I got this question recently about a wife but I also hear this about girlfriends and potential girlfriends. Sometimes the question is couched in terms of asking where to find a woman like this Experienced Mistress. I *do* exist in real life but if I meet you on the phone, then I’m not going to meet you in real life. That’s an absolute boundary for Me and us here at LDW. My callers understand that so they’re really asking where they can find someone like Me. Or, they want to know why their wife can’t be skilled in kink fetish erotic knowledge like I am.
Erotic Skills
That is NOT to say that your sexy and cool wife isn’t the best…..but the erotic conversation and phone sex roleplay is a niche and I’m VERY SKILLED in it, in part because I do it ALOT. Practice makes perfect. If I have 7 conversations in a day versus your wife having an erotic talk with you once a week…..then it takes her 7 WEEKS to get the info that I come to your call with. Plus, she is generally only talking with you. I talk with a variety of people and take the creativity of other scenes and bring to your session.
Why Pay for Phone Sex?
I don’t take myself seriously (as you can probably tell if you’re a regular blog reader) …. but I take THIS (your erotic needs) very seriously. I’m part sex therapist, friend, sex worker, confident, job/family/relationship counselor, lively intelligent conversationalist …. and, like any professional, I read the *latest info* …. in this case…..sex research, current events, social and pop culture, business news, music, history, philosophy, therapy techniques, business and marketing books, erotic fantasy, porn, lingerie and style trends, NYT bestsellers, current movies, etc.
It takes TIME to do that …. time and skill. The reason why I know so much about cock control is because I spend time learning (and doing). ~smiles~ If I were doing My photography business full time at this level then we could have some amazing conversations about photography but you wouldn’t get the erotic conversation incorporated into it.
Time = Fetish Expertise
What we do on the phone is called erotic fantasy, but I am a real life BDsm player. I love the power exchange games of Dominance and submission. YOU get access to My real life experiences AND the creative abilities that come with doing this erotic play full time. When you’re ready to please your Mistress you know you will experience something intense and wicked! Your wife and/or girlfriend simply doesn’t have the skills that I have even if she is willing to learn about your fetish.
If your wife, girlfriend or partner could be as good as the Experienced Mistress would you stop calling phone sex? Or, does this provide a side experience that you need to be fully YOU?
I’m curious to see your responses in the comments page or when you call Me.
Ms Olivia
for me best way is to open up to women show them both sites of femphone/sissyschool. Then tell them this is what I want women to me. Very sorry for rant on last post also. I’ll do my best to call when have time and money on credit card. I would introduce women to you and Ms Violet as well as other mistresses on here too.
Really? What has been their reaction when you show them? I’m not sure that would be the sharing method I would use so I’m curious to see how it works for you.
its to point now where I hope I do get reaction from girls I talk to. If they don’t want to do this its their loss. I have I don’t care attitude now about finding women. Ldw is way to go for me and if women are like you and other mistresses I’ll be happiest person ever. If I can’t find open minded women I’ll just keep doing calls with you and other mistresses.
It’s always fun to hear from you peter and to dress you all pretty!
I suppose if my wife could weave a fantasy like you then the desire to call would be less. On the other hand, since most of my calls are more mental than physical I don’t see how my wife could easily duplicate the excellent service provided by Mistress Olivia. There is still something to be said for a no strings attached phone session, it’s just easier
Wonderful comment player! I totally agree with you! There’s a lot to be said for the safety of boundaries! Thanks for leaving a comment!
You are so fun to read Ms. Olivia!
I thought you were going to say something like “even I’m not this good in *real* life,” but that is not at all what you said. Now I’m think, yea, she just may be that good even in real life. Lucky boyfriend, lucky bdsm friends, and lucky callers.
~grinz~ Well….okay…..truthfully? I am this good in real life …. BUT, not in every single moment of real life! That’s just not possible for anyone. So…..I’m human and therefore NOT perfect. But I can tell you for a fact that the imperfections don’t seem to matter much to others! ~laughs~ One lover called Me his Goddess with warts. And he did worship the Goddess!
I’m so glad you wrote slavemind 🙂
Hi MsOlivia. I certainly agree with all that’s been said here. Certainly when one’s focus is in knowing how to provide pleasure on the phone, and I don’t mean just the “dirty” talk either, one would become quite good at it. Mind You though, I don’t think that’s outside the realm of possibility for civilians to achieve. In my own case I know my mind is always aswirl with ideas on how to please so even though it’s not my primary occupation I think I could be quite good at that. But that’s a bit of a digression which as we know us always welcome. 😉
So two other things cross my mind here. You alluded to one so I’ll go there first. People who call You do so for that pleasure and You grant them what they seek. They don’t get to see You on a bad day when maybe You’re sick or something like that. (And here’s wishing no sickness Your way.). They always get your A game whereas they see their wife all the time and thus get both good and bad.
Secondly I have to wonder if there is some projection going on. I say up front that You know I adore You but I also know no one is perfect. I wonder if some put that part out of thrift minds and put You up on a pedestal no one could achieve. (And not to say that You don’t belong on a pedestal either but I think You get what I mean here. ) I’ve lost track of the number of women I’ve had crushes/infatuations over and at first it’s easy to envision them as the perfect woman so I can relate there.
Anyway there are just some ruminations from my tired brain.
I adore your ruminations magnus!
So….to the first one about getting really good at providing pleasure. You’re absolutely RIGHT! And I do think that civilians can certainly get very good at it. BUT…no matter how interested she is, she will NOT have the depth of knowledge that comes simply from a variety of experiences with a variety of people. I’m talking about exposure to a huge number of people, different fetishes, different styles for the same fetish, information about websites/forums/etc, …. you see where I’m going. The way I do it is I think about and use EVERYTHING in a session. Not sure if that makes sense because it’s not all ‘fetish’ …. it’s about connections, keeping the conversation fresh and exciting, being ‘extraordinary.’ …..
That brings me to your second comment…..it’s hard to think of someone as extraordinary (which the fantasy is) when She is sick/grumpy/doesn’t want to *play* what/how you want to play. ~laughs~ I loved that you said that too and you’re right.
A fictional movie is different from a documentary is different from living the experience.
Think Bull Durham, Ball Four (or Baseball doc) versus traveling with a AA team.
I don’t think one *trumps* the others, but they are decidedly different experiences. I’m sort of the Bull Durham/Ken Burns baseball doc combined. You don’t travel with the team but then again you don’t have to carry My luggage (well, unless you want to ~grinz~).