One of the main concerns of any caller to a phone sex line is this: “Will the woman I call understand my fantasy?” It’s horrible to be aroused and then have the voice on the other end of the phone say or do something that takes you out of your fantasy. Let’s talk about that today.
How to pick the right Mistress
Even if you’re new to phone sex, you will want to experience this with the woman who is right for you. If you’ve called other phone sex companies, we’re sure you’ll be pleasantly surprised when you call us. Our Mistresses are successful women who are creative and articulate in all the fantasy areas we offer. Here’s a post about what others say about how to choose the right Mistress.
I’m a former journalist and have been in communications My entire professional life. This career in erotic entertainment is an extension of what I’ve been doing all My life! I use active listening techniques combined with subtle interviewing to make sure I *get* your individualized expression of your kinky fetish or erotic needs. As a network of erotic sites, we have a wealth of information about all sorts of fun fetish ideas. And, we take the subtleties of your erotic needs seriously as you can see in these essays about various forms of crossdressing.
I really AM the Experienced Mistress. I am a *fetish player* in real life. My personal relationship is with a sexually submissive man who loves erotic humiliation. As a photographer, I got to know and adore men who like to cross dress. I understand the difference between a crossdresser and a sissy. I understand there are nuances and each person, each fantasy, is DIFFERENT! I love those nuances and finding out what makes you *tick*.
We communicate before the session
I welcome your emails with details about what you want, your questions for Me and anything else on your mind. One note, I’m in demand and therefore increasingly unable to give you blocks of time in IM before your session. Many of you are in the midst of the IM “warm up” and I’m whisked away by a caller who gets Me before you. I’ve posted what this means to you and how to best communicate with Me on My sessions page. I don’t want to limit your ability to communicate with Me outside of sessions but please know that this is My livelihood and I will take the sessions in first come, first served basis.
Live Help Desk for immediate assistance
We have a Live Help Desk staffed by lovely Mistresses who can help you find the perfect Mistress for you. I am usually one of the Mistresses who will be recommended for you if you say you want to do your session during My schedule of availability.
I communicate a lot with Ms Molly on Live Help. Here’s a specific instance of how we work together to make sure you are FULLY satisfied! *wink*
Ms Molly: I’m proud every day of our service! One instance in particular was YESTERDAY–you know who I’m talking about, too! We had a gentleman who was feeling pretty bummed, and was convinced that no one would be able to ever quite get his fantasy. I was able to convince him to give our lovely, lovely Olivia the opportunity to listen to what he had in mind.
He fell in love with your look and your voice, but he was still feeling uneasy. I promised him (and I don’t break promises) but he was still rather worried. I GUARANTEED that he would enjoy himself with you.
Ms Olivia: Awww…you know I always take care of the guys you send to me! He did send Me an email to make sure I knew what he wanted. He was still a little nervous, but YOUR IM with him made all the difference in the world. I can understand that they’re horny for something specific and it’s such a letdown if the woman you’re talking with doesn’t ‘get it.’ That’s why Live Help is SO GREAT for all of us! Then, he’ll only have blue balls if he wants them!
Ms Molly: lol!!! I told him to e-mail you. He didn’t even realize he could!
Have you talked with our lovely Ladies on Live Help? They’re GREAT! Also, please feel free to send Me emails before your session to make sure you’re comfortable making that call. What are some of your comments and questions?
My schedule —– How to get a session
Miss Olivia is a good mistress and will help you in ur kinky needs. 😉 Don’t be shy to email her, im sure she will gladly reply to you any time like she does to me. she loves hearing how to make you tick. She knows how to push to ur limits and more which is very hot. She did to me anyways ;). Isnt that right Olivia. Hope to talk to you soon.
Oh YES crashhawk! I do adore finding what makes you ‘tick.’ The particular expression of a sexual fetish or erotic desire is as individual as you are! And, one of the things I totally enjoy in our phone sex sessions is that each time we *meet* and I learn more! Yes, I learn in email and on the blog…..but, when we meet in a session, I really get to push your limits and find out MORE! YUMMY!
awwwww, thank you for the phone sex testi-MOAN-ial ad! LMAO! And seriously, THANK YOU! I really DO listen….it’s a technique called Active Listening …. I pay attention! That’s why I ask people to post on My blog when we’re not in a session. I give My full focus to your comment and My reply. It might not be as immediately FUN for you, but THANK YOU so much! I love to have immediate fun with you……*wink* ….. and your damn CUTE outfits!
Interesting picture You put put up there, though the perspective seems kind of off. Could just be me though. (And I don’t mean that I am off. 🙂 )
So here’s a question for You, MsOlivia. Have You ever found that You didn’t get someone’s fantasy? I don’t mean the miscommunication that happens where someone doesn’t really communicate upfront what he wants. I mean that he does describe it but it’s not something You’ve encountered before or that You find it difficult to wrap Your head around it. I certainly recognize Your abilities (and are not besmirching them in the least) and also that many of the fantasies are someone common among many people. I just have to wonder if some fantasies are just too different or take You by surprise too much (assuming it wasn’t discussed ahead of time).
~laughs~ thanks magnus…..do you mean you’re having trouble with the image itself — ie aspect ratio on your monitor? Or, did you mean the fact that the stocking legs are poking out from the computer monitor, visually putting the sexy toes right in your face?
Sometimes I use images as metaphor and this one is supposed to be the visuals of Me getting out from behind My computer (and My phone) and coming directly into your world. That is what phone sex sessions are all about to Me…..when we both meet in the in between and PLAY.
Now, to your direct question and it’s a great question. Hmmmmmm……I’ve been doing this for nearly four years. I listen to the exact words, phrases, nuances of each person. I have a background in journalism so it is in My nature to be curious — I read, research, learn beyond the call itself. I apply ALL of that, including My own background and experiences to the fantasy. I *get* it. The only erotic fantasy that I didn’t immediately wrap My head around was the We will ignore you site …. but, after doing calls from that site, I get it! (Not for everyone! ~laughs).
One thing about men …. men will always SAY what they want and need.
Sometimes it takes a woman to draw that out and ‘translate’ it into what a woman ‘hears/understands.’ But, I’ve found that men can and WILL explain what their kink is and even WHY!
There’s always a ‘reason’ for the sexual fetish that makes perfect sense to Me. The ‘words’ may be different, but I haven’t found any fetish or kink that I can’t wrap My head around.
THANK YOU so much for asking that question! I’ve been too busy actually doing the fantasies to sit back and think about that particular question. You always are really great (thoughtful and insightful) questions/comments and that is one of the many things I ADORE about you ! 🙂