What is real Dominance and submission?
Listen to me read you this blog post about MY Dominance and your submission.
While phone sex is billed as a fantasy, the BDsm experience is very real. This matters to you if you are a real submissive but you can’t go to fetish play parties. You can experience every thrilling part of submission with me because I have real-life fetish experience.
Intense BDsm play
Face to face fetish experience is important if you’re exploring some intense kink play. I’m NOT saying the less extreme experiences are less emotionally intense … I’m just saying something like CBT, cock and ball torment, is best done with someone who knows how to make you gasp with pain … but not render you wounded!
Negotiating Dominance and submission
Once we’re in a scene, I’m in charge .. you can give hints and say NO if something is really off … otherwise, the time to say what you want and how you want it is before the scene starts. Once we’re in a scene, don’t control the play. Also, you’ve probably heard of topping from the bottom, that’s when you try to control, manipulate or otherwise wrest control from your Mistress. Some people like a brat. I’m not one of those people.
The best kind of adult play
When I get a new submissive I am thrilled because I get to learn all about you and also me in the process of our fetish play. I also have the best time with long time callers and friends who love to experiment with new sensations.
Feel free to reach out before your session. My email is olivia AT enchantrixempire.com. Read this post first; it’s the Ultimate Guide to Femdom phone sex and will help you understand how to best interact with me outside of your session.
Are you ready to …. ahem … explore?
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms Olivia
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I truly enjoyed having You explore me Mistress. I am looking forward to having You explore me even deeper! 🙂
Slut p you are an awesome addition to my play space …. mmmmm … now STRIP … on your knees … as your Mistress approaches, leans down and grasps those BALLS that belong to me!
Well said!!! Once we establish what I want before call there’s no going back. Looking forward to more feminization with you!!
Awesome!
The picture on this blog is what I’ve dreamed about many times, my face buried in your delicious ass, licking, tasting and smelling that delicious asshole and pussy. I could service you like that forever.
MMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmm
and I would LET you sounding boy!
That just completely takes my breath away Mistress!
~grins~
Good slut!
This is exactly the thing for me. I don’t feel at all like any form of submission is a “fantasy” for me. It is not. It is deeper than that. A lot deeper. I think of a “fantasy” as a kind of pretend or playing. This is not that for me. The fact is that women can have a sort of control over me. It does not feel like a pretend or a play thing. It is a real feeling of not being equal and not having any power. Something happens to my mind when a woman exerts this. I cannot describe it well except that it totally takes me over. I have no power.
I LOVE this so much! This is exactly what I’m talking about — thank you 🙂
Oh Ms. Olivia! Such a great blog full of many truths! I love face to face BDSM play and I also love being in control during a session. And I totally agree with you. Play hard but do no damage!! In the intensity of a wild scene, it DOES talk a responsible Mistress to make sure her sub is cared for!
Thanks for this wonderful post!
Delia
This is why I love to scene with you Ms Delia — in person or on our 2 Mistress calls — we DO take care of the submissive — oh yeah, we might be fucking WICKED but in a caring way laughs and laughs
Ms. Olivia!
Absolutely… you are right about the Topping from the bottom aspects… those “submissives” who just cannot think of their limits until they are hitting them need to spend some time thinking *before* playing. I love that you said that… much kinder than I could!
Thank you for your Public Service Announcement about this important issue!
*hugs*
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OMG, Ms Daphne … can you imagine PSA’s about BDsm? Ohhhhhhh might be a funny audio series! You’re giving me ideas and inspiration!
Very good post Ms Olivia. As you know I was an active player in the Los Angeles scene, oh yeah topping from the bottoms. One arrogant “submissive” once walked up to me displaying his ass for me to slap. I smiled at him and slapped his face. He did not like that very much, and that’s too bad because that’s what he gets for being a SAMI . 🙂
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That’s like the submissive who says do ANYTHING with me — I’m like, have you seen our site Ignore Calls — stay on the phone, I’m going to do yoga for 45 minutes. LMAO!
It’s really a bummer when a submissive wants to top from the bottom. It’s good that you spell all of this out for your partner beforehand. An experienced Mistress such as you knows how to work it all out before the play gets started so everyone can sit back and enjoy exploring! 🙂
Thanks Ms Piper! Sometimes I think my blogs get too … educational … but I do think that pre-scene negotiation is fucking CRITICAL!
Oh Mistress Olivia, Thank You for being such a wonderful teacher and Mistress. i remember it has been just over six years ago You took me on as a project, patiently teaching me how to: be a better submissive; negotiate so both our needs are met; not “top from the bottom”; and so many wonderful lessons. Yes most of them were learned over the phone, but since have been used several times during my excursions into my local BDSM community. i also need to say thank You for being flexible enough to follow the energy flow that develops throughout our time together.
Yes You are very educational, but in such a delightfully dominant way. i hope others who read this post will take the time to learn from You as i have. i may not have always liked the lesson, but the education is wonderfully priceless.
You have really grown as a submissive — I actually think subs need to be “strong” in order to be willing to submit — so your grown has been awesome to see!!!!!
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I LOVE Ms Erika! You’re very luck to have a fantastic Mistress!