My favorite myths about crossdressers
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There are a lot of myths about gender. In some societies switching gender is not only accepted; it is celebrated. That’s not really the case in Western culture, even though things are changing because the conversation about gender is more public. When things are taboo or out of the so-called norm, that’s where you get lots of bad information. Here are my top two pet peeves about crossdressers.
Myth #1: All crossdressers are gay
The vast majority of crossdressers are straight males who are (and remain) attracted to women even while dressed en femme. Look just a bit closer and you will find lots of nuances about why a man wants to wear panties. For example, a crossdresser experiencing life en femme can be connecting with women and the feminine, expressing his submission to women, attracted to men or even attracted to other women as a lesbian. Gay feelings might be when he/she was always meant to be a sissy or for erotic humiliation no matter the gender identification.
Myth #2: Crossdressing is only a sexual fetish
I think it’s often called a fetish because many crossdressers experience sexual arousal while dressed. That’s true many do. But, hey, I’m aroused when I put on sexy panties, silky stockings and beautiful, feminine clothing. Is that a fetish when I do that? Personally I always say there is MORE than meets the eyes or the easy stereotype. For some, the act of wearing women’s clothing IS arousing but it’s not the main thing — dressing en femme means the outside matches the inside view of gender.
What myths have you noticed (about yourself or others)?
Your Experienced Mistress,
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We are a misunderstood lot! I love wearing women’s clothes and I love women. As I have told you it can be confusing, but once you sort it all out and see where you are it all feels right. 🙂
Exactly! I think, when it comes to human sexuality, there are no “boxes” it is an individual, nuanced and vibrant as we humans can be!!
I was thinking how I work in a place where there is supposed to be no discrimination against the glbt and we have had gay people working there, but to hear some of my coworkers talk it is a wonder. I believe that the ones who speak out the loudest are the ones that are unsure of their own sexuality. It is the old adage, “Methinks he dost protest to much.”
That’s absolutely my experience yvonne! I’ve even had people tell me on the phone that they are very conservative, religious and anti-gay but they’re calling me to bi or gay phone sex, feminization and she males. ~sigh~ I love being an outlet for them but I can’t help but wish they wouldn’t judge people with the courage to be “out” with who they are. Ya know?
Hmmmm? Mistress, what a great scene! Playing a conservative, religious and anti-gay zealot who ends up feminized sounds deliriously kinky! THAT’s what I’d call feminine dominance!
Now, on the other hand, if the guy really is conservative, religious and anti-gay … well, that’s something I could get vocally judgmental about! 😉
Seriously though, throughout history conservatives have consistently shown one face to the world and quite another in the bedroom. Not one out of a hundred self professed religious types actually believes that non-sense. And, anti-gay types are mostly just fearful little naive creatures who lack the capacity to understand much of anything beyond the tip of their own noses.
Can you say, “judgmental?” Apparently, I can! LOL
I hope you have some free time tomorrow because I’m looking in the mirror and having some trouble facing my own situation … as I’m sure you know.
Hey, shhhhhhhh …. that’s nothing to be snickering about!
Actually, one guy that I was thinking about works for a PAC that is anti gay, etc. He used to IM a lot years ago. Didn’t want to pay for anything but happy to try and get it for free. He identified as trans and wanted to be feminized while actively making money making life worse for anyone other than who he (and they) identified as appropriate American citizens. While the freebie seeking goes with the territory in any sex work, the sheer hierocracy of his actions still leave me a tad speechless even today. I have compassion for him. It must suck (in a very bad way) to be him and live in his skin.
Understood. That guy is either psychopathic or lost in a downward spiral of self-loathing. You’re more evolved than I, I suspect. While I might want to have compassion for someone like that my honset gut level reaction is considerably less civilized.
Be that as it may, I hope you realize I was just kidding around with you.
Oh I KNOW you and your kidding is delightful 🙂 The thing that really got to me is this: if he makes money saying everything he likes is wrong, WTF is he doing going to a sex worker to try and wheedle a freebie. That’s wrong on ALL the levels! Pfffftttttt.
He wants a freebie?
You could arrange to ship him a box of condoms for free … filled with some of your special lotion. 🙂
Beware of Mistresses bearing gifts!
~laughs~ brings to mind the Casablanca line: “I’m shocked, shocked …. !”
What does it mean when women makes you hold her purse? This happened to me for very first time. It caught me off guard. My massuse gave me her purse to buy things for her. Other sissies said that she knows I’m weak/submissive/feminine and now has total control over me.
I think she’s right petey cream puff … you’re a submissive sissy! Hope it was a cute handbag. ~laughs~
It was a large & cute handbag. Very feminine & pink. She just handed me her purse and told me to go to shop which I did as told.
Of course. It’s always best to do as told 🙂
She has me whipped for sure by doing this to me. It’s amazing how much power women have and now this has finally happened to me.