Phone sex and Experienced Mistress questions
** Ms Olivia audio of this blog post **
I asked for phone sex questions and I got one that made me laugh and then, it made me think. I really like that combo so this blog post will answer that question at the bottom of the post.
First, to the caller who says this blog is not wank worthy because it is too … thoughtful …. here’s the link to my answer to those sorts of comments … gents, it’s the FUCK FUCK AUDIO and blog post! ~laughs~
What I wear for your call
R asked what I wear during your phone sex call. When I started getting paid for erotic conversations, I was told to get ‘into’ the part by dressing as you can see in this blog post about my first phone sex call. Since it’s winter, I will wear a long cashmere robe over my lingerie or I might be casual and wear yoga pants! In summer I generally wear dresses. For calls, I usually wear thigh high stockings and garters because I like feeling sexy. As many of you know I’m a lingerie snob here’s an audio throwback of some of the favorites for my Mistress lingerie.
NOW, to my favorite question
Stop reading now if you’re not into thoughtful answers. Use the above audios and/or the photo to jack off. Okay, here’s the question:
OK… What do you enjoy the most about being a phone sex mistress?
And try to go beyond the obvious answers.
Tell us something totally unexpected.
I’m reading Anna Deavere Smith’s book, Talk to me: Listening between the lines. There’s a wonderful quote about acting being the furthest thing from lying, pretending or being fake.
She says, “Acting is a search for the authentic. It is a search for the authentic by using the fictional as a frame, a house in which the authentic can live. For a moment. Because, yes indeed, real life inhibits the authentic.”
THIS is what I enjoy most about phone sex and this was a surprise to me when I started. This authentic connection doesn’t happen all the time or even often but this phone sex medium provides a unique place for some of the most authentic conversations I’ve ever had.
The phone sex fantasy is fictional and becomes the frame for the real life emotions, feelings and sensations to live. When that happens with a caller I am the one who is blessed with the encounter. After all, how often do YOU have conversations that actually matter?
Ms Olivia ~ I am one of those who like to think as well. I’m often asked “if” I like what I do but not often “what” I like about it. SO this made me think. And yes there are all the obvious answers, the ladies I work with being at the top of the list. However, I agree with you, I have had some of the best conversations that have be open and honest and real. (and of course dirty – lol) But truthfully, there really is nothing better than that. Thank you for this post!
Kay Marie, you’re so right about the amazing women that I know through doing phone sex … and you are one of them! Ahhhhh, if the guys could see us during a Mistress meeting …. getting all sexy and naughty and rowdy … well let’s just say, what happens in Vegas STAYS in Vegas … but we might share just a bit on a call! ~laughs~ Thanks so much for your answer! HUGS my friend!
Hi Ms
Our conversations are certainly interesting 🙂 sometimes naughty sometimes not but they are always fun. Whether we are shopping for that new gown or discussing the table settings for the wedding You always put a smile on my face and sometimes a blush in my cheeks 🙂
xxxx
yvonne
I love the RANGE of our conversations yvonne! You are very special to me….after all, you are the one that inspired the crossdressers phone sex blog so I could post things about the crossdresser wedding! ~grinz~
Good morning Goddess Olivia great post I know it’s a little early but Happy Valentines Day to u Goddess ur awesome and I wish u have a wonderful weekend thank u so much.
Thanks stroker boy! I’m actually here on Valentine’s Day …. I went on an adventure for three days before the holiday so woah I celebrated early and WELL! ~grinz~
I absolutely laughed when I read the comment about your blog not being ‘wank worthy’… I think that while you are undeniably, and unfalteringly beautiful… And your pictures definitely make my most delicate places tingle… That the most sexy thing about you (and the rest of us LDW ladies) is the intelligence. If someone is just looking for a quick wank, then this blog (or mine, for that matter), probably isn’t the place… But if they’re looking for transcendent sexiness, intelligence and a wicked, dirty mind that can take them places they’ve never been? I don’t think could find anywhere better. 😉 <3
Yes Ms Rita…..actually when he said that to me I laughed and ask him what he does love about my blog and he answered hot photos. I’m like, yo dude … do you ever read the blog post….EVER? And he said no …. so honestly I have to laugh about this too. ~shakes head~ I think he was just horny and bustin’ my chops.
I love this post, Ms. Olivia! It’s always hot to see a Mistress’s sexy side, but I loved reading your thoughtful musings on phone sex, domination, and connection. You are right: phone sex (especially in this community of amazing ladies) lends itself so well to intimate, unique, and lasting connections. The best thing, of course, is when you have a call that is hot AND personally meaningful; those are an absolutely treasure.
~laughs~ Truth Ms Marlena …. we are like therapists that give a real happy ending! Well, not for the guys into orgasm denial … but hey, for them it IS a happy ending! ~laughs~ You know what I mean.
Can you hear it? Can you? Does it sound like hands coming together in an all-out effort to short-circuit The Clapper or blow it up? Can you hear the whistles and cheers? Don’t worry. It’s just me playing cheerleader EmmaJane (complete with pigtails and short pleated skirt) over this post. Olivia, you ARE the bomb, my dear. First, I simply could not pass up revisiting your Fuck Fuck Audio – and I roared with laughter every fucking moment. It never gets old. Then… You made such a wonderful point about how profound and “real” what began as a fantasy call can ultimately end up being. Both fantasy AND brazen honesty can be free with us – and that is a brand of communication that is uncommon, unmatched, and priceless. Thank you for pointing out this amazing aspect of “what we do”.
~laughs~ Emma Jane in FULL CHEERLEADER naughtiness! THANK YOU so much m’dear! I know there’s always a stigma of sex work and phone sex … but I’m telling you this is nuanced and really freakin’ amazing! I’m so glad you ‘get it’ and of course, this is one of the things I absolutely adore about you! I’m so glad you enjoyed the FUCK, FUCK audio — I listened to it again and laughed! I’m also glad you enjoyed the Bitch in Business audio …. Ms Delia was the one who sent me that one at first and I listen to it a lot…..so true and so fucking funny!
Lets see… not only are you smoking hot, articulate and totally sexy, you are also intelligent and thought provoking? A lethal combo that obviously is lost on a wanker. Poor wanker, but we will let him keep looking at the pictures and do what he does, missing out on the substance and amazing mind that makes you one of the best!
Aww, thank you Ms Meredith! I thought it was such an odd and funny comment. Now, I do think he was (sort of) yanking my chain … but the guy who inspired the Fuck, Fuck audio was totally serious. ~sigh~ Poor guy. ~laughs~
Love this post Ms Olivia. Well as hot and sexy as you are and they still have questions? I love the fuck fuck audio to funny. I also love the connection we get with being a Mistress and taking the time to find out about our callers. We walk a fine line between TMI but we all find our boundaries of comfort and that makes it work for us.
~waves~ HI there Ms Cooper!!! I listen to the fuck, fuck audio and have to laugh as well … I can’t believe I got snarky enough to post it! ~snorts~
I am joining Emma Jane on the cheerleading line! You are always so articulate and thoughtful, most especially when you are raising the curtain and letting us peek behind the mystique that is Olivia.
Phone sex is many different things to our callers. The same is true for Mistresses. Sometimes the enjoyment is purely sexual and erotic and others…well, others are deep, intense and personal. Don’t we love them all!
As for the gentlemen who can’t find sexiness in thoughtfulness, well they say smart is sexy for a reason don’t they?
Hey Ms Layla thanks for leaving a comment! You and I both love the deep, intense and personal …. oh sure the frisky fun is wonderful as well … but some of those intense personal relationships are heady and amazing things!
Re: Regarding expectation of constant free porn from Ms. O.
“I’ll gladly pay you Tuesday for a hamburger today” J. Wellington Wimpy
Wimpy was the guy from the Popeye cartoons who would consume hamburgers at a ferocious rate, never pay for them and then beg for even more free hamburgers.
I always thought Wimpy was funny, but when I grew up I realized the dude was a toxic, manipulative, passive aggressive mooch who never got laid.
Don’t be Wimpy.
hahahahhahahhahaha !!!!!! OMG OMG OMG.
This.
~snicker and gasp~
Well.
YES!