Let’s talk about submission. CLICK HERE to listen to this blog post. Like everything else in erotic power exchange play, there’s no right answer and one size does not fit all. There are many kinds of male submissives and many kinds of play that can trigger male submission. Part of it, obviously depends on your erotic triggers.
CFNM triggers submission
IF you’re a man that gets hard when the Woman in Authority makes you take off your clothes and perform for Her (and maybe her girlfriends) then the Clothed Female Naked Male CFNM fantasy is the gateway to submission. When you get hard thinking about the humiliation and embarrassment of being exposed to a beautiful, powerful woman…..well, *wink*…..gotcha! You might not be submissive by nature but when you get in certain situations where you are betrayed by your cock!
Fetish triggers submission
For some men, the submissive trigger is visual. If you get weak in the knees and end up gasping for breath at the start of summer when sexy feet in high heels abound, then you might have a bit of a shoe or foot fetish! ~smiles~ I personally understand the Power of Stockings and can work My long legs like nobody’s business! For other men, it’s the peek of panties. Whatever it is, you know it when it has you. When your fetish has you by the balls (sometimes literally) then you’re ready for some serious cock control.
Need to be submissive male
You know I love your comments on this blog! That’s actually why I write the posts, so we can interact (if not on the phone then in the comments section). Benner left a great comment about submission:
“I know there are folks in the BDSM world, too, who are “balancers.” That is they are so burdened with responsibility and leadership roles that they crave the reverse to put things into “balance” through sexual submission. It’s a very complicated question without an easy, simple answer.”
I agree. I like the fact that it’s complicated. I like the nuances. I like that y’all tell Me about your own experience. So, tell Me now….are you submissive by nature or are you situationally submissive.
I’m looking forward to your comments!
Sexy high heels always put me in my place. On my knees. I want to suck those tall heels, slowly remove them and kiss the sexy arches of your feet and suck the toes. Slowly. One by one. While begging to tongue your ass.
Thanks for the comment 8inch! It looks like I need to do a sexy high heels post! ~laughs~ Because you know I love to hear you BEG for Mistress especially when you have a foot fetish!
i think i’m in all 3 catagories
OH kimmie!….that’s yummy! You’ve got the trifecta of kinky sex fetishes! The submissive nature AND specific triggers! Okay, so you don’t *have* to say here but I have to ask because I’m curious…..WHAT are your sexual triggers? Hmmmmmmm? ~laughs~ You know that want to know! 🙂
i believe i am both, Benner’s comment definitely applies to me but since my late teens i have always felt the urge to submit to a strong, confident woman. Although the CFNM fantasy is very strong with me, i also get aroused every every spring like You say when i see the shorts, skirts and sandals start appearing.But then panties turn me on as well (i own many) and i love to dress in slutty attire complete with makeup and high heels and suck cocks for my Mistress. So, Ms Olivia, what category would You put me in, or am i just a hopeless slut?
jolene you are in the DELIGHTFUL category! Seriously you are just plain delightful and soooooo much fun to enjoy! Hmmmmmmmm…..you really ARE a hopeless slut! And while, yes you can look very slutty….you’re kinds of slutty in a classy way! I personally appreciate that! Because I like to think of myself as being a “classy slut” — I don’t think that is a contradiction in terms at all!
Such an interesting topic of conversation, Ms Olivia! Some subbies may be confused about whether their submissiveness is by nature or triggered, and you (and Benner) have some great insight. Understanding her submissive’s mindset is the mark of a talented Mistress, IMHO. 😉
Ah! Thank you Ms Lydia! Just like you mentioned in your blog post deep thoughts with a Femdom, I think the whole psychology of Power Exchange is part of the appeal for me!
Also, I would love to be teased between the sole and the heel of those shoes. Slowly. And slide my 8 inches between that sole and heel and hump between there. Slowly. While begging to suck the toes inside them.
*blinks* erm, 8 inches just how BIG do you think My feet ARE? ~smiles~ Of course you can fuck My bare feet …. slide that hard cock right in sideways while I squirm with pleasure! 🙂
Could probably fall into any category, but primarily the first one (not necessarily CFNM, but the same type of deal), but also the fetish trigger. I’d say I am not submissive generally outside of some kind of triggering influence.
Thanks for posting a comment NB! Hmmmmm I think a lot of people are the *nature* part of it and then the fetish trigger makes that more intense. Sort of like having a gene and then the gene gets “turned on” or “activated”. I find all of this fascinating! We are different (yes of course) AND we find all these areas of glorious commonality!
Mistress, I just like being dominated by strong willed women And humiliated. I also can’t help staring at heels or turn my head at the sound they make and ofcourse everytime I look at womens feet…. I always peak to see if they’re wearing stockings, pantyhose or tights. Other than this I can be less submissive when not around a women.
Ohhhhhh….I know what tights do to YOU! And, you know I love to capture you with My stockings and then make you dress up for Me! ~smiles~ You really get quite TRAPPED and dressed don’t you? *wink* Thanks for leaving a comment!
Your making me blush mistress. You’re the best and yes you do make me dress up for you. I do get quite trapped and dressed for you. Sneaky how you capture me with your stockings, I can’t help but look.
Hugs – princess ballerina
~laughs~ Oh yes princess…..I do get very sneaky when I’m at My seductive best! And, let’s face it….when I seduce you to distraction I can capture your attention (and more!) ~smiles~
Yes you can mistress, especially the more part. I wonder if women notice when I take peeks at their heels and legs in pantyhose, stockings or tights. I’ve always wondered if when I look if its more obvious than I realize.
Some women probably DO notice. I always notice and then I do the sexy shoe dangle and increase the torment. ~smiles~
There certainly is a distinction between being a sexual submissive and having a submissive nature. In my ordinary day to day life, I am hardly submissive; however, my sexuality is definitely that of a sexual submissive. I want to have women be in control of my cock, such that I am instructed when to be in chastity, when I am given a schedule to stroke, and to still be denied of having any orgasms. This is what I have come to enjoy!
You are like many men in that you cum filled balls are a reminder of who controls you. ~smiles~ And this play thrills both of us 🙂
I would say more situationally submissive. Summer strappy heels definitly get my attention and if I had the courage would do virtually anything to touch them and her :). Summer also means bra straps are out in full force and full view and for me that is all it takes to make me weak in the knees.
Oh yes! BRA STRAPS! I talk a lot about shoes, feet and panties….but you’re absolutely right….bra straps are also one of the yummy erotic triggers! Ahhhhhh, we just love to make you “weak in the knees” ! ~smiles~