Do you call phone sex for more than sex?
Listen to me read you this blog post.
Seeing a therapist is pretty much accepted nowadays. People think of therapy as going to see a life coach. I think of it as working with a personal trainer; one coaches the body, the other coaches the mind and emotions. I’ve heard from lots of people who use phone sex as sex therapy.
The Experienced Mistress is not a licensed therapist but I know that my experience and insight acts as a sort of therapeutic release … laughs … yep, I’m talking about the happy ending, unless I tell you to earn your orgasm.
My experience from phone sex
I am a renaissance woman: smart, funny and kinky. I probably have more real world insight into the sexual mind of callers than a regular therapist. The blog is inspired by a comment from an earlier blog post asking Why Does Phone Sex cost so much.
“The Mistresses at LDW are experienced, skilled and incredibly gifted in an extremely rare and specialized field. Their attention is sought and craved by many and for good reason; they provide an outlet where their clients can explore their deepest fantasies safely and effectively.
For many, such as myself, it’s an opportunity to be my truest self, accepted for who I am, treated as I so long to be treated. Finding someone to do this with, at any price, is a real challenge.
Expensive? Consider the cost of an hour with a counselor or therapist. Same idea. Someone to accept you, listen to your deepest secrets and desires, accept and encourage you throughout. I’d call it a bargain. Now if only I could get my insurance to cover it… :)”
Should insurance cover sex?
Hmmmm, you’re on to something. Actually I think insurance covers viagra! Can you imagine the lobby effort? ~laughs~ Are you having a therapeutic emergency? You know what to do.
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms Olivia
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I need this!! The reason I’ve been single/never had girlfriends is because I like to wear women’s clothes/bras/panties/yoga pants/leggings/boots/heels/lotions/perfumes/lipsticks. After bodybuilding I still get waxed as I love having smooth girlish soft skin. The soft,satin,silky lingerie feels so good against my skin. I admit I’m a girlie cream puff. I want women to make me theirs.
Thanks for the comment petey cream puff!
This is absolutely therapy for me plus it is so much fun!. As you know we don’t always talk about sex. Sometimes it is just girl talk with someone I can be my true self with. Other times we talk about my feelings and how being dressed in lovely clothes makes me feel down deep;. Then there are the naughty sessions when I am sure you are never letting me out of chastity.
xxxx
yvonne
giggles …. AND we talk about baseball! Just saying yvonne, I want you to watch the World Series in that slinky silk nightgown of yours! It’s chilly here … so I’ll be in silk boy shorts and cami … and then I’ll wear that cashmere robe, soft, warm and oh so yummy!
The reason I’ve been single/never had girlfriends is because I like to wear women’s clothes/bras/panties/yoga pants/leggings/boots/heels/lotions/perfumes/lipsticks
Are you 100% sure that’s the only reason?
OMG I’m laughing SOOOOO fucking hard right now! hahahhahahahahhahaha hahahhahahahahha haaaaaaaaaa!
Well … ermmmmm …. there’s might perhaps be other reasons, but I’m just guessing!
~laughs~
I have always wanted to have the guts to go in to a real therapist and be up front about my insecurities – totally up front. I would never do this with a male therapist (ever, ever, ever) and it would be very difficult to do with a female but maybe imaginable. I want to go in and confess that I am a tiny endowed guy and that this has always made it a challenge and at times impossible to find female mates. I would expect many therapists would say don’t worry about it or it’s fine or something like that. I feel like that would make it worse and not be honest. I want a female therapist to be really, really, totally honest and to make me talk about it – to create a “safe place” and admit all my insecurities and experiences and shyness and timidness and to talk about how I know I am tiny/small. Then I want her to “say” of course you are insecure – it makes total sense and you should be insecure. I want her to really mean it and to be honest in this. I know I should want to be made to “feel better” but it does not feel honest or is it what I need.
Reading this comment makes me realize, once again, that there is huge value in what I do … for many, phone sex becomes that “safe place” and one of the few or only place to be honest in life. Thanks for writing that 🙂
I agree there is absolutely a huge value in it. … ((I’m going to put this in a blog post and give more thoughts there.)) You are right. A safe place is wonderful.
AWSOME comment! I’m going to use this in a blog post … I do enjoy thoughtful comments. Thank you 🙂
You are absolutely right with this post, Ms. Olivia!I mean, I can’t think of anyone better to confide in then you and all your sexy wisDom. I know you have given me sound advice and comfort, as you can see from that pic!
Plus, who can some of our callers talk to about their wild side? A guy telling his best friend he likes to wear pink panties isn’t exactly cool or the stuff that makes machismo. Nope. They need us.
I know they will find comfort in you, love. xxoo
Ohhhh good one Ms Meredith …. wisDOM! I love puns and world play and I never thought of that one … how FUN! xoxoxoxoxo
I *thought* that was Miss Meredith with You in the photo! I bet I’m not the only one who’d love to see what *else* happened at that meeting of the . . . minds. *giggle*
Two ravishing ladies aside, and in all seriousness, I hate talking about money with clients or potential clients. I think it’s tacky to bring it up, frankly, and My pique when they do tempts Me to reel out the old chestnut, “If you have to ask, you can’t afford it.”
But in the end, I don’t, because I realize that spending time with Us isn’t cheap, and I do feel for those who would benefit but for their tight budgets. But very few things in this life worth experiencing come cheaply. And, of course, you’re right Miss Olivia, for those who desire quality, intelligence, discretion, creativity, and commitment, there simply is no substitute, for You or for any of Us!
Well said Ms Rachel … I still laugh at the guy I told, “honey you WANT to get a Lamborghini but your budget says, Honda. AND, we all have experience making sure that short calls are super sexy and fun but for the guys that try to shift that power exchange to their advantage … well, that’s tedious.
What a great post! While we aren’t licensed as therapists, we play a very personal and therapeutic role every time we log on. We are trusted with secrets most people would not even share with a therapist.
Right Ms Lena … I’ve even had people say that exact same thing!
This post is so on the mark Ms Olivia! I can’t tell you how many I have spoken with that have expressed the sentiment that we offer all the therapeutic qualities they need and for less than actual therapy! They also feel we are more trustworthy or open and accepting of their desires and lifestyles.
YES Ms Rayne .. sometimes a therapist has no experience with kink and fetish and says things that are just flat out wrong.
I don’t trust other males at all, and certainly not with personal issues. I don’t necessarily trust women either, but I do have a female therapist. I have not discussed sexual issues, in any depth, with her, for so many reasons. How do you discuss sph, CFnm, wanting to be owned, etc. Having my own safe space is great, but how could a submissive male, even with the best and purist of intentions, not be taking advantage of the situation. Being a therapist certainly doesn’t include implicit consent. I apologize, but this is something I struggle with, and I haven’t been able to work out.
Hmmmmm, not sure what you’re trying to say. If you give me a bit of clarity I might have some thoughts.
I agree with “domestic” – very tough to admit the truth. Even with a trained female therapist it is difficult to impossible to go in and admit you need a woman to acknowledge that you are poorly endowed and how much more gratifying endowed men are. I think many therapists would try to make you feel better rather than be honest which is the need.
~laughs~ Many therapists WILL try to make a guy with a small penis feel better about his size … you know what I say … I tell you the truth and you love it!