the quality of the playmates with whom I tend to form bonds or have the best times. I really don’t think it’s hyperbole to suggest that We’re the best at what We do, and I think those who tend to get drawn to that commitment to excellence tend to be of a high caliber themselves.
You’re absolutely right about that Ms Rachel!