Olivia 1-800-601-6975
This was the day of my first phone sex call. I was dressed for suck-sess and feeling more than a little nervous. I’ve done phone sex with partners for years but never before as a paid partner.
My questions before the first call
What would happen? Could I do what the guy wanted? Would I like it as much as I like phone sex in my private life? Should I tell him if I get turned on? Is is okay for me to masturbate with the guy on the phone? So many emotions and questions!
The first call
I carefully prepared everything. I was wearing lingerie, stockings and high heels. Really! I looked (and felt) totally sexy hot! I was ready!
Ready or not here they cum
The phone rang! My nerves propelled me out of my chair. I was wearing high heels and wobbled a bit from the sheer speed of ascent! I grabbed the phone and then promptly dropped it! ~laughing~ So, when I say I understand what it’s like for you to MAKE that first phone sex call I totally get it!
His reaction to me
There was an unknown MAN on the line! Well, I knew that would happen but, like we’ve talked about it’s one thing to imagine something and it’s another to experience it. I said hello there in what I thought would be a sexy voice and he laughed. WHAT ?
I started laughing too. That broke the ice so to speak. He said, I see you’re new on the site and I blurted out, “You’re my very first phone sex call!” He told me the ‘sexy’ voice was artificial and just let things flow naturally. I settled down. He said, don’t *try* to be something, just be yourself. The BEST bit of advice ever!
I got an experienced caller
I totally lucked out! I got a regular LDW caller who was so fantastic with me … he was smart and funny and very generous with a newbie to this arena. We didn’t get right into a sex call, it was more a conversation about erotic things. Looking back on that first call, I realize that I’m giving back much of what that first caller gave to me. When you call you don’t get the pretend sexy voice or the fakey laugh. You get me.
Today, I’m the Experienced Mistress
Today, more than three years later, I can jump into various fetish fantasies if that’s what you want. I have real life experiences with crossdressers via My photography work. My natural Femdom tendencies have flourished! I’ve become an expert at cock control and I love that! I find I was a cuckoldress even before I know about cuckolding as a sexual fetish. We can also have fun conversations about anything and those don’t even have to be about anything overtly sexual or erotic.
All of these conversations have given me a new appreciation of men (in ALL your facets). I find that you all have opened up avenues for sexual exploration in me that were not fully expressed before. The Experienced Mistress became who I am today, in part, because My first phone sex call was from an experienced caller!
So, that’s my first phone sex call. Let’s hear about YOURS! You know I want to know!
Ms Olivia
Ms. Olivia, i cannot in good conscience, answer Your question, since i feel like i’ve spoken of that 1st Phone Domme & the first phone call quite enough.
if i may though, i’d like to address something else You touch upon…the trepidation that goes with calling a Phone Domme for the first time. & it doesn’t have to be the 1st time ever, just (at least in my case) the 1st time with any new Phone Domme. its gratifying to know that a new Domme experiences some of those same butterflies.
for me, each 1st time is a journey into the unknown with so many questions hanging out in front of me. we are, or at least i am, seeking permission to expose an often hidden portion of our psyche, hoping for acceptance (at least), approval, or even encouragement. i know, even though my specific needs are modest, i pray for each of these and one other thing…will She “like” me? can i be smart enough, clever enough, responsive enough, & engaging enough to hold Her interest and keep it from being just another call.
@ coffeeboy ….. WOAH! Thank you for your comment! LOL Soooooo……you get butterflies before each phone sex call to a new Mistress? Tell Me and us MORE !!!
And let Me just say one thing about being *just another call* ….. if you EVER get that sense for goodness sakes don’t do another call with that Mistress. I can honestly say that each call I get is different I don’t have “JUST” anything….LOL you can probably tell that I’m not a halfway person so I don’t have halfway calls and most assuredly I never ever have ‘half way’ callers!
Now, that I’ve *loved* on ya……*stern voice* Tell Me and us MORE!* ~laughs~
I have to say, MsOlivia that I loved this story. Mind you, it took me a minute or two to get past the part about You being in the high heels of course, lol. Once I did though, it kind of remind me a job interview in a way. That is, I’ve always been told that when doing a phone interview to sit up straight and to smile. Even though the person on the other end can’t see those things, my doing so would preject my voice as well. Your wearing the heels and trying to be sexy (like that’s hard for You ;-)) would be trying to do the same thing – putting Yourself in the correct frame of mind.
Now of course, the most important thing to do when interviewing is to be yourself, and that’s the advice You got from the caller. And I am totally glad for that too since it helped make You You.
And btw, the part about tripping on the heels when the phone rang just reminded me of a kinky episode of I Love Lucy. I say that with the utmost respect and endearment to both You and to Ms Ball.
LOL magnus YES! It was sort of an interview really. Ms Ally took a risk on Me because I didn’t have phone sex experience. So, part of My nervousness was that I could tell HER QUALITY and I didn’t want to let her down. OH that and the fact that I was wearing 4 inch heels! ~laughs~ Think on THAT baby!
Oh the vision of the 4 inch heels hasn’t left my mind for one instant, MsOlivia. 🙂
@ magnus *curls toes down …. accentuating My very *sensitive* arch*
Wow, this sucks, being a phone sex blog and all, but I’ve never actually had professional phone sex. I have however competed with varying degrees of success in the amateur ranks here in Hooterville.
I actually just buy the audios that are available on the different mistress sites. It just seems easier and they are very well done. Especially yours!
A few months ago I did inquire with a couple of mistresses because I was new/uniformed about having professional phone sex, but I never heard back. I was kind of bummed when I calculated the order of magnitude of loser (well beyond ginormous) I must be for this to happen.
But then it hit me.
Maybe the LWD Group had developed some new femdom fetish that genetically crosses financial domination with tease and denial to create:
Wait for it….
Financial Denial.
Basically a hybrid kink. You attempt to give someone money but they refuse to acknowledge you creating frustration and a touch of humiliation.
Kind of like when you’re at Starbucks waiting in line for 20 minutes and the barista has an attitude and then you’re the one that says “Thank you.”
The thing is, I actually found Financial Denial pretty freakin hot. Lonely but hot. And the best part was it was free!
Life. It’s all in how you look at it.
@ John ……….~howls laughing~ Oh man, you are FUNNY! Now, the way you wrote that comment cracked Me up. The actual content made Me sad. Seriously, various Mistresses have differing degrees of how much each will interact before a session (phone sex or text). I know that sometimes I am ‘organizationally challenged.’ Maybe some of those that didn’t respond are the same way? I can guarantee a couple of things….if you EVER have a problem with anything you just send Ms Ally an email or post a comment on The Daily Cock and your comments will be acted upon IMMEDIATELY. We take customer service very seriously …. we don’t want to leave you hanging, so to speak…..well, unless you’re INTO that! LOL We don’t have the fetish you created….but….LOL …. we do have a site where you can call and pay to be IGNORED. I’m not kidding! I got My first ignore call ever when I was with Ms Ally recently. OMG, I answered emails while he was on the call. I kept laughing because it was so crazy AND funny!
“…if you EVER get that sense for goodness sakes don’t do another call with that Mistress.”
not to worry there, Ms. Olivia. there have been only a couple, but there were never, ever any follow-up calls and my posted comments reflected my take on the session. 😉
still, when i think about it, i think a lot (or maybe just a few) of us bring forward issues from our formative years and it gets wrapped up in our sexuality. i know through middle school & high school i was desperate for “approval” whether from my folks or peers or whatever. growing up German-Lutheran, approval & emotion just weren’t expressed. one had to mine subtle signs and it was draining.
as a result, upon interacting with a new Phone Domme, i’m beside myself in my desire to please to immerse myself in Her scenario/Her world. & if the connection is there, it just reinforces itself to the point where an e-mail with “good boy,” “good girl,” good puppy, or “good <insert term here" will send me into a paroxysm of submissive joy & desire with the appropriate mental images….bootlicking, lipstick application, heeling, etc. and if approval is withheld or disapproval is expressed, i feel driven to redouble my efforts or diligence. so, knowing this about myself, i try to be very careful about whom i contact, lol.
but one Phone Domme, at least, partially cured me of the "like me" fear. i met Her on another site. i was going through a period, where i was working long (some would say hellishly long) hours & didn't have the time or energy for phone sessions. so, i would try to alleviate my need through PTV e-mails that i could hit off and on through the course of the day & evening. i was drawn to this one gorgeous "Domme." and the interplay through the e-mails was delightful. W/we got to know each others' thought patterns and grew closer. W/we started communicating through IM, where, about 6 months in, She asked me for my phone # & She started calling "me!" W/we'd just talk & fairly quickly evolved out of any sort of sexual or D/s interplay. that was about 3 years ago & we still talk 1-3 times daily about everything under the sun. We've become best friends or almost like older brother/younger sister.
She has evolved, maybe through our conversations. i talked to her about "*deleted*domination" and it fascinated her. she confessed to using a "content" model & to being a 40-something single mom. i assured her that it was the person on the phone that i liked at this point, not the girl in the photo. she started up another content model to start doing *deleted*domination and i helped her with her early scripts for mp3's. she eventually deleted the first content model and focused on the *deleted*. just last week, she announced to her "followers," that she'd been using a content model, was dumping the model & was stepping out as herself. this will enable her to do video clips along with phone sessions & mp3's. its a helluva risk & i'm proud of her growth. but, the whole experience was proof positive that at least "She" liked me. 😀
@ coffeeboy…..I deleted the specifics of the type of domination you talk about there at the end of your comment because we don’t offer that and don’t talk about it on the blogs. That said, let Me also address the content of your comment. It makes TOTAL sense to Me that She would want to talk with you! You are delightful! NOW, I had to think long and hard about posting your comment because I don’t want to open this forum up to any unrealistic expectations. When people get *intimate* with one another in any sense …. whether it is with either head or the heart there is a natural tendency to want to take the relationship to the next level. I know from experience that this happens with phone sex! BUT, I want to say, this won’t happen here. No matter HOW delightful you (or anyone is) I won’t be calling you, I don’t take things offline and I’m very careful to distinguish this as a professional (albeit intimate) service not a dating site. This is not a reflection on you … that is simply the reality of My (and LDW) limits and boundaries.
BTW, I’m glad you’re cured of the “like me” fear ….. because you are TOTALLY likeable and perfect just the way you are!
no worries, Ms. Olivia. i wasn’t trying to provide a citation about taking anything to another level. in fact, the friendship factor took those notions off the table. so it is emphatically not a good business proposition, lol. i haven’t met her. i don’t expect to meet her. we are simply there for each other as a support group of two.
You know what coffeeboy! I’m glad you said that…..I needed to clarify what I said so THANK YOU ! ((Internet problems the last several days and now I’m out of town)
I know that you’re not trying to take anything to another level……I used your comment to post (yet again) about limits and boundaries. And, I know that you totally GET IT which I adore about you….actually because you DO get it, you’ll get much MORE of Me then someone that I know or sense will PUSH. Isn’t that ironic? True tho!
Directly to your situation…..I’m a totally fan of connections, support and communication ….. and you make Me smile each time you write. I can TOTALLY see why She would want to get to know you better!
Here is an example of not trying to take things to another lever, just an observation, Ms. Olivia. IF You and i were ever to meet in the “world,” i have a sneaking suspicion that W/we’d get so into peeling back the world a lay at a time that the staff would be sweeping up around us and there’d be either vente coffee cups or empty wine bottles scattered all over table, lol.
for me, it comes back to that nasty word “compartmentalization.” i KNOW i need to find someone to whom i can joyously give my submission. at the same time, i KNOW, just as well, that such a person…or a vanilla person (for that matter) simply doesn’t fit into the equation of my day to day physical life at this juncture. there are simply too many undefined variables floating around, lol. so for me, at this moment in time, if i can borrow from Voltaire, THIS is the best of all possible worlds.
“PUSH” triggered another thought. years ago, a mentor of mine described certain situations as trying to “push on a rope.” the parameters and ground rules of LDW or safe phone sex in general are like that rope. You can pull on a rope. You can tie all kinds of fancy knots with a rope to the point of ornamentation. You can do a lot of useful & fun things with a rope. but you just can’t push one, unless its a hanging rope and you, counterintitively, push it to bring it closer.
@ coffeeboy……WOW, thank you !!! That “push on a rope” visualization is PERFECT !!! LOL I’m very visual and that is a great description! I’ll remember that and think of your fondly 🙂
I also really enjoyed what you said about phone sex being the best of all possible worlds for where you are right now in your life. Probably one of the most important keys to personal happiness is knowing yourself and your needs and what works for you 🙂
i guess i’ll stick around with encouragement like that, lol. like another great American philosopher was fond of saying: “i got a million of ’em!”
LOL Keep ’em coming…..ahem, so to speak…..coffeeboy!
Dear Mistress Olivia,
The first call i ever did was a bit alienating, the Mistress was almost palpably money hungry, rather rude and deep un-compassionate!!
The second call i made, however, was incredible and after listening to me for a few minutes the Mistress said “OK, lets get something straight: you are no longer a real man, you are a sissy from now on and this is what I want you to do…” She then provided a list: pa at antiesll times, a butt plug etc etc
It was one of the most erotic moments of my life!!
*kisses*
chrissy
~laughs~ I LOVE the story about the second call! Now, THAT is a phone sex call, when the Mistress *gets* you and then ….. well, does Her THING with you!
Mistress Olivia – was my first sexy texting Mistress. i recall being excited and a lot nervous all at the same time! – i should not have worried – She was and is amazing – it was the start of a long time bond – i have learnt so much from Her.
The scenes she develops are just mindblowing – our play is the most intense i have ever known , She rocks my world – She knows me inside and out now
Thank You Mistress Olivia xx
LOL starbaby YOU were My very first sexy texting session! You know what? I should post about that first session! I can *get it* about masturbating on the phone sex call but until I experienced sexy texting sessions, I just couldn’t see how that would work……I mean…..LOL, it’s a lot of typing with one hand, right? ~laughs~ But we (and others I know only via text) make it work don’t we? HUGS to starbaby……now BEND OVER BITCH!
“but….LOL …. we do have a site where you can call and pay to be IGNORED. I’m not kidding!”
There’s actually a place where you can go and be ignored by popular, beautiful people of the opposite sex for free.
I believe it’s known as high school:)
I don’t want to give anyone the wrong impression. Actually this seems to be a really well run business with tons of happy clients so your customer service must be good. And someone from LDW did get back to me on the email yesterday.
You!
About some audios I would like recorded. Thanks!
In fact maybe I’ll try an “ignore call” with you. It’s a bit of a risk though since you’ve only done one. I mean you might accidentally look at the phone or breath or something and ruin everything.
I think it’s best that you don’t respond/acknowledge this comment so we can get off on the right foot.
ROFLOL !!!!! @ John ! You really are a very funny writer!
BTW, I’m so sorry about the delay in answering comments here and on your audio 🙂 I had computer problems (not Me, the internet was out for a bunch of people) last week…..I’m back from a long weekend and will now get to your audio.
You *can* try an an ignore call via phone sex whilst I do the audios……except you’ll hear muttering when I mess up. Oh damn, THAT might be part of the high school experience too ! I actually went to a correspondence high school…..want to know our school cheer? “Lick a stamp, lick a stamp. Rah Rah Rah!” LOL
Good Morning Ms Olivia, now would this be about the first professional phone sex call in general, or the first one with LDW, because I will tell you that they are two extreamly different things.
My first call in general ( not LDW )was a long time ago. I can not even remember with which company of the tons of companies out there now, or even with who. I can tell you that it was a compleate and total disaster. So bad infact that I had stayed away from phone sex for that reason.
Now my first call with LDW on the other hand is something different. So much so that I will expand this to my first two calls with LDW. My very first won was a 10minute call, that I had won in chat from Ms Catherine. We chatted about alot of things, mostly of the different kinks and what interested me the most. It was a very enjoyable conversation. Ofcourse, by this time I had already started trading e-mails almost on a daily basis with another Mistress, which leads me to my second call.
My second was with a friend of ours Ms Violet ( god I hope it ok to mention names, if not I am sorry ). That call was incredably awesome. Hot, Steamy, and very Creative. Is it any wonder that after a full year I am still devoted to her? No I would guess not.
Now, after speaking with you, and knowing the things that I am into ( which really isn’t much….lol ), I have found that LDW is as far as I am concerned the only place for professional phone sex.
I hope that has answered your question 🙂
WOW Paul, thank you ! I sure believe that LDW is the most professional phone sex company on the scene today. I will even go as far as to say that I’ve worked in a variety of professional settings (non sex work LOL) that were totally skanky in ways I have never experienced here! You should SEE the effort Ms Ally puts into allowing only the best of the best in phone erotic entertainment (and overall professionalism/customer service) to be affiliated with LDW Group. OH wait! You HAVE experienced that! LOL *wink*
You mention Ms Violet …. you know I love Her! As a fun two girl call we have the BEST time playing with one another and with you! She is an amazing lady….on the phones, yes but also as my real life friend.
THANK YOU so much for posting your comment!
There’s a “day late and a dollar short” and then there’s me today…over a year short! *laughing* What a sweet testimony from Paul. He knows that I think the world of him. Which really underscores your point about how close a Mistress can get with a caller. Paul and I have a trust between us that many close friends don’t. That is true for other amazing callers I have, as well.
As for you and our friendship Ms Olivia…you know I treasure our friendship. *hugs*
Thank you for consistently writing such insightful, intriguing postings Ms Olivia!
Awwww Ms Violet…..you always make me smile! You’re absolutely right about the closeness. I wonder if part of that trust is because we don’t meet face to face …. it somehow allows things to be, perhaps, MORE open rather than less. Isn’t that just like all the other dichotomies involved in the various BDsm power exchange play. It “looks” like one thing….but it “feels” like something else….pain as pleasure, bondage as freedom, control as security….etc.
I absolutely ADORE YOU and I’m so thrilled that our hours now overlap! I’ve missed doing two Mistress calls with you….we’re a wicked, sexy team! Check out Ms Violet’s schedule and then get with either one of us for your two Mistress call!
Thank you for pointing out your story about your first call. 🙂 It makes me wonder how many PSO’s stick with it that dont get that good 1st call as you did.
~laughs~ You’re more than welcome eddie! Thanks for checking it out! And I will tell you that getting really good at this took time, effort and lots of smarts. Of course I have incentive because this is sexy!