My favorite myths about crossdressers
There are a lot of myths about gender. In some societies switching gender is not only accepted; it is celebrated. That’s not really the case in Western culture, even though things are changing because the conversation about gender is more public. When things are taboo or out of the so-called norm, that’s where you get lots of bad information. Here are my top two pet peeves about crossdressers.
Myth #1: All crossdressers are gay
The vast majority of crossdressers are straight males who are (and remain) attracted to women even while dressed en femme. Look just a bit closer and you will find lots of nuances about why a man wants to wear panties. For example, a crossdresser experiencing life en femme can be connecting with women and the feminine, expressing his submission to women, attracted to men or even attracted to other women as a lesbian. Gay feelings might be when he/she was always meant to be a sissy or for erotic humiliation no matter the gender identification.
Myth #2: Crossdressing is only a sexual fetish
I think it’s often called a fetish because many crossdressers experience sexual arousal while dressed. That’s true many do. But, hey, I’m aroused when I put on sexy panties, silky stockings and beautiful, feminine clothing. Is that a fetish when I do that? Personally I always say there is MORE than meets the eyes or the easy stereotype. For some, the act of wearing women’s clothing IS arousing but it’s not the main thing — dressing en femme means the outside matches the inside view of gender.
What myths have you noticed (about yourself or others)?