Every person has sexual secrets or a particular private sex fantasy that is a “go to” fantasy for guaranteed quick orgasm. I have My own erotic thoughts. *wink* And, after talking to thousands of phone sex callers, I now know that it’s human to have a private sex life that you hesitate to share with your real life sexual partner. That’s normal. Are you willing to settle for a normal and ordinary sex life? Probably not if you’re on My blog.
Confess your deepest sexual desires
I hear a LOT of confessions. There’s something about the safety of talking on the phone that makes it easy to say what you really want in the sexual experience of your wildest dreams. Some people only want to talk about naughty thoughts. Some want to do a phone sex roleplay of the scene. Some really want to take kinky desires into real life. Which one are you? I want you to leave a comment and tell Me!
Connection from sharing your sex secrets
When you actually say your darkest desires out loud you can experience a new level of sexual intensity. I’ve done lots of posts about intimacy and phone sex and why you can get here what you don’t get in real life.
Can’t or don’t want to talk to your real life sex partner?
That is the reality of most real life relationships. Some callers tell Me that they’ve tried to talk to wives or girlfriends. One recent closet crossdresser told Me that he did talk to his wife and now she wants him to stop crossdressing! One of the most common secrets is the man who is fascinated by dicks and cock sucking. Can you share that in real life? When you talk to Me about it you don’t get that judgment and you will get the experience you so enjoy!
I’d love to read comments from you and hear what you have to say about YOUR secret sex thoughts.
Until next time,
I spoke with my now ex partner about my fantasies as I so wanted to bring them into real life, she was very understanding about them and occassionally tried to carry out some role play however she could not get into the fantasy.
Also she said no way to sleeping with another man, our relationship went down hill after I divulged my fantasies so I probably would be slightly uncomfortable telling a partner again.
I would certainly love to play out most of my fantasies in real life, such as short term chastity and cuckold, would be nervous about something long term as my ex has now told other people about my desires which is quite embarresing even if in private is quite exciting.
Ahhhhh, Jonathan, I understand. There is a risk to talking about sexual fantasies with a real life partner. It’s all the “what ifs ….” And I feel very strongly that a person’s erotic pleasure should NOT be used as a weapon. But, the reality is that people (especially when they are mad) will use sex and anything else available against the person they are mad at.
Some people call phone sex for advice and support they can’t get anywhere else. The cuckold fantasy is in the top five of the “How do I talk with my wife” types of questions. I always tell people err on the safe side. Maybe broach the subject, see how she reacts and then maybe say a bit more over time.
When two people really click in terms of sexual intimacy life becomes amazing! But, the sad fact is, it’s rare. Which is one of the top reasons to call this Experienced Mistress – there’s NO risk to you!
Now, I will also admit I have similar issues. Do I tell people I am a phone sex Mistress? Do I admit that I LOVE My ‘job.’ Do I tell them just how kinky I am in real life? LOL
I count myself as very lucky to have found a man that is perfect for Me in vanilla life AND our kinky sex life. Here’s how we handle ‘the talk.’ We talk about erotic desires and fantasies and then negotiate together what we keep as a fantasy and what we try in real life. But, he is a rare find. Then again, so am I!
I agree with you Jonathan, what is quite exciting in private can be awful if disclosed to the vanilla people in your life. But, please take comfort in this: I KNOW for a fact (because I’ve talked with thousands of men) that some of those friends are going, woah, I wish I had the courage to talk about my fantasies! Seriously …. no matter how they act in public! The difference between public and private sex lives is vast!
THANK YOU so much for writing 🙂
hi there Mistress Olivia,
I have had many wonderful call with Mistress Olivia, she is a wonderful Mistress, she has encouraged me to bring out my inner slut, which is wonderful. early on she renamed me starbaby and taught me how to be a whore. I am married and have been able to encourage my wife to become more dominant in the bedroom as a result of guidance from Mistress Olivia. my secret desires are to be a maid for my Mistress and serve while she hosts a sex party, i long to serve a cruell Goddess who will use me for her amusement. i have recently encouraged wife to use me as an ashtray which we have both found delightful – so thank You Mistress Olivia
I’d send you a hug cum slut sissy starbaby, but here’s the thing……I *know* you and your rewards are more along the BDSM side of things. LOL Soooooooooo ……. let Me put you into this naught sissy slut maid’s outfit. And get you all slutty femme. Now bend over! Hand on your knees, let Me see that short skirt ride up exposing your panties. LOL it’s a man in panties! Maybe a little spanking before I take you with My stapon and then …… hmmmmmm sissy then …. ?
:: giggle ::
On a serious note, we’ve now been doing http://www.sexytexting.com sessions on IM for three years. We’ve also chatted on YIM so I do know your personal life as well. I HAVE encouraged you to broach the subject of your erotic desires with your wife and you have! I know that has made your marriage so much better!
One caller told Me that if his wife would give him, sexually, just a *bit* of what he wanted he would bend over backwards to please her in the ways she wants including non sexual chores and behavior that he now will resist.
I think that’s very telling.
Couples have called Me before for sex play advice from this Experienced Mistress. I did a blog post about that. It’s rare but it does happen. Kudos to the women who will explore for and with their men!
u r sexy mistress. wish i could be there with u… and could help u…
Excellent blog post! I think that there is a fine line with fantasies and partners, and I believe Johnathan’s comments above exemplify that.
I would like to think (and certainly the societal “ideal”) is you should be able to share everything with your partner, but I think the reality is far more precarious, specifically when it refers TO the other partner rather than yourself…
To clarify what I mean, I believe there is a HUGE DIFFERENCE between something like “My fantasy is for you to spank me” — which could certainly be embarrassing or rejected and something like “My fantasy is that you should have sex with other guys.”
In the former, my hypothetical protagonist is asking his partner to do something pretty simple that will bring pleasure. The latter is a HUGE request that could easily be seen as insulting or worse! Fidelity is extremely important to many people, and the sex act itself is very sacrosanct to others. To me that is an example of two people who are just so far apart that open communication will NOT bridge the gap, but widen it much much further. In such a case, “spanking” might be a harmless sex fantasy, but “cuckolding” could be seen as extremely insulting.
EXACTLY !!!! And, you bring up some of the issues that men have with the cuckold fantasy and things like the desire to be a cross dresser. With the crossdresser example some women are put off that there are *two* people with female energy in the situation. With the cuckolding example like you used the partner can be very upset by the request for infidelity.
Personally I don’t think that cuckolding is a break in fidelity. I also don’t think it’s a break in faithfulness when I seduce My guy to suck a dick. LOL But then, that’s Me. We are VERY faithful in emotional attachment and mutual support/encouragement. Now, I think a break in THAT really would upset Me.
Maybe because I’ve talked with so many men during the intimacy of phone sex I realize that what a man does when he is hard and horny isn’t HIM….it’s the horny him.
And there’s a difference between a man and a horny man. Personally I like BOTH ! LOL
Ms. Olivia, I so identify with this post. I just don’t get why people in the real world get so uptight. Too many times have I confessed IRL only to have the person try it for a bit and then back out. ~sigh~
*nods* at tonya …. thank you for the lovely sissy style you have, btw.
I’m actually *fine* with someone being willing to TRY and erotic adventure and decides that’s not for them. But, there’s a big difference between live and let live AND trying to get a partner to tone down sexual needs, urges and desires. That NEVER works!
For example, an ex-girlfriend of my guy caught him masturbating while watching porn. She apparently told him that she didn’t want him watching porn AND didn’t want him to EVER masturbate. Sex with her (vanilla quick sex) and then total celibacy. Hmmmmm……no wonder she is the ex !
I wonder why other women don’t seem to GET this.
Thank you for initating this conversation and the interesting posts. One of the most difficult things I have ever done was address my “kinks” with the woman I love before our marriage. The risk of rejection is huge. She accepted my crossdressing and we have a wonderful marriage/partnership. Now my fanatasies are more submissive in nature and she is struggling with that. I have no great point here except that we just have to keep working and communicating. In the meantime, taliking to an experienced Mistress can be helpful. Thanks.
WOW Jamie Rose …… what courage you have to discuss your kinks with your wife! And, you must have an amazing relationship to be able to talk about these sorts of things in a realistic and loving way. I’ve found that when it *works* it’s a way to really deepen the trust in a relationship and that connection goes beyond the actual sex play or kinky fetish activity. BUT, like others have said…..it’s a conversation that has RISK. You mentioned that you’re feeling more submissive and your wife is struggling with that. Is she struggling with being the Domme? I’ve done phone sex counseling with couples where I help the wife explore her inner Dominant Woman. Sometimes they find it’s there but ‘hidden’ and with guidance by this Experienced Mistress they are able to really become for Dominant with this husbands who are feeling sexually submissive. There is an Art to Dominance and submission in a real life relationship. Have you thought about calling as a couple or simply seeing if your wife would like to call Me?
hi Mistress Olivia,
Thank You for Your wonderful reply,i would love to be Your maid, and would be a good slut for You xx
thank You so much for posting about me – can believe we have been doing this for 3 years xxx
i would like to thank You for all the guidance You have given me xxx
You have changed my life and given me the confidence to be a good slut i only wish my wife would play more often xx
It HAS been three years! You were My very first sexy texting session! Did you know that? It’s true and I value the history that we have. I’ve seen you grow and change! You’ve also told Me about how your wife has changed during that time. While she might not be doing the kinky play as often as you want…..she is now participating the erotic things that provide you the intense sexual pleasure that you want. That’s really NEW ! And, like any new habit or experience, it takes time and depends on HER life as well 🙂 THANK YOU for posting your comment !
Well, I guess my kink is more on the mild side of things, or I think so after learning about some of these others.
I am into roleplay. It really doesn’t matter what type of role for the most part, but roleplay in general. That was something that I just could not share with my ex, because I knew she would have freaked. ” Here honey, would like to play doctor, or dress like a french maid, or whatever” would have sent her into shock. So yes, even something as mild as roleplay ( compared to other kinks ) I think would have been a very short talk.
In general, I’m a private person, but it would be nice to find a real life partner, that would enjoy alittle roleplay fun. Not all the time, but every once in a while.
Good point Paul……I think things like sexual styles and erotic compatibility is something that is best negotiated sort of early in the relationship……not TOO early LOL…..but you know if you think you’d like to get to know the person a LOT better then it might be time to have the *conversation* just to see how it goes. Personally I love erotic role play …. I get into the whole fantasy scene. My real life boyfriend doesn’t like roleplay, he likes the reality of kinky sex. So, we don’t *fit* in that way but we do find enough common ground that it totally works. Plus, I can use phone sex as My roleplay outlet and you should look for the blog post about MY arousal during calls. *wink*
Curtsey Empress Olivia. I agree with Jamie, thank you for initating this topic. Excellent comments from all who have commented. In looking back, I can see that things have been a journey for me…I’ve posted about my journey on EE in my blogs. Forgive me if I ramble as I can get long winded, I do hope to make a point. Someone once told me that once a fantasy occurs, then it’s no longer a fantasy and then it goes away. Society tends to frown and ridicule those who have fantasy’s,while yet they themselves have skeleton’s in their own closets. Look at the news, there’s always something coming out about someone in the news.Talk about the pot calling the kettle black or living in glass houses. There’s another term “lifestyle” that sometimes has a negative conatation. My journey is a lifestyle which I’ve come to accept and I’m very happy knowing that inside. Yes, I agree when you have made the decision to tell your partner be it a bf/gf or husband or wife, take small steps. Aproach with hints,get their reaction. Be aware that two people are not alike, and their reactions will be different. When two people do connect on all levels can really add fullfilment to both lives. Empress Olivia, I agree that when someone is angry sex will be the vehicle they use toward the other person. They use it because they know how destructive someone’s kink, fantasies or lifestyle will become. Things were always discussed with my ex, but never was it acted out in front of her as I felt that sense about her that it would be risky to do so. Following the divorce, she did use to drive a wedge between my children and me. And she tried to use with the legal system. Society accepts women who cross dress every day, but when a sissy or a crossdresser even attempts to go out in public, they are singled out and reminded of how society is not accepting or forgiving. I’m honored to be Ms Ann’s girl, we’ve had many wonderful discussions. I truly am happy to be Ms Ann’s girl. And I’ve had the pleasure of talking with several other mistresses here at LDW, there is no jugdement. Quite the contrary, there’s openness and encouragement. Ms Ann knows that I go out dressed as often and as much as I can….and many times there is a safety risk as in this area it’s not well accepted. But, with a bit of caution and the confidence to be who I am, I can still go into many places.Hmmm, well I hope I’ve made a point here somewhere. As I indicated, I have written of my journey and have it posted on EE. Thank you again Empress… Curtsey
Your experience SUCKS steph and really during a divorce people will do the most horrible things to one another. It’s really inexcusable. I’m sooooo sorry you had to experience that !
I’m glad you bring up the whole issue of safety and going out in public as a crossdresser. YES YES and YES ! You make a great point about using caution and confidence. And, what I tell new crossdressers who want to go out en femme is to be sensible. I’m fit and strong but I still won’t go walking alone in a dangerous neighborhood. That’s just being realistic. A cross dresser who wants to parade in front of a bunch of conservative straight guys who might beat her up is not being smart. That’s a good distinction that you make about going out en femme in an area where it’s not well accepted.
I always always always tell people to err on the side of safety and caution. Remember the blog post about hardons linked to decreased inhibitions (or in your case sissy stick or clitty) 🙂
Thank you so much sweetie for your kind comments about the Mistresses of LDW and, in particular, Ms Ann. We really aren’t judgmental and we DO love you !!!!
Interesting thoughts, Ms. Olivia! I think there are things that are better enjoyed between the fantasizer and a neutral party; lots of fantasies might make a loved one feel hurt or threatened, even the person with the fantasy doesn’t want to play things out for real. It’s all a very personal decision I think, whether to let your significant other in on your fantasy or keep it for yourself and your Mistress. For instance, I can understand why a man might be turned on by the thought of his wife with another man, but I can also understand why that idea might distress her. But not wanting to distress his wife doesn’t keep a man from thinking about it, and I think it’s best to find a healthy outlet for that!
For myself, I have “go-to” fantasies that I don’t share with anybody. I just imagine them when I want to be worked up; but the reality is, I don’t want them to happen in real life. Just inside my head 🙂
Ms Nicole…..I love it when other Mistresses join the conversation! THANK YOU !
YES !!! You bring up the issue of finding a healthy outlet for erotic thoughts and sex fantasies that won’t go away.
Sometimes it’s that *go-to* fantasy that you mentioned and masturbation.
Sometimes it’s sharing that particular fantasy with a Mistress and NOT taking it into your real life relationship.
I’m thinking about a caller who has a particular fantasy…..he’s talked with his wife about his submissive sex needs and she’s tried to be a Domme for him……BUT, his wife doesn’t really FEEL it and doesn’t particularly like doing it. She’s a more disengaged from his sex scene than he would like. So, he talked with her about calling phone sex FOR that fantasy and the intense orgasms it causes. His wife is FINE with him calling a Mistress! Now, THAT is a realistic sex relationship. Rare but totally realistic.
I have also talked with Mistress Olivia and had nothing but great conversations about what really excites me. I love to wear womens clothing but was never real good at aproaching a sales aldy about buying for me and telling her that. I was encouraged to go do this by Mistress and it turned out to be very exciting now it seems like it is much easier if I have her on the phone encouraging me to go forth and become Cara.
I have talked to my wife about me wearing womens clothing and it never ends well becuase she tells me she married a man and not a Woman. She has never liked the fact that I like to wear her panties when we are apart because I feel closer to her. That is how this whole life started in the first place after that it was dresses and heels and then her toys. I felt so womanly when I dressed while we were apart and so at ease with myself instead of worrying abotu appearances. My wife once found a skirt that I just bought and she threw it away and I cried. She also found some panties of mine while I was getting ready to go on a trip and she was very upset by this and alost threw me out of the house.
Thank goodness Mistress Olivia lets me live this dream of becoming a Woman even if it is just a phone call she aways makes it seem so real and attainable for me. Canot wait for my trip soon in which Mistress is going to dress me up and make me go to truck stops along the way.
ohhhhh sissy cara, I think you’ve touched on one of the biggest obstacles of realizing you are a cross dresser while you are already in a steady relationship or marriage. And, this isn’t just for someone who starts out simply as a man in panties and then begins to get in touch with the feminine side. I think all people are a mixture of masculine and feminine. And, it’s easier for a woman to crossdress by wearing male attire then it is for a man to want to wear women’s lingerie and then women’s clothing. Not to mention it’s really difficult to find shoes and clothes for crossdressers if your body isn’t a size that works with traditional women’s fashions ! BTW, if anyone is having trouble shopping I can help ! LOL
cara, I’m so glad I’m a good support system for you. Sometimes a phone sex call isn’t about the sexual fantasy at all; it’s about how to live life and stay true to your sexual self. Of course, I’m soooo excited to be part of this trip for you (and with you) and I can’t wait to hear all about your sissy adventures ! Ohhhh, that would make a good blog post title….Sissy Adventures! 🙂
On of my favorite things about LDW is exploring new things. i often find that i can work some of them into my real life, although much more gradually.
Crossdressing and sissification:
i began wearing women’s panties when i was a young teenager, because i loved the feel of them. i graduated into trying on bras because i wanted to see what that would feel like. For a while i kept it hidden, but my other has dressed me up a few times and has even bought me panties to wear because She knows how hard i get just putting them on. She amazed me too one night when She had me go into a store with Her and buy myself a maid’s outfit. She surprised me a few nights later with high heels to match. i never in my wildest dreams would have thought that would happen to me. i figured being Sissy School Maid of the Year was the closest i would ever cum to being a real maid.
The sissy part of my fantasy is still just a part of my LDW world, and many of you may have seen some of my recent posts of my adventures with Princess. i have never really been a “Crossdresser” for the sake of wanting to pass as a woman, but rather wore them rather as a symbol of giving up the male side of my persona and becoming the submissive i always want to be. i love the humiliation of wearing very girlie panties that could never be mistaken as something that might be worn by a man. i also enjoy the humilation of wearing a training bra and wanting to have beautiful tits like Mistress, but never being able to since i will always be just a sissy wishing to be a woman.
BDSM and Chastity:
These are two other areas that i have played around in at LDW, that i never thought would enter my real life, but they have. i used to like the occasional BDSM session with MsElizabeth and will never forget the time She had me do jumping jacks with water bottles tied to my balls, or when MsMeredith had me crawl around my hotel room dragging my suitcase around tied to my balls as well… and then have to start filling the suitcase with things.
Princess and i often spent time with chastity play where i would be locked up on my longer trips and my key would be placed in a lock box that She would send to me, but only Princess knew the combination. i have to say i was amazed as well that this entered my real life, but my other likes being submissive herself, so we started experimenting with simple things like being tied up in bed. It has progressed to the point where i have been locked away not only in a CB by Her, but a Humbler as well.
i hope this was the sort of experience You wanted me to share MsOlivia… i am happy as always to do anything for the Mistresses of LDW.
panty sue …. THANK YOU so much for taking your time to tell us all about your experiences!!! WOW !
It sounds like you are in an amazing relationship! I’m curious…..how did you find this woman or how did She find YOU? I know so many callers want to know how to find a Woman like Me in real life. I don’t meet My phone sex callers in real life so I try to direct them to FetLife which has a community of kinky people. Or help them find a BDsm community in their area. I tell other callers that it’s possible to find a good fit but it will probably take a fair amount of time and effort. And, if you think about it, ANY dating (even vanilla dating) takes time!
I’m also curious about your Princess being submissive herself. Do you mean that she is a D/s switch? I’m the Domme with My real life boyfriend and he’s a total submissive sexually when we have kinky sex …..but in our fetish play community I will also be topped by other sexy Domme Women or Dom Men….or both LOL.
You mentioned that your phone sex experiences have led you to explore new things! Right on! I also get kink ideas from sessions with callers! So while I am Experienced as a Mistress, there is always MORE to learn and do and EXPLORE.
I can’t wait to hear more from you panty sue! Do tell!
I went to my ex wife’s last night at her request. She said she needed more alimony. I told her i wouldn’t give anymore as i already pay her a nice monthly amount. Well she flipped out and started screaming at me and calling me names. I just sat down and looked away. She walked into the kitchen and said “You”re such a pussy”. Her roomate came home and I got up to use the bathroom. She yelled after me “remember pussies sit to pee” and they both laughed. That turned me on so much. I pulled my pants down and sat to pee and that is when I saw her hamper. I flushed the toilet and turned on the water to wash my hands. I then quickly opened the hamped and reached in. I found a pretty light blue silky pair of panties. I smelled them and put them in my coat pocket. I quickly left and came home. I know she will miss them and i should take them back but i want them so badly. I want to pretend they are mine but if i wear them i know i will be unable to return them.
LOL jennifer……your ex wife might have yelled that in anger but I know just exactly how much that turns you on! *snicker* And, funny you should mention smelling her panties taken out of the hamper. You are SUCH a hamper skunk! (( saying that because I bet that makes your clitty hard, doesn’t it?)
Now, I’ve got a question for you…..when you were married, did you tell her that you like wearing panties? Some women accept men in panties, sissy maids, and other crossdressing….and other women get very weird about a man dressing in women’s clothes. What has been your experience with talking about this with real life partners about your panty fetish?
Hello mistrees achully i have this sissy soft side inside me frm last 6 years n often i dressed in girlish clothes. Especially i love to serve girls as i am dressed up. I love to do all house hold chores like dishing washing etc but cant dare to start public outing as sissy. i jus love it but i think what all my all friends and family will react about this. I get very scared n cant find mistrees inside any girl friends so i belive only mistrees can treat sissy well n train her the way she wants . … Thanks mistrees to giving me this chance …
yes sissy …. if you or anyone else with erotic desires to serve a strong Woman then it’s natural to try and find that in real life. BUT, as you are finding out, there are more submissive men or sissies who want to serve a Mistress then there are real life/girlfriend Mistresses who will take them. I think that is why Mistress domination on phone sex is so popular. Like other professional services, paid erotic conversation fills a need. And you, the person paying for the session, gets access not only to uninterrupted time and attention …. but, you also have our wealth of sexual experience and erotic knowledge of the fetish or kink lifestyle in fantasy or real life. I suspect that IF callers could find what they want in real life they wouldn’t call Me. But, the reality is that you can have a great life and a fantastic relationship with your girlfriend, partner or spouse and still not find ALL of your erotic fantasies or kinky fetish desires fulfilled.
So…..that’s where this Experienced Mistress comes in!
Thank you so much for sharing yourself as you are on this new sissy journey. AND, thank you for writing especially since English is your second language!
i wanna try a cum facial,how bad does cum in the eye sting??
Hi paul thanks for posting your question here on My blog where I answer these types of questions.
Thank you also for being considerate of My free chat on IM where I’m answering many IM windows at a time. It’s often not possible to give the individual attention that is wanted during My free IM chat times. But you can still get individual attention and responses to your comments here on My blog. ((You already know you can do a session so I won’t belabor the obvious. I’m talking about free individual attention 🙂 ))
Direct answer to your question. Getting cum in the eyes DOES sting because cum is salty.
You might also want to check out our site: http://www.coachedcumeating.com There are stories, essays and more.
That said: Cum facials are HOT …. figuratively and literally (body temp plus the heat of arousal)
Here’s how one man new to cock sucking humiliation puts it:
He says: “The whole experience was amazing, from my mistress helping me find the dick I was going to suck to wrapping my lips around it and knowing it was me that was causing it to get hard.”
MANY callers who are curious and/or fascinated by cock say that being the one that arouses another man’s penis is a huge part of the turnon for them.
This caller was into erotic humiliation so I put him in sissy panties; keep that in mind as you read the rest of his description:
He says: “Following your orders and gagging on the cock until tears came to my eyes and the realization what a nasty slut I was when a guy was standing over me squirting his cum on my face…… warm and sticky, rolling down my nose and cheeks. Then, looking at the results in the mirror made me want to jerk off right then it was so exciting.”
FYI, he DID jerk off in those man panties! LOL And, shot a huge load.
LONG answer to your question paul but I told you that I would answer it on My blog …. where others with the same question can read it 🙂 Thanks for sending an IM with your question and then posting it to My blog as requested 🙂
Mistress, does wanting to suck cock make me a sissy?
Hi Kyle! Great question for the Experienced Mistress.
Being a sissy is more about crossdressing than simply the desire to suck another man’s dick. That said, the cross dressing community is incredibly multi faceted.
The majority of men who wear women’s clothes tend to be heterosexual. Many want their Mistress partner as their sexual partner as well. So, the man becomes the lesbian lover in the phone fantasy. Some of these men shout, “I’m a woman!” as they reach orgasm; getting their panties all wet.
The man who is hetero in real life and much of his sexual fantasy life can move to craving even more experiences as the feminine side of the when he is dressed as a woman. The more traditionally feminine role is often expressed as a yearning for dick …. cock sucking. Sometimes it’s the fantasy of sucking a big dick but it’s only the phone sex fantasy. For others, getting dressed brings out transgender feelings quite strongly and then the urge to actually suck dick is very strong.
To make matters even more varied, some sissies, especially those with little dicks who enjoy SPH (small penis humiliation) feel even more submissive because they are a man in panties. It’s about the Dominance and submission Power Exchange between the sissy submissive and the Mistress.
There are a variety of girly sissies that love to serve. Some love to serve the Mistress in various ways from worship of the lovely body of a Mistress all the way to performing specific acts of service. For example, a sissy maid might have sissy assignments to handle all of the lingerie that Mistress owns. Another sissy maid service task can be housework and, even running the household under the stern direction of Mistress.
Now, sucking cock can be a service to Mistress …. especially when there are lots of Men at a fetish play party.
I will say this: the common denominator of the vast majority of calls that include cock sucking is this: the sissy slut LOVES the fact that she can make that cock swell and quiver and then, of course, cum.
LONG answer …. thank you so much for your patience!
Based on that answer…..do you have follow up questions?
The Experienced Mistress is answering all your sex questions tonite ! LOL
This is both a anwser to the topic and a follow up to my post and Miss Olivia’s comment at enchantrix ( https://enchantrixempire.com/enchantsocial/blog.php?user=mylenesissy&blogentry_id=1928 )
First of all, you are right, Miss, Tthe girl side was always there, it wasn’t part of a kink, i used to love girly thingg in my childhood, but i could only have as much as my parent would give me (my mom was more or less ok with it, my dad wasn’t, did everything he could to make it go away, including forced enrollment in a few boy’s sport club, failed and gave up a few year later) In the ned, i only had a few dolls and polly pockets, which i loved. I also remember setting the timer on the VHS recorder 20 min early each morning, officially to be sure not to miss (“The Animals of Farthing Wood”, a fantastic and intelligent children show btw, if any of you have children), but the real reason was to secretly enjoy Princess Gwenevere which was on earlier.
A few year later, one day my mom was away, i put one of her skirt and panties on, no idea why, i just wanted to, this still was not “sexual”.
I did it more and more often, then, one night at 11, i add my first orgasm in panties in the middle of the night, i had no idea what had happened and i thought i had some illness or something 😀 . My main thinking at the time was getting up and cleaning all of it before someone might come.
At 12, i discovered by total accident a SM website, with girls lightly dressed and tied up, i went there secretly for a long time, discovered a lot of things, until one day, i realised,it wasn’t that i was really enjoy watching all of this, i WANTED to be them.
That’s then, and only then, that it became a sex thing.
Nowaday, when i said the two side has merged, it’s only partially true. Both thing are “not socially acceptable”, and have to be hidden somehow. So whenever i’m a the right situation for one, i’m usually in a right situation for the other. That’s why the “slutty sissy” is the one that often comes out.
But truthfully, both side are still here. I dream of being made into a beautifull, passable girl into “regular” cloth and go out shopping with a nice girlfriend.
On the other side, i fantasize about being outed in public dressed in a very light and over the top sissy outfit, with laugh and giggles from the present girls.
The duality is, and will always be here.
I have quite wild fantasies, being made the sissy slut of several men by a Mistress, and having to suck their cock is one of my biggest, and when excited, looking at cocks just turn me on even more.
Cum-eating, facial, you name it, i’m turned on by those situation.
And what can i say about chastity, i’ve never experienced it, but i have a lot of fantasies about that, i’d love to see how much my sissy side can be extended using this.
Also, those slutty insult (whore,…), for some reason, have always have been a huge turn on for me, but as long as it stay in the game.
I sometime get dressed and go have some fun on chatroulette (nice some nice people, who i now condider friend there), i remember two girls that looked at me, asked me if i was a girl or a guy, then after the answer, told me i was a evil freak and that my death would be in the world’d best interest. This, i can’t understand, makes me cry when i think about it, especially from young people like them, i mean, my grandparents are pretty close minded, but i can understand it, they were born before WW2, in another world.
This sort of thing make it harder to open up to people, because no matter how they look, you can never guess their reaction, it may go as very well or very terribly wrong. And if it went public to people, and in my case, my grandparents who i still love dearly knew, i know it would kill them (i get more than enough remarks about proper boy nail and hair lengh and how much it’s shamefull allready..)
As i said, i am currently telling more and more to a good college friend, which reacted well enough. So far, she knows i love pretty clothes and that i hate boy clothes 😀 . I told another in a night of huge cry-depression (it happens once in a while) that i kept a big secret inside me, and she told me my not to tell her in that state, and that i should tell her whenever i’m ready. I’m still thinking about it, probably will one day.
But even of i am certain i WILL tell them about the girl side, i make no promess about the kinky side, i’m not sure they would be confortable with it, and there is no way to be certain it won’t ruin a perfectly good friendship.
Nethertheless, i am ever meet a soulmate-candidate girl 🙂 , i will tell her everything before going too far, that’s a promess i made to myself a long time ago, and that i will keep since as long as she doesn’t me my full self, she can’t really be my girlfriend for me.
WOW mylene….thank you SO MUCH for writing all that….and especially posting the link to your blog on Enchantrix Empire that inspired Me to ask you to write about your experiences. ((btw, thanks to cassy for pointing out your blog post to Me on the Empire).
As I was reading your words I thought, wow, she is very level headed for a young sissy. And, then I read more and realized that you’ve really HAD to find a way to make peace with your sexual kinks and your sissy / femme side as well. And, as you mention both the crossdressing (being a female) AND the sexual release duality fits together.
Others here have mentioned that it is best to be cautious about full disclosure of any alternate way of living or so called kinky sexual desires until you sort of ‘feel out’ the other person. I’ve known some gay men that get very judgmental of crossdressers! I don’t understand that, but I know it happens.
My heart goes out to you with this comment about your experiences. You said, “This sort of thing make it harder to open up to people, because no matter how they look, you can never guess their reaction, it may go as very well or very terribly wrong.” YES, that’s true….but I think you show true courage and great strength (in a very attractive femme way) when you said that you made a promise not to HIDE yourself for the sake of a relationship. Good for you mylene!!!!!
I did the same thing having phone sex as My career. I’ve been doing calls for three years. Before getting fully involved with My current boyfriend we had “the talk” about his reaction to Me doing phone sex. This fetish phone sex really is an expression of My full self (love your words). It is a profession and livelihood but it also is My way of living as ALL of Me! I’m amazed that you came to this sentiment so early in your life….and must say, your internal strength will see you through tough times 🙂
THANK YOU so much for joining the discussion here 🙂
Well firstly I would like to confess wearing girly clothes excites the bi curious side of me I want a man to find me attractive in a very effeminate way. TO be honest the first things i want him to notice are my bright glossy lips. Although I would love your opinion on things because it seems to me being a sissy kind of comes in phases. For me personally I think im nearing the end of a stage reminiscent of a teenage girl phase where wearing lipgloss and pretty panties is starting to excite less and being dressed all prim and proper is starting to become much more desirable to me
@ cassie – another fantastic topic cassie!
THANK YOU for posting about your sissy stages. The fetish world is the same as other parts of your life. Erotic play will change as you do it. It’s like changing your workout at the gym! LOL
For discipline lovers and so called pain sluts … a little over the knee spanking might suffice and as time goes by the Dominance submission play gets more intense moving to flogging, whips, caning, etc. For sissies I’ve seen the progression often go as you describe …. maybe from being a man wearing panties to masturbate and might move toward more intense expressions of your feminine aspect.
Thinking back on your earlier question about keeping fantasies fresh for phone sex calls I realize that could be what the stages of crossdressing and sissification are! It’s YOU keeping things fresh for yourself ! Hey, what do you think of that idea? Does that ring true for YOU?
But what if I’ve never tried any of it? How would I know if I’m a sissy? I mean, sometimes I fantasize about sucking cock, and a guy cumming, and sometimes I fantasize about being dressed up in girls clothes, but all of those fantasies involve a mistress. None of my fantasies without mistresses involve dressing up. How would I know?
GREAT followup questions Kylie 🙂
One thing to remember is that EVERY real life kink or fetish started out as a erotic thought, sexual fantasy or an experience that made you sexually aroused. From that starting point, most people begin to explore.
For example, the dressing in women’s clothes …. why not get a pair of panties and wear them? Here’s the thing, with the male anatomy you can TELL when something turns you on because your penis gets hard. So, look to see if you have a hardon in your panties. Then touch yourself and just notice how you’re feeling. Experiment. See if you can begin to identify what is the trigger of your arousal. Is it the sensation of the silky panty fabric against your cock? Is it that wearing the panty makes you feel more feminine? Is it the erotic humiliation of being put in panties? See if you can identify why you experience arousal from crossdressing.
That’s one way to being to sort this out.
Since you mention that all of your fantasies involve a Mistress I can intuit a couple of things. First, there are strong submissive tendencies so do a search on My blog for the word Power Exchange. There’s also a free sexy audio that talks about Power Exchange on the audio page of this blog. Take a listen and think about what aspects really make you feel sexually aroused. Also, look to see what it is about a Mistress or Domme that is the turnon. Is it because I am the Experienced Mistress able to guide and even push you to explore your various kinky sex options. Is it the fetish attire or sexy clothes that a Mistress wears? Etc.
Finally, there are a couple aspects of the cock sucking. There are a huge number of men that aren’t gay but find the idea of Mistress coaching or seducing them to suck cock as an almost unbelievable turn on! There are also men who are bi sexual but very shy about that and need a Dominant Mistress to guide them to their true desire for dick. And SOME men are gay (they know it) but they want a Mistress to be with them during the phone sex call because it is hot to have a sexy woman whispering things like, “Suck that cock for Mistress. Mistress knows your gay now get on that dick.” Does that make sense?
THANK YOU for leaving your followup questions and feel free to continue with more comments, questions and issues.
It really is nothing Miss Olivia, i enjoy talking a lot.
I just realised how many english mistakes i made in the previous post, sorry about that, it must have made the whole thing a little hard to read, it is because i was writing directly what i was thinking and whenever i do that, i think in a weird french-english combinaison. Without a good check, it end up like this with words swapped for one another.
Back on the topic, i am not sure it is truly strength, it is just that it is so much integrated within me that i know i could never live without that part of me. There hasn’t been a day for years on which i did not think at least once “if only i could have been a girl, it would have been so much easier”.
It can really happen anywhere anyday, a simple visit to the mall usually result in many of those moments.
To be in a relationship with someone that would be against it, and having to hide it would only make things much worse, it would destroy my hopes.
I truly dream of a future with the perfect accepting girl in which everything will be better, that’s the main reason i stay positive today, even if i still can’t be much the way i want to be, because i keep believing that one day, i’ll meet the right person and things will be fantastic.
ahhhh….sweet mylene. Thank you so much for sharing yourself with us here. You are NOT alone and you are among people who cherish you for exactly who you are!
Have you seen a site called U R Not Alone …. it’s the main site for transgendered support and information. If you haven’t sweetie, check it out and let Me know if you like it.
Oh and before I forget…..are you a native French speaker? You write just fine. MUCH better than I’d write in French … (sarcasm because I took French back in High School LOL).
HUGS precious girl !
Mistress, I told my girlfriend about my cocksucking fantasies, and showed her this last night. At first, she was appalled, and called me a ton of names, before she stormed out of the apartment. She was gone for two hours before she called me back, saying she was wrong, and that she wanted to make it up to me. When I asked her how, she said she was going to bring over a friend and some stuff she had bought. Intrigued by the idea of a makeup threesome, I decided to let her come over. She surprised me when she got to the door, along with one of her ex-boyfriends, and a bag full of lingerie and sex toys. When I opened the door and asked her what was going on, she told me “Your fantasies are about to come true”, and led me by the hand to the bathroom. There, she made me undress, and gave me a bunch of girl clothes to wear. After I put it all on, she pulled out a red-haired wig, and a bunch of makeup, and spent 15 minutes dolling me up. Then, she pulled on a strap-on, and took me back out, where I found her ex standing naked, and he was very endowed. My mouth just watered.
The fun began after that, and ended with me getting a big surprise, and stretched a little thin. And while it scared me the whole time, I also really enjoyed it. After it all, my girlfriend didn’t dump me, and rewarded with me with a great makeout session, and a bj. She invited back her friend for the weekend, and told him to bring some guests. Does that make me a sissy? and what should I do this saturday?
WOAH kyle! That’s quite a story!
According to the “Handling your sex secrets poll” on Enchantrix Empire the results are about evenly split between those who had a bad experience and those who had a good experience after talking with their partner. And, those that had a good experience say that they were suprised to find that their partner was more willing to experience fetish kink than they’d thought.
Now based on My earlier reply to a comment of yours …. you know that I think that there are many aspects to every human behavior and that includes fetish play. So, some people enjoy cock sucking during the actual sex scene. Others think about dick during the non-sex activities. It’s just like coached cum eating. Some men really want to eat cum UNTIL they orgasm but once they have the big O, they cum and go (lose the desire to eat cum).
I’ve talked to a lot of men about this and they’re suprisingly honest during the safety of the phone sex call. There really is no NORM …. each person and each individual is different. I really do urge you not to let others define you. YOU get to define yourself. (Unless it a sexual arousal thing for Me to call you a sissy.)
THANKS for telling us that ! 🙂
I think professional phone sex that is not disclosed to SO, is a little dicey. At the very least it shows there is unresolved sexual conflict and that there are unresolved sexual issues in the relationship. Secret phone sex has strong mitigating aspects in that it does not expose a sexual partner to STD’s nor is it a betrayal of the replationship because the phone relationship is strictly “professional”. Or is it?
I like my interactions with a Domme to be essentially “real” not imaginary. Imaginary does nothing for me. Because of this, I require an intense psychological interaction. The game’s the thing. The betrayal issue is complex. Even if the phone relationship is sexual at its core and psychologically complex, “relationships” are more about who you spend your life with, who you enjoy being with.
GREAT POINT girlsrmean…..
Even if phone sex that is not disclosed to a significant other is NOT a sign of unresolved sexual issues (it might be out of respect for your partner’s health situation) ….I do think that you’re onto something.
As I’ve said in other comments, I’ve had phone sex calls with couples that want to spice up their sex life. And IF they bring in other aspects of their relationship (ie fights they’ve had or are currently having) I tell them…hey, park ALL THAT at the figurative bedroom door! When interpersonal disagreements or tensions that are part of any real life relationship get moved into the bedroom then the richness and totality of the relationship suffers.
In My experience, I’ve noticed that human beings can (when pissed) take it out on the other. I think that is pretty much the norm. And when a woman (in this case) knows that her partner is either highly sexed or into a particular sexual fetish, then she will use THAT “vulnerability” against him. That brings to mind the obvious… “win the battle but lose the war.”
Luckily My real life pet/slut (FANTASTIC GUY partner) and I don’t do that. The sex and sensuality is too hot! Plus, if he did that sort of passive/aggressive and icky manipulative behavior I’d be long gone! LOL Still I see THAT behavior as more common then the sensible (to My mind) negotiation of mutual needs and expectations.
Thanks for your comment and you’re right, you ARE intelligent. Of course, I had NO DOUBT about that because the Experienced Mistress doesn’t tend to attract the dummies!
Thank you, Miss, i did not know U R Not Alone, i’ll create an account there and check it tomorrow and tell you what think about it.
Yes, i am a native french speaker, but being born with the internet (well, almost, i mean i can hardly remember a world before it), i acquired english on my own like this.
Miss Constance was actually saying how different i sound when i am talking, i have a huge french accent and have a hard time with some words. It’s because i learnt english this way, reading, typing, and sometime hearing, but hardly ever speaking it.
Also, talking about this all with you and my chat with Miss Constance yesterday inspired me to blog about my more dirtier secret, there are still so many 🙂 I will probably blog about it tomorrow.
*wink* @ mylene….is this your blog on Enchantrix Empire?
If you post the link on My profile I’d love to read your secret!
So, are you telling Me that you learned English in chat rooms and stuff on the internet? WOAH! Seriously sweetie, I am impressed. And you know what they say about the French language…..it’s among the sexiest accents going !!! (of course WE have an accent to you…and you have a SEXY one to Me). 🙂
Please tell Me and us what YOU think of U R Not Alone 🙂
Yeah I do think as some stuff gets a bit older or been there done that type deal I think the behavior can escalate or change to fit with new needs or fantasies. Just as other fetishes escalate or change to new needs or new ideas. It’s very interesting to think about, I have to imagine that fetishes grow as the people who have them do.
Great observation cassie! And, change doesn’t just have to be an escalation of the fetish. It can be other expressions of sexual needs, desires, experiences. For example, the Dominant partner might want to try being the submissive (or vice versa). Someone who is into paddling as corporal punishment might want to try bondage. The panty boy might experiment with more and more feminine things. The fetish kinkster might explore the sensuality of Tantric spirituality. Or maybe just get some good old fashioned vanilla lovemaking!
The possibilities are ENDLESS !
Loved your comment….did you have other topics or questions?
I think revealing my sexual turn ons during phone sex is very helpful. I like to wear womens lingerie but am not gay. Now if you ordered me to suck a man’s cock and swallow his cum I would. The act of forcing me to do this task is also a turn on. Hopefully it would be a turn on for you as well? 🙂
LOL Den…..the comment about the roller coaster ride is from someone I adore and YES erotic humiliation is a total turn on for Me. The crossdressing and even the cock sucking is all part of erotic humiliation. Part of that roller coaster ride is the dichotomy of knowing you’re not gay but that you WILL suck dick when this Experienced Mistress tells you to do it!
THAT is phone sex Power Exchange at some of it’s BEST !