Pleasure and pain
When you know that you want to submit to a Dominant women there is a part of you that wants to really show your submission. I am a Femdom and I love sessions that include pleasure and pain.
The combo of pleasure and pain begins our dance of Power Exchange. Some people think that face to face fetish play is somehow more ‘real’ but my experience is that Distance Domination can be MORE intense.
Using pleasure and pain for increasing submission
In general terms, erotic pain from spanking can be sorted into two very general categories: thuddy and stingy. I’m borrowing these two groups from spanking negotiations because this Experienced Mistress loves spanking bare bottoms. There are all sorts of pain play options but the spanking will be used for this example.
Thuddy vs stingy spanking
I’ll ask if you like thuddy or stingy or a combination of both. In general, the wider the toy, the more thuddy the sensation while the sharp, stingy sensation is caused by more narrow impact play toys.
Examples of thuddy impact play toys
The flat of the hand is perfect for the thuddy sensation although this can also be a bit stingy depending on hand position, etc. Floggers are generally thuddy. I have a flogger made from elk that feels like a deep tissue back massage! I also have leather and suede floggers that can give anything from a medium thuddy sensation to a bit stingy depending on where the tails (and tips) land on the back of a submissive.
Stingy impact play toys
Narrow equals stingy because the sensation is concentrated. Narrow impact play toys are things like canes, crops, belt or even something like a paint stirrer.
Tell me about you, do you like thuddy, stingy or a combo of sensations?
Your Experienced Mistress,
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To Me i would love have both pleasure and pain iam sure if iam suffeirng pain or female dom mistress etc is inflicting pain on me i might actually get pleasure out of it as iam sure the female is experiencing the same at same time as iamn would mean very good time
i would want thuddy and stingy spanking is from you or any other fmeale spanking me to me i doubt be good spanking if didnt have any sting or sitngy going i may even want or might not feel or hear any thuddy going on with implement being apply to my bare butt cause if the stingy feeling or hard sting so how soon can i be spanked by you
Thanks for your comment! I like DELIVERING the combo of thuddy and stingy combined with sensual and strict. I think of BDsm as performance art!
What a wonderful post Ms. Olivia! This is a must read for every one just starting to explore a spanking fetish (Hell even those well practiced whipping posts too!). I personally love using the stingy implements. Hmmm now that would make for a fun 2 Mistress session! One lovely lady with a stingy riding crop, the other with a thuddy flogger – passing the pet back and forth…
That sounds perfect Ms Nadia …. I’ll bring the Florentine flogger set, the extra thuddy suede and the regular flogger …. you bring the STING and we’ll have that pain slut squirming!
What a great post Ms. Olivia!!
I regularly spank subby hubby Jack, and noticed the other day that he was just more sensitive. Paddle swats that would usually be very pleasurable were more painful…more stingy. So I checked in with him, and he said his headspace was amazing! He could take the pain, and it was deepening his subspace. I thought that was amazing, and it goes right along with your post!
Great comment Ms Delia — I’ve also noticed that headspace changes mean physical changes … even if a particular ‘scene’ is the same, each play is unique!
Good morning mistress. I agree with Mike I would like a combination of both. My fantasy would be over the knee bare bottomed spanking by you. My only hope is that I could control my self and not cum all over your thighs. But that could be a good thing I’d like nothing more than to like my cum off your thighs after a good spanking. Hope we can play soon.
Good one! There’s nothing like a bare bottom OTK spanking! Sometimes I do it in order to MAKE you cum on my thighs — WICKED!
Hmmm… yes Mistress Olivia, sign me up too for the combo of thuddy/stingy delivered via sensual and strict methods. I have no doubt You’re an accomplished artist in their use. my situation considerably limits the options but I look forward to exploring pain as a source of pleasure and submission in session. Where there’s a will, there’s a way! i’ll look for that paint stirrer 🙂
The paint stirrer is fantastic sissypig heather!