Do you listen to our kink podcast?
We have a lot of fun doing our kink podcast called The Weekly Hot Spot. Each episode posts at 1 pm eastern on Spreaker. The current issue is: What every submissive needs to know about a Femdom Mistress.
Check out what Goddess Mandy said to make Ms Erika issue a boner alert.
All joking aside, we tackle serious issues – like this conversation from “Mary” who found our kink podcast by chance and started by listening to Phone Humiliation: sexual humiliation 101.
Mary: “i listened to Your podcast with Ms. Erika and Ms Hunter on humiliation – i appreciate Your grounded background and perspective on dominating men
Ms Olivia: why thank you so much !!!! 🙂 🙂
Feminization podcast episodes
Eventually Mary found the other feminization podcast episodes and loves getting to know us and even getting to know herself more. Here’s our conversation (posted with permission)
Mary: “i’m a submissive cross-dressing sissy servant type of a guy – just to get that out there lol
i am married (37 years) and i have a Friend who is a female dominant to me many times, but she is very busy with her family and i just wanted someone to share with and get some additional perspective.”
Girl talk is so important with feminization
Who do YOU have to talk with about your feminine feelings? Remember, it’s not ALL talk about clothes and such, it’s the experience of being your feminine self with another female. Here’s how Yvonne describes it.
Yvonne: “Girl talk is so essential. Even if we’re talking baseball. It’s like Susan Sarandon and the other girl in Bull Durham. Just two girls talking and enjoying baseball. Of course I really love talking about our wedding. The dresses, the venue, the reception and the honeymoon.”
You can get to know Yvonne in our podcast episode: Interview About Acceptance as a Crossdresser.
Feminized by a Dominant Woman
One of the things I love about feminization is that the submissive urges get more and more intense with each item of girly clothing! This can be sweet and gentle or downright coerced transformation. The Tricked into Feminization episode is one of my favorite of our kink podcast.
Here’s what Mary has to say:
Mary: “And while i have my male energy, i’m compelled to submit, serve and suffer for a dominant Woman – probably sounds so familiar i guess.”
Ms Olivia: “Some are familiar and everyone is unique – that sounds like a cliche but it’s true.”
Mary: “Sometimes, i wish i didn’t want to wear Women’s clothes and submit so strongly . . .
But, i not only feel a need – it’s also true that i want to – and i want to wear panties and bras and skirts – it’s just sometimes hard to admit. i think it is because of my pride and male ego
Ms Olivia: “I think people growing up these days (some of them) are more willing to be gender fluid without it “meaning” anything per se. Does that make sense?
Mary: “Yes, it does – and part of that is me, but with me, obedience, service and suffering are almost a need
Ms Olivia: “In my experience — this need or desire doesn’t go away. And it can’t be “wished” or “ordered” to go away. And eventually it can’t be ignored. Many people find a reasonable way to “be” with that part of themselves by coming to a sort of peace —saying, “ok, you’re here with me and that’s okay.”
Question for my sissy girls, trans ladies or crossdressers
How do YOU get comfortable or to a level of acceptance that you have both male and female aspects?
You have to be bigger than the people who do not understand
But be their for them if they
Change their point of view because I am still me an really never left
Right! You DO know about this — it’s a journey and it takes some people longer than others to come to acceptance or hmmmmm a sense of hey I’m okay just as I am! What I’ve learned is that there’s no way to keep everyone happy – so if someone is going to be pissed off, I might as well do what I want so the pissed off person isn’t me! hahahahahaha
You have to get comfortable with both female and male aspects of your personality. Remember you are all on the same team. Both aspects just want to be happy. When you get there a peace comes over you.
Ahhhhh Yvonne I was thinking of you as I was writing that part — yessssss – we are ALL on the same team – it’s not either or but rather BOTH and I love ALL of you m’dear. 🙂 🙂
Thank you, Yvonne.
She’s awesome and has been on this journey for some time — you are fine right where YOU are – remember, everyone is okay – you are okay – we can all have connection and compassion (and some naughty fucking fun) that will get each of us through the not-so-okay-times.
i am so honored to even be mentioned
Thanks for letting me post our conversation – I told you that this would really resonate with others … remember you are not alone!
With you/Ms Erika/Ms Delia/Ms Mandy & Ms Daphne having me in my bra/panties/breast forms/heels/pink sissy collar/makeup/lipstick and long black wig for Skype calls with you I am a sissy girl forever. Especially how none of you won’t let me go back to being the strong alpha male. Every time I try to resist and say no all of you giggle saying I look soo cute and adorable as a girl and no guy would let women do this to them. With lipstick kisses on my cheeks reminding me that I’m your sissy girl forever I can’t resist or say no anymore as I’ve become all yours lipstick lesbian girlfriend forever.
Ps love how all of you call me hunny bunny/doll face/baby/sissy. It really weakens and puts me in my place as your sissy girl forever
Those lipstick kisses all over your face are your kryptonite !!!! And we, of course, know it and love it — such a good sissy girl!
Simply put, I don’t.
I have tried to think about it and look at it differently but no.
Sooner or later it always ends with feeling something between dislike and hate about it .
It has started not be worth doing it.
Ahhhhhh, I get it Emma and I’m a fan of this being adult play and fun — or something that adds to your life. If it’s a chore of bad of stressful (in an unfulfilling way) then I’m a firm believer that you know what is best for you — and remember you don’t have to stick to a decision forever – people are flexible and life often changes.
I don’t get comfortable. There is no one that knows about it and around here it wouldn’t be accepted at all.
So I either live two lives and are extremely uncomfortable or I erase one.
Hi sweet pet! Ahhhhhh I do know what you mean — and many people in the kink community talk about (and have experienced) the “other” or the “separation” of lives — I did that for years when I was in the corporate world. I get it and I see you and I’m sending you a hug and more!
Hi Ms Olivia,
All the ladies here have helped me so much to get any maleness out of me, I’m almost just feminine now.
Your sissy training is going quite well sissy belinda — I especially love how you are able to twirl like a wonderful ballerina!