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What are your questions for this Experienced Mistress? You can ask Me anything. I’ll either answer you or tell you that I’m not going to answer and give you a reason why. For example if you want My address I will say no (LOL) but feel free to ASK what you want 🙂
Questions about phone sex
What’s on your ….. errm, MIND that you’d like to ask Me? You can ask about erotic conversations with Me, phone sex in general, services offered, etc. Do you have questions about billing or privacy? I’m trying to think of various questions I’ve gotten over the last three years.
Questions about fantasties
Phone sex is an amazing way to explore sexual desires. For example, maybe you’ve been watching a certain kind of porn (especially kinky porn) and you feel aroused and want to find out more about it. Well, where do you go? Who do you ask? LOL Could you imagine saying to a buddy or female friend, hey I stumbled across some cuckold porn and I was aroused…now what? Or, maybe you totally enjoy pleasing a woman and feel the urge to take it even further …. Who do you ask what IS further? If you ask this Experienced Mistress I can guide your questions and then determine if you’re interested in body worship or something more intense like D/s slave training.
Questions about sexuality
The single most common question from our suck patrol site is about sexuality of a man who fantasizes about sucking cock. So, are you curious about your sexuality or sexual preference? Ask Me!
Questions about this Experienced Mistress
I tend to tell you a lot about Me and people always have questions. What would you like to know?
Post your questions here and I’ll answer in My replies. ENJOY!
Ms Olivia
MsOlivia, what is your bank account number? *Kidding*
I remember an interview you did a few years ago with (I think) Ms Julia and you’d mentioned telling your brother about what you do. (And he was into the idea as I recall.) Do all of your family know what you do and did you find it difficult to tell any of them?
Also, on a more mundane topic, what are your favorite foods?
@ magnus……
My credit card is …… *snicker* …..pshaw baby I’m not telling you THAT !
Okies……telling family about My career in phone sex. My mom passed several years ago (before phone sex) but I told My dad and My brother. I’m blunt and upfront on a need to know basis. Oh I also told My pastor (at the time) when I started. (if that doesn’t cause comments and questions I’ll be suprised! LOL)
My close friends know. I don’t tell people who are ancillary or casual to My intimate life. It’s too much of a hot button. AND, no one under age knows. Otherwise I’m of a mind that we’re all adults here and I’ll be responsible for Me and you be responsible for you. If I felt *shame* about it I wouldn’t do it.
Favorite foods…..hmmmmmmm…..does CUM count!? LOL
I like the being upfront with the people close to You, MsOlivia. It sort of ties in with the earlier questions about how one tells an SO about their kinky feelings, so I was wondering how (and if) You did something similar. What about those non-ancillary to You though? Like striking up a friendly conversation at a party since that is always when people seem to need to know what it is you do for a living? 🙂 Do You just avoid the subject?
And as for CUM, well it does count, but it’s hard to order at a restaurant unless the waiter has already made special eye contact with you. LOL
GREAT followup magnus …. and, of course, I expect that from you !
Here’s what I think…….I don’t give ANYONE the right to define Me as *less* than I know myself to be. That means I control how I see myself. I’ve been famous and have seen what a crazy-maker that is to let other people define My worth/value/morals/values/etc. I don’t abrogate that to anyone. That means I take the responsibility for My actions.
At parties or casual stuff….I still tell the truth…..it continues to astonish Me just how self centered the vast majority of people are! LOL I simply hide in plain view. They ask, what do you do……I say, “ohhhhh, you know marketing, advertising, internet stuff”….with a laugh and a shrug and then I say, and YOU and they never ask further. LOL Besides I’m more interested in others….I’m already familiar with Me.
You’re right about the cum at restaurants……I love different kinds of food, flavors and presentations. Everything from something called a ‘garbage plate’ to High Tea at the Ritz. It’s never about the food it’s about the JOY of the conversation and the sense of community. But, for FLAVORS……I am a spicy hot gal ….. lemon/lime, cilantro, fresh basil, fresh mint leaves …. loves fresh fruit and veggies. OH and if you combine all this with a BLUES BAR I’m a totally happy camper.
OK, I’ll bite… Why did you tell the Pastor, and how did he react?!? 🙂
@ NB …. Pastor was cool. He knew My situation, knew My heart, and had actually read the bible……he, rightly, said it was up to Me. We are still friends even though I did move away from his church. Oh and I told him because I was still going to his church and I tithe so I wanted to give him the option of accepting/not accepting his 10% and/or keeping Me in the congregation. I’m ALL for reality checks and full disclosure in situations that warrant it. We didn’t tell the gossips in the church LOL but as the head of our church home, he DID need to know to make an informed decision.
Very cool! Nothing irks me more than relgious people who are uneducated about religion! Glad your Pastor was not one of those 🙂
Mistress Olivia,
For you, What is the best part about watching a man masturbate?
OH MY! Dennis……a penis is an AMAZING item! I can and DO totally laugh at lil wennie’s during a SPH (small penis humiliation) session but one SPH session was so interesting because he had a cock like I have NEVER seen before. BIG cocks, of course, have their own special appeal……oh MY! And, normal sized dicks…..actually ANY penis is a joy to behold quivering, dripping, growing, twitching…..and, of course, when the cum comes…….well, often so do I !
I like watching different men stroke for Me because I like to see the different ways you play with your joy stick!
I know that some Mistresses think it is un-Mistressy to suck cock but I say, who cares…… I enjoy cock…..I like to watch, participate AND make YOU do naughty things to other cocks.
Now, direct answer to your question is that watching a man masturbate gets Me aroused and, often, makes Me cum…..I LOVE to experience orgasms ….. see why phone sex is much better than any other *job* ? LOL
Hello Mistress Olivia,
questions – we have covered so many with our sexy texting chats, You have been wonderful. i hope You have enjoyed our chats and i have pleased You? Question – am i gay because i want to suck cock for a Mistress? i don’t know – but i do know my favourite fantasy involves cock sucking and submitting to a strap on!! Your slut starbaby
@ starbaby…….GREAT QUESTION !!
Here’s the thing…..I think it is RARE to find someone who is totally heterosexual or totally homosexual…most people are somewhere in the gray area in between those two sides.
Just because your fantasies involve cock sucking doesn’t automatically mean *gay.* Since I KNOW you….much of your attraction can also be because cock sucking is such a submissive act…so what is the turnon? Is it the cock, the submission, the Mistress telling you to suck dick…..it’s really a combination of all those things in addition to a nice spice of taboo naughtiness and humiliation. That’s PART of the equation.
Another part is this: the PENIS is fascinating! If I had a dick I don’t think I’d EVER leave the house! LOL I personally think it’s normal to WANT to see something that delicious in a closeup! And, to suck it? Yeah baby, I think of cum as a food group! Delicious AND nutritious! For Me and for you.
I know we’ve talked a lot about cock sucking in our phone sex texting sessions……you don’t HAVE to answer here but there’s a difference between a fantasy and then actual cock sucking. Have you ever done it in real life?
I would have asked this question as well but I think I’ve already asked and posted about that one to death :-p I’ll throw in though that I definitely like “fantasy” cocksucking better… but there is still a part of me that aches for the real deal again, albeit only under very specific conditions.
@ NB…..was the cocksucking post a question? And, ohhhh….you HAVE done it? OMG, I want YOU to do an ask me anything post on YOUR blog on Enchantrix Empire. LOL
Ha! Well, it seems my motto of late is to be an open book, so why not? I actually posted a bunch of my older (and admittedly longer and more ramble prone) EE blog entries on the subject of those experiences.
Here is a real question though… Presumably you are a very kinky person in your own right, or at least extremely open-minded… Was that something that was always part of you, or something you discovered once you got into the “professional” end of the community?
@ NB….I’ve always been open-minded……probably because, in many ways, I’ve always been an outsider (skipped grade, started college at 15, had an *interesting* career even before phone sex) I march to a different DRUM CORPS not just the single drummer! Some of the kinks and fetishes I was doing naturally before I even KNEW that they were considered kinks and fetishes. With some, I’m a *realistic egalitarian* in the sense of things like this: If I love lingerie, and I do, doesn’t it make sense that some men will love it too? Of course it does!
Turning “professional” has given Me a sense of community…..not unlike how you described your emotional journey in your Enchantrix Empire blog post ….. and it has also given Me access and exposure to all kinds of kinks I hadn’t naturally discovered (like the Giantess fantasy which is WOAH amazing). So turning pro has broadened My horizons and, frankly, I really ENJOY the VIEW !
Wow! Well, I suspect now the readers of this blog have a new fantasy/fetish – Girl Genius!
Being super smart is so sexy!
@ NB …… Girl/genius! LOL ….. if anyone has been following Me carefully they will notice that any “smarts” is linguistic/creative … not numbers/technical. Yet ANOTHER reason why phone sex is perfect for Me!
Ha! Your “realistic egalitarian” theory is the same one I have for why men love lesbians (yet can still be wierded out by gay men). If we men love women in that special way, it just seems perfectly natural for women to love them as well! :-p
Plus, it seems to me magazines for women (fashion, etc.) focus more on cleavage, legs, asses, and sex then do those for me… they are just more subtle about it.
LOL NB !! ANY woman who says women don’t *look* at other women isn’t telling the truth. Women check each other out BIG TIME. Just because boobs and asses are showing doesn’t mean it is sexual in a woman’s magazine….or at least not sexual in the same way as hot photos in a magazine aimed at a male audience …. it’s b/c women DO want to look at other women (just as much as men do). That’s MY theory at least 🙂
Hello Mistress Olivia . Whats the best kind of session that you get the most excited with that you being a sexual Mistress would get off too .
the session we’re having RIGHT NOW ……. the one you BEGGED for !!!!
Didn’t you PUPPET!?
hahahhahahahhahaha
Hello Olivia. I’m curious, how often do your regular clients have a session with you? Once a week? Every other week? Once a month?
GREAT question Wesley…….
I might have an unusual response to this…..but, here goes!
I consider you a *regular* when I get to know you 🙂 LOL That’s doesn’t mean you call ONLY Me or that you call a certain length of call or a certain amount over time. Here’s the thing…..I think phone sex is FUN and believe that IS only fun when it’s stress free of the bad kind of stress. (Now, if you like the roller coaster of humiliation or a mind fuck, I’m an EXPERT at that!…but that’s the good kind of stress).
The very LAST thing I want to bring into the relationship is a bunch of *should’s* …. like a you SHOULD do this or that. The bad ‘shoulds’ feel too much like the icky power plays in a real life manipulations which is NOT sexy! (When we’re in a scene where I make you do things that’s different). Does this make sense?
So……bottom line…..you manage your own finances. Call as often as you like for as long as you can afford. For Me, it’s the QUALITY of the interaction…….that is what makes you a regular.
WEIRD ANSWER…..and I hope it actually makes SENSE ! LOL
yes Mistress i begged and begged until you relented and allowed me to call
LDW Addict……I love it when you BEG for Me !
And, I love to hear that *noise* you make……..it’s the total INTIMACY of phone sex combined with the WICKED sensations of a glorious mindfuck! And you are SUCH a mind fuck addict! LOL How is YOUR work going? hee hee heee !
I have a couple of questions mistress Olivia
1. Chatting on IM you said you were a sports fan what sports and teams do you like the most?
2. How do you think I looked when you made me strip for you on cam? 😉
Evil Penguin …. just got *turned on* to baseball about a year ago …. I love the culture, the history, it’s place in history, the elegance of the game AND the guys look totally hot in their uniforms. I’m a fan of Minor League ball because it’s a little *nicer* and the guys tend to be nice to young fans instead of stuck up.
At various times in My life…..hockey (I was the high sticking MEAN goalie on our neighborhood team), basketball and football. With the exception of minor league baseball games which I love solo….pro sports tend to be community and group bonding things….meaning, I love the sense of community more than the stats.
I’ll get bored during a televised game but that’s because most tv bores Me….My guy is very tolerant (LOL) I get bored, I suck his dick, I’m totally amused and we both still watch the game. WOMEN can and do multi task really WELL.
YOU LOOKED FRIGGIN HOT !!!! Okay, next question?
Hmmm… I’m sure this is out there somewhere that I have missed, but how did you get connected with LDW?
@ NB …. I was a professional photographer……split with My former photog partner. I am really good creatively and NOT good at billing people who tell Me hard luck stories. Kindness doesn’t pay bills and it’s important to be self-supporting with My own contributions. Came up short financially and thought….hmmmm…… I’ve had lovers and other people tell Me I should do phone sex and thought, what the heck, let’s try it! So…..I researched on the internet. LDW Group has an amazing reputation. I lucked out and came here. I never figured I’d make a career out of it. But, frankly, LDW and Ally have MORE integrity (personal and professional) than ANY place I’ve ever worked or been associated with. ((And, I have worked in some very high powered settings.)) It started as a lark and has ended up as a HUGE blessing! ((There’s no way I’d be doing this without the sense of community, professional support and integrity that is associated with everything from LDW.))
Will you marry me during a minor league baseball game? Lol, on a serious note how can tell that a guy that loves crossdressing and such that getting the gender reassignment surgery is for him? It’s a tough way to put it, lol.
@ tiffy … we (Me and My guy) are good to go if you are “rich and want a cuckold relationship.” He’s thinking like a guy…..awwww….!? LOL Okies, so I’m bi so your gender reassignment surgery totally works for Me … but I also think a sissy clitty that is bigger than the average clit is totally hot….so……..looks like we’re good to go if you’re willing to go polyamorous and we can agree on WHICH minor league team and where.
LOL … the important things REALLY matter.
Now….on a serious note….on the surgery…..or hormones. The journey to gender reassignment is NOT for the faint of heart…..here’s a website: http://www.urnotalone.com that has lots of resources and community, etc. When crossdressing is a fetish or even a lifestyle you still have the sexual arousal (hormones) intact. What usually happens with the hormones therapy prior to surgery is that the penis loses the ability for an erection. You might end up with breasts and even a pussy BUT if you don’t feel intense sensual pleasure ….. is it worth it? …. I’m not sure…..it’s like you’re winning the battle but losing the war, right? In Native American culture there is something called a THIRD GENDER that is male and female and then the combo of that *third* gender. I’m actually a total FAN of the third gender. I think if you are considering gender reassignment surgery…..get your (no bullshit) support team around you and be ruthless because you WILL need support…..emotional, physical, maybe financial, etc … so make sure that you have family, friends, etc that will in fact support you. It’s a hard road sweetie…..physically AND emotionally. As I said, not for the faint of heart.
Hi Ms Olivia 🙂 How are you? I have two questions, I love your black lingerie photos do you have any other photo sets? And do you do skype to skype calls?
@ shinyknob……Thank you! Take a look at the photo on this blog 🙂 The blue silky item….and My hair is down…..I’ll be posting those in the coming months. I don’t worry too too much about photos because, after all, this IS phone sex and there are LOTS of naked photos of hot women bouncing around the internet.
YES I skype…..My skype ID is olivia.800.356.6169 🙂 We can call or cam on that. If you want to do a call on skype what you do is handle the payment through our Sexy Texting site and we can talk on skype for your session. 🙂
Of course, I’d have to be careful of the baby oil because OH MY it’s shiny but doesn’t it mess up a keyboard! LOL
Good morning Ms Olivia
I have at this moment one simple question for you. Just how often do you like to wear thigh high stockings 🙂
I know that question from me what a shock right…lol.
Have a great day 🙂
*winks* @ Paul ….. thigh highs totally depend on My mood…..as I told you on the phone, I’m in Florida right now. ( Yet another thing I love about phone sex …. the PORTABILITY) So…..HERE I like to wear thigh highs with NO PANTIES…*snicker* …. Other times I like the stockings with a garter belt and panties. I just like the silky feel. As far as how often…..hmmmm…..when I’m logged in I generally DRESS (:) ) but if I’m heading off to the gym then I’ll wear yoga pants and a lil top, you know My workout gear 🙂 If I’m going OUT it’s always stockings, high heels….usually a dress altho I do like skirts too … I like the feel of the dress kind of floating around My stockings 🙂
THANK YOU for your question 🙂
We all recognize how special so many of the Mistresses here at EE are. There have been other blog’s and polls recently about the subject of what a Mistress is to us. How she can be a friend, confidant and or Kinky muse. I am thinking of Ms. Layla’s and your recent posts in particular.
So, these posts brought to mind a question I have been contimplating for sometime. If we genuinely dig a Mistress that we are talking to, how do we compartmentalize our talks as mere fantasy play?
And, as a corollary question, how do Mistress’s see ‘US’ when presented with the dicotomy between our so called ‘vanilla’ interactions in IM or chat with those of the kinkier conversations with us as callers in a session ?
GREAT and totally valid issue Mike ! THANK YOU so much for posting that question.
I must admit I also wonder or worry about that too. I share a lot of the me-me as well as the Mistress / phone sex artist Me and sometimes I wonder the same thing….ie is it a hardon killer to Y’ALL if I’m a whole person to you or should I remain a fantasy-spinner only?
Here’s how I work it out. I realize that the guys want what they want, when they want it … and if they want Me, they’ll call. My callers tend to do longer calls that are erotic conversations, therapy, interesting conversations about baseball, books, music, etc. THOSE types of callers actually want to see the totality of me/Me. I bring My whole experience, life, intelligence, etc. to the fantasy part of the conversation. It works. And, I had to get My head around the whole thing. So, I did what My heart/head said to do and I’m letting the chips fall where they may.
I’m so glad you dig Me! I *dig* My callers! They dig Me. And, actually that makes the fetish or sex play HOTTER. I think one of the things that allows us BOTH to be really comfortable and GET intimate is the fact that I have VERY CLEAR boundaries that I state upfront and often … you can get as close as you want as long as you realize I will NEVER meet in person and I won’t talk to your wife/girlfriend without her consent. That gives us BOTH safety to explore.
So in that sense……all the talks are ‘fantasy play’ in the strictest sense of the word. It’s a fantasy because we won’t meet in person. BUT …. I happen to think that the vast topics that are covered in IM, blog posts, emails and calls / sessions are NOT fantasy …. they are some of the most REAL conversations I’ve ever had in My life!
Now, to your question about…..the distinction between ‘real’ conversations and the session. As I said, I think BOTH are real. AND, I deal with this with My real life guy…..we really ARE vanilla as a cozy couple AND we like fetish play. So, we START the scene and play. When we’re not in the scene I’m not ‘Mistress” and he’s not My submissive. We are two people who adore ALL the parts of one another. I LIKE that we’re multi faceted and our sex also reflects that !
I think of you callers as friends like THAT. Mike, we’ve talked a ton about music and politics and life and all sorts of things that have nothing to do with kink and sex! I really like and enjoy that guy AND I like and enjoy the fetish guy……do I think ‘less’ of you, HELL NO because I happen to think the Gift of Submission is one of the most spectacular Gifts EVER ! Well…..music is pretty damn close……but the gift of opening up to fetish play is WAY better than roses! LOL
LONG ANSWER !!! ……. Did I actually even ANSWER your questions?
Hi Mistress! Three part question – if you could change one physical thing about yourself, what would it be? If you could change one physical thing about your new buddy sissy c, what would THAT be? Lastly – do Mistresses really enjoy interacting with sissies or are we (as a group) too needy and whiny?
Interesting questions sissy c…… but, of course, I EXPECT that from you !
Okay…..let’s see if I can do them justice.
One physical thing about Me? Hmmm…….okay. My left elbow pops when I do triceps work, it does this weird clicking when I do the exercises like they are supposed to be done. I work My triceps without bending My elbows. I would eliminate that and do the regular exercises.
One physical thing about YOU? I don’t know. I haven’t seen a photo of you and we’ll never meet in person so I can’t answer that. Plus, you can ask My real life guy….I really DON’T get into changing others…..it’s just not My thing.
Now, if you’re asking about a FANTASY….oh honey, I love total transformation fantasies, those are HOT !
I’m *stumped* on your sissy question. HUH? Maybe it’s just Me, but I don’t tend to attract people who are too needy or whiny so I don’t have that experience about anyone I meet via phone sex …. sissy or not. So, My answer would have to be no and I haven’t encountered what you’re talking about so I don’t have an opinion.
MORE questions ! LOL
Love the Q and A Ms Olivia. I answered the question you asked me on EE, but I have a follow up for you about your guy. Has he ever called you?
ROFLOL Wellspanked…….here’s the CRAZY thing about My real life guy! And, it totally cracks Me up! He doesn’t LIKE fantasy. I tried to do a phone sex call with him and he busted up laughing! And started making JOKES! I’m serious! I’m like, damn baby you’ve got one of the best phone sex artists going who wants to call YOU! And he’s like…….I’m trying….but he just doesn’t ‘feel’ it. ROFLOL Now, how is THAT for something crazy! This was NOT intentional on My part because I adore phone sex and would love to do it with him but that’s not his thing. I still get My phone sex fun with y’all and I’m totally grateful for that because I love to masturbate on the phone! But, not with My guy. Now, the real thing with him is AMAZING so he gets no complaints from Me in that department! LOL
BTW, he never posts on the blog but he does read it!
This is such a cool post, i learned alot and even though im too stumped by your beauty to ask a question, its great to have a place to pick a gorgeous Lady’s mind, so Thank You 🙂
Hi oc!!! Thank you so much!
It was delightful chatting with you on IM. And, thank you for being gracious enough to come over here to leave a comment. Remember, y’all can ask Me anything … it doesn’t have to be just about phone sex …. I like getting to know you too!
Okay so Miss Olivia I have a few questions, Firstly I’m a sissy and I definitely remember fantasizing that Britney Spears would dress me in girl clothes and let me hang out with her, what does that say about me? Also I’m submissive on the phone and on the internet but dont like being pushed around in real life, whats that about?
dearest cassie…it says you have questionable taste in music! (LOLyou HANDED me that joke baby, I had to hit it!) ~~ still laughing~~Seriously, if Britney is dressing you that means you have EXCELLENT taste in slutty sexy sissy clothes! If that’s a serious question and I’m making light of it in an inappropriate way TELL ME ! Sometimes writing doesn’t come across as intended. I’m being playful …. I’m never sarcastic or mean (outside of kinky scenes).
For the rest……I think most healthy people who are into Power Exchange are not into it 24/7. Personally if I had to make all of my guy’s decisions every day, no matter how hot the sex was, I’d be outta here. LOL So bottom line, there is FETISH PLAY and there is real life….both are real….don’t feel like you have to submissive all the time. I’m not Domme all the time….nor is pet submissive all the time, BLEH……go for being YOU!
Ok…a few more questions:
If you make an assignment during a session, do you really expect your phone sissy (or any sub for that matter) to carry it out?
If said assignment involves purchasing things like panties or toys at a lingerie store/sex shop…how can we expect the store’s employees to react?
Do Mistresses really get turned on by dominating their subs on the phone? Does a particular sort of sub get you more turned on than any others?
As a sissy sub, I fantasize about wearing girly things, having boobs and being treated like a slut. As a dominant Mistress that (presumably) dons a strapon at times, do you ever fantasize about being male or having a real penis?
Interested to hear your responses. Thanks for doing the Q&A. You’re terrific and your transparency philosophy is outstanding!
…curtsies
GREAT followup questions sissy c…..you KNOW you are an inspiration for Me!
I loved IMing with you to create the Above Average Slut post! LOL Thank you for your time doing that with Me. I know you’re busy and appreciate it!
Okies, on to your questions.
I’m answering for Me in My Domme persona and other Mistresses are different. We all have different styles, personalities, etc.
Your first question is one I’ve had several times in recent days.
You asked: “If you make an assignment during a session, do you really expect your phone sissy (or any sub for that matter) to carry it out?”
GREAT question and issue! Once again, I’m going to be long winded to really explain this (shocking, I know! LOL)
Short answer is yes and no. Let’s make the distinction of phone sex fantasy orders given as part of the scene. VERY HOT and SEXY for the people who like assignments. AFTER the scene, is there a way for Me to check in real life? No. So in that sense, I have no way to confirm. I can ask while in the next scene….sometimes the next scene is that the sissy is punished for NOT completing the assignment or praised FOR completing it….again, it’s in the context of a scene.
This is not about My *expectations* as a real life person or FemDom it is about mutually creating the hottest scene in the kinky session. This about Power Exchange not Me *controlling* someone in real life. In real life I’m not controlling at all and never deal with passive/aggressive people or behavior.
I do have people who want Me to *check* on them and/or *make them* …. this involves an element of real life control that I don’t do.
It begins to get into exerting pressure (control) on someone thru real life threats and while, that can be a turnon, I don’t do it because I am a big fan of SSC and RACK in fetish play.
SSC is safe, sane and consensual. RACK is risk assessment consensual kink and generally considered an edgier form of fetish play. The commonality of BOTH is that assessment of safety and the consensual nature. Just because someone wants to play on the real life threats page doesn’t mean I have to provide that and I don’t, therefore it’s not consensual. As a Mistress it is also My responsibility to keep subs *safe* and I take that seriously. I look out for you. What can seem very hot in a scene is not hot when the schznit hits the fan and blows up a life. I won’t participate in a scene like that as a Mistress or as a business person. So in that sense…..NO, I have no real way to check if assignments are carried out.
You next question hints about taking fetish play into public and asks about practical considerations of getting play items….another FANTASTIC question and one I hear a LOT (thank you so much for posting these questions!)
Here’s your question: “If said assignment involves purchasing things like panties or toys at a lingerie store/sex shop…how can we expect the store’s employees to react?”
I’m going to answer the lingerie store question first. The store employees are NOT sex workers and therefore it’s not consensual to expose them to fetish play. It’s just not right. That’s the morality of the situation. The practical issues of the situation are that if you push private sex play on others in a public setting you can expose yourself to issues of legality and/or safety. It’s not safe or sane.
That said, lots of sissies go into stores and buy panties. Sometimes the sissy even says the panties are for her. Either is FINE as long as you don’t give off a creepy sex vibe to the clerk and/or expect her to treat you like she is a Mistress. She won’t…..she’s a clerk … civilian …. I don’t participate in scenes that involve civilians without their consent.
The sex store gives you a little more latitude. They are clerks but also familiar with the sex industry. There are lots of various points of arousal in a sex store….that goes with the territory. Again, courtesy is the name of the game. It’s like talking with a doctor, lawyer or a business consultant at a party….they might answer general questions, but if you want their specific expertise and talents applied to your situation, you pay them. Some clerks in sex stores will do this, some won’t. Ask and offer to pay for their time.
Your next question:
“Do Mistresses really get turned on by dominating their subs on the phone? Does a particular sort of sub get you more turned on than any others?”
Again, I can’t speak for all Mistresses but I can speak for Me. I DO get turned on by FemDom fetish play. It’s easier to tell you what turns Me off. I’m not into manipulation or passive/aggressive behavior. Manipulation as part of a scene is fine. I’m a switch so I can do either roll. But, the real life tries at manipulation are a turn off. Other than that anything goes and I do get turned on and, often, masturbate (whether or not I tell you depends on the scene) on the phone. I don’t masturbate during sexy texting sessions because of issues of slick, wet fingers but I am thinking about one submissive who has done IM sessions with Me for years that I fantasize about when I’m off the session.
Next question is this:
“As a sissy sub, I fantasize about wearing girly things, having boobs and being treated like a slut. As a dominant Mistress that (presumably) dons a strapon at times, do you ever fantasize about being male or having a real penis?”
I love strap on play and gender bending (Me in male dress wearing lacy lingerie) …. I LIKE being the GG (genetic girl) and don’t want a penis or be a man. After all…..I have LOTS of penii to play with *wink* ~~~ laughs ~~~
I love all your questions sissy c and you’ve got a cute lil curtsey!
Thanks for taking the time and putting the thought into such detailed answers, Mistress. I very much appreciate it, and I’m sure many others do as well. You’ve really helped me learn a lot about my sissy self and some of the feelings I have (not just in these posts, but in our conversations). I’m a big fan…keep up the great work.
…curtsey
Thank YOU sissy c! This BDsm kinky sex fetish play arena is a wonderful way to begin to clarify feelings, desires and needs. This is ONE very important reason why I insist any participant in the phone sex experience understands the what they are doing and any possible implications. This is why MUTUAL safe, sane and consensual play is a requirement. That means I don’t *make* you do things in real life. In a scene is fine and sexy and hot. BUT, I will never allow ME to decide things for you that are really your responsibility. I’m thinking of callers who want Me to post ads for them on a list or line up illegal activities. Or even *out* them to their wife, current girlfriend or ex-girlfriend. If there is something you’re unwilling to do yourself and want Me to do it for you then it is something that actually shouldn’t be done! LOL
A hard on or a twitching sissy stick is a VERY powerful thing…..part of My job is to keep you WELL! LOL
Plus, this journey is about YOU learning about you….and for that there needs to be the conscious recognition and ownership of your own needs and desires.
Does that make sense?
Absolutely…
Dear Mistress,
May I ask if you are in a committed relationship? If so, what role does your partner serve in your life? Are you dominant in all aspects of your life?
Hi wantingtoo: Great questions and I always say, ask whatever you want to know. I’m very good at telling you I’m not going to answer anything I don’t want to answer. Mostly though, I do answer. Yes I am in a committed relationship. My partner is My partner – part kinky companion, part dearest friend, part muse and creative inspiration, part support and sounding board, part relaxation, part excitement. He IS the total package. I’m sure he’s not perfect but he IS perfect for Me. Tell Me more about your question about Me being Dominant in all aspects of My life. What exactly do you want to know? Do I wear thigh high leather boots to the farmer’s market for fresh veggies? hmmmmm, interesting visual but, no I don’t. Am I a Femdom on all the calls I get for phone sex? Nope.
If that didn’t answer your questions or you have a followup feel free to continue to post your questions and I’ll answer here.
Dear Mistress Olivia,
Thank you for your attention and time. So since you have ever the “total package ” as a partner do you have a need or desire to cuckold him? As for your dominant nature in your every day life I meant more along the lines of doing you maintain a high level of control over those in your life? Finally, does size really matter? For a long time my wife said I was big enough for her because she is petite and still very tight. Now she says I am small but she enjoys how my dick stimulates her clit. However she says my tongue is much more stimulating then my dick. So what do you think? Also, can you read the tea leaves my wife has laid out.
Thank you
Wantingtoo …. My guy and I have a varied sex life that totally works for us. In My experience, the cuckold fantasy enacted in real life is still the fantasy. The fantasy is any variation of: “I’m not ‘good enough’ for my wife. The ‘not good enough’ can be penis size or ability to provide her sexual pleasure. It can also be gay or bisexual fantasies. The bottom line is that she needs and gets a Real Man. She becomes the cuckoldress and he becomes the cuckold. Then, the cuckold has to ‘do’ certain things that are humiliating but also erotically exciting to the cuckold husband … ie creampie eating, service around the house, turned into a sissy, coerced cocksucking and more. The ‘not good enough’ might or might not have a basis in reality. For example, many men who LOVE SPH (small penis humiliation) don’t actually HAVE a small penis. LOL It’s the rollercoaster of erotic humiliation that is the goal and the SPH taunting is the *tool* (pun intended) used.
Hello Empress Olivia!
How long experience do you have of femdsom phone sex?
Hi Froppe …. thanks for leaving your question on My blog. I just had My phone sex anniversary! It’s been three years now and what started as a curious whim is now a career. I totally love this! 🙂 Feel free to leave other questions or comments for Me and I’ll answer them.
Is domination something you only do on phone sex? Or is it something you also do in your free time?
@ Froppe ….. I sort of started doing phone sex as a career by accident. I’ve always been sexually assertive and very open to all kinds of erotic pleasure, sensual delights and curious about everything kinky. So, My professional side blends quite well with My personal side. I don’t do Femdom or Dominatrix sessions in person as a business. I keep the business part on the phone. But, I DO play in the BDsm and fetish scene personally and, of course, love it! *wink* You might say it’s an avocation as well as a vocation. ~laughs~ When I tell people I am passionate about My career I mean it! *wink*