Time for the month long celebration of chastity. If you are someone who is taking the Locktober chastity challenge, leave a comment so I can cheer you on. If you can’t stay in chastity the entire month, don’t worry, I think the point is for you to challenge yourself to go a further than you have or maybe stay in chastity longer than you thought you could handle being locked up. Above all, this is supposed to be a fun kink challenge. If it’s not fun for you for any reason, don’t do it!
Try something new this Locktober
I asked B about his first Locktober and here’s what he said:
B: “Before Locktober, I had gone 5 consecutive days. That was the most, but I had done it a few times for that amount of stretch. In my opinion, once you get past 2-3 days, you’re gold!”
B is right, once you get through an initial length of time locked up, it’s almost like your brain begins to work with you to reach your goal. For B, 3 days is that time but for you it might be longer. Remember part of chastity training is to learn about yourself and part of that is learning how to stay sane while in chastity.
The chastity pet and the keyholder
Do you have a keyholder? You might or might not be submissive. Most people who enjoy chastity are submissive and chastity is part of a power exchange relationship.
You can do solo chastity. In my experience part of the enjoyment is sharing this with your keyholder and/or other people in a chastity supportive community. If you’re looking for a supportive kink community check out our free adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire. You can post about your experiences, interact with other member and Mistresses and basically be in a kink-friendly environment.
How can I get my vanilla wife or partner interested in chastity?
I hear this question all the time and when I talk with other Femdoms they say the same thing. So, if you’re asking that, just know that you are not alone. If you’re a fan of The Weekly Hot Spot podcast that I do with my friend Mistress Erika, you might know that we’ve done several interviews the folks from Mature Metal. That’s a custom chastity cage shop with a husband and wife team that runs it. There are two podcast episode that I want you to check out:
- Chastity Interview with William of Mature Metal
- How do I get my vanilla wife to put me in chastity? Meet Mrs. Mature Metal
You can also read the transcript with Mrs. Mature Metal on The Weekly Hot Spot blog. Check it out because there are specific suggestions for how to talk with your wife or girlfriend about your chastity desires.
If you need ideas, support or encouragement I’d love to speak with you about chastity. And remember, each person is different. Each chastity pet and Mistress keyholder relationship is unique. Try not to compare yourself to others, just enjoy the thrill of being locked up for HER.
And celebrate YOUR experience with chastity training. I asked B what he learned about himself by exploring chastity and here’s what he said:
“I have definitely learned that I don’t need to touch my dick every minute of every day lol. No, seriously, I have learned that I can go longer than I thought without having an orgasm. Prior to March, I was easily a once-a-day man. Recently in Locktober, I have gone as long as 7 days between cumming. I know it’s not the entire month, but it’s a start!”
Now I have a question for you. Are you curious about chastity, in chastity, or going for the Locktober challenge? Let me know in the comments, or just give a call and we can talk about all this and more.
Oh my…October already? “Click” Locked and loaded. Then question is, “when will I be unlocked and unloaded? Hmmm….that’s up to Mistress. I am on the fence as to whether or not to take part in Locktober this year. As you know…(and seen) i have been a little chastity pet for some time now. It’s something I absolutely adore doing as much for myself as for my Mistress. Couple years back I did complete the Locktober challenge and it was very satisfying. Actually, September just rolled into October and into November before I was granted any, ahem…”exercise”
Perhaps I will take it day by day. Wishing any newcomers….(or should that be “no comers”?) to the party. Best of luck
with YOU little peg … Loctober maybe should roll right into No Nut November!
laughs and runs outta the room.
Dear Ms Olivia, Every call I have ever done with you ended up with me wearing a chastity belt and a pair of ladies knickers, so it’s a relevant subject. If I ever had the opportunity to go into chastity in the ‘real world’, I would want either Ms Hunter or yourself to be my keyholder. I’m sure you would both take good care of me and have plenty of fun in the process.
Oh my yes we would … and you know part of the chastity experience is the “complaints” or the frustration that is voiced from said pet … We could just gag you and/or hip pop you right down those basement stairs!
Chastity is hot!!! Especially seeing hot mistresses dress guys as girls !!! If only this were to happen to me as I’ve never done chastity
Really?
I didn’t know that Carli — have any of the Mistresses talked with you about it?
Not that I’m suggesting that for you … I’m just curious because you talk with a variety of us
Dear Ms. O,
My ex GF visited me a few weeks ago. She offered to re-enter our relationship, but this time it’s female-led only; she demanded I agree to a three-month trial where I follow her rules with no arguments. She pointed out that with my small penis and fact I got so aroused when she massaged my prostate in the past, I should allow her to do the masculine work, and take the pressure off me to explore my feminine side. I agreed.
Her rules:
1. I am to treat my penis only as a clitoris. She has it locked up in a tiny unick cage at nights/when she’s not with me, and it has amazingly shrunk my penis in ways that I didn’t realize were possible. It no longer hangs, it only sticks out about an inch, and she rubs it with her thumb when she fucks me with her 8.5 inch strap-on.
2. I am only to wear panties she chooses for me, and she has taken my underwear and men’s shorts–I can only wear her short women’s running shorts in public.
3. She has bragged (accurately) that she’s better at fucking me then I ever was at fucking her. She loves filling me all the way with her 8.5 inches, and is very dominative in putting me in different positions, bending me over my couch, getting me tangled up in my headrest.
4. She demands I accept my feminine side, I moan extremely loudly and like a woman when she bends me over and penetrates me, playing with my tiny penis as a clit. When I try to muffle my moans, she pulls my hair back and fucks me harder. She has begun to force me to scream that I’m her girlfriend or she fucks me harder and harder. This is humiliating but only makes my full body orgasms stronger, I can’t control how loud I get.
I’ve never had orgasms from my man-pussy before, and I don’t even try to come from my penis at this point. While this has been extremely pleasurable, and she’s getting off hard as well, I don’t know if my penis will grow back to it’s former size if I want to re-enter a relationship as the masculine partner again? Just thought I would share my chastity story with you, and curious about your thoughts.
Best, Elbert
hahahahaha — you think you’re going BACK to a relationship as the “masculine” partner …. pffffttttt honey you know you want to get into her panties but not as a man, but a sissy in filly panties!
LOL
A light Locktober for me this year. A few years ago I challenged myself to be in chastity for some amount of time every day, and got very close. The thing I get most out of “self” chastity is the reminder of my Mistress’ presence, not physically but that I want to serve her.
What a great point — and honestly, I’m a fan of all the variety of ways to have fun with chastity, kink, BDSM, and more … there of course are some ‘standards’ == like BDSM negotiation and safe, sane, and consensual == outside of those types of things it’s really about creation of what works for all the people involved.
I’m so glad this kink is going viral ! Thanks for being part of the movement as a keyholder!
Thank you for your comment dickless … Locktober has really caught on … I can’t remember when it started but I think it was some random guy who said, huh why don’t I challenge myself do do chastity for a full month. He shared about it on a chastity form and the rest is history!
I just broke my personal record-17 hours .I almost made it to 18. But then I thought about Olivia and that was it!
hahahahahaha
Well your name isn’t Dr. SPANKS for nuthin’!
LOL